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Wow. I've never heard anyone say shit like the to their spouse in public. Any self-respecting person would be gone after the second incident like this.Devolution said:
If the receiving party for the insults (doesn't matter if m or f) stays with the insulting party despite regular insults, s/he really doesn't deserve any better.
YuriLowell
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Devolution said:
Who the fuck says that to one another in public?
Thats seriously degrading and probably makes the other person feel like shit.
My wife cries at the drop of a hat, but mostly due to TV/Movies.
You should have seen her when we watched Up, and the final Harry Potter flick (and she doesn't even like Harry Potter).
We also don't dance. Of course, what some of you youngin's consider "dancing" these days could hardly qualify...
You should have seen her when we watched Up, and the final Harry Potter flick (and she doesn't even like Harry Potter).
We also don't dance. Of course, what some of you youngin's consider "dancing" these days could hardly qualify...
Slappers Only
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If my girl cared about my dancing capabilities, she never would have found herself in a position to pass that judgment. I can dance as good as the next idiot, but I'm emotionally incapable of waggling body parts around to some crappy-ass bassline in public.
GameplayWhore
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YuriLowell said:
Not GA here, but shockingly it turns out that different girls have different opinions on the matter. Whatever the size, avoiding birdnest syndrome is always a good idea, though.
I've never heard anything of the sort.YuriLowell said:
Devolutions post seemed like an exaggeration or extreme example to me in comparison to what the poster she quoted was trying to convey. You can be as nice as can be to some girls and by nature they'll find some reason to get pissed off or another about something insubstantial and go off on you. All guys know this, and it's the basis for 50% of stand up too.
Professor Beef
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I'm part mexican and 5'10.clearacell said:
comeatme
clearacell
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Okay, I got one:
I'm re-attending school after a few years working (and consequently getting laid off, damn economy) and taking classes at community college for prereqs for nursing school. Anyways, I'm in this psych class and per norm for a CC there's a wide age range in the class. Well, this absolutely gorgeous girl is sitting in front of me...I mean, I may have audibly said "wow" when I first saw her. Of course I initiate a conversation with her and it's pretty dry...but considering I'm a total stranger at this point that should be understandable. In subsequent classes, my personality started coming out and she began to open up a little bit more as well. At this point, I learn that she is in fact 18 years old...personally, that doesn't mean that much to me...but I'm 27 years old. I kinda wanted to know what she would think of that, so I made it very clear that I am much older than her. Though I never told her my age, I said "I'm an old guy" and "I used to seriously have one of those fat cell phones with a green screen that only had enough room for numbers you were dialing back in 8th grade". She made no signs that she cared too much about that so I figure she either doesn't care or she's internalizing her feelings towards my obvious flirtations.
The last couple of classes, I'm noticing that when I'm talking to the girl next to me, the pretty girl is turning halfway listening to what I'm saying...she laughs at my jokes whether I'm telling her directly or I'm making them to someone else and she has initiated the joke telling to ridiculous proportions (which is my style of humor and pretty much made me *swoon*).
Now usually I believe if a girl is attracted to me, if they're not talking and touching me (they may not be that type of girl) they are at least stealing glances on a consistent basis. This girl hasn't done either of these things...but are the other things she's doing a sign she's into me? Or am I fooling myself and she's really just listening to funny old guy. I mean, I'm gonna end up asking her out one way or another I just wanna know if any girls here have acted like that towards someone they liked.
I'm re-attending school after a few years working (and consequently getting laid off, damn economy) and taking classes at community college for prereqs for nursing school. Anyways, I'm in this psych class and per norm for a CC there's a wide age range in the class. Well, this absolutely gorgeous girl is sitting in front of me...I mean, I may have audibly said "wow" when I first saw her. Of course I initiate a conversation with her and it's pretty dry...but considering I'm a total stranger at this point that should be understandable. In subsequent classes, my personality started coming out and she began to open up a little bit more as well. At this point, I learn that she is in fact 18 years old...personally, that doesn't mean that much to me...but I'm 27 years old. I kinda wanted to know what she would think of that, so I made it very clear that I am much older than her. Though I never told her my age, I said "I'm an old guy" and "I used to seriously have one of those fat cell phones with a green screen that only had enough room for numbers you were dialing back in 8th grade". She made no signs that she cared too much about that so I figure she either doesn't care or she's internalizing her feelings towards my obvious flirtations.
