So maybe you should read the posts you respond to better because I didn't say blaming the victims here is a justifiable thing to do. My post was about it being wrong to associate victims of disproportionate retribution to innocent victims because it invites people to look at innocent victims as if they are guilty of something which there is already far too much of when it comes to rape victims.
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Husband travels 160 miles to kill man having an affair with his Wife
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So maybe you should read the posts you respond to better because I didn't say blaming the victims here is a justifiable thing to do. My post was about it being wrong to associate victims of disproportionate retribution to innocent victims because it invites people to look at innocent victims as if they are guilty of something which there is already far too much of when it comes to rape victims.
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God Dayumm
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You need to learn to forgive your SO. Also, the likely thought is that she was forced into sex, which is not uncommon.
I don't give a shit about what his emotional trigger is, tying up your wife and threatening her makes you a terrible husband, period.
The post (mine) comes off a bit dramatic. I really don't mind that much.
I just thought talk of condoning murder (I didn't even know it was you who was the poster or even that much of the context) would do more to inflame the situation.
She bears responsibility for inciting his wrath. No one who gets cheated doesn't get upset. How far we go to make ourselves feel better or to gain justice though have no bearing on the person who angered us. It was his irrational choice to commit murder.
GungHo
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If not, they damn sure jumped onto the Crazy Train with both feet.
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That's why I said she bears causal responsibility, but not moral responsibility. Yes, she incited his anger. However, even if someone has made you incredibly angry, society still places a burden of expectation upon your actions, and that burden must not broken regardless of your emotional state. He did not meet that burden, and he alone faces the moral responsibility for that - not her.
Kano on the Phone
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I don't know how else to express that I disagree with you so I'm just going to smile and nod and back away.
poppabk
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Cheating -> you should expect some kind of irrational emotional response. Killing someone is obviously an extreme that everyone considers beyond the range of acceptable response, same as say forcible castration, but to think that betraying someone by cheating on them is not an act that will result in anything more than a measured discussion is to be in complete denial of the human condition.
CarpeDeezNutz
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Best thing to do is to get as much evidence of infidelity to get most of the joint assets, divorce her and take her to the cleaners and move on. If someone is willing to cheat on you then he/she was never really down with you in the first place.
But lol, murder someone (that didn't owe you shit) guess that'll show her while you rot in prison whilst she meets someone new. Sweet, sweet revenge!
But lol, murder someone (that didn't owe you shit) guess that'll show her while you rot in prison whilst she meets someone new. Sweet, sweet revenge!
I was being sarcastic about he should hurt her, no one should get hurt...I would do that also, forgive her and forget her.
You leave one girl, you still got more than 1billion girls that would be single and better than her.
It's just me, if my SO cheated on me, I would forgive her, but I can't stay.
Dreams-Visions
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Don't under-estimate the emotional trauma of cheating. I've had friends go completely fine to seriously suicidal when they found out. A loved one cheating in general is a huge emotional trigger.
firehawk12
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I can't believe people are blaming the wife in all this.
if I had ten wives and they all cheated on me at the same time i'd just shrug it off man
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Humanity tends to take a while to learn from its mistakes.
Wat. She was forced into sex? It sounds like this was an ongoing thing, I doubt she was forced into anything. Besides, pretty sure it's just called rape at that point, kind of hard to pin someone with cheating if they were raped.
Having a SO is silly and outmoded anyway, being a free agent will make you a lot happier in life.
Playing with fire is always fun.
The guy who cheated is an idiot and because of what he did, now he is dead.
Sleeping with a married women is kind of like poking a bear. 99 times out of 100 nothing comes of it, but most people know there is a chance of a jealous husband who might try to kick your ass, or worse (which happened here).
Sleeping with a married women is kind of like poking a bear. 99 times out of 100 nothing comes of it, but most people know there is a chance of a jealous husband who might try to kick your ass, or worse (which happened here).
freenudemacusers
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it's quite possible, given a 160 mile distance, that he did not know at all about her marriage.
Saying what it is, taken from things that I've actually said, that you disagree with would be a good start.
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He may not have known. Hell, she may not have even been cheating and just yelled out some guy her husband would believe so her husband wouldn't kill her. You just don't know enough about the situation to say.
BigEvilTurtle
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Okay.
I made the same conclusion but it is still a jump to a conclusion by assuming what his background is like.
Ok. I was trying to figure out why you used casual as an adjective.
Kano on the Phone
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Feeling depressed =/ being murderous. Everyone feels sad when they get cheated on, not everyone kills over it.
Well yeah, but it's not like A) we are his court appointed doctors and his fate rests in our hands or B) thinking that someone who resorts to violence is a violent person is unreasonable.
IISANDERII
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He wasn't charged with murder?
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The murder charge is pending, the other two have already been made.
Kano on the Phone
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What the fuck?
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Yeah, nah. Even if he had known (and as stated, there's a possibility that he didn't), he shouldn't have to fear for his life because the woman was thirsty. Nothing wrong with giving out the D when it is desired, you know?
diffusionx
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Maybe, or maybe something else would have set him off that led him to kill someone else.
This guy is a psycho.
He's right, though. Why be mad at the guy who might not have known that she was married?
Hell, if anything, it's a compliment - your wife is hot and some dude fucked her as a result. Shrug.
He really shouldn't have killed anyone...
God Dayumm
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The fact she consented does not mean she wasn't pressured into it, and if this was ongoing the guy likely knew she was married.
As for your other point, not everybody wants to die alone.
It's not a compliment.
Okay... So... Isn't that still rape? Are you saying there's a blurry line? I'm pretty sure it's black and white. Either she wanted the D or she didn't, there's not a whole lot of room for interpretation here.
I might die alone, but at least I will have lived free.
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No there definitely is something wrong in certain circumstances. If you sleep with your best friend's girlfriend, everything about that is wrong. If it's a guy you don't know it makes you less of an asshole but you're still not a decent human being. If you didn't know, you're innocent. None of the three situations warrant death, but there is severe assholery involved. You're free to disagree, though, not everyone shares the same idea of ethics.
Why not?
Meh. People attach waaaay too much value to sex. It's fun, people should treat it as such. Making it a huge deal and some kind of big commitment takes all of the fun out of it.
I think you mean morals, by the way. The law does not dictate that adultery is illegal (at least in the US), cheating or sleeping with someone you know is cheating is a personal decision.
FunnyBunny
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Or, she may not have cheated if she was married to a rational human being - which she clearly was not. It's unfair to label her the "root cause" when we know a fraction of the story.
Preferably by stoning, amirite? damn women, forcing men into sin.
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It's important to some people, and it's generally good to be sensitive to other peoples' feelings. You can find other free spirits at bars, (strip) clubs (that's where I go >_>), online, or people in more unorthodox type relationships. Not every opportunity that comes your way should be taken, even if it's true that said hypothetical wife would just cheat with another guy anyway. Don't always take what you can get. Just my opinion breh, I would hope that I would never hurt another person like that.
Cheating is wrong. Everyone knows that.
But her husband is a lunatic and I almost can see why she felt the need to cheat. I don't condone it, she should have left him but at the same time he's insane so maybe it was more complicated.
Either way, he can now spend his life in jail thankfully.
But her husband is a lunatic and I almost can see why she felt the need to cheat. I don't condone it, she should have left him but at the same time he's insane so maybe it was more complicated.
Either way, he can now spend his life in jail thankfully.
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