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LGBThread |OT4| We're (still) Here! We're (still) Queer!

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SpaceBridge

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Vazduh said:
Sure, here's the link.
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That was incredibly depressing to read, abd didn't enlighten me further on why gay men are doing this other than that they have serious mental issues.


mantidor said:
It's really scary to think the percentage of gay people who are positive in big cities. You have places like the middle east where percentages are very low for obvious reasons, but go to San Franciso and in gay bar it could easily be that 1 in 4-5 people are positive, and the worst, they do not know.

It scares me greatly, I do not understand anyone who is willing to get it, it has to be pure ignorance about what HIV really implies, even if modern treatments have come a long way and will give you a very long life.
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It's like some of these guys have the brains if horny 16 year old boys, trying live their sexual lives like some porn vid, bareback and all.
 
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RM8

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It infuriates me. Freaking infuriates me. Also I left that old thread before getting to the part where he says he's going to live plenty of years without medication. That person is a a non-functional human being.
 
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SpaceBridge

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What gets me is why these guys are hitting me up, asking to only fuck raw, disclosing that they're "poz" only AFTER I ask, and knowing I'm negative. Like yeah dude, I'm gonna let you breed my ass, and risk my life abd health for 20 mins of NSA fun. GTFO.

Edit: that they're so blatant about it too implies that there are actual guys who say yes.
 
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SpaceBridge said:
It's like some of these guys have the brains if horny 16 year old boys, trying live their sexual lives like some porn vid, bareback and all.
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I blame a dearth of good public sex education.

And of course general stupidity.

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It infuriates me. Freaking infuriates me. Also I left that old thread before getting to the part where he says he's going to live plenty of years without medication. That person is a a non-functional human being.
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Non functional would imply that he wouldn't be able to do serious damage to potentially dozens of peoples' lives in the meantime.

The worst kind of idiot is the one that thinks his actions have no consequence. I'm the (voluntary) custodian of two dangerously irresponsible and unstable people with an entire extended family of assholes and I can't think of an excuse not to condemn his actions. As vindictive as I can be at times it takes a lot to actually make me pissed at someone.
 
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Mr. F

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Caladrius said:
Hopefully he hits it off with them.

It's heartening that your long distance relationship is going well. When I "broke up" with the guy I had been talking too I was convinced that things like that couldn't work
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They all got along great, it went really well. Talked for hours over coffee last night and had brunch this afternoon, it was good times.

Generally the LDR has had its expected ups and downs, with all the challenges I'm sure you're familiar with or could imagine. We're trying to close the gap though, and want to try to visit back and forth more often (before this the last time we were together is when I visited in December) because months between seeing each other gets hard.

I have a potential lead on a job opportunity in Chicago though in the fall, so the gap may be closing sooner than expected. Fingers crossed!
 
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RatskyWatsky

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I guess the good thing about having homophobic parents is that if I ever get a serious boyfriend, he'll never have to go through the horror of meeting them!
 
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Hige

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SpaceBridge said:
Been a long time. Quick question: what's with the influx of gay mean, who are HIV positive engaging in bareback sex. I dunno how many times I've been hit on online by guys who wanna fuck bareback when they are positive. Did we find a cure I didn't hear about?

Edit: I'm not judging per se, just seems insane when guys are hitting me up saying they only fuck "raw". Like no exceptions.
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Total conjecture on my part, but I think it's a mixture of:

-Nihilism/Depression/"I'm going to get it eventually, anyway."
-"It's no longer a death sentence."
-Bug chasing/"gift"-giving (I think this one's a little overstated, though.)

I think those things all kind of feed into each other. I feel the "no longer a death sentence" phrase is kind of counter-intuitive and dangerous. It understates the cost of the drugs and the side effects of taking those meds. I was under the impression that it causes your body to age prematurely, but google's giving me mixed results when I searched just now. In that thread that was linked, look at what this guy posted:

Mesousa said:
People saying its not a death sentence obviously have never been around a person on HAART for a long time.

My brother is HIV+ and in his late 20's is already getting things our parents didnt see until they were in there 50s. The thing they dont tell you is those meds while keeping your viral load low, fucks with the rest of your body.

Keep your head up
Eat healthy
Stay in shape.
Stop Drinking(Seriously, keep your liver in its best shape possible)
Try to cut out red meat.
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It may not be a death sentence anymore, but who wants to live with the complexities of managing it?
 
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I don't personally know this guy but a friend knows a couple and one of them is HIV+. I don't know any details, but I think it's very sweet that his partner is with him and loves him anyway. When I think of myself, I'm not sure if I could get over that hurdle and be with someone. Which sucks, because if I was ever HIV+ (just typing that makes me cringe, God forbid) and liked someone, I would certainly hope they could get over it.
 
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Alrus

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Hige said:
Total conjecture on my part, but I think it's a mixture of:

-Nihilism/Depression/"I'm going to get it eventually, anyway."
-"It's no longer a death sentence."
-Bug chasing/"gift"-giving (I think this one's a little overstated, though.)

I think those things all kind of feed into each other. I feel the "no longer a death sentence" phrase is kind of counter-intuitive and dangerous. It understates the cost of the drugs and the side effects of taking those meds. I was under the impression that it causes your body to age prematurely, but google's giving me mixed results when I searched just now. In that thread that was linked, look at what this guy posted:
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Well taking this amount of medication each day will put a rather heavy load on your liver for one.
 
