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[Deft Beck]

And people shouldn't assume all gay people are like that (and media companies shouldn't perpetuate it).

But the issue is the media companies and people making assumptions, not the LGBT people at pride just being themselves.

I don't really believe that's their "authentic self" as much as it is an excuse to be loud and garish in public. I don't really find the utility of pride parades any more because I think they're dated nowadays.

I don't think so and judging by the amount of times gay guys made passes at me(straight guy) i would assume you got yourself in a nice position,dating wise.

As for the "queerness" of the pride month, do things your own way. As long as you're happy and satisfied with your life there is no reason to change.

It's actually really hard to date because I feel like the moment I express my real opinions to a guy, I'll be accused of being self loathing or bigoted.

That's another problem. I am a masculine guy who would rather date masculine men. I am not into feminine men. I would rather date a guy who is as normal as possible.

 

[RoboFu]

Anyone who says you don’t dress or act “gay enough” is flat out ignorant on the highest level.

It’s the same when someone says a black personality isn’t acting black enough. These are horrible concepts dumb people have adopted.

all you have to do is be you as happy as you can be.

 

[Irobot82]

You are you. It's that simple. It's ok to be you.

 

[plushyp]

I dedicate this song to all the sexy bois in this thread:

 

[belmarduk]

I don't really believe that's their "authentic self" as much as it is an excuse to be loud and garish in public. I don't really find the utility of pride parades any more because I think they're dated nowadays.

It's actually really hard to date because I feel like the moment I express my real opinions to a guy, I'll be accused of being self loathing or bigoted.

That's another problem. I am a masculine guy who would rather date masculine men. I am not into feminine men. I would rather date a guy who is as normal as possible.

They probably still exist for the same reason most all parades exist.. as a tradition and an excuse to socialize and have a few drinks.

 

[Kabelly]

fucks guys and is a redneck? sounds like my type

 

[p_xavier]

The only good and honest portrayal of a gay guy IMO in television has been Max Bloom from Happy Endings. He's a fat lazy slob who doesn't care about looks and just wants to have fun and also happens to be gay.

 

[ZywyPL]

The thing is, and everyone in the media seems to be so damn afraid to openly talk about it, there is a HUGE difference in being a gay and being a faggot. Because gay people have always been here all along, and nobody noticed nor cared because they are absolutely normal, mentally sane people like every one else, they just have different sexual orientation, that's really all, and most of the time you won't be able to recognize them in a crowd, or even after talking with them directly. I've talked with some gays in my life and I couldn't tell until someone informed me, then I was like "OK, cool", because I had absolutely nothing agains it because they were absolutely normal persons. Even my brother-in-law's uncle is gay, and I didn't knew it for years until someone finally decided to enlighten me, and here comes the best part - whenever he sees all those LGBT parades, TV interviews etc. he's like "wtf if wrong with those people?? what do they want?". He really doesn't assimilate himself with this modern group/movement, their noisy looks like they're coming from lady Gaga convention, their obscene gestures and diction etc. And I think real bisexual people are exactly like him or the OP, they're true to themselves, hones with themselves, always have been, and they're just minding their own business, living their own life, because just like my brother-in-law once said - "who the fuck cares? I don't walk on the streets with my friends, bugging people, glorifying that we are straight, they we have wives and kids, shouting to the whole planet look at us!! LOOK AT US!!!!" LOOK-AT-UUUUSSSS!!!!... Nobodu gives a shit about othere's sexual orientation, it's a personal thing just like religion, some believe in this god, some in that god, so in none, who care's, it's your business. While all this faggotry you get to see nowadays everywhere in the internet, TV etc. that makes you vomit, I find it as nothing but a temporary "fashion" for people who are lost in life and don't know what to do with themselves, are desperately seeking for attention and a philosophy that'll make them believe that they aren't losers, that they are unique, actually better than everyone else, and there are actually "dozens of them", it happens every generation, we had vegans, hipsters, punks, skins, goths, emos, remember those? Yeah exactly, those went away with a fart once those people grown up and finally realized nobody gives a shit bout them and their live, because everyone has their own to live. So I have little to no doubts all this LGBT will and up exactly the same in ~10 years, who was homo/bisexual the whole time will continue to do so, while many of those people who suddenly jumped on the bandwagon will only end up being embarrassed and ashamed they took part in it.

