Let's talk about how awful our lives are and recent low points

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Reading this thread actually makes me feel better - like I'm not the only person in the world who has social problems.

-Got my hours cut to 20 hours a month ago. Have been enjoying the time off, but when I am at work, it's slow like now. On the plus side, I found a temp job 5 minutes away from my other one grading tests that starts in 2 weeks and lasts till June-mid July.

-Got a ticket a week ago for not pulling over when a cop was on the side of the road. It was a speed trap and I didn't see her. I didn't feel like fighting it, so I just paid the $178.

-Haven't had a g/f since 2002, and even then it didn't last more than a month. I'm terrible with meeting people, especially women. I'm too shy and awkward to go out. I'm 33 and have never gotten laid. It's not gonna change anytime soon, either. A former co-worker girl who's 21 who I was interested in I just found out on facebook is getting married and buying a house. The only women who are interested in me are wiggers, and white trash. Nobody answers my personal ads on CL.

-I live with my parents. I wanted to move out, but my hours got cut so I can't afford it. What sucks is that I live like an hour away from anything and everyone. It makes me isolated. I'd probably go out more if I lived closer to the city.

-I lost my insurance so no more therapy. Not that it really did any good because I don't have the will to make changes in my life.

-I don't get to see my friends as much as I like and I'm not a drinker so it's hard to meet friends around me. I'm an asocial hermit and don't know how to talk to people and make friends.

-Both of my parents are in their 70s and I'm an only child and very close to my Dad, and I worry daily about how miserable and lonely life will be when there're gone. My Dad is my best friend and primary means of emotional support.

-Add me to the "no direction" club. I really don't care. I went to college and got all these degrees, but I'm happy just doing routine work. As long as I make enough money to live on, I really don't care what I do with my life.

Despite all this, I'm fairly content with my life. Things could be alot worse.
 
I may as well update this.

The girl i have known for 7 years and i are finally over. She's getting married. I was always hoping things would work out and that we would be back together but apparently she moved on years ago and i held on to some silly dream hoping she would move in with me one day.

Us men are such foolish immortals, but you live and learn and as painful as it is i will pull through.

I have this song on repeat

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GlfFwBAw5Q

I wish i won't wake up in the morning

My job currently sucks and i need a change
 
Guess I'll join in the fun.

-I had a promising job as a project estimator for a construction company but was replaced. On the bright side business has gotten slow over there and my replacement has been cut back to 20 hours a week.
-I'm back to delivering pizza. Unfortunately at this location my hours are really poor(I went from 35+ to less than 20). Hell last night I worked I was only there for an hour & a half because things are so slow.
-I had a dream last night about my grandfather..who passed away last year. Not to mention I still can't that image of how he looked in his last days out of my head(cancer is no way to die)
-More recently my mother's favorite cat(out of the two she owns) had to be put to sleep.
-Can't get unemployment because I didn't work long enough at the job I was replaced for and I quit the job prior to that(because I moved to another city).
-I'm turning 28 next month and I feel like I haven't accomplished a damn thing. No interest in marriage let alone children but I'd like to have gotten away from dead-end jobs and ramen. Hell I never even finished college.
-Back when I was still a Project Estimator I considered going out and meeting new people(especially since I'm in a new town and I don't know anyone), that's kind of been shot to hell now.
-This forum sucks but I have nowhere else to go.
 
Silent Death said:
Yeah it sucks that you will be out in a year, when you should be rotting in a cell for a lot longer.
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Im glad you know all about the situation to make such a judgement.
 
Many of the stories here are quite shocking and most are very sad. I cannot say that I know exactly what you guys are going through but what I can say is that no bad times last forever. I do not know if any of you believe in a higher power but regardless I will pray for you all. Better days are ahead. When you hit bottom there is no where to go but up.

