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[Barrylocke]

As my friendship with my buddy/crush grows, along with his relationship with his new boyfriend of a month, I've decided that enough is enough. Its almost physically draining being in a personal limbo with him. Tomorrow I'm going to tell him how I've felt about him over the past 3 months. And then I'm going to directly ask him to honestly tell me how he feels.

He will almost certainly let me down softly. It will hurt. I'm ready for this.

I want this to happen so we're on even terms, and also so that I can have his feelings given to me as facts that I have to deal with. I can let go and not internally chase a shadow that's moving at their own rhythm far ahead of me. I can move on from him romantically, and keep an eye out for pursuing others (something I've honestly never done, meeting him was by chance.)

The tension has been building internally and I need to release it this way. A few friends I've talked to agree that I should do this. I just hope that things don't get so awkward that the friendship also dies (although I'm somewhat ready for that if it also happens)

 

[Captain Europe]

I now remember why I'm so glad I no longer really talk to most of my family any more. I went round today for the first time in ages. I get there and the news is on, currently doing a report on the Pride festival in Birmingham this weekend. I'm watching intensely. My dad suddenly chimes in with "Thank fuck we don't need to go in town this weekend. We'd be molested by those fucking fags!' and then laughed.

My brother added to this with his pearl of wisdom, "And don't forget the fuckin' trannies, haha!' - needless to say, my visit was a very short one.

Jesus, sorry to hear.

 

[3phemeral]

As my friendship with my buddy/crush grows, along with his relationship with his new boyfriend of a month, I've decided that enough is enough. Its almost physically be in a personal limbo with him. Tomorrow I'm going to tell him how Ive felt about him over the past 3 months. And then I'm going to directly ask him to honestly tell me how he feels.

He will almost certainly let me down softly. It will hurt. I'm ready for this.

I want this to happen so we're on even terms, and also so that I can have his feelings given to me as facts that I have to deal with. I can let go and not internally chase a shadow thats moving at their own beats of life far ahead of me. I can move on from him romantically, and keep an eye out for persuing others (something I've honestly never done, meeting him was by chance.)

The tension has been building internally and I need to release it this way. A few friends I've talked to agree that I should do this. I just hope that things don't get so awkward that the friendship also dies (although Im somewhat ready for that if it also happens)

It's good. Now you can get the tension over with on move onto other things, however which way that turns out.

 

[Razmos]

I now remember why I'm so glad I no longer really talk to most of my family any more. I went round today for the first time in ages. I get there and the news is on, currently doing a report on the Pride festival in Birmingham this weekend. I'm watching intensely. My dad suddenly chimes in with "Thank fuck we don't need to go in town this weekend. We'd be molested by those fucking fags!' and then laughed.

My brother added to this with his pearl of wisdom, "And don't forget the fuckin' trannies, haha!' - needless to say, my visit was a very short one.

Well it's damn good you don't have to be around them anymore.

 

[3phemeral]

I now remember why I'm so glad I no longer really talk to most of my family any more. I went round today for the first time in ages. I get there and the news is on, currently doing a report on the Pride festival in Birmingham this weekend. I'm watching intensely. My dad suddenly chimes in with "Thank fuck we don't need to go in town this weekend. We'd be molested by those fucking fags!' and then laughed.

My brother added to this with his pearl of wisdom, "And don't forget the fuckin' trannies, haha!' - needless to say, my visit was a very short one.

My parents were like this only it wasn't with humor. "That's why Adam made Eve! Ugh, disgusting!"

And then they had the audacity to wonder why I never went to them when I decided to come out. Apparently, they could have somehow prevented it.

We're on good terms now but wow, what a ride of several years.

 

[Kevyt]

As my friendship with my buddy/crush grows, along with his relationship with his new boyfriend of a month, I've decided that enough is enough. Its almost physically be in a personal limbo with him. Tomorrow I'm going to tell him how Ive felt about him over the past 3 months. And then I'm going to directly ask him to honestly tell me how he feels.

He will almost certainly let me down softly. It will hurt. I'm ready for this.

I want this to happen so we're on even terms, and also so that I can have his feelings given to me as facts that I have to deal with. I can let go and not internally chase a shadow thats moving at their own beats of life far ahead of me. I can move on from him romantically, and keep an eye out for persuing others (something I've honestly never done, meeting him was by chance.)

The tension has been building internally and I need to release it this way. A few friends I've talked to agree that I should do this. I just hope that things don't get so awkward that the friendship also dies (although Im somewhat ready for that if it also happens)

Best of luck!

That is a very bold decision to make.

 

[Symphonia]

Jesus, sorry to hear.

Well it's damn good you don't have to be around them anymore.

I've not even come out to them or anyone in my family. No way in Hell will I do it now.

