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[Grakl]

So, what do you guys think should be the "ideal" progression from dating to relationship?

I would like to know because a friend is having dates with guys that on the second or third day are asking him to hold hands or kiss him and they're like still getting to know each other and he doesn't feel comfortable with it.

Depends, if he's not comfortable then it's too soon, ez

 

[CornBurrito]

So, what do you guys think should be the "ideal" progression from dating to relationship?

I would like to know because a friend is having dates with guys that on the second or third day are asking him to hold hands or kiss him and they're like still getting to know each other and he doesn't feel comfortable with it.

Not putting out right away is selfish, and frankly most men will look elsewhere unless you do.

 

[DOWN]

me and my bf made out first and dated after and its rad

 

[Haly]

There's no "ideal", but I get the impression things move a lot faster these days so your options are more limited if you're the type to prefer going slow.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

Philosophy 101 changed my life too.

I feel like that wouldn't even fly there.

 

[Kevyt]

me and my bf made out first and dated after and its rad

Just like cops, "shoot first, ask questions later"

 

[daripad]

me and my bf made out first and dated after and its rad

I'm curious about this, did you guys knew each other before that or not?

 

[Dead Prince]

Just like cops, "shoot first, ask questions later"

that's how porn is made.

 

[Berordn]

me and my bf made out first and dated after and its rad

Same here actually. We met in a video game bar/lounge and made out and had our first actual date that weekend.

 

[DOWN]

I'm curious about this, did you guys knew each other before that or not?

Yeah we had met like once but never had a conversation. Just a few lines at most. Then one night I was drunk and at my first ever gay clubs and we made out and he's very attractive. then we had like a group lunch we were both at the next day and still didn't really talk. then a couple of days later he invited me out and that date was like 8 hours staying up late and really nice.

 

[Kevyt]

Yeah we had met like once but never had a conversation. Just a few lines at most. Then one night I was drunk and at my first ever gay clubs and we made out and he's very attractive. then we had like a group lunch we were both at the next day and still didn't really talk. then a couple of days later he invited me out and that date was like 8 hours staying up late and really nice.

 

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[Kevyt]

lewd gif

 

[Mostmanlyman]

me and my bf made out first and dated after and its rad

Ohh congrats

 

[Astral Dog]

I'm not sure if this is because I've been ill, but these past few days, I've been so completely repulsed by the idea of personally participating in sex or sexual activity of any kind at any point in the future (and anything I've done/experienced in the past).

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I've also been repulsed by anything sexual that other people are doing/suggesting even when it has nothing to do with me, but I'm not about to start judging and hating the world.

. I guess these feelings aren't too different from normal for me, but I think they're a bit stronger and more negative. At the moment, I wonder if this will be permanent. However, I'm doubtful it will be, which I see as both a blessing and a curse.

Try to stay positive and dont watch any porn until you are healthy!
I get what you mean, but that cant be good or bad, no reason to feel guilty about it.emotional distress happens in many forms, maybe you could try new things to do to keep you entertained or inspired even inside the house. Like go out to the garden or listen to relaxing music.

 

[TheSeks]

I feel like I go through periods of high arousal and afterward barely have any interest. But maybe enough alcohol will do the trick.

Then it isn't just me then. Nevernude.gif

 

[Deleted member 465307]

Try to stay positive and dont watch any porn until you are healthy!
I get what you mean, but that cant be good or bad, no reason to feel guilty about it.emotional distress happens in many forms, maybe you could try new things to do to keep you entertained or inspired even inside the house. Like go out to the garden or listen to relaxing music.

Oh, I never watch regular porn (defined here as video or images that portray sexual acts or full nudity) for that reason already. I'm a bit unusual like that.

Finding ways of handling my emotional distress is a good idea, as I haven't managed to do so for at least six months now. I'll look into some options once I feel okay enough to do anything more than sitting and sleeping.

 

[Mostmanlyman]

Finding ways of handling my emotional distress is a good idea, as I haven't managed to do so for at least six months now. I'll look into some options once I feel okay enough to do anything more than sitting and sleeping.