The Dark One
 
My situation is a bit weird. My band's doing great, I enjoy school and get elected for the things I participate in. Lately almost only good stuff is happening, but I can't seem to take a step back and enjoy it at all, which I find rather sad... Hopefully it's just a shorter period.
 
DarkMage619 said:
Many of the stories here are quite shocking and most are very sad. I cannot say that I know exactly what you guys are going through but what I can say is that no bad times last forever. I do not know if any of you believe in a higher power but regardless I will pray for you all. Better days are ahead. When you hit bottom there is no where to go but up.

The Dark One
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I can't decide if I should quote your tag or avatar.
 
Lots of people in the No Direction Club. Well, MOVE ON OVER, here comes another one!

Still kind of "Broken" after watching Dad die from Cancer, 2 years ago.

I've got a job and steady income...only problem is, it's not quite enough to support myself on. So it's either: have a house/apartment and that's it (it literally means it, not enough for standard bills), or stay at Mom's and be able to afford anything not listed as "house/apartment."

I think Direction is the main problem. I've got some ideas (more college, flight school perhaps), but fuck...I can't get off my ass, for fear of going from a mediocre situation to a FUBAR'd situation. I'm just glad I have a paid off car, and 0 Credit debt.
 
Lonestar said:
Lots of people in the No Direction Club. Well, MOVE ON OVER, here comes another one!

Still kind of "Broken" after watching Dad die from Cancer, 2 years ago.

I've got a job and steady income...only problem is, it's not quite enough to support myself on. So it's either: have a house/apartment and that's it (it literally means it, not enough for standard bills), or stay at Mom's and be able to afford anything not listed as "house/apartment."

I think Direction is the main problem. I've got some ideas (more college, flight school perhaps), but fuck...I can't get off my ass, for fear of going from a mediocre situation to a FUBAR'd situation. I'm just glad I have a paid off car, and 0 Credit debt.
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No direction isn't necessarily bad if you have a good, steady job that pays well.

You can't tell me there isn't plenty of people who mapped their lives out, worked at a job in college that was directly tied to their future career only to be miserable and unfulfilled.
 
Meant to include: Job is kind of "meh" , I find myself kind of isolated, there's only a handful of people here, and it's in the middle of nowhere. Takes 30 minutes to get to civiliazation by car. Oh, and doesn't pay that well, but then I'm the low guy on the totem pole.

I find myself not doing my job (like now, posting here!), and I know that's wrong...but, it is what it is.
 
The last month has been terrible. My health is totally in the toilet, and dealing with insurance is maddening. I wish I'd die in my sleep.
 
Reading this thread has reminded me that my life doesn't suck that much. I still have my share of recent lows though.

- Recently got cheated on and dumped after 3 tumultuous but happy years.
- The anniversary of my child's abortion by the aforementioned ex-gf is coming up in a week.
- My first girlfriend whom I'll always love admitted that she would be happier with me but she can't leave her current boyfriend because they have a child together.
- My credit sucks balls.
 
-I've had the greatest time with my first serious GF, but now all that is about to change because of her goddamn sister. She came unto me and can't believe I refused, talking about how shes a lot better than her sister. Tolled her sister that I came unto her, and since my GFs rather jealous of her sister made matters much worse.

We haven't spoken in like a week and she won't hear my side of the story. I hate her sister, stupid bitch.

-For the first time in my life I got a zero on my test.

-I suspect my father is cheating on my mother, with more than enough evidence out there its a huge possibility.

-I suspect my mother is cheating also, too many signs. I can't handle a divorce in this particular time.

-I'm basically a slave to my aunts young children, their cute but annoying. I mean really annoying.

-Have lost a couple of friends these last few weeks.

-I'm 18 and I have no car and I'm not "allowed" to drive, my mom fears that I end up like my cousin(hes "special" now), and I'm the kind of guy that takes others feeling in consideration which sucks.

-Almost all of my relatives hate me for being myself, and want to ruin anything I do.
 
