InfiniteNine
Rolling Girl
Well I don't really think it should be too much to have a serious conversation and talk about where you two see your lives heading. It'll give you a better perspective of things at least.
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YesNOnoNOYes
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PUPPIES ARE AWESOME~
i also get crazy when i see them
almost as crazy as i get when i see sephiroths
on another note, my puppy is sleeping on my lap atm so i cant move and my legs are going numb
HALP
should i make a gaf thread?
/jk lol
Cindi Mayweather
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Is three months really too early? I'm not saying I want kids with him now or anything. But I would love to have them eventually and I don't see the point in being with someone who doesn't want kids. I feel like I have to know his thoughts on it. I mean if you're moving in with someone and you're taking the relationship to the next level I figure it should be on the table: what do you want in the future? Do our paths align?
Pic or gtfo
YesNOnoNOYes
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red cardigan over my lap cuz its winter here
and oh no. my right leg is now completely gone gek
and cindi, maybe just see how bf feels about the idea in general before you broach the subject? babies are great~
How long, Cindi, have you known your bf before getting together ? I mean, if you guys have known each others for quite some time before getting together and are super comfortable with each others, then yeah maybe it's fine to bring up "babies". If that's not the case, I can definitely see potential for the guy get a little mindblower by baby topic.
Ceallach
Smells like fresh rosebuds
35 is not too old at all, especially if you arent going to be having the baby yourself.
I had my kid at 28. If I have another, I'll be much older(31 now) if I have another. Havent ruled it out, but I cant see being a single mom to more than one and I dont see myself coupling with anyone
Cindi Mayweather
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Eh, he's a grown ass man. He can handle the question "I don't want kids now, but how do you feel about having them in the future?"
I think that's a fair question if you're moving in together.
Ceallach
Smells like fresh rosebuds
If he can't you have major issues that will tell you worlds
Cindi Mayweather
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Before anyone thinks I'm incompetent, it's not that we haven't discussed the topic of children or marriage before or discussed the future or anything. We talked about whether or not we want children or to get married someday on the first date. But I need to know for sure, because it's getting serious. I think I feel this way purely because I'm infertile and adoption has been my go to plan for ages now. We talked about kids before, but I never fully talked about how I would go about this process. Not all guys are okay with adoption. They want a little them running around. So I know he eventually wants kids, but I'm not sure if he wants kids with ol Cindi "can't get pregnant" Mayweather. He knows I can't have children and he decided to stay with me despite that. But the question begs, if we wanted children, how would you want to go about it? The reason I'm worried is because that can be interpreted as "I want children NOW!" or whatever. The fact we will be living together, I think marks that it's time to have that talk.
Ceallach
Smells like fresh rosebuds
Definitely a good time. Have you considered surrogacy or is that not a can of worms yoy care about opening?
Cindi Mayweather
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I've thought about but that's his decision as much as mine if he's up for it.
I've thought that if i wanted any surrogate it has to be my little cousin. She looks just like me, from my skin tone to my Cherokee cheekbones. I'd want her to be my surrogate. But she's a lesbian and wants kids of her own someday so I feel like that'd be cruel.
I like the idea of adoption because the world is going to have tough times in the 2000's and the best I can do is help two kids have a family.
Is surrogacy a common thing? With the usual hangups guys have about taking care of "someone else's seed", it makes me wonder what people think of such alternatives.
YesNOnoNOYes
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Cindi Mayweather
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Sephiroth is lame. He has a mother complex and lives with his mom. One Winged Angel? More like One Winged Scrub.
It is cool, I have a thing for odd characters with long coats and high cheekbones, so there's plenty to go around.
YesNOnoNOYes
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Oh my YesNo, didn't know you were into that.
i keep the fire alive
fiction and me are sephiroth fans. NO RAGRETS.
Fiction, WE LOVE YOU. hope you are doing wonderfully where ever you are <3
Fiction, WE LOVE YOU. hope you are doing wonderfully where ever you are <3
hohohohohoho HELLO ME
I'm only noticing now that backslashbunny got banned. Wonder what happened.