Im the same way, i need to find way to release my stress and just emotions.
Recently i have been just listening to calming music or experimental music when im just listening to music and just relax and not really think about anything.

I think im going to try to start running against now that the weather is really nice right now. I need to excise i want to keep being healthy even though im skinny and eat healthy, but i kinda dont get out that much.

 

[Kevyt]

I'm not sure if this is because I've been ill, but these past few days, I've been so completely repulsed by the idea of personally participating in sex or sexual activity of any kind at any point in the future (and anything I've done/experienced in the past).

Spoiler

I've also been repulsed by anything sexual that other people are doing/suggesting even when it has nothing to do with me, but I'm not about to start judging and hating the world.

. I guess these feelings aren't too different from normal for me, but I think they're a bit stronger and more negative. At the moment, I wonder if this will be permanent. However, I'm doubtful it will be, which I see as both a blessing and a curse.

I just read this, but I feel the same way.

Though I talk and touch on the subject, most of the time I am doing it in jest.

I can completely understand and relate. Though has this started since you got sick or always felt like that?

 

[N7Commander95]

The stuff going on the Dave Chapelle thread proves we have so far to go for full trans acceptance

People defending trans phobia as a 'an opinion' ugghhhhh

 

[Palmer27]

was it Skillet or Falling Up.

Nope neither, can't find the two cds and just spent 5 minutes googling the lyrics.

People do that to me all the time but it is not Christian rock. It is electronic music.

Probably less cringy than whatever the song was called. I believe it begins with some female voices singing "come to the water" then some blues guitar and backing 'oohs' come in.
Actually it happened to me again less awkwardly two weeks ago. I got into prog-metal recently and the particular song I handed to someone was probably the heaviest thing on my playlist at a blast-beat screamy bit lol. Electro can't be that awkward? It's an actual taste in music that isn't just Christian rock your aunt gave to you. Luckily I'm more confident in myself since the age of fucking 10.

 

[Mostmanlyman]

Probably less cringy than whatever the song was called. I believe it begins with some female voices singing "come to the water" then some blues guitar and backing 'oohs' come in.
Actually it happened to me again less awkwardly two weeks ago. I got into prog-metal recently and the particular song I handed to someone was probably the heaviest thing on my playlist at a blast-beat screamy bit lol. Electro can't be that awkward? It's an actual taste in music that isn't just Christian rock your aunt gave to you. Luckily I'm more confident in myself since the age of fucking 10.

Well it is usually like experimental shit that sometimes dont even sound like music. Yeah Christian rock is more awkward.

Also the metal thing happened to me before, basically the same story as you.

Also when ever anyone asked who im listening to they never know who it is.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

Well it is usually like experimental shit that sometimes dont even sound like music.

And yet you don't like autechre.

 

[kitchenmotors]

Love me some experimental music, especially when my faves try it and destroy careers.

 

[Mostmanlyman]

And yet you don't like autechre.

I need to give them another listen, i have them on my apple music.

I really REALLY wish i could go to levitation this year so many great people are going to be there.
Ty segal, oneohtrix point never, flying lotus, sunn o)), animal collective, parquet courts, bryan wilson preforming pet sounds.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

I need to give them another listen, i have them on my apple music.

Their discog is really varied so they can be kind of hard to get into. One of their most distinctive stylistic features is that their music has a kind of mesmerizing quality to it that only shows if you really try to follow what it's doing. But that's what makes it kind of inaccessible, you have to pay a bit of interest to it right at the beginning, and yet it might not seem that promising at the outset. For instance, each layer of their sound design can seem simple in isolation, but then they play off each other in ways that are weirdly stimulating and hard to predict, but not in a flashy or attention-grabbing way. IME it makes their stuff almost endlessly relistenable, in its minimalism there is literally no fat or unnecessary flourishes to get sick of, and then the weird stuff that it does do has a kind of longevity or non-superficial ingenuity to it... but you sort of have to get over a perception of stark or clinical minimalism to start seeing how complex it really is. And there's no guarantee that you will, a lot of people consider it unlistenable and though I strongly disagree I also can't really blame them.

