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[Plywood]

I'm guessing 10k is a bit . i will prob try and spend $5k .

I would think that 3k would be the limit and going around google it seems some even consider anything above 1k overkill. Of course you should adjust to however much you make versus how much you think you should spend. You should be checking around for different price ranges of your local jewelers and maybe even possibly consider getting a custom ring.

For proper diamond buying read this: http://gia4cs.gia.edu/cm/diamond-buying-guide.htm

Gold and platinum is also expensive so instead you should consider a palladium ring.

 

[ItWasMeantToBe19]

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This is the best.

 

[Mineshaft_Gap]

Ducky can be like that sometimes.

If it were an attractive girl making that post she would be berated as an attention whore.

I'm reasonably attractive, but I don't post my pics. I ESPECIALLY don't post pics asking if I'm attractive when I already know the answer. Not trying to be cocky. I just don't want to draw attention to myself in this way. It's not classy.

 

[cooljeanius]

I'm reasonably attractive, but I don't post my pics.

I seem to remember you posting your pics once before.

 

[Mineshaft_Gap]

I seem to remember you posting your pics once before.

I stopped when I was 16+. I didn't like the sort of attention I was getting. It became scary all of a sudden. In fact, someone once told me that you had a picture of me as your avatar, but he isn't 100 percent sure.

 

[clearacell]

Posting pics and asking "what can I do to make myself look better?" should be fine for this thread, wouldn't it? If I wasn't that sure about my personal style I sure as hell would want a girl's opinion, considering that's who I'm trying to attract.

 

[daffy]

Yeah, except he asked and posted the sweetest, most Facebook ready pictures. He knows he's well groomed. Those aren't just random how do I look pics.

Anyway, I used to post pics on forums also(not on gaf, back when i wasn't in America) until people started somehow finding my old Skype and sending pms and general creepy shit, even in that pics thread here some people have no self control. I just did it to have fun, making faces and poses and shit, but people will turn it into something perverted.

 

[Professor Beef]

There's a thread for posting pics of yourself. Not that I mind people doing it here, I'm just saying.

 

[Finaika]

No, but I've had a few guys hit on me.

And you're wondering if you're attractive?

 

[Dan Yo]

If it were an attractive girl making that post she would be berated as an attention whore.

I'm reasonably attractive, but I don't post my pics. I ESPECIALLY don't post pics asking if I'm attractive when I already know the answer. Not trying to be cocky. I just don't want to draw attention to myself in this way. It's not classy.

Your posts often reek of insecurity for someone who apparently considers themself to be hot stuff. I don't know many confident people that use phrases like "not trying to be cocky" or tell people they don't even know that they need to work on their personality.

No offense, but sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder because you're not happy about yourself for whatever reason. Judging by how often you talk about the supposed attention you get from guys, I'd guess it's your looks that you are insecure about.

 

[shanshan310]

Quick question to LadyGAF..

How do you compliment a female friend on her looks without being "blatent" about it?

I don't have feelings for her, it's just that every now and then she looks pretty/cute and I just want to express that. But saying "You look cute" just seems awkward to me.

What about something like "that's a nice dress"?

EDIT: I don't see what's wrong with him asking if he was attractive.

Spoiler

yes.

 

[shortyme]

Hey lady-GAF. Am I attractive? I've been feeling like my personal style and overall look is causing a negative effect on my success.

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Stop looking so smug. I've yet to see a picture of you without a smug grin on your face. You're a decent looking dude but you're not a ten, so drop that shit eating grin.

Edit: Noez, just tell her she's looking good. People like being complimented, doesn't matter who its from. If she's a good friend, she'll probably laugh and tell you to shut up but you might have just made her day.

 

[suzu]

I get what Ducky is saying. If a pretty girl did the same thing, there would be some people saying she was being an attention whore. I say it's fine if he wants to ask though. Some people just need a confidence boost. Nothing wrong with that.

DeathbyVolcano, you are a good looking dude. If you're not getting girls then it's something else entirely unrelated to your looks heh.

 

[Opus Angelorum]

Can we ask sexual questions? I don't want to go there if it changes the tone of the thread (for the worse).

 

[Zoe]

Can we ask sexual questions? I don't want to go there if it changes the tone of the thread (for the worse).

Sexual topics are pretty much not allowed on GAF anymore.