Just my personal 2 cents, and kudos OP for being one of those normal people

 

[StreetsofBeige]

The thing is, and everyone in the media seems to be so damn afraid to openly talk about it, there is a HUGE difference in being a gay and being a faggot. Because gay people have always been here all along, and nobody noticed nor cared because they are absolutely normal, mentally sane people like every one else, they just have different sexual orientation, that's really all, and most of the time you won't be able to recognize them in a crowd, or even after talking with them directly. I've talked with some gays in my life and I couldn't tell until someone informed me, then I was like "OK, cool", because I had absolutely nothing agains it because they were absolutely normal persons. Even my brother-in-law's uncle is gay, and I didn't knew it for years until someone finally decided to enlighten me, and here comes the best part - whenever he sees all those LGBT parades, TV interviews etc. he's like "wtf if wrong with those people?? what do they want?". He really doesn't assimilate himself with this modern group/movement, their noisy looks like they're coming from lady Gaga convention, their obscene gestures and diction etc. And I think real bisexual people are exactly like him or the OP, they're true to themselves, hones with themselves, always have been, and they're just minding their own business, living their own life, because just like my brother-in-law once said - "who the fuck cares? I don't walk on the streets with my friends, bugging people, glorifying that we are straight, they we have wives and kids, shouting to the whole planet look at us!! LOOK AT US!!!!" LOOK-AT-UUUUSSSS!!!!... Nobodu gives a shit about othere's sexual orientation, it's a personal thing just like religion, some believe in this god, some in that god, so in none, who care's, it's your business. While all this faggotry you get to see nowadays everywhere in the internet, TV etc. that makes you vomit, I find it as nothing but a temporary "fashion" for people who are lost in life and don't know what to do with themselves, are desperately seeking for attention and a philosophy that'll make them believe that they aren't losers, that they are unique, actually better than everyone else, and there are actually "dozens of them", it happens every generation, we had vegans, hipsters, punks, skins, goths, emos, remember those? Yeah exactly, those went away with a fart once those people grown up and finally realized nobody gives a shit bout them and their live, because everyone has their own to live. So I have little to no doubts all this LGBT will and up exactly the same in ~10 years, who was homo/bisexual the whole time will continue to do so, while many of those people who suddenly jumped on the bandwagon will only end up being embarrassed and ashamed they took part in it.

Just my personal 2 cents, and kudos OP for being one of those normal people

Al lot of it comes down to attention. Low key LBGT people nobody knows they are or cares. And when I say people dont care, I dont mean they hope they jump off a bridge or anything. People in general are indifferent to everyone because most people are more concerned about their own lives, paying a mortgage, keeping a job etc...

Nobody is walking down the street trying to analyze people as gay or straight.

If I'm walking on the sidewalk and there's other people, I dont give a shit. I'm actually more concerned about getting to the bank or grocery store, or making sure I do a wide turn as they approach in case their dog nips my ankle or if I take out money someone doesnt mug me walking home. I don't turn into Terminator red mode and every person walking in front of me my brain classifies people into height, weight, man, woman or sexuality.

But one thing that is true is that the gay community that is the loud, fun dress up type gets the attention. Modern day social media and TV/movie media is to chum up to them and be buddies and join in with the always loud hilarious aura they ooze where it seems every gay guy is a comedian cracking witty jokes every 2 minutes while wearing flamboyant clothes.

But nobody is going to give two shits about gay people who you cant distinguish from straight people. There's no PR or money in it.

 

[DeviantBoi]

So be gay but don’t flaunt it.

No, thank you.

 

[Deft Beck]

The thing is, and everyone in the media seems to be so damn afraid to openly talk about it, there is a HUGE difference in being a gay and being a faggot. Because gay people have always been here all along, and nobody noticed nor cared because they are absolutely normal, mentally sane people like every one else, they just have different sexual orientation, that's really all, and most of the time you won't be able to recognize them in a crowd, or even after talking with them directly. I've talked with some gays in my life and I couldn't tell until someone informed me, then I was like "OK, cool", because I had absolutely nothing agains it because they were absolutely normal persons. Even my brother-in-law's uncle is gay, and I didn't knew it for years until someone finally decided to enlighten me, and here comes the best part - whenever he sees all those LGBT parades, TV interviews etc. he's like "wtf if wrong with those people?? what do they want?". He really doesn't assimilate himself with this modern group/movement, their noisy looks like they're coming from lady Gaga convention, their obscene gestures and diction etc. And I think real bisexual people are exactly like him or the OP, they're true to themselves, hones with themselves, always have been, and they're just minding their own business, living their own life, because just like my brother-in-law once said - "who the fuck cares? I don't walk on the streets with my friends, bugging people, glorifying that we are straight, they we have wives and kids, shouting to the whole planet look at us!! LOOK AT US!!!!" LOOK-AT-UUUUSSSS!!!!... Nobodu gives a shit about othere's sexual orientation, it's a personal thing just like religion, some believe in this god, some in that god, so in none, who care's, it's your business. While all this faggotry you get to see nowadays everywhere in the internet, TV etc. that makes you vomit, I find it as nothing but a temporary "fashion" for people who are lost in life and don't know what to do with themselves, are desperately seeking for attention and a philosophy that'll make them believe that they aren't losers, that they are unique, actually better than everyone else, and there are actually "dozens of them", it happens every generation, we had vegans, hipsters, punks, skins, goths, emos, remember those? Yeah exactly, those went away with a fart once those people grown up and finally realized nobody gives a shit bout them and their live, because everyone has their own to live. So I have little to no doubts all this LGBT will and up exactly the same in ~10 years, who was homo/bisexual the whole time will continue to do so, while many of those people who suddenly jumped on the bandwagon will only end up being embarrassed and ashamed they took part in it.

