Been trying to find some for a while but the city I live is a ghost town outside of the mall. At the moment all I have is a gay gaming group on fb that seems to make gatherings every end of the month but the events are not exactly close. I would try going at least once if the car wasn't in the condition it is right now. I'm slowly looking for options that are closer but not so we'll see what happens.
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Been trying to find some for a while but the city I live is a ghost town outside of the mall. At the moment all I have is a gay gaming group on fb that seems to make gatherings every end of the month but the events are not exactly close. I would try going at least once if the car wasn't in the condition it is right now. I'm slowly looking for options that are closer but not so we'll see what happens.
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Sadly, I know that feeling of loneliness during which friends, even the closest ones are never there. However, what I've realized that it's important to keep yourself occupied at all costs. Dark thoughts will always be there in some capacity, but it's possible to make them go away, even when depressed. Takes effort, but honestly, what doesn't? Life is hard!
Also, what I've always found ironic is that friends were always there for me when I least needed them. Not saying that I don't appreciate the company because I do (I love my friends!), but it's always coincided with when I was at my most confident. When I was less confident, it was as if the other could sense it and were never there, lol
Anyway, Bayo, there's no universal advice for depression and loneliness. You just gotta stick through it and give your best, even on days when you feel like you'd rather stay in bed. Whatever you do, just don't give up on yourself. Even baby steps are better than no steps.
Also, what I've always found ironic is that friends were always there for me when I least needed them. Not saying that I don't appreciate the company because I do (I love my friends!), but it's always coincided with when I was at my most confident. When I was less confident, it was as if the other could sense it and were never there, lol
Anyway, Bayo, there's no universal advice for depression and loneliness. You just gotta stick through it and give your best, even on days when you feel like you'd rather stay in bed. Whatever you do, just don't give up on yourself. Even baby steps are better than no steps.
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This is actually an important observation. When I'm at my most confident or zen, the people in my network are more present and willing to give me their time. When I close off or seem to wallow in my own bullshit, that's when I feel distance. It makes sense because the bottom line is that no one is attracted to negative energy, and that goes for all of us. We want friends to be there for us especially during our dark moments, but it's not an approachable energy. We are drawn to people for specific qualities, and while we may care about them unconditionally and want to be there for them through it all, our instinct is to avoid the bad energy and pursue the good.
I've had to internalize the fact that if I'm happy, the people in my life will celebrate it, and if I'm sad, I'm on my own because it's for me to figure out. And if I need someone to talk to, I'd have to draw them in using the qualities they like about me in the first place. And usually, reminding myself of those good qualities is a good step in getting myself out of a funk.
Yup I shall be getting Zestiria on PC (Crosses finger that the port isn't botched like most JP ports to PC)
I know its not easy but when those days come up they are pretty damn hard. Today I'm feeling much better then again Im keeping myself busy with Tera and Assault Android Cactus. I plan watching Paranorman and thinking which other halloween themed or horror movies to watch along the week. Its not all bad when you do find stuff to do.
I actually stopped working out like 2 months ago but Im starting tomorrow again. Gotta get my threadmill back to the room to do my hour of cardio and 30 minutes of aerobics.
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It does help. If there's one thing I feel good about, even when I'm in a shitty mood or depressed, it's going to the gym to improve myself.
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And in today's episode of "Wrestling Is Totally the Gayest, Best Thing Ever," crotch lollipops and bulge-checkers
oh how the straights so dutifully appease <3
oh how the straights so dutifully appease <3
What's the goal? Do you have a pic of what you're trying to achieve or is it a lets see what happens type of experiment.
Last year I changed my hair color every month. It was fun.
I was going blonde originally but it ended reddish. 3 weeks later (today) went for a darker red. It was just to change a bit .
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Ngl, I'd try these. If I were really drunk.
Im supposed to make a mix of flan and chocolate cake this week. We'll see how that ends up and I got to make some of these suckers.wishing i had the energy to bake
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what are those?
