I promise not to complain about this anymore, but I think I will get the surgery at some point. I just can't be happy with my current voice. I'm worried it will have a negative effect on my employment future. I'm going to be applying for teaching jobs in rural areas, and having a voice people identify immediately as "gay" could be very problematic for me.
It would also make me so much happier. I don't even really use my voice to the extent others do. I refuse to raise my voice or scream or anything like that, and if I hear it on a recording I actually become suicidal. I had to do a class project last year where we had to record ourselves, so the whole class got to hear my voice. I was so mortified. I'm depressed anyway, but that put me in a dangerous place.
It wouldn't be any different from the the kids you see on the news who get surgery for having large ears. I saw that recently. It would be so liberating to go out in public and use my voice like a normal person. Anyway, I'm glad I have a place to vent this stuff; I don't have anyone else, except a friend I never see, to talk to about this.