 

[shanshan310]

Can we ask sexual questions? I don't want to go there if it changes the tone of the thread (for the worse).

eh, It doesn't bother me. Though I guess it depends on the question. The one you should be worried about is google ads and their new rules.

 

[Opus Angelorum]

Sexual topics are pretty much not allowed on GAF anymore.

I'll not bother then, I'll ask Google.

 

[Alucrid]

No, but I've had a few guys hit on me.

Nah. I'd only hit dat if it were BrandNew.

 

[Chinner]

lady-gaf, why did nobody tell me that happiness is not real.

 

[Log4Girlz]

lady-gaf, why did nobody tell me that happiness is not real.

Did you ask anyone?

 

[shortyme]

lady-gaf, why did nobody tell me that happiness is not real.

It is real Chinner.

 

[Deadly Cyclone]

lady-gaf, why did nobody tell me that happiness is not real.

Chinner you got a shout out from Zelda Williams, how does that not contribute to happiness?

 

[shanshan310]

lady-gaf, why did nobody tell me that happiness is not real.

but it is real...

 

[leadbelly]

Hey lady-GAF. Am I attractive?

Surely you have gotten some feedback before now?

It was always going to come across as a stealth posing post. lol

 

[hydragonwarrior]

Chinner you got a shout out from Zelda Williams, how does that not contribute to happiness?

That's a pretty awesome shout out lol

 

[PinkCrayon]

Surely you have gotten some feedback before now?

It was always going to come across as a stealth posing post. lol

nothing stealth about it.

 

[Log4Girlz]

So anyway...I don't understand women. Fuck it. Had something happen to me last night with someone I've known a very long time...and uhh...wtf. WHY CANT YOU TELL US WHAT YOU WANT. Would be so much fucking easier.

 

[shanshan310]

So anyway...I don't understand women. Fuck it. Had something happen to me last night with someone I've known a very long time...and uhh...wtf. WHY CANT YOU TELL US WHAT YOU WANT. Would be so much fucking easier.

Because isn't it more fun that way?

but seriously, what I want tends to change on a day-to-day basis so even if I say I want one thing one day I might want something else the next. Everyone is different though...

 

[Devolution]

So anyway...I don't understand women. Fuck it. Had something happen to me last night with someone I've known a very long time...and uhh...wtf. WHY CANT YOU TELL US WHAT YOU WANT. Would be so much fucking easier.

So anyway...I don't understand men. Fuck it. Had something happen to me last night with someone I've known a very long time...and uhh...wtf. WHY CANT YOU FUCKING TALK ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS. Would be so much fucking easier.

See how constructive this is?

 

[Plywood]

I WOULDNT EXPECT YOU TO UNDERSTAND DEVO

GAWD

 

[Devolution]

I WOULDNT EXPECT YOU TO UNDERSTAND DEVO

GAWD

 

[SmokyDave]

So anyway...I don't understand women. Fuck it. Had something happen to me last night with someone I've known a very long time...and uhh...wtf. WHY CANT YOU TELL US WHAT YOU WANT. Would be so much fucking easier.

Maybe you weren't listening closely enough. Much of our communication is non-verbal.

 

[Plywood]

http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a91/karepics17/IIIS14.jpg

 

[Deadly Cyclone]

Love me some Natalie. Not sad-faced Natalie though.

 

[Dunk#7]

My Biggest Question:

Why do women always respond with "Nothing" when asked what is wrong?

There is obviously something wrong, but women will not say what it is. They would rather torture you with one word answers and silence rather than provide some constructive information that would be useful in resolving the situation.

The main issue is that if they respond with "nothing" and you take it literally and ignore that anything is wrong they get upset as well because you are not showing that you care.

It is such a BS catch 22 situation.


Why must we go through the hour long game of asking what is wrong before you finally tell us? What is the point of that segment of time? You could easily just answer the first time and save everybody the trouble.

Therefore you cannot get the answer by asking and you are not caring enough if you do not ask. What are you supposed to do? There is no right answer and the male always ends up on the losing end either way.

 

[Prax]

So anyway...I don't understand women. Fuck it. Had something happen to me last night with someone I've known a very long time...and uhh...wtf. WHY CANT YOU TELL US WHAT YOU WANT. Would be so much fucking easier.

LOL
Let's list a few possible reasons:
- don't actually know and are frustrated about it but project frustrations onto you
- too embarrassed to say so hope you can figure it out
- thought it was clear but is a bad communicator
- thought it was clear but you are too dense
- had conflicting emotions about saying it clearly
- changed mind about it.. again
- is playing coy and mind games

Anyhow, it's probably just bad communication between you two!