We call those mantecaditos here but I think you guys call that shortbread cookies on US. Really easy to make and delicious. You can also improvise and add different things like almonds,coconut, chocolate and other things to it.
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I guess that technically is baking.
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Dip it in white chocolate and ganache
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not a high bar, that's only a little more challenging than being the most put together person in a walmart.
One day Satan.
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I kind of have a crush on Nils Frahm.
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If it doesn't involve getting free service then it doesn't count
Xtube has some of those. 🙊
I think they saw it just as over the top than gay?
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I don't think so. I think I'm ok with that.
We finally ordered the invitations, so freaking late. Love the rings we picked out too 
The invitations won't be here until Friday, and I had to pay $30 extra just to get it here on time. I used Vistaprint.
I am excited, I saw the venue which is just the pool area/patio of an apartment complex, but it is so gorgeous.
Still need to go find out suits though. <_>;
I feel that way about every place I go!
The invitations won't be here until Friday, and I had to pay $30 extra just to get it here on time. I used Vistaprint.
I am excited, I saw the venue which is just the pool area/patio of an apartment complex, but it is so gorgeous.
Still need to go find out suits though. <_>;
I feel that way about every place I go!
jk
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Every time I go.
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Why yes, all I have to do is walk in ����
Yes please. The only thing that can lure me into our creepy VR future is effeminate anime men telling me I'm pretty <3
This is the part when as part of old gay-GAF I feel like I can finally contribute in this thread.
Homosexuality simply wasn't visible, it was incredibly taboo. On of my contemporaries was absolutely shocked just a few weeks ago when I told him Freddie Mercury was gay, he simply couldn't believe it, and he has seen the "I want to break free" video, and is very aware Mercury was hiv positive and died of aids. Not saying that those things make him gay... but come on!
Since there was literally no representation, there was some kind of "freedom" into putting all this gay stuff and most people were completely oblivious to the fact, for most it was just as Bayo said, over-the-top antics. But gay people knew, it was practically a secret society that evolved its own codes. This of course has a lot of background from the days of censorship and the Hays code (which has a wonderful documentary, the celluloid closet, which it now really needs to be updated with development in the recent decades
).As always we have lead pop culture and later mainstream culture appropriates it, so you got that all that "gay" stuff of perms and craziness that was the 80s became the cool thing and everyone just followed, without knowing.
Little known fact, all that leather and rough stuff from rock and metal bands? That comes from Judas Priest, close to that time, Robert Halford the lead singer was gay (closeted at the time), and he wanted a shocking image for the band, so he decided to adapt the whole gay leather scene into it (which is as old as some of our parents
), and it became the staple of hard rock and metal.I want a show just about Pam.
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Story of my life tbh.
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I will never understand how people think this way.
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This is the part when as part of old gay-GAF I feel like I can finally contribute in this thread.
Homosexuality simply wasn't visible, it was incredibly taboo. On of my contemporaries was absolutely shocked just a few weeks ago when I told him Freddie Mercury was gay, he simply couldn't believe it, and he has seen the "I want to break free" video, and is very aware Mercury was hiv positive and died of aids. Not saying that those things make him gay... but come on!
Since there was literally no representation, there was some kind of "freedom" into putting all this gay stuff and most people were completely oblivious to the fact, for most it was just as Bayo said, over-the-top antics. But gay people knew, it was practically a secret society that evolved its own codes. This of course has a lot of background from the days of censorship and the Hays code (which has a wonderful documentary, the celluloid closet, which it now really needs to be updated with development in the recent decades
As always we have lead pop culture and later mainstream culture appropriates it, so you got that all that "gay" stuff of perms and craziness that was the 80s became the cool thing and everyone just followed, without knowing.
