I do blame them. Because they're running away from the situation entirely and writing it off as just the workings of a fundamentally evil person.
I don't have a problem watching old benoit tapes (although I do cringe when he does the flying headbutt), because I understand things aren't black and white, especially when depression and drugs are involved.
Someone doesn't just suddenly become an evil criminal and kill themselves and their family at the age of 40. There are signs missed, and underlying brain damage and mental illness, and environmental influences.
But it's much easier to simply say he was a bad person