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SpaceBridge

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Bladenic said:
I don't personally know this guy but a friend knows a couple and one of them is HIV+. I don't know any details, but I think it's very sweet that his partner is with him and loves him anyway. When I think of myself, I'm not sure if I could get over that hurdle and be with someone. Which sucks, because if I was ever HIV+ (just typing that makes me cringe, God forbid) and liked someone, I would certainly hope they could get over it.
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I know how you feel. I've had some really nice guys, who are open about their status message me for actual dates that I've partly turned down because they were poz. It's not a good feeling, and feel rather shallow. But then again, I've had guys turned me down cuz I wasn't muscular enough.
 
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CornBurrito

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SpaceBridge said:
I know how you feel. I've had some really nice guys, who are open about their status message me for actual dates that I've partly turned down because they were poz. It's not a good feeling, and feel rather shallow. But then again, I've had guys turned me down cuz I wasn't muscular enough.
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I don't think turning someone down who is HIV positive is shallow. The disease can spread, and condoms aren't perfect. While not a death sentence, it still really sucks to have.
 
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MisterGrey3000

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So I finally came out to my good friends(I've known them since HS) yesterday(All straight as far as I know), and they were incredibly cool about it. They were way more accepting than I thought they would be. It was almost like I was telling them that I liked ice cream or something. The only question they asked was,"When did you become Bisexual?". Which is always kind of a cute and naive question imo lol

So far most of my coming out experiences have been very encouraging, even when I didn't expect them to be and I'm incredibly thankful for that.
This experience has definitely given me a lot more courage than I thought it would.

Also, I got to see Hugh Jackman's sexy little booty for a good minute or so. :3
X-Men Days of Future Past was really awesome.
 
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Hige

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I think you're better off with someone who knows they're poz (and on meds/undetectable viral load) than someone who doesn't know their status or thinks they're negative. It could be that they don't test frequently enough, or they don't know the status of people they've been with etc. Someone who is newly infected has a high viral load and is at high risk of transmitting the virus to other people.
 
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CornBurrito

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Don't know if this is just one specific author, but Japanese pornographic manga writers seem to always have the top refer to the bottom partner as a "woman." And the ones I am reading are targeted at gay men where both partners are extremely masculine. The heck...
 
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red13th

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MisterGrey3000 said:
Also, I got to see Hugh Jackman's sexy little booty for a good minute or so. :3
X-Men Days of Future Past was really awesome.
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Was it his butt or some double's? His legs were pretty thick and Hugh Jackman skips leg day.
Still loved it but I wanted the real thing.

CornBurrito said:
Don't know if this is just one specific author, but Japanese pornographic manga writers seem to always have the top refer to the bottom partner as a "woman." And the ones I am reading are targeted at gay men where both partners are extremely masculine. The heck...
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Who are you reading, and whose translation? That could be a reason too.
 
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Dany

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Mr. F said:
They all got along great, it went really well. Talked for hours over coffee last night and had brunch this afternoon, it was good times.

Generally the LDR has had its expected ups and downs, with all the challenges I'm sure you're familiar with or could imagine. We're trying to close the gap though, and want to try to visit back and forth more often (before this the last time we were together is when I visited in December) because months between seeing each other gets hard.

I have a potential lead on a job opportunity in Chicago though in the fall, so the gap may be closing sooner than expected. Fingers crossed!
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Your parents are very nice! They're a blast to hangout with, and I hope that Chicago thing works out too :* this trip has entirely been a blast. I can't wait to visit again...soon ;)
 
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Haly said:
Bdsm thing I think.
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Nope

red_13th said:
Who are you reading, and whose translation? That could be a reason too.
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Tsukasa Matsuzaki is the most guilty of it.

Maybe it is just the translator. I typically try to avoid English translations of the stuff because some of the dialogue is just really fucking cheesy. Sadly his work is popular enough that all I can find easily are the English translations.
 
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red13th

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CornBurrito said:
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Tsukasa Matsuzaki is the most guilty of it.

Maybe it is just the translator. I typically try to avoid English translations of the stuff because some of the dialogue is just really fucking cheesy. Sadly his work is popular enough that all I can find easily are the English translations.
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You read the one with male false pregnancy? lol
Terujirou also does some stuff like that, but many (maybe not many but quite a few) times I think it's the translation being too literal. Some stuff could be adapted IMO.
 
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Has anyone ever had a closeted partner before? Any experiences or tips to share?

I met a guy two weeks ago, and we have connected to one another instantly. We are disturbingly identically in terms of personality traits, ideologies, and even down to the little individualistic quirks. Of the number of times we've slept together, each of us have only blew our respectively loads once (which i still can not believe). On top of that, his flat out told me his in love.
tl;dr have a relationship thats more than just a good nightly grind.

However, there is one area of concern. Though very comfortable with his sexuality, he is closted. The contributing factors from what i gathered are that: a) He is a successful self-employed consultant (ie a lot of clientele), b) He was known for his previous straight marriage, c) comes from a family with a strong religious background (though he does not actively practice), d) has a lot of family living in the area who do the pop in.
At the end of the day, he'll never hold hands with me in public or settling down with him, which is a worry

Has anyone got any tips or advice in how to handle this? Last thing I want to do is damage a relationship because of a thing like this.
 
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RatskyWatsky said:
post pics of your bear
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Nohar said:
I am so jealous of you right now :'( I want my muscle bear, and to become a muscle bear myself... Yeah, I still have a long road ahead of me for that (and I'm not really hairy... Oh well), but at least I'm no longer my 112 lbs twink self anymore. I guess I really should visit the Fitness thread and ask for advices.
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daripad said:
Would you date someone who doesn't have an arm or a leg? Are disabled people out of your dating pool?
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I would totally date someone without an arm/leg etc as long as I find them attractive otherwise (face, personality, etc). There would probably be limits somewhere but they'd be more extreme than just a lost limb.
 
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