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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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DualShadow
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Shawsie64 said:Thanks
Yeah it sucks but when she comes back agreed to go on a wine your up the Barossa Valley just gotta not get attached... ah well only live once
I heard it's nice up there at Barossa, will need to visit one day if I'm ever out that way.
At least you guys can keep in contact over Facebook or some shit, would be worth staying friends cause if you ever end up in Germany. I had a friend do this and he even spent a day or two at her place and she showed him around and everything.
Fed up with online dating sites. It's too easy therefore I don't appreciate a relationship. Also pre-first date routine got too stale. I need to try out new ways. Now what about that social life? I heard some people have it...
I'm too lazy to go to nightclubs, I have no hobby other than gaming and drawing shit. Hmmmmm.....
I'm too lazy to go to nightclubs, I have no hobby other than gaming and drawing shit. Hmmmmm.....
DualShadow
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Shawsie64 said:Well if your ever down let me know, we usually just hire a minibus, $30 each and drives you to all the wineries drinking free wine all day
Yeah ill keep in touch, shes a nice girl and no point not speaking to her, the more the merrier
Not a huge fan of wine but cant complain with free :lol Yeah if I'm ever down there I'll hit up up for sure and we can go cruising for ladies lol.
subversus said:
Whats up with chicks on dating sites that list only looking for "new friends", should I even bother messaging them? Or do chicks just not like putting "looking for dates" ?
DualShadow
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Shawsie64 said:No worries
Yeah iv found most of the ones wanting "new friends" just put that there as a fallback thing if they meet up with someone they dont like can say I was just looking for friends..
Yeah that's what I thought, well can't hurt to try. It's only to supplement meeting chicks when I'm out and about anyways so no biggie :lol
jamesinclair said:
:lol that cracked me up. thanks. I think you're right, unfortunately.
Thanks for the input everybody. I think I'm going to go with the break up with her because I don't want to live the rest of my life in doubt of her being faithful to me route. She is weak-minded and insecure, and is not the person I thought she was. If she ever wants to be happy with someone, she'll have to work on that. And after what she's done, I don't think I can ever go back and would rather be with someone I can trust and be happy with instead. It's still gonna be hard for a while, but this might be a blessing in disguise. It's probably gonna happen tonight. Perhaps I'll update you on how this worked out later on...maybe it'll be useful for someone else. Thanks again.
You're making the right decision.
I once remained in a relationship after discovering that my partner had been unfaithful. A few things occurred as a result: I became less certain of her motives and honesty; I lost my sort of innocent reverence for her; it impacted our power dynamic (such that she became the morally corrupt 'bad guy' or whatever); in the end, she cheated again.
In my view, if you're willing and able to cheat on your partner, which is itself a conscious act of betrayal, abuse, and selfishness, then you're more than capable of repeating that behaviour again. There is a big difference between drinking a lot and kissing someone than, say, actively cheating on your long-term partner, whom you purportedly love, for an extended period of time. In the former, it's an act of inhibition that says nothing of your commitment whereas the latter is a case of premeditated cheating, lying, and so forth.
I wouldn't advise staying with anyone who chooses to behave that way.
It's an abusive relationship.
I once remained in a relationship after discovering that my partner had been unfaithful. A few things occurred as a result: I became less certain of her motives and honesty; I lost my sort of innocent reverence for her; it impacted our power dynamic (such that she became the morally corrupt 'bad guy' or whatever); in the end, she cheated again.
In my view, if you're willing and able to cheat on your partner, which is itself a conscious act of betrayal, abuse, and selfishness, then you're more than capable of repeating that behaviour again. There is a big difference between drinking a lot and kissing someone than, say, actively cheating on your long-term partner, whom you purportedly love, for an extended period of time. In the former, it's an act of inhibition that says nothing of your commitment whereas the latter is a case of premeditated cheating, lying, and so forth.
I wouldn't advise staying with anyone who chooses to behave that way.
It's an abusive relationship.
DualShadow
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Shawsie64 said:
Not sure if I would go on it at work but I had a look last night and god damn they want you to answer a shit load of questions :lol
My favorite was, "Which is bigger, the Sun or the Earth?" :lol
DualShadow
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Shawsie64 said:
I signed up to OkCupid cause I was bored, might try Oasis Active since it seems to be primarily Aussie?
I joined on the weekend so haven't really gotten into it yet. How you finding Oasis?
