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Women of GAF. I met this girl at a party this weekend, but by the time she showed up I was 14 or 15 beers in so my flirting game was way the hell off. She approached me a few times and tried to talk a little, but at this point I was unable to do anything but act like a goofball. I poured her a shot and she said something to the effect of "Oh, I get the first shot? Looks like I owe you!" or something.

Anyways, I don't place any importance on drunken flirting, because that shit happens all the time and really doesn't mean anything. I added her on facebook the other day, did a quick browse, found out she likes books and halloween, and she had a few comments about her lack of a boy in her life here and there on her page.

So, I've got a fairly dumb question. If you girls were in this situation, would you want the dude to chat you on facebook and ask for your number? And if so, what are the best things to make small talk with so that you'd feel comfortable giving said guy your number and a date?
 
Zoe said:
You'll tear apart the group if it goes sour.



Everybody has their own Facebook rules. That's just harsh to start deleting people.
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I guess it depends on the situation. If someone wasn't online and therefore "ignoring" my messages I wouldn't be mad but if they're pretty often on facebook and just not responding I would just delete them but I also wouldn't care if they don't talk to me. I'm guessing it's the first situation. I wonder how long that guy had her as a friend before he defriended her, that's somewhat important.
 
Mordeccai said:
Women of GAF. I met this girl at a party this weekend, but by the time she showed up I was 14 or 15 beers in so my flirting game was way the hell off. She approached me a few times and tried to talk a little, but at this point I was unable to do anything but act like a goofball. I poured her a shot and she said something to the effect of "Oh, I get the first shot? Looks like I owe you!" or something.

Anyways, I don't place any importance on drunken flirting, because that shit happens all the time and really doesn't mean anything. I added her on facebook the other day, did a quick browse, found out she likes books and halloween, and she had a few comments about her lack of a boy in her life here and there on her page.

So, I've got a fairly dumb question. If you girls were in this situation, would you want the dude to chat you on facebook and ask for your number? And if so, what are the best things to make small talk with so that you'd feel comfortable giving said guy your number and a date?
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Yeah just hit her up. Any small talk will do, maybe mention the things that she likes? Just be friendly :)
 
Mordeccai said:
Women of GAF. I met this girl at a party this weekend, but by the time she showed up I was 14 or 15 beers in so my flirting game was way the hell off. She approached me a few times and tried to talk a little, but at this point I was unable to do anything but act like a goofball. I poured her a shot and she said something to the effect of "Oh, I get the first shot? Looks like I owe you!" or something.

Anyways, I don't place any importance on drunken flirting, because that shit happens all the time and really doesn't mean anything. I added her on facebook the other day, did a quick browse, found out she likes books and halloween, and she had a few comments about her lack of a boy in her life here and there on her page.

So, I've got a fairly dumb question. If you girls were in this situation, would you want the dude to chat you on facebook and ask for your number? And if so, what are the best things to make small talk with so that you'd feel comfortable giving said guy your number and a date?
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Did you have any kind of conversation with her beyond the shot pouring? If anything, I'd send her a short message, maybe a nice meeting you, or even better if you can reference something you may have said that night to make her laugh, she'll have something a little more to go on and it wont seem like some kind of cold call.

Best of luck, and got damn dude 14-15 beers? ... kind of impressed, kind of concerned, lol
 
Zaraki_Kenpachi said:
I guess it depends on the situation. If someone wasn't online and therefore "ignoring" my messages I wouldn't be mad but if they're pretty often on facebook and just not responding I would just delete them but I also wouldn't care if they don't talk to me. I'm guessing it's the first situation. I wonder how long that guy had her as a friend before he defriended her, that's somewhat important.
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She was actually online , and I sent her messages several times but she ignored me :/
We have been (were?!) friend for like 3 years, and on facebook for like a year, she was the one to add me too. I am somewhat high up in my arse and rarely add anyone.

Well, I guess the problem is really, as you say, me not giving shit that she ignores me now. But I believe this is because I really cared about here, and the reason that I removed her was because I was hurt because she ignored me, justifying it with some stupid reasons to 'keep my pride'.

Anyhow, it is awkward when someone you regularly see and know, ignores you this much.


anyhow, is there anything that I can do now? :(
 
walking fiend said:
anyhow, is there anything that I can do now? :(
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I'm going to sum up what you've told us in the manner I've read it:
-You were friends with a girl
-You had an online chat, overnight, after which she stopped replying to your messages
-In your frustration, you deleted her off of facebook
-In the days that followed, she asked why you had done so, and has since continued to ignore you.

