Lost was my boyfriend for a long time. But Lost became too chaotic of a show and broke my heart. So be careful of that. But I've moved onto West Wing.
Almost halfway through season 6 and loving it.
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Lost was my boyfriend for a long time. But Lost became too chaotic of a show and broke my heart. So be careful of that. But I've moved onto West Wing.
Almost halfway through season 6 and loving it.
Depends on how much she was being paid.
Henchmen21
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You have a rl boyfriend. You don't need a tv boyfriend.
Henchmen21
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Lol I know that silly. I meant you have someone to spend your time with instead of tv. Watching tv alone is for us sad lonely folks.
ab.aeterno
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Apologies, but I have some late replies to posts I picked out to respond to but haven't had time or energy until now.
This whole wall of text was just to explain where I'm coming from when I say that I am in seemingly a similar position and understand some of how you might feel, so feel free to PM me if you ever need someone to talk to. Can't promise I'll be much help though, since I haven't figured all of this out yet either.
Because ultimately it is purely destructive nonsense. It is the myopia of hopelessness or depression that tells you that you'll never find someone, nothing more. Listening to it will lead to ruin; you can't just not feel that way of course, trust me, I know. But you can tell yourself things to deal with those emotions and try to see things more clearly. Because trust me, there is someone out there with whom you are compatible, with whom you will find happiness and both give and receive love in equal measure. Don't defeat yourself and remove any chance of you finding this person.
I spent the last many years feeling this way: I will never find someone, I don't deserve anyone, I am broken and unlovable. And all it did was eat away at my heart and extinguish my hope. I gained nothing but lost parts of myself, and felt such unbearable loneliness.
What saved me was becoming a part of this community, after years without knowing any other gay people or having gay friends. Putting myself out there despite my feelings of unworthiness. And in so doing, met people who filled me with positivity when I had none, and found out what I'd accepted as truth was not.
Sorry to ramble, but my point was to use myself to illustrate both why this thinking is wrong and destructive, and how there is hope, even if it can't be seen. Don't give up.
And don't worry about not knowing your dreams or passions; I'm in the same boat right now.
Same as with Masquerader, shoot me a PM if you ever want or need someone to talk to.
Images like this definitely help clarify poly- relationships better. As I get older I find I gain a better intellectual understanding of poly-, even if I don't emotionally understand it. To each their own; whatever makes people happy so long as it's consensual among all partners. But there's a weird sort of anxiety that the subject arouses in me. Truthfully, that I don't feel capable of it emotionally is a source of immense guilt and inner frustration, much the same with feeling no desire for casual hookups. I've often, sometimes intentionally, been made to feel selfish or weird for feeling that way. And sometimes I wonder if it's true. But that's not something I feel up to talking about further.
This shows pretty well the diversity of poly relationships there are, clears up a lot of misconceptions, I hope.
I know that feeling, though my upbringing wasn't Catholic but rather conservative non-denominational Protestant. Same basic thing, though: sex was never treated as normal nor heathy until I was a teenager and only then as something for married couples. Homosexuality was a sin (though weirdly my parents, or at least my father, are slightly less conservative in that they view it as not a choice but a part of oneself; it breaks down in that it then becomes like alcoholism, in that it's a predisposition that must be suppressed because of God.) So toss in some events I'm not interested in talking about, and being outed not by choice and them not taking it well, and it's left me with a strange and fucked up push/pull relationship with sexuality wherein I'm not a vanilla person but struggle to square that with an upbringing that says sex, let alone gay sex, let alone not vanilla gay sex, is wrong.
This whole wall of text was just to explain where I'm coming from when I say that I am in seemingly a similar position and understand some of how you might feel, so feel free to PM me if you ever need someone to talk to. Can't promise I'll be much help though, since I haven't figured all of this out yet either.
As someone who often thought like you do in the last paragraph, to the point I had literally given up all hope on the matter of ever finding someone, ever being capable of feeling those kind of feelings again, or on being worthy of any kind of romantic interest: this thought process is a poisonous pit of bullshit that, like quicksand, will swallow you whole if you don't get out of it.
Because ultimately it is purely destructive nonsense. It is the myopia of hopelessness or depression that tells you that you'll never find someone, nothing more. Listening to it will lead to ruin; you can't just not feel that way of course, trust me, I know. But you can tell yourself things to deal with those emotions and try to see things more clearly. Because trust me, there is someone out there with whom you are compatible, with whom you will find happiness and both give and receive love in equal measure. Don't defeat yourself and remove any chance of you finding this person.
I spent the last many years feeling this way: I will never find someone, I don't deserve anyone, I am broken and unlovable. And all it did was eat away at my heart and extinguish my hope. I gained nothing but lost parts of myself, and felt such unbearable loneliness.
What saved me was becoming a part of this community, after years without knowing any other gay people or having gay friends. Putting myself out there despite my feelings of unworthiness. And in so doing, met people who filled me with positivity when I had none, and found out what I'd accepted as truth was not.
Sorry to ramble, but my point was to use myself to illustrate both why this thinking is wrong and destructive, and how there is hope, even if it can't be seen. Don't give up.
And don't worry about not knowing your dreams or passions; I'm in the same boat right now.
Same as with Masquerader, shoot me a PM if you ever want or need someone to talk to.
Sure. I'd also be okay if they were a prostitute.
Hours Left
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Was mega bored so I decided to get a head start on spring cleaning in hopes that spring itself will actually come soon.
Go away winter.
Go away winter.
