Musha_Soturi
Member
That you can't form meaningful relationships with straight women that are purely platonic
-
Hey, guest user. Hope you're enjoying NeoGAF! Have you considered registering for an account? Come join us and add your take to the daily discourse.
Just found out my girlfriend is cheating on me
- Thread starter kittoo
- Start date
That you can't form meaningful relationships with straight women that are purely platonic
I dunno. When I block a creep I want out of my life, I tend to delete the messages too. Why the hell would I still want that creepy shit on my phone?
Sickness702
Member
Nah, she didn't block him, if she did how would he know when to shoot his shot? I know he wasn't shooting his shot for a year and a half with no response.
Sygma
Member
I don't even understand why it is a warped view, and I don't think you understood that friendship to me is a value. Not just a term I throw to whoever I click well with
Lol but my friends are still women in the end. I'd rather deal with things like that, than creating drama or pain. My life is 100% drama free on that end for a reason : I chase ambiguity away, all the time. I'm not saying that friendship with women is impossible, if you look at it from a different perspective
Sure. And then your natural next move is to unblock him and plan to see him.
Like I said before: it's all bullshit.
FullMetaltech
Member
The fact she unblocked him and told him she would be back on the 23rd is sketchy as hell.
Sygma
Member
I mean, it would be surprising that the dude didn't contact her after he had that episode with the sister, then the two of them proceeded to do "what's best"
Still, at that point I don't understand why the girl simply didn't dump op to begin with. Then again who am i kidding
Yeah but pointing out that blocking doesn't equal deleting like it's some sort of proof of guilt when people do actually do that?
I feel like the thread is just fueling OP's paranoia. There's only so much information we have. Warranted or not, it doesn't mean we should fuel it.
Nah, by his own admission he was feeling bad for not trusting her and failing to realize the outright lie in her statements. Pretty sure we're being objective helpers.
Byakuya769
Member
That's champion class gaslighting. Let her go, OP.
Sickness702
Member
If your girl carried on relationships with men on a dating app for over a year and a half (as well as other apps) and met them without your knowledge what would you do? How would you feel if your girl was sneaking behind your back meeting men?
How much more information do you need?
panama chief
Member
Your sister is world class OP. She got answers. As someone who is divorced, thank the stars you didn't cross that line of commitment. 1.5 years is no joke tho. Stay strong.
Johnny Cage In The Shower
Member
The main problem with your and OP's line of thinking is getting caught up in the minute, insignificant, technical details.
We assume OP's being honest with us with his experience, I doubt he is not: he obviously wants to be with his gf and wants a happy outcome...
I don't think we are being paranoid or fueling the fire of her "distrust" by simply observing oh so common, run of the mill situation where one of the partners in a relationship is being shady, lacking empathy respect and understanding towards the other... We're simply pointing that out...
There is absolutely no good reason for her to be hiding this crucial relationship poisoning information away from the OP.. A trusted, respected person would keep their partner in the loop if they were engaging in side conversation with a "prospect" type for over half dozen months. It's that simple. On top of that they wouldn't complain to their partner for not trusting them when the partner brings this subject up after their own revelation of it.
It doesn't matter what was said on WhatsApp on Kik, on Tinder, or FB, and what has been blocked/unblocked or what's been deleted.. What matters is this woman was in contact with another guy for months, she was very discreet about this as well... She was about to even meet with the guy had she not been confronted. And that stinks, a very fishy stench of a stink!
dickroach
Member
we get a $100 referral credit
Chase Lebowski
Member
What the hell. I thought it was all good, i guess I need to check the updates.
Damn you were right on the money.
Messofanego
Banned
so we just openly advocating rape on gaf now or what
and i'm dead fucking serious about this post
that's rape.
ldcommando
Banned
if you are that serious you should pm a mod
The truest truth of them all
Nope, men need to tell other men publically to stop saying shit like this.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Looks like that crow got pushed back across the table to "see everything was fine" GAF.
If you read back on the first two pages so,some said she'd turn it around and blame the OP and she did exactly that. She almost got away with it except she went for the overkill in extra time.
If you read back on the first two pages so,some said she'd turn it around and blame the OP and she did exactly that. She almost got away with it except she went for the overkill in extra time.