Here's how I interpret this, without knowing the content of your long dawn-breaking conversation: You got too close in that conversation, she backed off, you got pissed and reacted poorly, so she's pissed and wants nothing to do with you, thinking that you want the same.

If you want to salvage the friendship that you're about to lose over a trivial facebook act, what is likely your best shot is to give it time.

Let things cool down for a few months, then contact her with a simple well-wish, and a hope that you can catch up soon. That is, if after a few months you want to be friends with someone who doesn't know your m/o of deleting people from his life with whom he hasn't had contact in awhile.

In the meantime, reconsider your approach to how you use facebook.
 
i'm trying to figure out which GAF subculture is right for me?? LADYgaf can you tell me what GAFculture-age is the most alluring and attractive?
 
BladeWorker said:
I'm going to sum up what you've told us in the manner I've read it:
-You were friends with a girl
-You had an online chat, overnight, after which she stopped replying to your messages
-In your frustration, you deleted her off of facebook
-In the days that followed, she asked why you had done so, and has since continued to ignore you.

Here's how I interpret this, without knowing the content of your long dawn-breaking conversation: You got too close in that conversation, she backed off, you got pissed and reacted poorly, so she's pissed and wants nothing to do with you, thinking that you want the same.

If you want to salvage the friendship that you're about to lose over a trivial facebook act, what is likely your best shot is to give it time.

Let things cool down for a few months, then contact her with a simple well-wish, and a hope that you can catch up soon. That is, if after a few months you want to be friends with someone who doesn't know your m/o of deleting people from his life with whom he hasn't had contact in awhile.

In the meantime, reconsider your approach to how you use facebook.
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I suspect this is indeed what had happened and you are correct on every account :( I was sKeptic if that convo could have caused it, as it ended well, but maybe she was too drunk or sleepy or something, and she just learned later that it was too much. It is the only logical explanation I could come up with

Although I didn't believe deleting someone from facebook could be this catastrophic when I did it, I believe I knew the what message I wanted to be delivered: Fuck you!
I think I should revise my whole mental stability a bit in the first place, I bark too much! :(

And for the moment, I should just let it rest a bit, what's done is done, I guess
 
myself and this girl at my job are hitting it off very quickly. But, my co-workers are telling me I had better watch out, she is a vegetarian and vegetarians have an odd stench.

what do i do?
 
bangai-o said:
myself and this girl at my job are hitting it off very quickly. But, my co-workers are telling me I had better watch out, she is a vegetarian and vegetarians have an odd stench.

what do i do?
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Devolution said:
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well why do vegetarians have an odd stench?
 
No one answered my last question! I'm going to have to go back to Girl-Age for advice... where people won't answer my questions either... fuck. I need to add some flair to my questions, maybe incorporate some drama in them.

On another note, girl is coming over, I've been seeing her occasionally the last month and a half, but we haven't had sex yet - but not for a lack of trying. I think we're going to give it another shot tomorrow - but I'm mildly worried that she is too comfortable with the idea of condomless sex - if it comes up, how do I tell her that ain't happening without hurting this gal's feelings?
 
Pinko Marx said:
I'd answer if I knew. At first I thought its cuz shes kinda super religious but that wouldn't make sense cause she does plenty of other freaky shit.



Why would I ask about how to get MYSELF to suck dick? Your joke sucks.
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Now now, don't get your panties in a twist. You're the one asking for sex advice on a gaming forum, you never made sense in the first place.
 
Kinitari said:
No one answered my last question! I'm going to have to go back to Girl-Age for advice... where people won't answer my questions either... fuck. I need to add some flair to my questions, maybe incorporate some drama in them.

On another note, girl is coming over, I've been seeing her occasionally the last month and a half, but we haven't had sex yet - but not for a lack of trying. I think we're going to give it another shot tomorrow - but I'm mildly worried that she is too comfortable with the idea of condomless sex - if it comes up, how do I tell her that ain't happening without hurting this gal's feelings?
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FHUTA?

In all seriousness though just tell straight up you are not comfortable with the idea of going without a rubber. If she says something, the lady doth protest too much bro, and just nip it in the bud.
 
Devolution said:
FHUTA?

In all seriousness though just tell straight up you are not comfortable with the idea of going without a rubber. If she says something, the lady doth protest too much bro, and just nip it in the bud.
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Aww. Fuck I hope that doesn't happen. I need some more notches on my bedpost.
 
Pinko Marx said:
He's 6'8".
Shes like 5'2".
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That's... huge. I wanted to know what percentile that is, but couldn't find any samples with enough people in them to include someone of that height.