I'd contribute to this thread but I think it's best I don't, feels too much like wallowing.

nastynate409 said:
Let's go!
6.) I think I've lost the ability to feel other people's emotions. I can only remember one occasion that I was happy because someone else received good news. My dad had 3 kidney stones while I was gone over spring break, and I didn't not worry about him one bit. What the fuck is wrong with me?
7.) I actively try to do things that will make me miserable.
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Number 7, just stop lol. Number 6 I can kind of understand, I sometimes feel like that. I know why it is though; I'm completely self-absorbed. I'm not saying that's the end of the world or that it's terrible but I do think about myself pretty much all the time. Which is pretty ironic given I sympathize with a lot of Buddhist ideas of the ego being basically a useful fiction. Funny how that works. I guess I should work on that.
 
I'd contribute to this thread but I think it's best I don't, feels too much like wallowing.
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Go for it. You'll feel better, I guarantee it.

-This forum sucks but I have nowhere else to go.
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I'm not that bad off, but I'm pretty close.

At least some of you have had relationships with women.
 
Mash said:
I'd contribute to this thread but I think it's best I don't, feels too much like wallowing.



Number 7, just stop lol. Number 6 I can kind of understand, I sometimes feel like that. I know why it is though; I'm completely self-absorbed. I'm not saying that's the end of the world or that it's terrible but I do think about myself pretty much all the time. Which is pretty ironic given I sympathize with a lot of Buddhist ideas of the ego being basically a useful fiction. Funny how that works. I guess I should work on that.
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I've gotten better about Number 7, but I typically don't realize what I'm doing until I've already done it.

I'm not really self-absorbed. I'm more than willing to help people out, but when I see them succeed I'm not really happy for them. When I see things go wrong for people, I'm not happy about it, but I'm not sad about it either. I just can't feel other people's emotions. It's very odd.
 
Where to start....
-19 years old and just got a felony on my record
-Started probation 2 years long
-Mandatory court-ordered drug counseling for 5 months
-Broke up with my g/f for two months then called her up out of the blue and was like "let's get back together"... I just can't stop making rash decisions lately.
-Undecided major and no idea what I would really actually enjoy doing.
-Been working out literally twice a day and it still doesn't help me get out of my rut of depression
-Applied for a job numerous places with no signs of interest...
 
2DMention said:
Reading this thread actually makes me feel better - like I'm not the only person in the world who has social problems.
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Yeah...it is strangely comforting...

As for me...
-I don't like interacting with people, especially over the phone. I put off doing a lot of things because I avoid calling if at all possible.
-Whenever my dog gets sick, I just hope he gets better on his own. I am hesitant to call the vet just because I don't like calling/doing things.
-I have no social life. I haven't gone out in months. My only friend is 45 minutes away and constantly busy with school, so I rarely see him. The only other person I talk to is my ex-girlfriend (we broke up ~9 months ago) but she seems to be slowly distancing herself from me.
-I needlessly spend money on things I don't even need to fill the void of loneliness in my life. I figure all these material things can make me happy. Then I realize they can't.
-I have painful pilonidal cysts that flare up every few months. The pain is unbearable for a few days, but I don't want to see a doctor due to my social problems.
-I REALLY want to leave California and transfer to an out of state college, but $18,000 a year is way too much.
 
2DMention said:
I'm 33 and have never gotten laid.

I live with my parents.
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Not to pass judgment as I'm sure there are plenty of other factors here. But these two facts are most likely related. A woman is going to think there's something wrong with you if you are that age and still living with your parents.
 
2DMention: You and I have a lot in common, it would seem. Much of what you typed could've come right from my fingertips... We can be pessimism pals! Thought for sure I was the oldest virgin here, but you've got me beat by a couple years. I don't suppose you'd want to go gay for a night? ;)

I guess I won't explicitly cover the other stuff, but what you said about your parents hits me from time to time, as well. I've never been overly affected by deaths of relatives or friends, as horrible as that may sound, but given how close I am with my parents, I do wonder how it might end up affecting me in the event of something happening to either or both of them. At the same time, I feel guilty whenever I contemplate going before they do.
 