DualShadow said:
yeah its mostly Aussies.. Iv found it ok, few weirdos but met up with a few girls, slept with a few from oasis.. my housemate used to have a new girl every week come over our place off oasis..
Just dont take it too seriously and you'll be fine and yeah its free too so nothing to loose
DualShadow
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Shawsie64 said:yeah its mostly Aussies.. Iv found it ok, few weirdos but met up with a few girls, slept with a few from oasis.. my housemate used to have a new girl every week come over our place off oasis..
Just dont take it too seriously and you'll be fine and yeah its free too so nothing to loose
Sweet sounds good, I think the weirdos are probably everywhere :lol
Had a girl message me saying "Hey Cutie" and that's all, she was ummm less then desirable.
I'll check it out though, not expecting anything so if I do it's all a bonus
Thanks man.
DualShadow said:Sweet sounds good, I think the weirdos are probably everywhere :lol
Had a girl message me saying "Hey Cutie" and that's all, she was ummm less then desirable.
I'll check it out though, not expecting anything so if I do it's all a bonus
Thanks man.
No worries keep us informed
Aesius
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POF is fucking weird. I signed up a couple days ago and had messages from seven different girls within 24 hours. On OKCupid I average one message a week. The content of the messages on POF are pretty skeezy/lame. One really fugly chick wrote her number in her message. Another only wrote "ur cute". And one messaged me three times, with "hi" as the subject and body of the message. WTF?
I mean, these girls are pretty homely, so do they really think they can get away with such little effort when us guys have to handcraft a "just for you" personal message to the girl JUST to get a reply?
I mean, these girls are pretty homely, so do they really think they can get away with such little effort when us guys have to handcraft a "just for you" personal message to the girl JUST to get a reply?
Bam Bam Baklava
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Aesius said:
They are on the internet because they are treated like queens unlike the real world.
a posh hammer
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hey gaf, just a quick question. How would it be best to ask a girl out over facebook? Pathetic some might say, but i have met her more than once and she is great. Just I couldn't go for it last night because my current friend-with-benefits was also there, and she is a bit crazy.
Aesius said:
plentyoffish in my area is full of divorced single moms with three kids who are overweight and try to hide it in their pictures. I've met two really good looking women from there but be warned, ask for their facebook, otherwise I wouldn't bother. Need to filter on there.
Match.com actually has the best looking women of any of the websites I've been on, too bad you have to pay and there are way more dudes than women on there as well.
a posh hammer said:
Tell your friends with benefits you want to see other people. Find out what facebook girl likes and invite her to an appropriate restaurant. Profit.
Qwerty710710
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Sigh..... I don't know guys I don't think this girl is interested in me unless she is afraid to show it. We had a good first date we barely had any slicent momements. We made each other laughed we flirted a bit, and we both agreed we would contuine to talk to each other.I texted her later that night saying it was a good time and I would like to do it again.She did reply back about a day later, and we barely have talked to each other this weekend. I texted about a couple of hours ago but still no reply back.Then again she went to Atlantic City on fri/sat,and to NYC today. I just wish she would text me first instead of me doing it all the time. Am I just worrying to much and need to calm down or things might not be right between us.
Qwerty710710 said:
It is the first date. She might also be interested in someone else but had set something up with you anyway. That has happened to me a bunch of times. Tuesday or Wednesday give her a call and invite her out again. If she declines then I say move on. Some people just don't initiate text conversations.
BentMyWookiee
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Just got back from a great first date! I posted a few pages ago about a girl whose number I got on NYE. Well we finally met up today, just for coffee to keep the first date casual and make sure we really click. I assumed that we'd talk for about an hour or so, but we seemed to hit it off really well and ended up talking for five and a half hours.
Her personality has turned out to be as awesome as she is beautiful. So I'm a happy guy! Since things went so well, I asked her out on a real date. So we're going to go out again soon
Her personality has turned out to be as awesome as she is beautiful. So I'm a happy guy! Since things went so well, I asked her out on a real date. So we're going to go out again soon
Mike Works
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You're being too needy.Qwerty710710 said:
lunarworks
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Well, we'd been together 4.5 years when I found out, and that was about 14 months ago.NutJobJim said:
Qwerty710710
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Mike Works said:
I got fucked over by 3 other women in the past they just stopped talking to me. Maybe that's why I get so antsy and worried. I'm not spamming her with messages either I'm trying to keep my cool.
