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LGBTQIA+ :)OT6(: Were taking over -- first the alphabet, then the world!
- Thread starter Kevyt
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I'm gonna start greeting and complimenting people. Let's see where this takes me.
Don't give up. Also, you could make someone get lucky!
A great ride.
Are you a good driver?
Escape Goat
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terrisus
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This. Terri you're a genius!
Time to go out and meet people. Too bad I'm socially awkward.
Psh.
To heck with that.
Just send out a whole bunch of messages, and see who writes back.
(Again, personal experience >.>)
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Selfie of my workout progress...
Kaiser_Glider
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Escape Goat
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A great ride.
Thats sexy.
RuinerPrime
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Stealing this!
Sounds like a great plan. I'm assuming this is for online dating?
Yeah, I agree with this.
Hmmmm...
I have pictures disabled in mobile and when I clicked on view I was disappointed.
Kaiser_Glider
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Well yeah it's for online dating. How else would sending out messages work in person?
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But it's me.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
attaboy!
Well yeah it's for online dating. How else would sending out messages work in person?
Send them letters?
My two cats would love you.
RuinerPrime
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Now you're catfishing everyone.Well, there's now a picture of "you" on my Facebook now.
It was a bittersweet night tonight :/ I went out with a group of friends I hadn't seen in ages. We're not very close, but it was very fun and we all had a great time. At one point, though, one of them said something pretty nasty about a lesbian couple sitting next to us. They were kissing non-stop, but that's hardly relevant since I doubt he would have said anything if they had been a straight couple. Then he joked about him being okay with them when they're attractive, pretty standard homophobia. It really ruined the mood for me for a while When we were leaving he told me "it was great to see you again!"... and I would have thought the same if he hadn't been a jerk.
One of the absolute worst aspects of not being straight is when someone you appreciate turns out like this. Because otherwise they can be nice people, even good friends worth having... just profoundly ignorant and unaware that they could be insulting someone who is present. Bleeeh.
When we were leaving he told me "it was great to see you again!"... and I would have thought the same if he hadn't been a jerk.One of the absolute worst aspects of not being straight is when someone you appreciate turns out like this. Because otherwise they can be nice people, even good friends worth having... just profoundly ignorant and unaware that they could be insulting someone who is present. Bleeeh.
Kaiser_Glider
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It was a bittersweet night tonight :/ I went out with a group of friends I hadn't seen in ages. We're not very close, but it was very fun and we all had a great time. At one point, though, one of them said something pretty nasty about a lesbian couple sitting next to us. They were kissing non-stop, but that's hardly relevant since I doubt he would have said anything if they had been a straight couple. Then he joked about him being okay with them when they're attractive, pretty standard homophobia. It really ruined the mood for me for a while
One of the absolute worst aspects of not being straight is when someone you appreciate turns out like this. Because otherwise they can be nice people, even good friends worth having... just profoundly ignorant and unaware that they could be insulting someone who is present. Bleeeh.
Lo siento.
That always sucks yeah. Does he know you're gay though?
Nope. I used to be close-ish to this group of friends, particularly with this guy, but we eventually drifted apart. So no, I'm not out to them.
For realBut when someone says something like that, it doesn't matter if they are a good person, it is disappointing anyway.
It feels so weird. You know this person is saying awful, disgusting things, yet you know they're coming from an otherwise decent person.He eventually backpedaled a bit saying he's okay with gay people, but that they shouldn't be kissing in front of children and stuff. Again, standard homophobia.
It's almost worse that way - if you've been able to dismiss someone completely for whatever reason, it's easier to just group their opinions in with background noise; but seeing someone you like and mostly respect display that amount of malevolent ignorance has much more of an impact.
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Yeah. It's pretty crushing actually.
Yup, it is worse indeed. We can more easily not care about some random jerk being hateful, but someone you appreciate being hateful towards people who are like you, that's quite rough.
It's true, it's just not the concept I had about him before today :/ And it makes me wonder, would he be this hateful if he'd know I'm part of the group he's bashing? Could it be my fault to some degree for not being out to them, and not correcting this guy's views?
terrisus
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Again, I don't want to minimize it or discount it, I know it's definitely a big issue. So I apologize if I came across that way.
And it makes me wonder, would he be this hateful if he'd know I'm part of the group he's bashing? Could it be my fault to some degree for not being out to them, and not correcting this guy's views?
That shouldn't have to be your responsibility, please don't feel at fault at all for someone else being a jerk =(
Kaiser_Glider
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You think he would've avoided saying things like those if he knew you were gay? Normally people change their views on stuff like this when they're close or know someone... most of the time.
But either way, it's always horrible, hurtful and offensive when people you care about do and say things like this. Like real bad. But don't think too much about it I guess.
