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[GremlinFool]

Because if there's one thing this thread has taught me it's that a large group of inconsiderate college dorm partiers will listen to an introverted guy's request with empathy and understanding and they definitely won't call him a shut-in loser nerd or retaliate in any way.

Again, requests of this nature are usually met with mutual respect and empathy if the person making the request does so in a well-mannered and confident way. I have been on both ends of this very situation innumerable times in my life, and it's been resolved almost momentarily every time.

 

[out0v0rder]

Dont worry about it OP, underage drinking is illegal.

 

[Branduil]

Again, requests of this nature are usually met with mutual respect and empathy if the person making the request does so in a well-mannered and confident way. I have been on both ends of this very situation innumerable times in my life, and it's been resolved almost momentarily every time.

Not everyone is well-mannered and confident when dealing with social confrontations, especially when it's one against a group. There's nothing wrong with calling the RA in that situation; that's what they are there for.

 

[GremlinFool]

Not everyone is well-mannered and confident when dealing with social confrontations, especially when it's one against a group. There's nothing wrong with calling the RA in that situation; that's what they are there for.

The RA is there to mediate when the situation escalates. You don't resort to a figure of authority to resolve all of your personal quibbles in life. Upon leaving college, the OP will face situations, likely on a daily basis, that will involve social confrontations. That the OP isn't adept at handling those situations isn't an excuse. Being able to resolve your own issues is part and parcel of becoming an adult.

 

[Zoe]

Again, requests of this nature are usually met with mutual respect and empathy if the person making the request does so in a well-mannered and confident way. I have been on both ends of this very situation innumerable times in my life, and it's been resolved almost momentarily every time.

Well his roommate had already pounded on the wall by the time he complained. If they had heard that and there was no change, then that should tell you what face to face would accomplish.

Plus, people on the floor above complained too.

 

[Spehornoob]

People still use the word "tattle"?

Anyway, I don't blame OP if he wanted to get to sleep. Just because you're in college doesn't mean everyone should unconditionally accommodate your loud partying. I think the RA calling the cops was a little far, but that wasn't OP's fault.

 

[Deleted member 17706]

Not everyone is well-mannered and confident when dealing with social confrontations, especially when it's one against a group. There's nothing wrong with calling the RA in that situation; that's what they are there for.

Learning how to deal with social confrontations is also a part of college if you ask me. Trying to have your way in a situation without directly involving yourself is a pretty shitty way to go about life.

Well his roommate had already pounded on the wall by the time he complained. If they had heard that and there was no change, then that should tell you what face to face would accomplish.

Plus, people on the floor above complained too.

Pounding on the wall getting no reaction means talking to them in person would accomplish nothing? Huh.

 

[GremlinFool]

Learning how to deal with social confrontations is also a part of college if you ask me. Trying to have your way in a situation without directly involving yourself is a pretty shitty way to go about life.



Pounding on the wall getting no reaction means talking to them in person would accomplish nothing? Huh.

NeoGAF: where SuperBad and American Pie are real life.

 

[LyleLanley]

Some of you people must've been insufferable in college. It was a saturday on St. Patricks day weekend during spring break, I just can't get behind the idea of going to an RA given those circumstances.

 

[Zoe]

Pounding on the wall getting no reaction means talking to them in person would accomplish nothing? Huh.

Either they didn't hear the roommate or they did hear the pounding and will assume the guy who comes to their door is the one who was doing it.

 

[Professor Beef]

I think my favorite posts in this thread are the ones calling OP inconsiderate for calling the RA, but not thinking that a party loud enough to be heard by the people upstairs at 2 AM *isn't* inconsiderate.

 

[GremlinFool]

I think my favorite posts in this thread are the ones calling OP inconsiderate for calling the RA, but not thinking that a party loud enough to be heard by the people upstairs at 2 AM *isn't* inconsiderate.

Honestly, some of you are a lost cause. I feel sorry that you guys neither understand how to properly handle confrontation nor what college is supposed to be about.

 

[BlackJace]

Honestly, some of you are a lost cause. I feel sorry that you guys neither understand how to properly handle confrontation nor what college is supposed to be about.

I love how condescending this is.

"Fuck your opinions, I've been through it all, I know what college is all about!

Miss me with that garbage.

 

[SummitAve]

I love how condescending this is.

"Fuck your opinions, I've been through it all, I know what college is all about!

Miss me with that garbage.

Your quote doesnt really reflect or address the points he was trying to make. You just created that garbage.

 

[GremlinFool]

I love how condescending this is.

"Fuck your opinions, I've been through it all, I know what college is all about!

Miss me with that garbage.

I'm not being condescending, I'm just reiterating pretty commonly understood axioms about life. If you don't agree that an adult human being should be able to deal with confrontation by themselves without whining immediately to an authority figure, or that college isn't about holistic growth as a human being that includes, yes, exposure to parties late at nights on Saturdays on notorious party weekends, then I don't know what to tell you.

 

[BlackJace]

Your quote doesnt really reflect or address the points he was trying to make. You just created that garbage.