 

[Razmos]

I just watched the entire video that was posted in that other thread (and a very problematic thread it was)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hIhsv18lrqY

Damn, just.. damn. They hit the issue on the head perfectly with every single point. I actually nearly teared up at some parts because it rang so true with the stuff we face on a day to day basis.

 

[Dead Prince]

Finally saw kingsman. The mc. At first I thought it was a Mexican and then Jesse McCartney. Whatever he is he's totes adorb in the movie

 

[Son Of D]

I now remember why I'm so glad I no longer really talk to most of my family any more. I went round today for the first time in ages. I get there and the news is on, currently doing a report on the Pride festival in Birmingham this weekend. I'm watching intensely. My dad suddenly chimes in with "Thank fuck we don't need to go in town this weekend. We'd be molested by those fucking fags!' and then laughed.

My brother added to this with his pearl of wisdom, "And don't forget the fuckin' trannies, haha!' - needless to say, my visit was a very short one.

Really sorry to hear that. I can't imagine what that could do to people, having family like that.

 

[Kevyt]

I just watched the entire video that was posted in that other thread (and a very problematic thread it was)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hIhsv18lrqY

Damn, just.. damn. They hit the issue on the head perfectly with every single point. I actually nearly teared up at some parts because it rang so true with the stuff we face on a day to day basis.

Amazing! Panti is a great speaker. Such a powerful and well delivered speech. This is why I love Ted talks!

It's true. I wouldn't feel comfortable holding hands with my SO in public because of possible backlash or possible negative reaction.

I too am jealous of straight people. Grrrr....

Straight privilage!! #$%@!!

 

[Vitanimus]

I always cackle when people try and suggest passing off as straight isn't even that great. it screams ignorance

 

[Razmos]

Do you know what the straightest thing in the world is?
sports!

 

[3phemeral]

Amazing! Panti is a great speaker. Such a powerful and well delivered speech. This is why I love Ted talks!

It's true. I wouldn't feel comfortable holding hands with my SO in public because of possible backlash or possible negative reaction.

I too am jealous of straight people. Grrrr....

Straight privilage!! #$%@!!

Watching that video reminds me of how you condition yourself to think that you don't need it. I've realized that I've even grown a little hostile at times when I was with someone who tried to hold hands out of fear of public response or hate. I teared up watching that.

 

[Delio]

Do you know what the straightest thing in the world is?
sports!

Ah Singlets and wrestling porn are some of my biggest fetishes. Well that and oil wrestling.

 

[Razmos]

Ah Singlets and wrestling porn are some of my biggest fetishes. Well that and oil wrestling.

I'm a big fan of singlets, but I didn't think to search for oil wrestling... *makes a mental note*
*disappears for a week*

 

[Blood Diamonds]

Finished watching Man of Steel. As usual, the GAF hate train is fucking stupid and the movie is really cool, those action scenes are amazing.

I'm ready for Batman vs Superman now

 

[Cosmic Bus]

Reminds me that I haven't worn my singlet in a while 💪💅

 

[Alrus]

I just watched the entire video that was posted in that other thread (and a very problematic thread it was)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hIhsv18lrqY

Damn, just.. damn. They hit the issue on the head perfectly with every single point. I actually nearly teared up at some parts because it rang so true with the stuff we face on a day to day basis.

Man, this hits really hard, this is exactly what keeps my out of ever holding hands (lets not even talk about kissing) with my boyfriend (unless I'm like really really drunk). It makes me so sad inside that it'll never be just a casual act of affection most couples don't even have to think about.

What thread are you talking about btw?

 

[Henchmen21]

Do you know what the straightest thing in the world is?
sports!

I feel like I've just watched a porno.

 

[Sai-kun]

Reminds me that I haven't worn my singlet in a while 💪💅

I almost bought myself one while out and about NYC this week, but it was a touch too expensive for me, even though my partner offered to pay for half.

I wish this kinda stuff was cheaper, but that's just because I'm a cheap bastard when it comes to getting stuff for myself.

 

[Deleted member 465307]

Finished watching Man of Steel. As usual, the GAF hate train is fucking stupid and the movie is really cool, those action scenes are amazing.

I'm ready for Batman vs Superman now

Everything to do with the father (and family, to a lesser degree) in that movie is the main reason why I like it. There was a trailer that featured the dad talking to the son as a voice-over, and while I can't remember what he said now, I remember it hit me very hard (never would have expected to react that strongly). For whatever reason, apart from the rampant destruction at the end, I don't really remember the action. But the more emotional elements have stuck with me.

 

[Kevyt]

Do you know what the straightest thing in the world is?
sports!

Ah, it's Russia vs Canada. Someone should show this to mr. Putin.

Ah Singlets and wrestling porn are some of my biggest fetishes. Well that and oil wrestling.

Singlets? *googles*

Edit: Those things that wrestlers use, I see.