Max@GC said:
Oh yeah OP I remember you´re the cool guy who got a medal for helping to get a co-worker fired due to smoking weed on the job. I´m approaching a low point thinking about that.
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OP did that? LOL, what a douchebaggy move.
 
in November of 2007:
-Had a decent tech support job that I loved
-Was in the final stages of planning my wedding with my fiancee who I dated for 7 years
-Had been living on my own or with her since 2001
-Her mom had bought us a condo for which we were paying her back, was nearly half way there

Now:
-Company I worked for nearly went belly up and went from tech support to basically a sales job
-Me and my fiancee broke up in December 2007, she has a lot of mental issues (bi polar, borderline personality disorder, schitzophrenia) that came out during the last 18 months or so and she couldn't control her emotions, thought she was suddenly extremely unhappy and ended it...something she has told me she regrets every single day
-Had to move back home as her mom was the owner of the condo
-Had zero money saves as I was paying all the bills while she was going back to nursing school
-Spent 6 months getting a 911 Dispatcher job making $21 an hour, only to quit because I hated every second I worked there
-Now working at Geek Squad for a pitiful $10 an hour
 
Well it may suck to have MS especially with summer just around the corner again but given my neighbor had his prostate removed last year, now has a tumor where it use to be and is going under the knife through two new spots next week, I feel abit grateful to be me at the moment.
 
Cosmic Bus said:
2DMention: You and I have a lot in common, it would seem. Much of what you typed could've come right from my fingertips... We can be pessimism pals! Thought for sure I was the oldest virgin here, but you've got me beat by a couple years. I don't suppose you'd want to go gay for a night? ;)

I guess I won't explicitly cover the other stuff, but what you said about your parents hits me from time to time, as well. I've never been overly affected by deaths of relatives or friends, as horrible as that may sound, but given how close I am with my parents, I do wonder how it might end up affecting me in the event of something happening to either or both of them. At the same time, I feel guilty whenever I contemplate going before they do.
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Sorry, I don't swing that way. Even if I did, it would make life needlessly difficult and wouldn't be worth the stress. (I like things simple)

I guess I don't stress over my parent's death daily, but I think about it a lot.

The livin' @ home thing definitely has something to do with the lack of g/f, but I've had my own place before and have been in college in the dorms, and I was still single then. (I was just too stupid and insecure to pursue women interested in me).

-Me and my fiancee broke up in December 2007, she has a lot of mental issues (bi polar, borderline personality disorder, schitzophrenia)
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I have bi-polar as well, but it's not a problem for me right now because I'm taking a miracle drug that doesn't have any side effects other than being $250 / month. I'm between insurance right now, and the plan I applied for doesn't kick in (if I get it) until April. I've been making do on samples my Dr. gives me.
 
Huge workload + high school semester exam coming up...I don't know how to balance it all. :/

Reading through this thread makes me feel like an ass. Here I am and my biggest troubles are balancing work and school and you guys have much worse going on.
 
JSnake said:
Huge workload + high school semester exam coming up...I don't know how to balance it all. :/

Reading through this thread makes me feel like an ass. Here I am and my biggest troubles are balancing work and school and you guys have much worse going on.
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I am sixteen, homeschooled, live with my parents, and have no financial obligations to speak of.
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Errm guys I know most of it is pretty awful. But for those still living with their parents shouldn't that be a happy thing that your parents still love you enough to be there still? Maybe it's a western thinking or whatever, but if it helps you save money why not it's family still (I hope those that have jobs and live with their parents do give them some "rent" money). I'm not justifying my case, but when a typical apartment here cost 150k to 300k, heck living with your parents is not that bad.
 