I assume he believes he "knows what college is about".

 

[Deleted member 17706]

I'm not being condescending, I'm just reiterating pretty commonly understood axioms about life. If you don't agree that an adult human being should be able to deal with confrontation by themselves without whining immediately to an authority figure, or that college isn't about holistic growth as a human being that includes, yes, exposure to parties late at nights on Saturdays on notorious party weekends, then I don't know what to tell you.

Exactly this. For the rest of the people in that dorm's sake, I hope the OP changes his outlook on things or moves into a private apartment as soon as he is able.

 

[Piano]

I think my favorite posts in this thread are the ones calling OP inconsiderate for calling the RA, but not thinking that a party loud enough to be heard by the people upstairs at 2 AM *isn't* inconsiderate.

I follow the maxim "two wrongs don't make a right". Therefore, the question of whether the party itself was ethical is mostly irrelevant to me. What matters are my actions and their consequences. If I had any reason to believe that this party was posing a significant danger to someone or if loud parties were a long-standing problem in this dorm, and that punishment was necessary to avoid it happening again, that would be a different story.

tokkun said it best.

 

[To Far Away Times]

OP handled the situation appropriately. I would probably go to the door first, but no one should be that loud at 2 am in area where others are sleeping.

 

[SeanR1221]

OP handled the situation appropriately. I would probably go to the door first, but no one should be that loud at 2 am in area where others are sleeping.

No one ever? Some of you guys are so black and white.

 

[cwmartin]

should've just let them party

 

[RedShift]

I get OP would be annoyed. I've to deal with a situation where a housemate refused to keep it down until 2am on a Thursday night when I had to get up at 6 to travel across the country for a job interview the next morning, and I've never been more furious with anyone in my life.

But... if it's a Saturday, on a big party weekend, in dorms (which are like halls in the UK right?), and you don't have anything to get up for the next morning, you probably should have just put up with it. Or at least gone and asked them to turn it down yourself rather than getting someone else to do it.

 

[Nexas]

Don't feel bad OP. They got to enjoy the authentic college experience of having their party busted by the cops.

 

[Exploding8]

Fuck 'em

That's pretty much the long and short of it in my opinion. If they wanted a party they can go to the frat houses like everyone else.

 

[SummitAve]

Fuck 'em

That's pretty much the long and short of it in my opinion. If they wanted a party they can go to the frat houses like everyone else.

Yea, fuck these people I have to live with and next to!

 

[Professor Beef]

I'm not being condescending, I'm just reiterating pretty commonly understood axioms about life. If you don't agree that an adult human being should be able to deal with confrontation by themselves without whining immediately to an authority figure, or that college isn't about holistic growth as a human being that includes, yes, exposure to parties late at nights on Saturdays on notorious party weekends, then I don't know what to tell you.

So you're not being condescending, then you follow it up with condescension? I'm confused.

 

[Satch]

tbh even if op knocked on the door and asked them to turn it down he'd still be called names for "ruining" a party on st patricks day lol

 

[out0v0rder]

Yea, fuck these people I have to live with and next to!

probably doesn't have to live next to em anymore!
anyways, it's college. none of this will even matter after some time. the party bros now have a cool story about how thier raging party was so awesome it got shut down by the feds.

 

[Professor Beef]

tbh even if op knocked on the door and asked them to turn it down he'd still be called names for "ruining" a party on st patricks day lol

But at least GAF would respect him!

...and then call him a lame for attempting to shut down a party.

 

[gosox333]

Can't everybody at least agree that something had to be up for calling 4 additional RA's and the police to the situation, whether it be the party people being obnoxious or the RA/RA's at hand over escalating?

I don't like the idea of calling an RA in this situation either, but no matter what happened somebody outside of OP's control was a dick.

 

[params7]

I'm not being condescending, I'm just reiterating pretty commonly understood axioms about life. If you don't agree that an adult human being should be able to deal with confrontation by themselves without whining immediately to an authority figure, or that college isn't about holistic growth as a human being that includes, yes, exposure to parties late at nights on Saturdays on notorious party weekends, then I don't know what to tell you.

I know grown, very healthy, wealthy, sociable adults who would call the police if a bunch of other grown adults suddenly started playing loud music next to their walls.

Expecting the op to crash a St Patrick's party with the phrase "I can't sleep" shows an actual lack of street smart awareness on your part.

Op did the right thing by handling it anonymously here.

 

[Box]

Can someone please explain to me how and why we determine what a "full college experience" is?

 

[Massive Duck. C.M.]

OP doesn't even care anymore

let's pack this up

 

[DarkKyo]

Are you telling me you've never had alcohol before you were 21? Really? Never would've guess the bhuhu the hive mind guy would be the party killer type...

It's Saint Patty's day weekend, essentially Spring Break season, a Saturday night, and he's at a college dorm. There are easier ways to solve this without ruining everyone's fun, such as putting in some damn earplugs

That's dumb. On the other hand can't these alcoholics have a good time without being unbearably loud?