So, I'm guessing that's somewhere between 1 in 1000 and 1 in 10 000.
 
Here's an issue of mine (one of many, haha): I'm not just afraid of rejection but I'm exponentially more afraid of acceptance. I've been rejected my entire life, so I'm more or less used to that. On the other hand, I've never not been rejected and I wouldn't know what to do if a girl said "Yes" and that's infinitely scarier. wat do??
 
Douche McBaggins The 3rd said:
Being self aware doesn't give one the ability to help or make change. It makes one a social outcast and makes people see you as the weird one, even amongst friends. The only way to push change is in people who seek change and need affirmation rather than forcing it on people. Sad that people rather be content with something that's wrong rather then push for change that expands their freedoms.

Men are allowed few emotions. Anger, and contentment. Men who show joy or sorrow are looked at as freaks. Though for some weird reason it is ok for men to show emotion during football of all things.
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Wow, this guy was speaking all sorts of truth.
 
Hylian7 said:
I've got one for you LadyGAF, I'll try to keep this short. Let me know if there's some missing piece of crucial information you need to know.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years and a few months now. Earlier this year I told her that I didn't believe in God anymore (formerly being Catholic, now an Atheist), and that I was silent for a little over a year at that point (This was March-ish of this year). She is a Methodist, and always has been. Lately it's seeming like we have been getting in fights over religion a lot lately. She's told me a lot of things that have me slightly freaked out, and at the very least extremely stressed out. Examples of this are "I think God is trying to tell me we shouldn't be together." She's also said on multiple occasions that if we get married, she wants me to not say anything to the kids until they are EIGHTEEN regarding what I believe. Formerly, she was saying up through thirteen and she's backtracked on that! I keep trying to tell her we can both present our sides, but it doesn't seem to be good enough for her. I really don't want to end this, and I keep trying to present a solution that is a compromise to both of us, yet she doesn't want that. Also, just of curiosity, is most of LadyGAF religious or not?
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Is it a really important part of her life? I mean, is it possible to avoid the topic and thus the fights? My beliefs personally were, up until recently, that there is some sort of higher power and that there is a heaven. Then I started thinking more and now I'm not sure of anything. But I remember about six months back saying something about religion and my bf being really surprised - the topic never really came up. He never seemed to have a problem with it, and we don't talk about it. There isn't really a need to. I don't think you guys should be arguing about how you are going to bring the kids up, but I think you really need to have a serious conversation (read: not an argument) about religion. Tell her you really can't help not believing in a god, and that she can either accept that or she can not. Her getting mad and telling you "god wants you to break up" isn't going to make you believe again. Tell her if she wants to break up with you it needs to be on her terms, not "god's".
 
grap3fruitman said:
Here's an issue of mine (one of many, haha): I'm not just afraid of rejection but I'm exponentially more afraid of acceptance. I've been rejected my entire life, so I'm more or less used to that. On the other hand, I've never not been rejected and I wouldn't know what to do if a girl said "Yes" and that's infinitely scarier. wat do??
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What I have learned, is that when you do something that you couldn't do before or even imagined yourself to do, it'll feel really good. It'll improve your whole life whenever your accomplish something

The worst that may happen, is that since you have no experience, you may fuck it up; but even the first time being left is somewhat good!

Unless you hurt your friends, you definitely deserve having friends!
 
YuriLowell said:
What do you do when your friends get annoying girlfriends?

Do you just kiss that friendship goodbye?
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Bro Code Article 110: If a Bro is hitting it off with a chick, his Bro shall do anything within his means to ensure the desired outcome.
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Basically, don't get in the way, and don't trash the girl.

In the honeymoon phase, it's pretty common for the pair to monopolize one another's free time. Once that phase passes it will either be a) over, in which case you still don't trash the girl; or b) time for you and bro to hang out again.
 
shanshan310 said:
Is it a really important part of her life? I mean, is it possible to avoid the topic and thus the fights? My beliefs personally were, up until recently, that there is some sort of higher power and that there is a heaven. Then I started thinking more and now I'm not sure of anything. But I remember about six months back saying something about religion and my bf being really surprised - the topic never really came up. He never seemed to have a problem with it, and we don't talk about it. There isn't really a need to. I don't think you guys should be arguing about how you are going to bring the kids up, but I think you really need to have a serious conversation (read: not an argument) about religion. Tell her you really can't help not believing in a god, and that she can either accept that or she can not. Her getting mad and telling you "god wants you to break up" isn't going to make you believe again. Tell her if she wants to break up with you it needs to be on her terms, not "god's".
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The odd thing is, it suddenly seems important to her ever since I told her the truth. She doesn't go to church regularly (although apparently she prayed silently all the time). Ever since I told her, she joined my university's chapter of "Chi Alpha" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chi_Alpha). I've never been fond of that organization but she can do what she wants. They always have this big service at a local church every Thursday. She told me the other day how she went to it one time and was crying during because she "couldn't share that with me." I've always kept telling her we can just hold our own opinions, and I hold nothing against her for still being religious. She is usually the one that brings this up if we ever have an argument/discussion about it.

