Chmpocalypse
Blizzard
Had 2 relationships like this. Guess how fun they were, and if they lasted. Spoiler: nope.
Run. As fast as you can.
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Guys at my girlsfriends workplace hitting on her
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Had 2 relationships like this. Guess how fun they were, and if they lasted. Spoiler: nope.
Run. As fast as you can.
if the "m'lady" fits...
Mammoth Jones
Member
Not at that age. No. Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do for someone is drop them like a bad fucking habit.
Teaches them they can't act like twats and expect others to stick around and tolerate it...
2Smashed4U
Banned
Blow it out your ass.
Ehhhh, she sounds like she has some kind of emotional issues. Like yeah guy can't fix her, but if OP feels like he wants to be supportive and be a friend, it's possible. I've done it a lot at a young age myself.
The priority though, should be getting out the relationship in the first place.
Mammoth Jones
Member
Word!
And I PROMISE you all her anxiety is her guilty conscience from her cheating. Seen it before.
I was young once. Simping hard. Was getting flowers and writing sonnets n shit and mofos was running a train on my girl. It kinda hurt but it taught a great life lesson: if she'll cheat she was never yours to begin with.
So trust me: Peace the fuck out. All the signs are there. What? Do you need to get slapped in the face with the soggy condom to wake up? Cmon man....
Charles Alan Ratliff
Member
I have two friends that used to work at a restaurant together. They are a couple. A new guy was hired, and while he knew that the girlfriend was in a relationship, he didn't know with whom. So in front of the boyfriend, right after the girlfriend left the room said, verbatim, "Too bad she has a boyfriend, otherwise I'd smash."
The boyfriend just smiled, put his hand on his shoulder and said, "Buddy, that's my girlfriend."
The new guy just shrunk and became profusely apologetic, unable to make eye contact. I imagine working there was a little awkward after that.
That's all. I just wanted to tell that story. Also I don't think you should be dating this person anymore.
The boyfriend just smiled, put his hand on his shoulder and said, "Buddy, that's my girlfriend."
The new guy just shrunk and became profusely apologetic, unable to make eye contact. I imagine working there was a little awkward after that.
That's all. I just wanted to tell that story. Also I don't think you should be dating this person anymore.
yeaaaahhhh i was pretty naive
2Smashed4U
Banned
You guys need to cut the armchair psychologist shit
Kibbles
Member
Similar situation with the OP here with a girl I was seeing for 3 Months. She ended up hanging out with one of these guys just to get free weed off him..., I trusted her but it was weird and she just wanted to let me know and that she wouldn't do it again. Next thing I know about a week later she tells me she went out with him again and he tried to make a move on her in the car. I was pissed but just wanted to make sure she was ok. A few days later she brought up how it didn't seem like I cared or something and we got in a fight over it and she kinda flipped it on me somehow and broke up with me(???) lol
So man, idk. 🙃
Mammoth Jones
Member
I mean that's one option. Personally I don't bother trying to be a therapist to someone I used to fuck and suck. That's just not healthy for either person. Not until they've undergone a bit more maturity.
I think falling back completely is the best and healthiest option. Let her grow up. Maybe a few years down the road they'll reconnect and find they've grown up and do much better. But you don't deal with jealousy and codependency by trying to be "supportive" when erroneously accused of cheating. Not at that age...
End the relationship now OP. I basically went through what you are right now, but for 2 years. I lost all my friends, lost contact with my family, lost my job prospects right out of college, gained 100 pounds, and was severely depressed / borderline suicidal.
I've bounced back since breaking up with her 7 months ago, but seriously dude. Please end the relationship now. This hurts to read coming from someone who was too afraid to end a relationship when I noticed things were going south. You're worth more than you think you are man.
I've bounced back since breaking up with her 7 months ago, but seriously dude. Please end the relationship now. This hurts to read coming from someone who was too afraid to end a relationship when I noticed things were going south. You're worth more than you think you are man.