 

[Salamando]

Can't everybody at least agree that something had to be up for calling 4 additional RA's and the police to the situation, whether it be the party people being obnoxious or the RA/RA's at hand over escalating?

What likely happened was the entire St Paddy's Day weekend thing worked against them. RA's know it's a drinking holiday, so they know students are gonna drink.

RA probably went to the door, heard "drinking" noises, and wasn't let in. Suspecting drinking, he called for backup. Party people didn't have to be obnoxious, just didn't want to incriminate themselves. RA had suspicions of drinking and couldn't just let it slide.

 

[FatalT]

OP doesn't even care anymore

let's pack this up

Like his response to all the other problems he's facing in life, he ran away to avoid confrontation.

 

[Byakuya769]

Some of you sound like some boring ass college students. Just ask them to turn it down. If they don't? Lighten up and take some tylenol PMs or something.

 

[IceCold]

Some of you sound like some boring ass college students. Just ask them to turn it down. If they don't? Lighten up and take some tylenol PMs or something.

TURN DOWN FOR WHAT?!

 

[King Mac of Furry Frog]

I would feel zero remorse , people act stupid and fuck with RAs they deserve what they get. There's this thing called respect, if you can't use it remove yourself from the adult world.

 

[Laieon]

If they don't? Lighten up and take some tylenol PMs or something.

Or, you know... call the RA. If you've asked them to quiet things down and they don't, then escalating things is more than acceptable.

 

[Shamrock7r]

I would feel zero remorse , people act stupid and fuck with RAs they deserve what they get. There's this thing called respect, if you can't use it remove yourself from the adult world.

LOL this makes no sense.


Wow. Get out of your bubble.
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[DarkKyo]

Some of you sound like some boring ass college students. Just ask them to turn it down. If they don't? Lighten up and take some tylenol PMs or something.

You sound like typical douchebag party college student who doesn't care about anyone else's college experience but their own.

 

[-PXG-]

Come on folks, let's be real. If the OP went next door himself, no matter how he asked, do you think the party goers would honestly take his request seriously? Really? At best, they'd turn shit down for a minute or two and then immediately go back to being loud. Why would they give a shit about what he wants? They're having fun. They're drunk. Nothing matters to them, in that moment, especially some dude next door. If I was piss drunk, I can guarantee that I wouldn't give a single fuck about what anyone else thinks.

The OP asserted himself and said to hell with this shit. He didn't call the cops. He didn't ask for other RAs to get involved. All he wanted was for people to be less loud, in the middle of the night, during quiet hours, so he, and others, could sleep. He went about it in the most effective but least shit headed way possible. But apparently, that makes him an asshole. No one can win here. You're either a selfish, self entitled passive aggresive snitch, or a passive, bitch made door mat. It's fucking disgraceful.

 

[Byakuya769]

You sound like typical douchebag party college student who doesn't care about anyone else's college experience but their own.

Douchebag = sociable and with friends. Sure. I went out to party, not in dorms; just didn't get my panties in a twist over sleep on the weekend when I was a freshman.

 

[Darkmakaimura]

Come on folks, let's be real. If the OP went next door himself, no matter how he asked, do you think the party goers would honestly take his request seriously? Really? At best, they'd turn shit down for a minute or two and then immediately go back to being loud. Why would they give a shit about what he wants? They're having fun. They're drunk. Nothing matters to them, in that moment, especially some dude next door.

Not only that, but if they didn't stop and he had to get the RA, they'd know who tipped them off. Let's even assume he asked them politely and they continued and somebody else called the RA, they'd think he was the one who did it.

 

[Shamrock7r]

Not only that, but if they didn't stop and he had to get the RA, they'd know who tipped them off. Let's even assume he asked them politely and they continued and somebody else called the RA, they'd think he was the one who did it.

So? You're not going to get everyone to like you in life.

 

[AlexMogil]

Yea, fuck these people I have to live with and next to!

You're speaking from the perspective of the partiers, correct?

 

[DarkKyo]

Douchebag = sociable and with friends. Sure. I went out to party, not in dorms; just didn't get my panties in a twist over sleep on the weekend when I was a freshman.

You just said people should live with the unnecessary noise of strangers partying while they're paying good money for a room simply because "its college, lighten up".... You can be sociable and have friends without being a douchebag... you know, by respecting the atmosphere you're choosing to party in.

 

[-PXG-]

Not only that, but if they didn't stop and he had to get the RA, they'd know who tipped them off. Let's even assume he asked them politely and they continued and somebody else called the RA, they'd think he was the one who did it.

Exactly.

It's not like he cared they were drinking and having fun. By all means, drink yourself stupid, have fun. Just be mindful of others. It's not hard. Everyone could win. But no. People have binary means of thinking and see shit in absolutes. The sense of entitlement to be a complete wreckless asshole is truly amazing to me.

 

[Darkmakaimura]

So? You're not going to get everyone to like you in life.

But if you have an alternative to avoid confrontation, why not use it?