 

[Soulscribe]

Looks like I'm gonna be a cat owner? My uncle is going to a nursing home and wants me to adopt his kitty. Not too farfetched since I've kitty-sat for him many times. She's the sweetest animal so I'm excited about it, though I wished it was under different circumstances.

 

[Mostmanlyman]

Their discog is really varied so they can be kind of hard to get into. One of their most distinctive stylistic features is that their music has a kind of mesmerizing quality to it that only shows if you really try to follow what it's doing. But that's what makes it kind of inaccessible, you have to pay a bit of interest to it right at the beginning, and yet it might not seem that promising at the outset. For instance, each layer of their sound design can seem simple in isolation, but then they play off each other in ways that are weirdly stimulating and hard to predict, but not in a flashy or attention-grabbing way. IME it makes their stuff almost endlessly relistenable, in its minimalism there is literally no fat or unnecessary flourishes to get sick of, and then the weird stuff that it does do has a kind of longevity or non-superficial ingenuity to it... but you sort of have to get over a perception of stark or clinical minimalism to start seeing how complex it really is. And there's no guarantee that you will, a lot of people consider it unlistenable and though I strongly disagree I also can't really blame them.

I wouldnt consider it unlistenable, i just didnt really like it that much on my first listen. I will defiantly give them another listen tonight.

Kinda off topic but i fucking love metal song titles they sound so dumb,"the fall and the guilt","there is a serpent coming". I just love how cheesy they seem.

 

[DOWN]

Looks like I'm gonna be a cat owner? My uncle is going to a nursing home and wants me to adopt his kitty. Not too farfetched since I've kitty-sat for him many times. She's the sweetest animal so I'm excited about it, though I wished it was under different circumstances.

Aw. Hope everything turns out well. That's nice of you to help.

 

[daripad]

I listen to a lot of rock and alternative, if I ever find a gay/bi guy who likes that I'm going to marry him asap

 

[Mostmanlyman]

FFFFUUUUUUUCCCCCKKKKK RUNNNNINNGGGG

 

[Veeboy]

I recently got employed at a place that plays country music in store 24/7. I used to think that I kind of liked country music but now I realize I was wrong. I might just go country crazy before I have to leave the place.

In better news, I just checked the scale and I'm 100lbs lighter today than I was one year ago so thats pretty cool.

The stuff going on the Dave Chapelle thread proves we have so far to go for full trans acceptance

People defending trans phobia as 'an opinion' ugghhhhh

Seems people can't live a happy life without their repetitive 'hilarious' attacks on the lives of trans folk.

To so many people being trans seems to be either a joke, a perversion, or some mixture of the two. It wasn't that long ago that LGB folks were in the same position. Hopefully in the future, with time and efffort, we'll be able to move forward away from this kind of crap.

 

[daripad]

FFFFUUUUUUUCCCCCKKKKK RUNNNNINNGGGG

lol what? Running is the only physical activity that I can do by myself without getting bored to tears

In better news, I just checked the scale and I'm 100lbs lighter today than I was one year ago so thats pretty cool

Hey, congrats on it you should post some comparison pics

Btw I need to lose like 30 kg but I can't stop eating like a pig :/

 

[Blood Diamonds]

there are no fucking jobs here -_- hate living in a small town ffs

 

[Aarglefarg]

I listen to a lot of rock and alternative, if I ever find a gay/bi guy who likes that I'm going to marry him asap

I am willing to learn.

 

[TheFierceGentleman]

lol what? Running is the only physical activity that I can do by myself without getting bored to tears


Hey, congrats on it you should post some comparison pics

Btw I need to lose like 30 kg but I can't stop eating like a pig :/

I always consider running the most boring part of exercise, but to each their own.
I also eat a lot of food, I just make up for it by eating lots of fruits, mostly oranges and bananas. But, since I've started doing that along with exercise, I've made some progress.

Also, just a tip for anyone interested, I was told by my exercise savvy brother a day ago that you should warm up your body by running a mile before any weightlifting and end the workout with another run in order to lose weight faster.