Mammoth Jones
Member
So lemme clue you in since you seemed to be confused as shit:
Dude made a thread asking for advice. Hes getting it. You're more than free to offer yours. Dont like it? Peace out. Or be supportive and be a friend....
he never recovered from getting smacked hard. it wrect him.
2Smashed4U
Banned
Word. I just mean supportive as in like, encouraging her to get actual help and maybe talking to her about things she's dealing with sometimes, but from a more emotional distance. But yeah their problems do sound a little intense, and I don't even know how guy feels about this in the first place.
It sounds like he's in deep.
No, you just shouldn't be trying analyze people's anxiety and other mental health issues. It's silly at best and irresponsible at worst.
Mammoth Jones
Member
You encourage her to get help by dumping her ass. Whether she engages in any serious amount of self reflection at that point is up to her.
He has a responsibility to himself first in a two month old relationship. Lol.
2Smashed4U
Banned
Right I'm not saying he has a responsibility to do anything. I just get the impression he's attached pretty hard and ghosting might be a hard thing for him to do, options are good. Sometimes.
Not every overly insecure person is a cheater and not every cheater acts insecure. It's just not that simple.
In the end it doesn't matter though; this behavior should be making OP not like the girl.. no one should put up with having to tell their female roommate to text their girl or any of this other dogshit. If you still are clinging to someone like that then you have some serious co-dependency issues you need to work out.
Mammoth Jones
Member
I mean saying someone that constantly accuses their SO of cheating when they ain't isn't indicative of them cheating themselves is me diagnosing her mental health???
The fuck you smoking?
Lemme break this down:
When someone is cheating a clear indicator is they always accusing you when you know you ain't doing no dirt. Combine this with a 60 fucking day relationship and OP concerned with all the dick offers she's getting what conclusion would you come to?
Never said it was absolutely but in a 60 day relationship you err on the side of caution. The fuck..
SwipeLeftHoney
Banned
I've seen shit like this happen too many times. Problem here is OP is blinded by either her looks or how good the sex is and doesn't have the kahunas to break up with her and leave the drama behind. In the end he'll be heartbroken from this girl. He can try and prove us all wrong but honestly this much drama two months into a relationship is definitely not worth it. If they make it through this rough patch and build on it something worse will happen down the road. Maybe OP is just a glutton for punishment who knows.. I feel he honestly knows what the right thing to do is here. He just doesn't have it in him to do it.
Yes you did; you "PROMISED" it lol.
2Smashed4U
Banned
Hell man idk, that she's got issues? It wouldn't really matter to me at this point either way because I'd be out of there already. Whether she's cheating or not is kinda besides the point, the relationship's fucked and he's not gonna be able to fix that, even if she *isnt* cheating.
I just don't like this notion that people who've got anxiety and shit must be because they're doing something wrong, mental health issues get enough of a bad rap as it is yknow?
Mammoth Jones
Member
In this specific situation I absolutely do. Not every situation ever. I promise you there will be another update talking about how she over a dudes house "watching Netflix" or some dumb shit. If he don't break up with her I'm confident in that outcome. Sorry.
Ok.
Pro tip: Your SO 60 days in constantly accusing you of cheating and she surrounded by dick hitting on her every day and she don't even block dudes odds are she getting smashed.
And what is the situation other than "she's overly insecure"? Who said anything about every situation ever? LOL
Sometimes people who cheat are huge hypocrites and act overly insecure; other times people are just.. insecure, and it has nothing to do with cheating. Either way it's a negative behavior that the OP shouldn't be putting up with. Instead he made his own thread about feeling insecure.. these two are two peas in a pod.
Sure the insecurity and the "not blocking dudes" are likely related; but not everyone who gets something out of attention from other people is cheating. In the end, it doesn't matter.
Netherscourge
Banned
Put a ring on it.
2Smashed4U
Banned
Yeah but you know at this rate what the dude's next post is going to be, is that he's going to investigate further and find out for sure.
I'm saying he doesn't even need to stick around and find out for sure, even if she's *not* cheating, she's got issues he can't deal with. So he should get out now before it gets worse.