Though were it me: Yeah, screw that. You don't say it clearly and explicitly, you better not expect it, whiner.

My Biggest Question:

Why do women always respond with "Nothing" when asked what is wrong?

There is obviously something wrong, but women will not say what it is. They would rather torture you with one word answers and silence rather than provide some constructive information that would be useful in resolving the situation.

The main issue is that if they respond with "nothing" and you take it literally and ignore that anything is wrong they get upset as well because you are not showing that you care.

It is such a BS catch 22 situation.


Why must we go through the hour long game of asking what is wrong before you finally tell us? What is the point of that segment of time? You could easily just answer the first time and save everybody the trouble.

Therefore you cannot get the answer by asking and you are not caring enough if you do not ask. What are you supposed to do? There is no right answer and the male always ends up on the losing end either way.

It's probably one of the reasons I listed above. Lots of conflicting emotions and doesn't know how to say it clearly without upsetting themselves more or they think you somehow need to figure it out to show you care or to make you feel manly. idk
Could be that they actually don't know either and are using that hour of time to construct their arguments and figure out their own emotions on the matter.

But even I think it's BS. You are not alone. xD
(I mean, when I say "nothing" I mean it or I mean that I want the subject dropped and not brought up... *SHRUG*)

 

[Devolution]

My Biggest Question:

Why do women always respond with "Nothing" when asked what is wrong?

There is obviously something wrong, but women will not say what it is. They would rather torture you with one word answers and silence rather than provide some constructive information that would be useful in resolving the situation.

The main issue is that if they respond with "nothing" and you take it literally and ignore that anything is wrong they get upset as well because you are not showing that you care.

It is such a BS catch 22 situation.


Why must we go through the hour long game of asking what is wrong before you finally tell us? What is the point of that segment of time? You could easily just answer the first time and save everybody the trouble.

Therefore you cannot get the answer by asking and you are not caring enough if you do not ask. What are you supposed to do? There is no right answer and the male always ends up on the losing end either way.

It's not usually about torturing you, sometimes it's being frustrated at the fact that we're upset about something so inconsequential and minute in the first place. Sometimes I'm just having one of those days, and I know I shouldn't be taken seriously. So I say nothing because I know I'm being silly and I won't give a shit tomorrow.

 

[Dunk#7]

It's not usually about torturing you, sometimes it's being frustrated at the fact that we're upset about something so inconsequential and minute in the first place. Sometimes I'm just having one of those days, and I know I shouldn't be taken seriously. So I say nothing because I know I'm being silly and I won't give a shit tomorrow.

hmm that is an interesting perspective. I never thought of it that way

 

[Douche McBaggins The 3rd]

So anyway...I don't understand men. Fuck it. Had something happen to me last night with someone I've known a very long time...and uhh...wtf. WHY CANT YOU FUCKING TALK ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS. Would be so much fucking easier.

See how constructive this is?

That's easy. In American society men are seen as bitches if they talk about their problems. So most men don't. They just bottle it up and it tends to slip out in bits and pieces.

Some acceptable methods of speaking about problems are doing it while drinking or as a hypothetical question. Or if you're getting your hair cut. It's a weird cultural thing on how to get help depending on your culture.

For my culture, it's letting it all out after you drink twenty or thirty beers.

 

[Devolution]

That's easy. In American society men are seen as bitches if they talk about their problems. So most men don't. They just bottle it up and it tends to slip out in bits and pieces.

Some acceptable methods of speaking about problems are doing it while drinking or as a hypothetical question. Or if you're getting your hair cut. It's a weird cultural thing on how to get help depending on your culture.

For my culture, it's letting it all out after you drink twenty or thirty beers.

I like the cut of your jib and your forum name.

 

[Douche McBaggins The 3rd]

I like the cut of your jib and your forum name.

My name always seems to attract attention.

But when you have a society less hell bent on what exactly a man is, you have men open up slightly more then what you have in westernized countries.

 

[Log4Girlz]

So anyway...I don't understand men. Fuck it. Had something happen to me last night with someone I've known a very long time...and uhh...wtf. WHY CANT YOU FUCKING TALK ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS. Would be so much fucking easier.

See how constructive this is?