WHO KEEPS CLONING YESNO? o.o
WHO KEEPS CLONING YESNO? o.o
YesNOnoNOYes
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bunny got banned in the snapchat's asianification emoticon thread
she's one fierce gal :3
YesNOnoNOYes
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most of the time it is temporary bans, except if it's like... egregious and blatant disregard for the forum's ToS, i think
and bans are never discussed. usually if anyone has any concerns or queries about a ban, they are advised to pm a mod
bunny's still at AsianGAF discord though, so in her case, i know that it's not a perma ban
and bans are never discussed. usually if anyone has any concerns or queries about a ban, they are advised to pm a mod
bunny's still at AsianGAF discord though, so in her case, i know that it's not a perma ban
Oh Christ, I can't even imagine. Why do people have to be so gross about the asian community? :/
YesNOnoNOYes
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well most of the time it's not malicious, but yeah, it gets quite demoralizing sometimes
asians are usually regarded as OK to be assholes to, cuz there's a lot of mixed messages about how well some asians are doing and how asians don't have it as bad as others, etc.
i...... dont let it under my skin because im in a pretty good position in my life, but yeah, i think it is a hard thing to deal with for some of my fellow asian gaffers.
Cindi Mayweather
Member
You have my sword, Backslash.
liliththepale
Banned
and my glaive
Prophet Steve
Member
Some are temporary, some are permanent, depends on what you do. You see the reason for what you are banned.
I think a ban if you are a junior member is an instant permaban though.
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Just throw it at him! If he wants kids, it shouldn't matter if they're adopted or not. Although adopting is extremely expensive in the short run, having kids by yourself is too in most countries. He'll be the dad anyway.
WaffleTaco
Wants to outlaw technological innovation.
I think on the subject of kids, you could bring it up kind of subtle. Basically make a comment on how you saw a baby at work and made you think about your own future. You can say how you two are moving in soon and this is important to you.
Professor Beef
Banned
...she's being cloned? Oh no, oh nooo
Morrigan Stark
Arrogant Smirk
And my katana!
(No, I'm not being a weaaboo cliché dammit, I actually practice kendo in real life! xD)
You mean Oh Yes Oh No Oh No Oh No Oh No Oh Yes?
Cindi Mayweather
Member
Tinder thread delivers them laughs.
Got dudes mad I don't think a bunch of actors are my thing. It obviously means I'm not good looking and I am the reason men have low self esteem.
Got dudes mad I don't think a bunch of actors are my thing. It obviously means I'm not good looking and I am the reason men have low self esteem.
WhereAreMahDragonz
Banned
Depends on the relationship. I've been with my GF for two months and we've talked about kids.
Like two days ago she asked me what I thought about adoption
Morrigan Stark
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How dare you have different tastes than the mainstream, Cindi. Stop hurting the menz' feelings!
Cindi Mayweather
Member
Haha Morrigan. You're the best sister ever. Thanks for looking out.
I'd prefer the opposite approach as I feel if you've got to the stage where you're moving in together you can just ask straight up. I mean even thought I'm not too keen on kids I'd rather know where its going / what is wanted out of a relationship than it all up in the air.
Cindi Mayweather
Member
How so?
People are talking about it in multiple other threads.
Also, I now have an Xbox One. For some reason.
Why would you do this?
WaffleTaco
Wants to outlaw technological innovation.
I think that's kind of what I meant when I was typing it, but I explained it poorly lol. Like just the initial conversation starter being subtle, and then explaining why having the conversation was important...if that makes any more sense.
Cindi Mayweather
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Morrigan Stark
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Cheers
Never had sisters growing up (only brothers) so that feels good to hear somehow, hahaWhat the hell, that's annoying. This 'all women have the same tastes' shit is so fucking upsetting.
Cheers
We're all sisters here, no matter what.
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