Finished watching Man of Steel. As usual, the GAF hate train is fucking stupid and the movie is really cool, those action scenes are amazing.

I'm ready for Batman vs Superman now

It was really good even though I watched only half of it. I can never get myself to finish it.

I almost bought myself one while out and about NYC this week, but it was a touch too expensive for me, even though my partner offered to pay for half.

I wish this kinda stuff was cheaper, but that's just because I'm a cheap bastard when it comes to getting stuff for myself.

No you're not cheap. It's called being responsible with your money.

Spoiler

Shots fired

 

[Leona Lewis]

Ah Singlets and wrestling porn are some of my biggest fetishes. Well that and oil wrestling.

Hm.

You, my dear, are a man of excellent taste and refined sensibility.

Hit me up.

 

[Foxyone]

So... I've kinda brought it up before, but I'm kinda at a loss with my current situation. I've been in a mostly romantic relationship with my bf for a few years with some sexual stuff here and there, but I believe I'm actually sexually attracted to girls. I love him dearly, but I can't help but wonder if I should end it now so I don't hurt him or us later by ending up thinking of girls when we're together.

 

[Crayons]

Ah Singlets and wrestling porn are some of my biggest fetishes. Well that and oil wrestling.

that shit is the best

I love guys in singlets and guys wrestling

 

[Barrylocke]

It's good. Now you can get the tension over with on move onto other things, however which way that turns out.

Best of luck!

That is a very bold decision to make.

Thanks for the kind words people. I believe if I can balance keeping a cool head (I'm good at that) with speaking through my heart (I can manage if I don't get self conscious) then I'll be able to tactfully explain my feelings. I'm not doing this to make him feel guilty or awkward (which is quite likely given the subject matter), but I really need to tell him, and I really need for him to hear this. The considerate side of me kinda nags and says this is not a very comfortable thing to do. But I feel like just this once I deserve to be "selfish". I'm not a selfish, but I do need to take care of myself. And I feel like this will help me in doing so. I don't think he'll freak out or anything, but I do know that this could be a changer for the friendship side, and beyond my romantic feelings I've been very appreciative of talking about him concerning the hard issues (besides this until tomorrow). I'd ideally not like to lose that. Time will tell.

I just hope I don't chicken out. I actually had meant to do this last week, but I bummed out at the last moment and instead danced around the issue. Getting support from a few places has given me the courage to want to try again though. I'll let you know how it goes once it all goes down.

I just watched the entire video that was posted in that other thread (and a very problematic thread it was)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hIhsv18lrqY

Damn, just.. damn. They hit the issue on the head perfectly with every single point. I actually nearly teared up at some parts because it rang so true with the stuff we face on a day to day basis.

After these recent experiences above and prior, my thoughts have been going to PDAs and how nice it would be. Not even randomly making out in the shop or whatever (although having the freedom to do so without thought would be wonderful), but just being able to hold onto a guys shoulder or one of us to grab them by the arm and feel comfortable with each others presence. When I was younger I always thought it seemed show-y, but I can see PDAs (especially those mentionedtwo for what I like) being nothing more than a desire for physical contact with your SO.

On a side note, finding pics like this is sadly kinda tough. The default is the hand holding, which even this had, or kisses or things at a similar. Nothing wrong with that, but I guess it suggests a lack of pics for the various forms of PDAs with guys. I was basically looking for a Letter version of:

 

[Delio]

Singlets? *googles*

Edit: Those things that wrestlers use, I see.

Hm.

You, my dear, are a man of excellent taste and refined sensibility.

Hit me up.

that shit is the best

I love guys in singlets and guys wrestling

Oh some people have good taste in here.

 

[Deleted member 465307]

So... I've kinda brought it up before, but I'm kinda at a loss with my current situation. I've been in a mostly romantic relationship with my bf for a few years with some sexual stuff here and there, but I believe I'm actually sexually attracted to girls. I love him dearly, but I can't help but wonder if I should end it now so I don't hurt him or us later by ending up thinking of girls when we're together.

My first instinct is to say, "Why not talk about it first?" Inevitably, I think you two may decide that you need to end it, but if your main reason for ending it is to prevent hurting him/you both, I think a more productive conversation may be "Here's what's going on in my life right now." The two of you may quickly determine that the relationship can't continue, but unless there are other unspoken motivations (e.g., you're gaining nothing from the relationship and want out so you can start getting sexually and romantically involved with women), it may be best for the both of you to be part of making that decision, rather than just you.

I once ended a relationship to protect a person (mostly because they were a girl and I realized that I did not reciprocate the sexual feelings, but also because I couldn't properly give them any time or attention), and it did NOT go well. Our friendship was ruined for quite some time. It wouldn't have been smooth no matter what, but had I been more honest about what was happening and not approached it from a protective point of view, I imagine the hurt would have been a lot less for her.