Thanks for your help.
 
Hylian7 said:
The odd thing is, it suddenly seems important to her ever since I told her the truth. She doesn't go to church regularly (although apparently she prayed silently all the time). Ever since I told her, she joined my university's chapter of "Chi Alpha" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chi_Alpha). I've never been fond of that organization but she can do what she wants. They always have this big service at a local church every Thursday. She told me the other day how she went to it one time and was crying during because she "couldn't share that with me." I've always kept telling her we can just hold our own opinions, and I hold nothing against her for still being religious. She is usually the one that brings this up if we ever have an argument/discussion about it.

Thanks for your help.
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She's going off the deep end, dude.
 
Hylian7 said:
The odd thing is, it suddenly seems important to her ever since I told her the truth. She doesn't go to church regularly (although apparently she prayed silently all the time). Ever since I told her, she joined my university's chapter of "Chi Alpha" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chi_Alpha). I've never been fond of that organization but she can do what she wants. They always have this big service at a local church every Thursday. She told me the other day how she went to it one time and was crying during because she "couldn't share that with me." I've always kept telling her we can just hold our own opinions, and I hold nothing against her for still being religious. She is usually the one that brings this up if we ever have an argument/discussion about it.

Thanks for your help.
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If she keeps bringing it up she feels it's important. There's no getting around that. Having at least some sort of belief in a higher power may be a deal breaker for her and she's not really coming right out and saying it (though from what you describe, it's coming out in other ways).

Are you planning on marrying/having children with this girl? If not (or not yet), why are you worrying about how you're going to raise prospective children right now? Or is this just a proxy argument for how important (or not) religion is to each of you?

Fundamental beliefs about the world tend to be dealbreakers in relationships. She's "going off the deep end" worrying that you don't share them. From the sounds of it, the arguments may not even be about religion, per se - but whether the two of you are on the same page, and what that means for the relationship.
 
BladeWorker said:
If she keeps bringing it up she feels it's important. There's no getting around that. Having at least some sort of belief in a higher power may be a deal breaker for her and she's not really coming right out and saying it (though from what you describe, it's coming out in other ways).

Are you planning on marrying/having children with this girl? If not (or not yet), why are you worrying about how you're going to raise prospective children right now? Or is this just a proxy argument for how important (or not) religion is to each of you?

Fundamental beliefs about the world tend to be dealbreakers in relationships. She's "going off the deep end" worrying that you don't share them. From the sounds of it, the arguments may not even be about religion, per se - but whether the two of you are on the same page, and what that means for the relationship.
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I do want to eventually marry this girl. She was the one that brought up the children thing in regards to this though. She has said that if she wasn't already in a relationship, then being non-religious would be a dealbreaker......
 
Had a gift idea that is either the dumbest thing ever or brilliant so I figured would ask girl gaf.

It's basically a running joke between me and my gf that we basically would probably have gotten married already if it wasn't for family freakouts/the fact we both spend all our money on school. Extended to more than once me catching her looking at 2-3k rings online and sarcastically telling her sure if she wants to help me pull off a bank heist or have a fake stone, leading to honestly unfunny now but at the time giggle fests where she busts through the bank kool aid man style.

Thought about for our one year getting her just the ring band that goes WITH the traditionally expensive ring (obviously won't have that), or a nice ring but sans diamond. The idea being commitment but broke, will pick out the diamond when we are older+richer and I think she'd find it sweet but I'm usually way on or way off on this type of thing so figured I'd post.
 
LuchaShaq said:
Thought about for our one year getting her just the ring band that goes WITH the traditionally expensive ring (obviously won't have that), or a nice ring but sans diamond. The idea being commitment but broke, will pick out the diamond when we are older+richer and I think she'd find it sweet but I'm usually way on or way off on this type of thing so figured I'd post.
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As long as you present it in a way which emphasizes this point, I think she'll probably find it very sweet.
 
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