Mystic Theurge
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*sigh*
Why do I always feel that I was expecting too much, even when I really wasn't...
If you like someone, even as a friend, talking...answering a message shouldn't be a problem. Not expecting an essay, not even a quick response...but for "Hey, wanna do something later?" (like games, movies,food, drink, whatever), a simple "Nah, not in the mood" is no biggie.
But ignoring, not saying anything...because "I don't have to reply to everything you say", then not even talk or say anything; all that while spending time chatting and hanging out with other people?
/rant
Sorry!
Also feel kinda like CornBurrito's post. Described me to the 'T'. :/
Why do I always feel that I was expecting too much, even when I really wasn't...
If you like someone, even as a friend, talking...answering a message shouldn't be a problem. Not expecting an essay, not even a quick response...but for "Hey, wanna do something later?" (like games, movies,food, drink, whatever), a simple "Nah, not in the mood" is no biggie.
But ignoring, not saying anything...because "I don't have to reply to everything you say", then not even talk or say anything; all that while spending time chatting and hanging out with other people?
/rant
Sorry!
Also feel kinda like CornBurrito's post. Described me to the 'T'. :/
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I thrive on chaos and heartbreak so Lost really does it for me so far.
and play videogames?
Mystic Theurge
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Yup. And other fun activities.
Henchmen21
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Sigh. Looks like it's time we had the bird & the bees talk with our dear young Hippie. Come, sit on my lap HippieHobo.
Bah I'm sad.
I fought with my friend again and this time it feels for real, he hasn't spoken to me in weeks, I don't know what's wrong with me, he keeps leading me on, flirting, kissing, even presents, and then just drops the "lets leave it at just friends", what a fucking tease, yet I keep coming back! I hate to have feelings for him, when are they going to go away? D:
I fought with my friend again and this time it feels for real, he hasn't spoken to me in weeks, I don't know what's wrong with me, he keeps leading me on, flirting, kissing, even presents, and then just drops the "lets leave it at just friends", what a fucking tease, yet I keep coming back! I hate to have feelings for him, when are they going to go away? D:
Escape Goat
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Are your options really that limited? Go find someone who actually wants to be with you.
RatskyWatsky
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Just be sure to stop with season three.
Sit just on your lap...?
Idk I mean... Mario Kart 8 would be fun with them, don't ya think?
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
I've been in spring cleaning mode for the last two months - I'm making a ton of progress too. Feels good man.
(I love cleaning and organizing stuff
)*sigh*
Why do I always feel that I was expecting too much, even when I really wasn't...
If you like someone, even as a friend, talking...answering a message shouldn't be a problem. Not expecting an essay, not even a quick response...but for "Hey, wanna do something later?" (like games, movies,food, drink, whatever), a simple "Nah, not in the mood" is no biggie.
But ignoring, not saying anything...because "I don't have to reply to everything you say", then not even talk or say anything; all that while spending time chatting and hanging out with other people?
/rant
Sorry!
Welcome back bro!
TheAbsolution
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So I need to know what yall said to the dress, white and gold or blue and black?
RatskyWatsky
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Blue and gold. The upside down image is blue and black.
Red and violet is my best guess.
RatskyWatsky
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kinda related because a social justice blog i follow on tumblr spoiled the first part of the season finale of a show i'm watching and i'm so fucking pissedHouse of Cards tomorrow.
I think I'll watch over spring break. I doubt any spoiler as big as the one from S2, E1 could be in S3, and I managed to avoid that one getting to me before seeing it so I'll wager I can make it a couple of weeks without getting S3 spoilers.
THE GOOD: I now have a nice long Spring Break from work- not going back in till 3/9! My birthday is in 2 days and my brother managed to make it work so he can come home and celebrate with me!
THE BAD: On my way home from the train station, I fucking rear ended a Taxi like an idiot. There was seemingly no damage to either car (his bumper may have moved a centimeter or 2, my car had a slight amount of paint transfer), which is probably going to be murder on my insurance.
Fun!
THE BAD: On my way home from the train station, I fucking rear ended a Taxi like an idiot. There was seemingly no damage to either car (his bumper may have moved a centimeter or 2, my car had a slight amount of paint transfer), which is probably going to be murder on my insurance.
Fun!
RatskyWatsky
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What show was it?
Bel Marduk
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Fuck. Yes. House of Cards. So excited!!!
Blood Diamonds
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How To Get Away With Murder
RatskyWatsky
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No way, it's an emotional masterpiece no matter what chaos the plot got into
How To Get Away With Murder
Some Social Justice blog that is
How To Get Away With Practically Murder
I really hate spoilers. One of the worst things for me. I hate one of my teachers for spoiling Atonement. There's only so many Joe Wright, Keira Knightley collaborations and she stabbed one of them right in front of me.
Hours Left
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I'm hungry, someone FedEx me a hamburger.
RatskyWatsky
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Escape Goat
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I got you one but then i eated it.
Hours Left
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CornBurrito
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I need to go out and buy popsicles or something.
White and gold first, then blue and gold, then blue and black. I'm quite amazed, lol.
Necromanti
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popsicles are fun
Lost is like a punch in the empathy reflex. Watching people lose for so long is so sad especially with that slow piano tune and Matthew Fox's eyes watering. RIP me tonight
CornBurrito
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RatskyWatsky
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The emotional beats were blown to shit in the final season though.
This I can get behind. I think the show is still good beyond season 3 but 6 is just kind of a train wreck (the
temple
Escape Goat
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Couldnt the file link just be changing?
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RatskyWatsky
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What is the source of that gif btw?
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