Atramental
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On Ok Cupid I basically ignore every Christian girl.
Except there's this one that seems pretty cool... she says she's not too serious about her religion and we agree on basically everything...
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Silphonica
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Time to take another dive into a chick's mind see what my next move should be.
Here's the background.
I work for charity, I go door to door. Last Thursday this incredibly hot chick comes to the door, I get her number and tell her shes coming out for a drink with me.
We meet on sunday at 8 before she starts work at 10 for a few and she finishes at 12:30 and we'd meet up again. 1am comes I go to the bar she works at and we drink heavily and go back to mine.
and....
I kinda passed out with my face between her legs... anyway next morning she doesn't seem to bad, still cuddly and things, i take her home and go to my own work a few texts later but nothing heavy. Today is now the end of tuesday I send her only one text trying to be funny, but in order to tell the joke she had to respond, she didn't. I'm contemplating on leaving it til thu/fri and I'll just send a text saying "your reservation to nandos with me had been booked" to see the response I get. I'm not sure if shes ignoring me or what, but is leaving it awhile a good idea? I didnt think she wanted to ignore me like :s
Normally I wouldn't be bothered, but shes hot as fuck and pretty awesome and I'm looking to get round 2 in to redeem myself, with less alcohol involved.
Here's the background.
I work for charity, I go door to door. Last Thursday this incredibly hot chick comes to the door, I get her number and tell her shes coming out for a drink with me.
We meet on sunday at 8 before she starts work at 10 for a few and she finishes at 12:30 and we'd meet up again. 1am comes I go to the bar she works at and we drink heavily and go back to mine.
and....
I kinda passed out with my face between her legs... anyway next morning she doesn't seem to bad, still cuddly and things, i take her home and go to my own work a few texts later but nothing heavy. Today is now the end of tuesday I send her only one text trying to be funny, but in order to tell the joke she had to respond, she didn't. I'm contemplating on leaving it til thu/fri and I'll just send a text saying "your reservation to nandos with me had been booked" to see the response I get. I'm not sure if shes ignoring me or what, but is leaving it awhile a good idea? I didnt think she wanted to ignore me like :s
Normally I wouldn't be bothered, but shes hot as fuck and pretty awesome and I'm looking to get round 2 in to redeem myself, with less alcohol involved.
BladeWorker
Member
I wish you luck in resolving your differences. My experience suggests that dealbreakers are dealbreakers, whether they're acknowledged as being in effect or not.Hylian7 said:
YuriLowell
Member
BladeWorker said:
Ill do my best, but she feels like shes one of us when she hangs out with us and wants to make fun of us like shes known us for forever.
Its difficult.
Atramental
Banned
It's not really stalking if I saw her profile just yesterday. Or is it?Plywood said:
I would send her a message but I'm too busy with school/work and I could lose a couple more pounds...
BladeWorker
Member
Hmm. Two thoughts to consider:YuriLowell said:
1 - she thinks you're bad influences and is trying to not-so-subtly "show" your bud that you're a lot of doofuses that he should dump in favour of her (competitive)
2 - she is just trying too hard to be one of the guys and have your bud think she can hang with you without skipping a beat (overeager)
Up to you to recognize which one you're dealing with. Rule still applies: try to grin and bear it, and hopefully she relaxes when she sees she's got nothing to prove, or compete with.
If you reach a breaking point, take her aside at some point when you're all out together (run into each other coming out of the washroom or something) and just make it simple: she doesn't need to do what she's doing. You're not in the way.
jim-jam bongs
Member
Timedog is waaaaaaaaaay more normal-looking than I would have expected. You could do a lot worse, Devo.
BladeWorker
Member
Most of us look shitty in pleated pants, but to those who can carry it off? Go for it.Alucrid said:Dear LadyGAf,
Do you like this style?
Cause I think it's pretty rad.
Devolution
Member
BladeWorker said:
Yeah like a lot of looks, it works so well on a skinny, leggy, tall model. But when I put it on myself I'm like "fudge."
JumpJeff84
Member
Ladygaf, I have to end things with a girl tonight. We've been seeing each other for only about 10 days now, and she's already getting pretty serious. That would be fine, but I just know that she's not someone I'm gonna fall for in the way she wants me to.
She's cool, sexy, smells great, we have great chemistry- there's just something 'missing' for me.
My plan is to go to her place tonight after jerking off twice and putting Vics Vapo Rub in my nose to combat the pheromonal assault of hanging out at her place.
I wanna be honest and just be like "Hey, you're great but there's just something missing for me." Is that the best approach? Or is there a better way to put it?
She's cool, sexy, smells great, we have great chemistry- there's just something 'missing' for me.
My plan is to go to her place tonight after jerking off twice and putting Vics Vapo Rub in my nose to combat the pheromonal assault of hanging out at her place.
I wanna be honest and just be like "Hey, you're great but there's just something missing for me." Is that the best approach? Or is there a better way to put it?
Devolution
Member
Whoompthereitis said:
Stop seeing her if it's one of those "she's cool but I don't like her like that" situations. You're only stringing her along and making things messy for yourself later on. If she's looking for something serious and you're not, you just need to be upfront about it.
Angry Fork
Member
are you friend zoning her, if so you have my swordWhoompthereitis said:
I wonder has any guy friendzoned a girl before, a girl who was hot/interesting etc.
JumpJeff84
Member
Angry Fork said:
She's mentioned multiple times that she wants to have an 'exclusive' relationship. And although I like the sex with her, I'm not into the exclusive thing with her. So in that sense, I guess I'm friendzoning her. Although it's very possible that she'll be upset and have no interest in being my friend.