He wouldn't be hateful if you were out to them. But it's not your fault nor your obligation to be out to them. He is ignorant, but people don't like being ignorant, they would change their point of view and hateful remarks if they knew a friend was gay. But then agian, you don't have to, it's not your fault.Yup, it is worse indeed. We can more easily not care about some random jerk being hateful, but someone you appreciate being hateful towards people who are like you, that's quite rough.
It's true, it's just not the concept I had about him before today :/ And it makes me wonder, would he be this hateful if he'd know I'm part of the group he's bashing? Could it be my fault to some degree for not being out to them, and not correcting this guy's views?
umop_3pisdn
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gin tha best. juniper n shit.
straight people can be really shitty. It's a weird thing though, like I know I'm shitty in a lot of ways as a white dude. Feelings of impunity combined with judgment of your fellow human beings results in some real ugliness.
straight people can be really shitty. It's a weird thing though, like I know I'm shitty in a lot of ways as a white dude. Feelings of impunity combined with judgment of your fellow human beings results in some real ugliness.
This is when I understand why some gay people prefer to have mostly / only gay friends :/ It's a bit unfair because it's not like I've decided to be surrounded by straight guys, it just has turned out that way for different reasons. And to be fair, my actual close friends are pretty awesome.
I never let stuff like this get to me, but it really caught me off guard. I was having a great time with people I appreciate, and I was genuinely glad to see them again.
I never let stuff like this get to me, but it really caught me off guard. I was having a great time with people I appreciate, and I was genuinely glad to see them again.
umop_3pisdn
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umop_3pisdn
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Someone interact with me I'm too drunk to make a fool of myself by myself.
Why are you drunk by yourself? That's not fun, IMO.
umop_3pisdn
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I was somewhere but that's over now. Thank you btw for answering my general summons.
Escape Goat
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Your username is drunk.
Henchmen21
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Why do you want to see pics of him bareback?
and belated Happy birthday to caladrius.
umop_3pisdn
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Don't worry, I think drunk people should have company always, drinking is an art.
I would be drunk too, but class tomorrow and I know I won't wake up if I drink a little. Can't control myself, whoops (actually I can, but don't like to do it, if someone says party I expect it to last till 5 am and with nice music)
umop_3pisdn
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I am at the fingerpainting stage. Actually some people do some amazing shit with fingerpainting, so I wish.
What day is it where you are (you have class on Saturday?) Do you have midterms and shit coming up? That's why I'm drunk. Positive coping strategies.
Saturday 1am. No midterms yet, but classes on saturday are overkill. In a normal saturday I would be asleep all day ( and maybe homework) but I stopped having "normal" saturdays a long time ago.
Also "fingerpaint a Picasso" levels of drunk or it doesn't count!
umop_3pisdn
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1 am what kind of school do you go to. The only thing I could study at that hour is debauchery, like Greek tragedies or something. Drama.
Sleeping on Saturdays is the best. Do you have like a six days on schedule? How do you recoup?
I always fantasize about just spontaneously being really good at things. Maybe this is it!
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
umop_3pisdn
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Stop harshing my buzz.
lol no, I mean right now its 1am, school at 8am.
6 days of activities. It's a long story how I ended like this
, but that's between job and school. Sometimes I have to work weekends too (depends if there are projects that we have to take to the plant and random stuff like the boss being lazy). That fantasy about being good at everything is the best/worst motivation ever!
RatskyWatsky
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*poke*
Escape Goat
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Im a little teapot, short and stout.
umop_3pisdn
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lol no, I mean right now its 1am, school at 8am.
6 days of activities. It's a long story how I ended like this
That fantasy about being good at everything is the best/worst motivation ever!
What are you studying? What do you do? It's nice when people are able to thrive or make peace under a grueling schedule, those are the people that succeed.
It is. I want to be some kind of mentat
Here is my handle, here is my spout...
What does that teach? Kid stuff is weird. I remember learning that "ring around the rosie" is about the black death.
Glass Swords came out like four years ago, how has it been that long.
Henchmen21
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God I wish Seth Gamble would go back to doing gay porn. He's too good looking for straight porn.
I work as a project manager/planner in the heavy industry and studying for a specialization in automation. Which I believe is what I love, but somehow not my call of life (not sure though), having a hard time trying to know what I love doing forever, which leads me to take classes on random stuff, for example dancing, always saying I didn't know how to dance, because I'm always too self-aware, also because people would call me names (you know Mexico, if you do something people will hate) then <another long story which I will probably tell soon>, so I started believing that dancing was off limits. But then I realized I should do what I like (or think I like) and run with it. Also helpful that I wanna learn about everything, except cooking, I'm a terrible cook and it will be a while before anyone dares to try my food again
EDIT: reading that wiki like: "I'm not sleeping tonight
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