Magik said:
Well, yeah, obviously I don't want to be considered a lazy person or a person who just complains, but that doesn't make stuff like "hard working" "trustworthy" "punctual" etcetera positive traits, I wouldn't have thought? I mean, aren't those basically the same things everybody tells every employer so they can get a job? Also, what does being hard working have to do with dating anyway?
jamesinclair
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TheBranca18 said:
99% of PoF users here have had their first kid before they turn 20.
In fact, this one girl had a hot picture of her in a hooters uniform. Picture number 2? AN ultrasound. WTF?
OKC users are more educated/less babies, but theres a much smaller batch of girls.
My new online dating goal is only to message 18-19 year old girls.
Why? Why the fuck not? :lol
So I got the email of girl #2 and she said that I should email her about coffee/drinks sometime later this week. It seems like we have more compatibility as friends too, but we'll see.
Recently, I realized that dating after my most recent ex seems very strange now. Before I would be flirty at all times, but these days I'm more relaxed about things and not willing to push things as much. Is that a fair approach, or should I be more assertive?
edit: POF is what you make of it. There's all sorts of people there, but you have to make sure your filters are up.
edit2: I've actually met more crazy people on OkC than on POF, so... my 2 cents.
Recently, I realized that dating after my most recent ex seems very strange now. Before I would be flirty at all times, but these days I'm more relaxed about things and not willing to push things as much. Is that a fair approach, or should I be more assertive?
edit: POF is what you make of it. There's all sorts of people there, but you have to make sure your filters are up.
edit2: I've actually met more crazy people on OkC than on POF, so... my 2 cents.
The Shadow
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Aesius said:
Welcome to the PoF experience. Just the other night I got a message from a 40 year old PhD (allegedly) that simply said she wanted me to take her doggy style. No picture on the profile.
With free sites, you have to go through a LOT of crap, because anyone can join. Pay sites on the other had have that filter requirement of money. No one is ever going to pay anything if they just want to mess around or aren't serious.
On the other hand, I've had some pretty good dates from OKC and that's predominantly a free site. YMMV.
Edit:
btw, anyone near Norman, Oklahoma? Here's a sure bet: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/All_Cummers
Aesius
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The Shadow said:
Yeah. I've actually got a date on Thursday with a very cute girl from OKCupid. Her profile says shes 5'10", which is approximately 5 inches taller than the tallest girl I've dated :lol
I'm 6'1" though, so it shouldn't be too awkward. Hopefully she won't wear heels.
The Shadow
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Aesius said:
Lucky you. I freaking love tall girls because I'm a bit of a leg guy. Kind of a curse though because I'm only 5'8" so that tends to be the upper limit of the women I see.
Good luck with the date. Let us know how it goes.
Bam Bam Baklava
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Speaking of height. How much does being a tall guy help in getting girls? Like would a woman go for a uglier tall guy over a much better looking short guy?
The Shadow
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MiDNiGHTS said:
Depends on the girl and how much she values looks vs. height. I'm a decent looking guy but short. The vast majority of my ltr exes were my height or within a few inches of it.
Irregardless, I've been rejected specifically because I was too short.
I'd say it depends on the circumstances (how tall is she, how tall are the guys, etc.). If the guy is shorter than her, I'd say it's more likely she'll go with the taller guy (though not necessarily).MiDNiGHTS said:
Being tall definitely helps. To many girls, it's a huge plus.
Aesius
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MiDNiGHTS said:
Apparently, a fucking ton. Like I said, I'm 6'1" (probably 6' but everyone adds an inch), and my 6'4" friend used to get chicks fawning over him all the time - and he barely even talked to them. Being 6' is nothing nowadays. To a lot of girls, that's average. Anything below is short. You've gotta be 6'3"+ to stand out.
MiDNiGHTS said:
as a guy who's been turned down many times just because of my height (even by chicks shorter than me), being tall helps a lot.
for the life of me i cant fathom why a 5'2" chick and a 6'+ dude would want to bother with each other. thats just a hell of a height difference.
womfalcs3
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soultron said:
No, but her family doesn't like her dating without anything formal between us. She wanted me to propose, and then do the various ceremonies leading up to the wedding. I have asked her if she was really ready to marry me, and she said yes. I told her there has to be love between us before I propose. I can't propose in hopes love will grow.
EDIT: She's 21.
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