I'm actually really dreading this...
cooljeanius
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Hi Lady-GAF, what would be your opinion on interrupting a girl who's studying in the library to have a conversation with her?
triplestation
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Dear Ladygaf today I saw a girl and it moved. But I was afraid to talk to her cause I don't know what to say after ''hi''.
BladeWorker
Member
Try to make eyes with her. If she's having none of it, slip her a short one-sentence note along the lines of "hey, looks like we have similar (tastes in books/courses/whatever). Wanna chat?"cooljeanius said:
If she's interested she'll respond with a chat option now, or if she's busy, send you a contact for later.
If you're ignored (see "crumpled up message"), you move on. In the meantime, you haven't been the only person speaking in a crowded library embarrassing yourself, and you haven't really disturbed her studying, which will peeve her if she's actually managing to study in the middle of midterms.
Atramental
Banned
"Hi, there. What's your name?"bangladesh said:
"Kelli."
"Well Kelli-"
Oh shit! I don't know what to say after that!
Looks like you're up shit creek without a paddle, Bangladesh.
Edit:
"Well Kelli, I was wondering if you wanted to go get some (insert food/drink place) with me this (insert day)?"
cooljeanius
Member
It's someone I already know though...BladeWorker said:
That's totally different, you're already acquainted. If she wants to talk then she'll talk if not she'll politely say she's busy. You're not really interrupting her since it's just a greeting from a friendly face.cooljeanius said:
Look at it this way. You say hi to some total stranger and you might get a weird look. You say hi to a friend and things are fine. Honestly it might be worse if she notices you right there and you don't greet her.
shanshan310
Member
Timedog said:
OMG I just noticed your tag and snorted in the university library. That was fun.
Its perfect!
cooljeanius
Member
OK, well here's how it actually went:PounchEnvy said:
Me: "Hi, How's it going?"
Her: "OK, I'm studying."
Me: "Oh, so am I."
Then I get out my books and start studying and it's kinda awkward because we're not talking to each other because we're both studying for separate things.
Prax
Member
I am not into the full banged across the face look. I feel it makes your face kind of small. Maybe try to split over your left eye?News Bot said:Lady-GAF opinions on this hairstyle I had a while ago? I'm considering going back to it for a while. Also any suggestions for any other hairstyles that might suit me? (I change my hair a lot out of boredom)
Kinda depends how you dress overall too, since this is giving me a more indie vibe.
I also know very little about real fashion though!
Ooh, well, you could have gone with a:cooljeanius said:
"When's your test? Have you studied long?" if yes and test is not imminent (early the next day lol) "Wanna go get coffee? Maybe you can go for a break. You'll be refershed when you get back to studying."
or
After studying for a bit together:
"Welp, I'm about ready for a break. How's it going with you?"
She will probably say she's doing good and look busy or agree that she needs a break/will take a break soon. You can offer to get a drink for her or go together.
Generally, I think it should be okay to interupt after a hello and she dosn't look really stressed out. I dunno if you're really into her and want to hit on her or just maintain friendly terms, so I am writing more for flirting!
cooljeanius
Member
Darn it, I think I did have a chance to ask her to go get coffee and I missed it... there was a Starbucks right next door, too... oh well...Prax said:
My date last night went well! I'm happy - except now i'm the sickest I've been in years, it's seriously balls. Something interesting though, word got out that i'm bed ridden and 3 girls have offered to come take care of me. This isn't like a brag, because i'm not dating 2 of them - they just seemed to have a complete personality change when they found out how sick I was, and some weird instinct took over I guess?
Does this happen to anyone else? Do you girls feel the need to take care of sick boys?
Does this happen to anyone else? Do you girls feel the need to take care of sick boys?
Angry Fork
Member
they're coming to cut your penis off and steal your possessionsKinitari said:
Professor Beef
Banned
And I thought Samson had it bad.Angry Fork said:
Angry Fork
Member
I had to look that up and found this:Professor Beef said:
Samson was granted supernatural strength by God in order to combat his enemies and perform heroic feats[5] such as wrestling a lion,[4][6][7][8] slaying an entire army with only the jawbone of an ass,[3][4][7][8][9] and destroying a pagan temple.[2][4][8]
which is awesome.
grap3fruitman
Banned
That wouldn't be an acronym, it would be an initialism.Timedog said:
No one has yet clarified what this is supposed to mean:
tbhysgb said:
In regards to this:
grap3fruitman said:
The Awesomest
Member
Angry Fork said:
And he only had the strength if he wouldn't cut his hair. Then this hot girl seduced him so she could cut his hair and then the bad guys cut his eyeballs out
The Orange
Member
grap3fruitman said:
You're still afraid of failure, you just transferred it to a different stage. Getting someone to say yes would be outside of your comfort zone. Don't worry about it, and go with it. Same as with rejection, even if you fail, you learn something.
That's my interpretation, and if I understood it right, I agree.
cooljeanius
Member
I know some ladies that do... in fact, in one of my groups of friends, it's actually the ladies trying to encourage the guys to watch it with them.Chinner said:
Ok, this is something that has bothered me for a bit, but whenever I'm walking around campus, I always notice girls lock eyes with me or flick their hair or a variation of both when I pass them by. What does this mean? Am I just naive or take these as signs of attraction?
Devolution
Member
g23 said:
European pre-madonna
Could be, just ask one of your female friends if you're hot.
Devolution
Member
Kinitari said:
=x Fine just ask me, I'll be brutally honest.
BladeWorker
Member
It means they want you to think that they are hot. Which means they think you're attractive enough to matter.g23 said:
So basically, what Devo said, except it's "prima" donna, not pre-Madonna. That's so 70s.
Devolution
Member
BladeWorker said:
Yeah his tag needs a fixin'.
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