Just my personal 2 cents, and kudos OP for being one of those normal people

This is what I've been thinking for years, but I can't say that out loud or I'm the bigot suddenly.

I even worried I was repressed or I internalized homophobia or something.

Even if I wanted to go to a gay bar, I don't drink. Where do I meet a guy?

 

[zeorhymer]

This is what I've been thinking for years, but I can't say that out loud or I'm the bigot suddenly.

I even worried I was repressed or I internalized homophobia or something.

Even if I wanted to go to a gay bar, I don't drink. Where do I meet a guy?

Short of Grindr or Scruff, no clue besides dating websites. There are events catered to gays that aren't pride stuff.

 

[p_xavier]

Short of Grindr or Scruff, no clue besides dating websites. There are events catered to gays that aren't pride stuff.

Tinder for more relationship focused guys.

 

[p_xavier]

The thing is, and everyone in the media seems to be so damn afraid to openly talk about it, there is a HUGE difference in being a gay and being a faggot. Because gay people have always been here all along, and nobody noticed nor cared because they are absolutely normal, mentally sane people like every one else, they just have different sexual orientation, that's really all, and most of the time you won't be able to recognize them in a crowd, or even after talking with them directly. I've talked with some gays in my life and I couldn't tell until someone informed me, then I was like "OK, cool", because I had absolutely nothing agains it because they were absolutely normal persons. Even my brother-in-law's uncle is gay, and I didn't knew it for years until someone finally decided to enlighten me, and here comes the best part - whenever he sees all those LGBT parades, TV interviews etc. he's like "wtf if wrong with those people?? what do they want?". He really doesn't assimilate himself with this modern group/movement, their noisy looks like they're coming from lady Gaga convention, their obscene gestures and diction etc. And I think real bisexual people are exactly like him or the OP, they're true to themselves, hones with themselves, always have been, and they're just minding their own business, living their own life, because just like my brother-in-law once said - "who the fuck cares? I don't walk on the streets with my friends, bugging people, glorifying that we are straight, they we have wives and kids, shouting to the whole planet look at us!! LOOK AT US!!!!" LOOK-AT-UUUUSSSS!!!!... Nobodu gives a shit about othere's sexual orientation, it's a personal thing just like religion, some believe in this god, some in that god, so in none, who care's, it's your business. While all this faggotry you get to see nowadays everywhere in the internet, TV etc. that makes you vomit, I find it as nothing but a temporary "fashion" for people who are lost in life and don't know what to do with themselves, are desperately seeking for attention and a philosophy that'll make them believe that they aren't losers, that they are unique, actually better than everyone else, and there are actually "dozens of them", it happens every generation, we had vegans, hipsters, punks, skins, goths, emos, remember those? Yeah exactly, those went away with a fart once those people grown up and finally realized nobody gives a shit bout them and their live, because everyone has their own to live. So I have little to no doubts all this LGBT will and up exactly the same in ~10 years, who was homo/bisexual the whole time will continue to do so, while many of those people who suddenly jumped on the bandwagon will only end up being embarrassed and ashamed they took part in it.

Just my personal 2 cents, and kudos OP for being one of those normal people

You know what's a normal thing that non psycho's do, is paragraphs.

 

[Winter John]

Ain't dressing up in leather and parading down the street part of the fun though? I always figured it was the straight guy's equivalent of getting drunk in titty bars and drag racing. I get you might not want to do it every day but why not let loose once in a while. Hell, if I was gay I'd be marching up and down main street with sparklers up my ass every weekend. I might try it anyway. It sounds like a good time.

 

[StreetsofBeige]

Ain't dressing up in leather and parading down the street part of the fun though? I always figured it was the straight guy's equivalent of getting drunk in titty bars and drag racing. I get you might not want to do it every day but why not let loose once in a while. Hell, if I was gay I'd be marching up and down main street with sparklers up my ass every weekend. I might try it anyway. It sounds like a good time.

The difference is media focuses on that loud aspect of gay life, so it sticks. Typically the only time you see gay or lesbian people in media is when it's obviously outed in flamboyant ways like the funny gay acting guy or a butchy haired lesbian.

When it's St Patty's Day and people go out, dress in green and get drunk on the weekend, no media assumes all partiers or Irish people are like that 24/7.

 

[Winter John]

Sure they do. Drunk Irish is a common stereotype.

 

[StreetsofBeige]

Sure they do. Drunk Irish is a common stereotype.

Maybe for St Pattys time.

When you see a red headed Irish guy on TV, they arent portrayed as partying drunks all the time.