Mammoth Jones
Member
Oh I agree with that 100%. But the young are always full of such hope.
Not me cause I'm talking about this specific thread.
One Eyed Willy
Member
Preach
I've been in OP's position years ago, and I've seen it countless times. My best advice is you get one shot at life, why bother spending any of it on degraded experiences. Upgrade your life.
2Smashed4U
Banned
Right.
Plus, if she is, you're probably not gonna find a smoking gun anyway, and then it's easy to rationalize why you should stay with her (because you don't know that she's cheating on you "for sure!") and next thing you know you're a year deep in a shitty life sucking relationship.
Jason's Ultimatum
Member
Holy shit at the movies thing. WORD?
Mammoth Jones
Member
Now we on the same page! Dont wait to find out. Leave. Have some self respect, some dignity and peace out.
Gotdatmoney
Member
This is not worth a try. It very clearly isn't. Dude is in love after 2 fucking months with a girl who accuses him of cheating every 30s. And he has done about 10 stupid things as a result of this girl.
He doesn't need to be fed hope of anything meaningful with her. He doesn't need a friendship. He doesn't need to be her rock. Reading this story he needs to move the fuck on with his life.
mugoldeneagle03
Member
My girlfriend of 3 years works at a hospital and gets hit on constantly. All you can do is make sure you're giving her enough reasons to keep coming home, and let the rest be. No use worrying about it, and if she truly loves you they mean nothing to her at all.
Don't worry about it.
Don't worry about it.
Aizen.S.Kennedy
Banned
Hey op did you ever ask her why she didn't block all those dudes? Im really curious to know her excuse/reason,
Oh shiiiiii
always crazy bacon
Banned
I wonder where this girl is on the Hot to Crazy scale? Sounds like OPs inexperience hasn't given him time to learn not to stick your dick in it.
But, but, but she's hot. Totally not bragging or anything guys.
But, but, but she's hot. Totally not bragging or anything guys.
Could be why she hasn't talked to OP in 3 weeks. Maybe she had a little crush on you and for you saying "Text her saying you don't like me" might've hurt her a little.
You could be having fun with everyone in your house and enjoy a less stressful life.
2Smashed4U
Banned
word. It's also a good lesson for future relationships. If someone is trying to be controlling over you like that and dictate your life, you shouldn't take that either whether or not cheating is coming into play or not, that's a good enough reason to split in the first place. if you wouldn't do it to someone else, don't put up with someone else doing it to you.
Dick-sticking is ok, just figure the rest of it out (how to bail)
ebullientprism
Member
If she hasnt responded and the texts are really unwanted, screnshot and send to HR. Issue fucking solved.
If not then those texts arent completely unwanted or on side. Fucking bail.
If not then those texts arent completely unwanted or on side. Fucking bail.
GuitarAtomik
Member
I will say that the extreme jealously is indicative of stuff. Seen it and experienced it too many times. She's not necessarily cheating. Actually I'd venture to guess she's not considering how young you guys are and what you've described, but I almost guarantee she ends up dating one of these dudes from work after your relationship ends. If not one of them, it's probably someone else she's pretty friendly with right now.
2Smashed4U
Banned
This, that girl sounds cool, should've been talking her instead in the first place.
The post in question didn't invoke trust issues at all. Instead, it emphasized that the OP meeting his girlfriend at a bus stop indicates she is vulnerable to men who might have more prolonged stretches of time to "appeal" to her.
This is terrible reasoning on a number of levels. Perhaps starting with the implication that there is something inherently worriesome about his significant other having male colleagues, if only because he himself apparently didn't need to jump through hoops to start something with her. Like, come on.
Such ridiculous reasoning has obvious connotations. A (strsight) guy who thinks that way won't always have an issue with women, but it's very likely they do.
TheLostBigBoss
Banned
If you do have to break up with her, make sure you tell her the truth and you had a lot of good input from your friends online.
She deserves that much.
She deserves that much.