Little known fact, all that leather and rough stuff from rock and metal bands? That comes from Judas Priest, close to that time, Robert Halford the lead singer was gay (closeted at the time), and he wanted a shocking image for the band, so he decided to adapt the whole gay leather scene into it (which is as old as some of our parents
As a fellow member of old gay-gaf, this post warms my heart.
Also of note was that androgyny was big around the mid 80s with bands like Culture Club and the like.
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Not so much that as mostly the 80s were a total reverse of what the 70s were. Unlike now where everything is so homogenized to be the same, the 80s sort of was a rejection of everything the 70s stood for. Which is why the 80s were so neon and expressive. The 70s at the time were seen as dull and drab. The 80s on the other hand was the other extreme. Vibrant and loud.
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I still have 2 or seasons left but Pam is pretty good. I look forwsrd to seeing how they fuck things up in the end.
I mean, I get taste and all, but really accepting only this is kind of absurd, most of these men that you see in here have bodies that take years to achieve. Plus you need all the money for training and fitness equipment. It's maddening how high some people's standards are, speaking from my own perspective and what I see on the internet.
I get finding someone not attractive for stuff that can be corrected more easily like bad hygiene, the basics, really.
Oh man, it was so funny when the gay bar in my city was still in the same house as the rock bar. It was basically all dudes in leather and you couldn't tell from which of the two bars they just left.This is the part when as part of old gay-GAF I feel like I can finally contribute in this thread.
Homosexuality simply wasn't visible, it was incredibly taboo. On of my contemporaries was absolutely shocked just a few weeks ago when I told him Freddie Mercury was gay, he simply couldn't believe it, and he has seen the "I want to break free" video, and is very aware Mercury was hiv positive and died of aids. Not saying that those things make him gay... but come on!
Since there was literally no representation, there was some kind of "freedom" into putting all this gay stuff and most people were completely oblivious to the fact, for most it was just as Bayo said, over-the-top antics. But gay people knew, it was practically a secret society that evolved its own codes. This of course has a lot of background from the days of censorship and the Hays code (which has a wonderful documentary, the celluloid closet, which it now really needs to be updated with development in the recent decades
As always we have lead pop culture and later mainstream culture appropriates it, so you got that all that "gay" stuff of perms and craziness that was the 80s became the cool thing and everyone just followed, without knowing.
Little known fact, all that leather and rough stuff from rock and metal bands? That comes from Judas Priest, close to that time, Robert Halford the lead singer was gay (closeted at the time), and he wanted a shocking image for the band, so he decided to adapt the whole gay leather scene into it (which is as old as some of our parents
I had an Urulu thing myself. 😳
https://soundcloud.com/urulu
PS:
https://soundcloud.com/clone-nl/antenna-new-life-ep-royal028
So Good~!
Clone is bangging!
Is there any consensus on whether Freddie Mercury was gay or bi? I always assumed the latter, for some reason...
Wish I could say something even remotely helpful. Has being unable to sleep without medication been a fairly common thing for you in general, or is that just happening more often now?
And their heads rear back, issuing a piercing, unholy cry through unmoving, cold lips - "it's just a preference."
Five exclamation marks. I wonder what traumatic experiences this troubled soul had to drive him to such desperate lengths to ensure the racial purity of those who would dare gaze upon him.
Wish I could say something even remotely helpful. Has being unable to sleep without medication been a fairly common thing for you in general, or is that just happening more often now?
Also, the new colour looks good on you.
And their heads rear back, issuing a piercing, unholy cry through unmoving, cold lips - "it's just a preference."
Five exclamation marks. I wonder what traumatic experiences this troubled soul had to drive him to such desperate lengths to ensure the racial purity of those who would dare gaze upon him.
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talk more about gay stuff in the 80s you guys
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"Not even for friends" lmao
And no one can say definitively on Mercury since he wasn't publicly out, but I've read it's presumed he was gay.
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It was pretty humid this one time.
Also, why did you ruin your avatar with scratch throat suicide lady?
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