 

[Skyward Sheep]

there are no fucking jobs here -_- hate living in a small town ffs

I know the feeling, I've been looking for a job for a while now :/

 

[Crayons]

I listen to a lot of rock and alternative, if I ever find a gay/bi guy who likes that I'm going to marry him asap

there are no fucking jobs here -_- hate living in a small town ffs

I feel you, but I live in a big city. Over here it's like "looking for dishwasher must have 5 years of experience, college degree in dishwashology recommended"

 

[Mostmanlyman]

I recently got employed at a place that plays country music in store 24/7. I used to think that I kind of liked country music but now I realize I was wrong. I might just go country crazy before I have to leave the place.

In better news, I just checked the scale and I'm 100lbs lighter today than I was one year ago so thats pretty cool.

Congrats

lol what? Running is the only physical activity that I can do by myself without getting bored to tears

I havent ran i like a year, i like running when it doesnt fucking kill. Atleast i got trap, rap and punk to keep me going.

I did track all last year so i can run pretty damn good.

 

[Veeboy]

lol what? Running is the only physical activity that I can do by myself without getting bored to tears

Same, its when I catch up on podcasts or listen to audiobooks.

Hey, congrats on it you should post some comparison pics

Btw I need to lose like 30 kg but I can't stop eating like a pig :/

Thanks! I'd post comparison pics, but the only before pics I have are shirtless and super unflattering so I'm not posting that anywhere, lol. Plus I still have 80+lbs that I have to lose so I'm still not exactly where I want to be. Maybe then I'll post something.

Also, trust me I know that feeling. I still pig out on occasion. My philosophy is that as long as the non-pigout days don't outnumber the normal days then everything is fine.

there are no fucking jobs here -_- hate living in a small town ffs

I know what you mean. If I wanted to work in my hometown I had my choice of working at the gas station, the McDonalds, or the other gas station. None of them were looking for employees so I was SOL.

Congrats

Thanks!

 

[CornBurrito]

John Cena is really quite cute. Maybe a tad too large for my tastes, but he's cuuute.

 

[Mostmanlyman]

John Cena is really quite cute. Maybe a tad too large for my tastes, but he's cuuute.

Yeah i agree.

 

[Veeboy]

John Cena is really quite cute. Maybe a tad too large for my tastes, but he's cuuute.

I mean, I would boff. He is a little bulky for me, but I'd still go for it.

 

[Grakl]

Running is literally the most boring thing in the world tbh

 

[TheFierceGentleman]

I recently got employed at a place that plays country music in store 24/7. I used to think that I kind of liked country music but now I realize I was wrong. I might just go country crazy before I have to leave the place.

In better news, I just checked the scale and I'm 100lbs lighter today than I was one year ago so thats pretty cool.

It just registered in my mind you just said you lost 100lbs, holy fuck, good job.

 

[Skyward Sheep]

I listen to a lot of rock and alternative, if I ever find a gay/bi guy who likes that I'm going to marry him asap

Well hello there

 

[Grakl]

I listen to a lot of rock and alternative, if I ever find a gay/bi guy who likes that I'm going to marry him asap

I thought like literally everyone listens to some rock and alt rock

 

[Veeboy]

It just registered in my mind you just said you lost 100lbs, holy fuck, good job.

Thanks! Still got a ways to go, but it feels good to have actually lost weight consistently for the first time in my life.

 

[daripad]

I am willing to learn.

Well hello there

hey all

Spoiler

pls pm me pix

.

Spoiler

j/k

I thought like literally everyone listens to some rock and alt rock

not where I live

I also eat a lot of food, I just make up for it by eating lots of fruits, mostly oranges and bananas. But, since I've started doing that along with exercise, I've made some progress

the problem is I love junk food (fortunately I hate soda)

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well, keep doing what you're doing and do your goal

Running is literally the most boring thing in the world tbh

You are the most boring thing in the world tbh

 

[DOWN]

idk if anyone else is watching I Am Cait but I feel like it's going in a good direction. seems like good learning and softening is going on with an overall good cast.