The Sum of Zero
Member
Wait, what happened? Need a Mandrake summary here.
Flying Toaster
Member
I am super confused. So now what is going on? I need a Mandrake summary as well.
Dr. Buni
Member
What is this? Fucking disgusting. I wonder how you would feel if someone "hate fucked" your asshole.
Mammoth Jones
Member
Yup. What's my wife gonna find on my phone?
The WORST is what I looked at porn while she was gone oh no! Ain't no big deal to us.
I'm no Mandrake, hopefully he can make a proper post. But short and sweet:
OP was dating a girl for 1.5 years. And it was pretty serious. She met his family multiple times, and he had just met them. Marriage was on his mind. She was the one.
His sister posted a picture of her (the sister) and the gf on her Facebook. She gets a message a few days later asking hey! How do you know her? The guy use to be their neighbor or something, so they were kinda friends. OPs sister being the mvp she is, pretended she was just a friend and asked why the guy wanted to know. The guy said oh I've been dating her/went on dates with her. OPs sister plays it cool, and asap lets OP know.
OP is frustrated, makes this thread. He lets us know she use to have or has a dating app on her phone, and he was fine with it. He figured it was for an ego boost, nothing more than that. But now he suspects that she met him thru the app, etc etc.
The next day, OP met his girl. He checked if she had the dating app, and then together they went thru Facebook messenger. They even called the guy up. Everything seemed cool, she explained that dudes a creep and she met him once, etc etc. OP was like okay, they made up.
The next day, she talks to him, feeling like he broke her trust by checking her phone for the app, reading her Facebook messages. OP felt bad. But the more he thought about it, the more fishy her story became. For instance, her Facebook text with the guy were only the past 20 days, meaning she deleted messages. The other thing is she wrote something along the lines of ”I'll meet you when I come back to the city" to the other guy thru Facebook messenger. OP wonders why she didn't just refuse/ignore him/block him.
And here we are.
Sorry for any typos, I'm typing this out on my phone lol.
Extra info by Johnny:
polyh3dron
Banned
Wait, so it wasn't a happy ending after all? god dammit. seemed like it was pretty open and close after the speaker phone convo.
Looks to me like you're being gaslighted here. Bail the fuck out, she doesn't deserve your trust.
Looks to me like you're being gaslighted here. Bail the fuck out, she doesn't deserve your trust.
TheContact
Member
The argument was she said the messages werent there bc she blocked them but you admitted blocking doesnt delete. If she said she deleted bc it creeped her out that would make sense but heres another lie.
Johnny Cage In The Shower
Member
Good summary Veep, I read for accuracy...maybe it's worth to mention that the gf met the other dude twice while dating the OP, one was ...w
ell an encounter, the other time "she ran into him by fluke" at the mall. She was also making plans to 'Meet" later this month.
always crazy bacon
Banned
How old are you?
Plenty of gym owner in here.
This is the same site where people boast about having flaccid dicks long enough that touch the toilet water. If you aren't a Chad get out small fry.
FallingEdge
Member
call the police
This was the update post btw:
And i don't necessarily think the "meet after X date" thing is a red flag. It could have just been a slightly more longform way of putting him off.
Like just saying "no" might have invited more irritating messages. Put a future date on it.
And i don't necessarily think the "meet after X date" thing is a red flag. It could have just been a slightly more longform way of putting him off.
Like just saying "no" might have invited more irritating messages. Put a future date on it.
hurricanes
Member
And what is this suppose to mean?
To OP: I am on the side of suspicion if you are telling the whole story. No one decent in a happy relationship go around meeting people they don't even like in the back.
TheContact
Member
Thats a legit thing tho =(
Jimmyfenix
Member
Go to the gym op
33 and ive been through more than my share of relationships and had a few unfaithfuls that ended badly.
old manatee
Banned
hit the sauce.
So you see nothing wrong with her going on dates with other men that she met on dating apps months/years into dating OP? Including one she's planning in the very near future? Then trying to flip it on OP when he confronts her about it?
She sure sounds like a keeper. lol
dreamcastmaster
Banned
Instead of just blocking him and his number? Come on son.jpg
Theres a lot of people defending her behavior, ignoring the facts and making excuses for her.
Thos is why you guys get cheated on becuse you ignore tje warnings becuse you want to be tje good guy.