- I thought I was getting over somebody, but after talking to him yesterday, I've spent the whole day waiting for him to come online :\

bigswords said:
Errm guys I know most of it is pretty awful. But for those still living with their parents shouldn't that be a happy thing that your parents still love you enough to be there still? Maybe it's a western thinking or whatever, but if it helps you save money why not it's family still (I hope those that have jobs and live with their parents do give them some "rent" money). I'm not justifying my case, but when a typical apartment here cost 150k to 300k, heck living with your parents is not that bad.
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Living with your parents isn't seen as favorably in America as it is in Asian.
 
bigswords said:
Errm guys I know most of it is pretty awful. But for those still living with their parents shouldn't that be a happy thing that your parents still love you enough to be there still? Maybe it's a western thinking or whatever, but if it helps you save money why not it's family still (I hope those that have jobs and live with their parents do give them some "rent" money). I'm not justifying my case, but when a typical apartment here cost 150k to 300k, heck living with your parents is not that bad.
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For whatever reason, western society frowns on children who reach adulthood who are still living at home. Basically, when you are 'of age' you're meant to build your own life and find your own way, regardless of financial position.
 
Honestly my life really is good right now except for I want more than anything to have a girlfriend. I fall in love with almost any girl I get to know well, its pathetic.

But really I'm sorry for all you guys with all these issues best of luck.
 
It he past week, I've discovered I have some sort or joint/muscle condition going on that makes me basically useless at my job & at home. Today I had to tell my boss I can't work anymore becuase it's too damn painful. I have no insurance, so I can't go and have a bunch of random tests done and the doctor doesn't have any idea what's wrong with me. AND I've had one family member die, and another diagnosed with stage 3 prostate cancer.

*Downloads "Our God is an Awesome God" mp3*
 
Well, just found out that I didn't get approved for a decent deductible for health insurance (I got my hours cut and lost my health insurance @ work), so now I have to go in and meet with the insurance guy and figure out what the best plan is to take. If I get my prescription domestically, the insurance + prescription cost >$300/ month. If I get it from Canada, it would cost half that per month, but I have a feeling my Doc. won't allow 3 month prescriptions and is in the insurance companies pockets and will force me to get my drugs from the U.S.
 
1) Grandpa died (suddenly) in October.
2) Found out my job contract wasn't being renewed next year due to the economic situation in January.
3) Great grandma died last Saturday (my grandpa's mom).
4) Best friend is going through a rough divorce and making bad decisions yet I still have to be there for her.

Good thing I'm a generally optimistic person.
 
I'm doing pretty shitty this semester in college. I dropped two classes, and I'm really behind in the other 3. On the plus side I got a girlfriend who loves me and after a long time of feeling I never would, it kind of evens out.
 
Eltacoman said:
Honestly my life really is good right now except for I want more than anything to have a girlfriend. I fall in love with almost any girl I get to know well, its pathetic.

But really I'm sorry for all you guys with all these issues best of luck.
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"Why do I fall in love with every woman I see who shows me the least bit of attention?"

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I know exactly how you feel man...
I swear, if only I had girlfriend, I could finally be you know... happy. Everything else is reasonably fine in my live, it's just that the lack of partner drags my life down so much.
 
  • Found out I have anxiety today, stemming for smoking salvia in November. Ive been worrying that Ive done long term damage to myself, even though my doctor said I havent, and I saw him again an ya. Im seeing a physciatrist soon. Fuck.
  • I have no idea what I want to do in life really.
  • Contrary to the above, I want to pursure music, but I dont know how realistic it is.
  • I wish I started playing the guitar many many years ago
  • Cancer has killed 4 people I know in the past few years.
  • eh
 
One of my best friend moved out here in Jan, he just left to move in with his parents due to being unable to find work (nurse).

My girlfriend got rejected from Berkeley's MSW program today and is going to go to Smith in Mass.

My roommate just broke up with his boyfriend.

I feel like everything around me is falling apart.
 
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