The last couple of classes, I'm noticing that when I'm talking to the girl next to me, the pretty girl is turning halfway listening to what I'm saying...she laughs at my jokes whether I'm telling her directly or I'm making them to someone else and she has initiated the joke telling to ridiculous proportions (which is my style of humor and pretty much made me *swoon*).
Now usually I believe if a girl is attracted to me, if they're not talking and touching me (they may not be that type of girl) they are at least stealing glances on a consistent basis. This girl hasn't done either of these things...but are the other things she's doing a sign she's into me? Or am I fooling myself and she's really just listening to funny old guy. I mean, I'm gonna end up asking her out one way or another I just wanna know if any girls here have acted like that towards someone they liked.
Devolution
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YuriLowell said:
Yeah it is very degrading, and I've heard it before. It's very indicative of an abusive relationship going on between the two. I think people who haven't heard it are lucky, because I have. Wasn't even my close friends either because me or anyone of my pals would clock an S.O. being so nasty. I've just been in some situations where some guy or gal is a real shit to their S.O. Most of the time I've seen it happen on public trans or when I've been walking in not so nice areas of towns =/. The women could have even been "hos" for all I know.
That reminds me of a wrong call I once got.
I pick up and this guy with a real deep voice is all "HO WHERE YOU AT?". I reply rather sheepishly, "Um I think you have the wrong number." Then the voice becomes calm, almost soothing and says, "Oh I'm sorry ma'am you have a nice day."
SlaughterX
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I've blocked out most of mineikkemenx said:
.Cubsfan23 said:
I don't know man - is the stuff they say in here really much different than the stuff that's said in the girl-age thread? Be confident, try to differentiate yourself, dancing (which let me fucking tell you, works pretty damn well) - where is the bad advice people keep saying these girls are giving?
Question for Lady-Gaf
Is shaking hands taboo or weird? Whenever I meet someone new, I shake their hand. I think that's a good way of telling whether or not a person you meet is going to be worth your time... well, in my case I think it is. Am I wrong and is shaking hands just weird nowadays?
Is shaking hands taboo or weird? Whenever I meet someone new, I shake their hand. I think that's a good way of telling whether or not a person you meet is going to be worth your time... well, in my case I think it is. Am I wrong and is shaking hands just weird nowadays?
freenudemacusers
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that is kind of... weird... to be honest. Especially at a bar (tell me you don't do this to women at bars lol) A simple acknowledging smile or nod will suffice. I don't really shake someone's hand unless I'm making a deal or at work.Chiave said:
This reminds me of a friend of mine who gives girls high-fives at bars when it's pretty clear they are going for a hug/embrace. sooo awkward.
SolidusDave
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Rikkun said:
May depend on the country though, in my experience the triple kiss is only for girls you already met (a few times maybe even).
btw. just a random note: always do very firm hand handshakes (also for job interviews etc.), really makes more difference than you would think.
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Londa said:
Oh, That explains why i'm single, along with other things!
On a serious side note.
There's this girl i sometimes see at the station after work, every time we will both look each other in the eyes for a good few seconds without either of us saying anything. Is she looking at me because it's "Hey, you're that guy i see from time to time here" or is it possible it's "hey asshole, you're cute, say hi already!" I don't smile, So i'm not entirely sure what I should do if we look each other in the eyes next time. I do have a great death stare though and i can't look people in the eyes too long as it makes me want to laugh so i always look away and bite my lip / try to hide i'm about to laugh.
Also i think she is a hairdresser, which is the same profession as my mum. So i can't really go there anyway 
Along with that theme, Why do you look at guys in the eyes at a distance from time to time over the course of say 5 minutes. Are you looking because he is cute, do you want him to smile back? To come over and say hi or are you just bored shitless and your eyes are wondering around the location?
evlcookie said:Oh, That explains why i'm single, along with other things!
On a serious side note.
There's this girl i sometimes see at the station after work, every time we will both look each other in the eyes for a good few seconds without either of us saying anything. Is she looking at me because it's "Hey, you're that guy i see from time to time here" or is it possible it's "hey asshole, you're cute, say hi already!" I don't smile, So i'm not entirely sure what I should do if we look each other in the eyes next time. I do have a great death stare though and i can't look people in the eyes too long as it makes me want to laugh so i always look away and bite my lip / try to hide i'm about to laugh.