I WOULDNT EXPECT YOU TO UNDERSTAND DEVO

GAWD

 

[Devolution]

My name always seems to attract attention.

But when you have a society less hell bent on what exactly a man is, you have men open up slightly more then what you have in westernized countries.

Oh it's true but if you're self aware or culturally aware enough to realize these shortcomings, you have no excuse and should be doing your part to break the cycle.

I WOULDNT EXPECT YOU TO UNDERSTAND DEVO

GAWD

I really don't sometimes because I don't fall into that trap of being all coy and mysterious about stuff. Then when I hear guys complain about women doing this, I'm all "what." My brutal honesty sometimes gets in the way of realizing that there are women out there who play fuckin' games. But really, they're not worth your time if they're making you play guessing games.

 

[Log4Girlz]

Oh it's true but if you're self aware or culturally aware enough to realize these shortcomings, you have no excuse and should be doing your part to break the cycle.





I really don't sometimes because I don't fall into that trap of being all coy and mysterious about stuff. Then when I hear guys complain about women doing this, I'm all "what." My brutal honesty sometimes gets in the way of realizing that there are women out there who play fuckin' games. But really, they're not worth your time if they're making you play guessing games.

I understand. I've attempted to write a post several time to give some backdrop on my rant but it kept winding up as a tl;dr sort of post. Let's just say I've known this girl 10 years, I have made efforts to be with her in those ten years...and yet she reveals to me she liked me for a very long time. Sigh. I wish I could say it isn't worth my time, but I've liked her since the day I met her, and that was no mystery to anyone haha.

 

[Devolution]

I understand. I've attempted to write a post several time to give some backdrop on my rant but it kept winding up as a tl;dr sort of post. Let's just say I've known this girl 10 years, I have made efforts to be with her in those ten years...and yet she reveals to me she liked me for a very long time. Sigh. I wish I could say it isn't worth my time, but I've liked her since the day I met her, and that was no mystery to anyone haha.

Maybe she was just scared then, I mean we're still socialized with this idea that you guys are supposed to sweep us off our feet.

 

[Chiave]

God, I think I'm going to stay single or foreveralone for a while. I hung out with my friend yesterday and he's depressed as fuck over his GF who's still in HS. He's being irrational and it's annoying as fuck.

 

[Log4Girlz]

Maybe she was just scared then, I mean we're still socialized with this idea that you guys are supposed to sweep us off our feet.

I...don't know if that's the case with her. I mean, she overtly shut me down on 2 occasions...yet she's like me for many years. Perhaps you're right but damn.

 

[Devolution]

I...don't know if that's the case with her. I mean, she overtly shut me down on 2 occasions...yet she's like me for many years. Perhaps you're right but damn.

Indecisive? You asked at the wrong times in her life? I dunno. Sucks though for sure.

 

[Douche McBaggins The 3rd]

Oh it's true but if you're self aware or culturally aware enough to realize these shortcomings, you have no excuse and should be doing your part to break the cycle.





I really don't sometimes because I don't fall into that trap of being all coy and mysterious about stuff. Then when I hear guys complain about women doing this, I'm all "what." My brutal honesty sometimes gets in the way of realizing that there are women out there who play fuckin' games. But really, they're not worth your time if they're making you play guessing games.

Being self aware doesn't give one the ability to help or make change. It makes one a social outcast and makes people see you as the weird one, even amongst friends. The only way to push change is in people who seek change and need affirmation rather than forcing it on people. Sad that people rather be content with something that's wrong rather then push for change that expands their freedoms.

Men are allowed few emotions. Anger, and contentment. Men who show joy or sorrow are looked at as freaks. Though for some weird reason it is ok for men to show emotion during football of all things.

 

[Devolution]

Being self aware doesn't give one the ability to help or make change. It makes one a social outcast and makes people see you as the weird one, even amongst friends. The only way to push change is in people who seek change and need affirmation rather than forcing it on people. Sad that people rather be content with something that's wrong rather then push for change that expands their freedoms.

Men are allowed few emotions. Anger, and contentment. Men who show joy or sorrow are looked at as freaks. Though for some weird reason it is ok for men to show emotion during football of all things.

I was a social outcast and a weird one amongst friends, still sort of am in some respects. People will just conform to ideals they think work because they don't really know different and are socialized into thinking of their gender (and other genders) as a specific set of immutable traits. I've just grown tired of the idea that any gender is the sum of all its tropes, especially as a means to justify failure. People are people.