Keep in mind that my example comes from the middle of high school and was handled with all the emotional maturity of a 15-year-old. I'm sure no matter what you do, things will end up much better.

Spoiler

If anyone is wondering, my friend and I are back to being best friends again and later this year I'll be attending her wedding, for which I've been a very small part of the planning process.

EDIT: I don't think this was clear from my post: You do you and what you need to do. You know your situation way better than I could ever guess, so if talking about it first seems off, don't do that. Good luck!

 

[red13th]

is here the place we post pics of hot wrestlers?

plus that mesmerizing gif

 

[Leona Lewis]

Someone said hot wrestlers?

 

[Crayons]

it has begun

 

[<+)O Robido O(+>]

 

[red13th]

 

[DOWN]

lmao is this too much?

gay porn is very interesting

 

[Kevyt]

What a bunch of thirsty people...

 

[Sai-kun]

Aaaand we're off!

Let me wait for these Memorial Day sales to buy a singlet...

 

[Deleted member 465307]

lmao is this too much?

gay porn is very interesting

That kneeling man...yes. Reminds me of an older, gruffier (I declare this a word) version of Desperate Housewives-era Jesse Metcalfe. Is this actually a wrestling photo or is it really a porno? If wrestling, I don't understand why the presumed coach would not be wearing a shirt.

 

[red13th]

looks like Chris Rockway.

 

[DOWN]

That kneeling man...yes. Reminds me of an older, gruffier (I declare this a word) version of Desperate Housewives-era Jesse Metcalfe. Is this actually a wrestling photo or is it really a porno? If wrestling, I don't understand why the presumed coach would not be wearing a shirt.

looks like Chris Rockway.

It's from a porn I believe, because that coach is indeed Chris Rockway

 

[Barrylocke]

So in a situation like mine (confess love to a person I'm into that is dating another. Look at prior posts for details) would you do it at their place or a 3rd party location like a park? I should note that he currently isnt driving so if its elsewhere if be ferrying him (not a problem, but could be a factor). Ill also note that my place isn't an option due to parent issues.

 

[<+)O Robido O(+>]

So in a situation like mine (confess love to a person I'm into that is dating another.)

Oh, why would you do this?

Top o' the page edit:

 

[RatskyWatsky]

Wrestling singlets are literally amazing. Sport uniforms in general are the bees knees tbh.

 

[Deleted member 465307]

I just watched the entire video that was posted in that other thread (and a very problematic thread it was)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hIhsv18lrqY

Damn, just.. damn. They hit the issue on the head perfectly with every single point. I actually nearly teared up at some parts because it rang so true with the stuff we face on a day to day basis.

Thank you for bringing this into this thread. I just watched it. It hit home so hard. I'm now sharing it with friends. It actually made me question my own behavior (like when I stare at gay couples), since this reminded me that that's not what I want either.

It's from a porn I believe, because that coach is indeed Chris Rockway

That makes sense. It seemed too good for reality. Oooooh well.

So in a situation like mine (confess love to a person I'm into that is dating another. Look at prior posts for details) would you do it at their place or a 3rd party location like a park? I should note that he currently isnt driving so if its elsewhere if be ferrying him (not a problem, but could be a factor). Ill also note that my place isn't an option due to parent issues.

I don't really have a recommendation, but here's my thinking. In an ideal situation, I would say to go to a third party location where you have privacy, since it's very neutral. However, if you'll then have to drive him back afterwards...uhh, I really don't know. If you expect him to react negatively or in a really awkward way, the drive back could make things worse. However, it could also make things better, as it would give you two a chance to talk about other things and get your relationship back to normal (I don't have a good sense of how dramatic you expect this to be). His place is a good option if you think the ride back will be unbearable and is probably better than the psychology of it being at your place. At his place, he'll likely feel more comfortable/in control (giving him more security when he has to respond) and the privacy is nice. The risk here is if things go poorly and suddenly he sees you in an emotionally threatening way (this is all subconscious and would require for it to go quite badly), you're now kind of invading his home and likely to evoke a more defensive response.

That's my very amateurish psychological analysis. Hopefully something in there is helpful.

 

[Kevyt]

This is what came to mind when thinking about singlets and wrestling.

 

[DOWN]

I just watched the entire video that was posted in that other thread (and a very problematic thread it was)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hIhsv18lrqY

Damn, just.. damn. They hit the issue on the head perfectly with every single point. I actually nearly teared up at some parts because it rang so true with the stuff we face on a day to day basis.

Always a good speaker and worth watching.

 

[Captcha]

Praise Jesus. Name is Matt Cook if anyone else was curious like I was.

 

[DOWN]

Oh, why would you do this?

Top o' the page edit:

Broderick Hunter

 

[CornBurrito]

Been watching Scrotal Recall on Netflix. Daniel Ings is cute.

 

[Leona Lewis]

Mesmerizing.