Also i think she is a hairdresser, which is the same profession as my mum. So i can't really go there anyway
Along with that theme, Why do you look at guys in the eyes at a distance from time to time over the course of say 5 minutes. Are you looking because he is cute, do you want him to smile back? To come over and say hi or are you just bored shitless and your eyes are wondering around the location?
In my case its usually that I'm looking behind a person and they think I'm looking at them. I notice this because they will begin to look at me. This happens usually in crowded public places.
Wave and see what she does? I don't know.
Risible
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SolidusDave said:
I can't emphasize that enough. I've had to interview tons of people for jobs, and it's amazing how a limp fish-like handshake makes an awful first impression.
Firm grasp, two or three energetic pumps. Act like you're happy to shake my hand and meet me, rather than giving me the impression that I've got cooties.
Are you a guy with small hands and tend to get dwarfed by the other dude's meaty mitts and feel like a toddler holding Dad's hand? Me too. Best trick someone ever taught me was to always go for a handshake with your fingers spread wide, not in the traditional fingers all clenched together style. You'll get a firm grip on the other guy's hand and it won't feel weird.
PumpkinPie
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blame space said:
Seven? You must have been doing it wrong.
ThoughtsOfSpeaking
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Ok Re: the problems I was having with my girlfreind earlier on this thread, Ive decided Ive had enough and want to break up with her.
Now Ive tried this couple of times before but always seems to happen is she listens, says ok, ring back the following day to argue, bringing up a bunch of irrelevant stuff to make me feel guilty and the starts to carry on like nothing ever happened.
Very tenantious, that one.
This time round, Ive decided im going to tell her that ive met someone else. She is less likely to stay in contact if someone else is sniffing around.
Only thing is, I dont want her to think that Ive cheated. I wan to just be rid of her in the most painless way possible for good. What do you girls think?
Now Ive tried this couple of times before but always seems to happen is she listens, says ok, ring back the following day to argue, bringing up a bunch of irrelevant stuff to make me feel guilty and the starts to carry on like nothing ever happened.
Very tenantious, that one.
This time round, Ive decided im going to tell her that ive met someone else. She is less likely to stay in contact if someone else is sniffing around.
Only thing is, I dont want her to think that Ive cheated. I wan to just be rid of her in the most painless way possible for good. What do you girls think?
If she's bringing up irrelevant stuff and then carrying on like you didn't break up with her it's because you're not being sufficiently clear that it's over, either at the time you break up with her or when she calls you the day after. If you really want to break up with her you shouldn't pretend, like she does, that you guys didn't break up. If she's that...tenacious...who's to say that she won't follow you around and see who you're with now?
ThoughtsOfSpeaking
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Suncle said:
I just have an inability to be nasty to her. Ive always had a soft spot for her compared to my previous relationships and I used to let her get away with so much more than I should have.
when she calls back, she takes advantage of the fact that im missing her greatly and have deep feelings for her. I second guess myself and start thinking "is it really so bad etc"
but this relationship isn't healthy and im not happy. I just want her out my life so I can move on and return to focusing on what I want.
Ive gone above and beyond the call of duty for this chick. I might not find anyone as pretty again or who has as much going for her, but Id rather be single for life than marry her and be one of those guys that are miserable.
Ketchup Boy
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xelios said:
Madonna reference!
J Tourettes
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You need to show a bit more backbone, even if it means ignoring her calls and texts from now on. There is no pain free way of ending a relationship if one of the parties involved doesn't want it to end.ThoughtsOfSpeaking said:
ThoughtsOfSpeaking
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done.
now i feel like shit.
now i feel like shit.
Mecha_Infantry
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Think I messed up here Lady-GAF
Anyway, the girl I'm "casually" seeing was meant to hook up with me, but it all fell apart.
We were meant to do a tad bit of shopping for her new place and go out for a meal and whatever after, but I didn't hear from her until like 1pm saying she will be late, and she wanted to meet for dinner. so I was like thats cool, I'm tired after the gy,
So she txt back LATE in the evening at about 8 saying she is still terribly hungover from the night before and she was feeling like going to see a movie instead and she wanted to know what my plans would be. So the stupidness in me was like fuck it...I'm going to say I'm going out with my team...She txt back again and said sorry about the day, but she'd still like to see a movie and wanted to see what my plans were. So I txt her back saying the same thing: I'm going out with my team...She txt me back saying she wanted to see me before I go out, I said no.
But let me explain myself quickly. Earlier in the week we had a convo where she basically said she still had feelings for her ex, and only found out that he is staying in the country. She did say she thought I'd run for the hills. I said ok cool thats fine, I guess I'll just wait it out and see how I feel about the situation and not put too much into her. We talked about the past and how we both feel now. She said she doesn't know what she feels, I said I'm just seeing whats out there NSA. I just really didn't know what to make from her convo
Now roll forward to yesterday when we were meant to meet. She txt me back saying if we were still ok, have a good time and maybe we can meet during the week, and I didnt reply until today. I basically said we can meet but I'm not making the plans, she can as she seems to hold the keys as to when she is going to be free...and I just didn't want to be messed around.
No response
So I txt her again saying I was grouchy yesterday (I had a bad cold and just felt shitty) and I didn't meant to be like that, etc...
No response
Rang her a few hours later
No response.
So I guess I'm getting the silent treatment now, eh? I know I shouldn't have been so childish but damn man. It's too easy to be like that in situations with ladies! I do like her too, she likes me but it seems as if our calendars and other life stuff is just in the way...
Anyway, the girl I'm "casually" seeing was meant to hook up with me, but it all fell apart.
We were meant to do a tad bit of shopping for her new place and go out for a meal and whatever after, but I didn't hear from her until like 1pm saying she will be late, and she wanted to meet for dinner. so I was like thats cool, I'm tired after the gy,
So she txt back LATE in the evening at about 8 saying she is still terribly hungover from the night before and she was feeling like going to see a movie instead and she wanted to know what my plans would be. So the stupidness in me was like fuck it...I'm going to say I'm going out with my team...She txt back again and said sorry about the day, but she'd still like to see a movie and wanted to see what my plans were. So I txt her back saying the same thing: I'm going out with my team...She txt me back saying she wanted to see me before I go out, I said no.
But let me explain myself quickly. Earlier in the week we had a convo where she basically said she still had feelings for her ex, and only found out that he is staying in the country. She did say she thought I'd run for the hills. I said ok cool thats fine, I guess I'll just wait it out and see how I feel about the situation and not put too much into her. We talked about the past and how we both feel now. She said she doesn't know what she feels, I said I'm just seeing whats out there NSA. I just really didn't know what to make from her convo
Now roll forward to yesterday when we were meant to meet. She txt me back saying if we were still ok, have a good time and maybe we can meet during the week, and I didnt reply until today. I basically said we can meet but I'm not making the plans, she can as she seems to hold the keys as to when she is going to be free...and I just didn't want to be messed around.
No response
So I txt her again saying I was grouchy yesterday (I had a bad cold and just felt shitty) and I didn't meant to be like that, etc...
No response
Rang her a few hours later
No response.
So I guess I'm getting the silent treatment now, eh? I know I shouldn't have been so childish but damn man. It's too easy to be like that in situations with ladies! I do like her too, she likes me but it seems as if our calendars and other life stuff is just in the way...
Londa said:In my case its usually that I'm looking behind a person and they think I'm looking at them. I notice this because they will begin to look at me. This happens usually in crowded public places.
Wave and see what she does? I don't know.
Haha. I think in this case we certainly looked at each other and then she continued to look around the train and look back at me. Maybe she caught me checking her out and wanted to death stare me away, Who knows! I will continue to pretend that she was checking me out since that never really happens.
Here's a super silly question.
After a guy says Hi, What are 3 good things he should say to follow it up to help get a conversation going and what would be 3 bad things that just kill the conversation straight away.
computers putin'
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evlcookie said:
I would think most girls who do this are staring off into space and you're in the way, at least I assume such. Regardless, I think it's rude to stare at people and if I catch a girl-or anybody, staring at me, I usually give a nasty look back or ask "what?"
shanshan310
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ThoughtsOfSpeaking said:
If you say this, she is going to think you cheated, and look back at the relationship thinking about how all the happy times you shared were a lie, because you were just pulling her along while only really caring about this other girl. At least that's how I'd probably see it. If anything, its going to be the most painful way to break up for her. But I think you meant most painless for you...
It seems that you've already broken it off. I hope you didn't use that line... Oh well.
PumpkinPie
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Mecha_Infantry said:
Fuck her (not literally), she could've let you know sooner that she had no intention of meeting you. I think she just enjoyed messing you about.
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