Support NeoGAF

[RM8]

If he accepts this with relaxed body language

Hmmm... who knows. I would act like this with friends, but maybe not with a guy I like.

 

[Dead Prince]

Hmmm... who knows. I would act like this with friends, but maybe not with a guy I like.

did you ever go on a second date with your guy. and did girl try to make any advances since?

 

[RM8]

did you ever go on a second date with your guy. and did girl try to make any advances since?

Yup, but things with the dude eventually halted to a stop, I think it was my fault I have another date soon, though! This time I'll try to, uh, be a bit more upfront. Some people don't fancy starting as strictly platonic friends, I guess, and that sucks. It's embarrassing being so inept at dating at my age, smh.

Girl texts me all the time, she recently sent me a pic of a Mexican restaurant she saw in Osaka. I enjoy her friendship! She's basically my first female friend since college, lol. Not counting my friends' girlfriends, but I know better than getting too attached to them :v

 

[daripad]

Yeah.
Don't care for Beyoncé, Lady Gaga, Madonna, Mariah, Britney, Lana.

Don't hate them or trash them, can recognize why many do like them and they're all quite talented.

But my gay license was revoked long ago when it comes to music. Same with Cher. XD

Me too, sis. Let's get married! xD

 

[DOWN]

Ok but Beyonce is fantastic

 

[BlueBadger]

I always knew I liked you boo

<3 <3 xoxoxoxo <3 <3

 

[Dead Prince]

Yup, but things with the dude eventually halted to a stop, I think it was my fault I have another date soon, though! This time I'll try to, uh, be a bit more upfront. Some people don't fancy starting as strictly platonic friends, I guess, and that sucks. It's embarrassing being so inept at dating at my age, smh.

Girl texts me all the time, she recently sent me a pic of a Mexican restaurant she saw in Osaka. I enjoy her friendship! She's basically my first female friend since college, lol. Not counting my friends' girlfriends, but I know better than getting too attached to them :v

her s.link is strong.

and good luck with the new guy. just go ahead and have sex on the first date so they know it's more than platonic. no one judging you here.

 

[CornBurrito]

her s.link is strong.

and good luck with the new guy. just go ahead and have sex on the first date so they know it's more than platonic. no one judging you here.

Don't know why you are trying to sabotage him by omitting some key information.

It isn't enough to have sex on the first date. You need to also go bareback. Direct skin/skin contact is the only way to demonstrate that you want for it to mean more.

If you aren't willing to bareback on the first date, I assure you they will leave you for someone who is.

 

[Ambitious]

More people on GAF have seen my penis than have seen my fully exposed face.


I think you look good. No need to hide your hotness from us.

Sometimes you gotta own what you got to work with. I think going lower on the sides might also help a bit with the top area having more hair. Also you could try talking with a hair stylist that might be able to get you something that would compliment your features.

We should rename Letters-gaf "unwarranted low-self-esteem-gaf". You look fine. Nobody looks great with a giant blur over their face though.

I think buzzing would look great on you. I plan to go that route since my hairline is receding. Just need to get buff before my hair completely goes away.



Wait . . . I assumed you were joking

Spoiler

You're not kidding?

Well, thanks. I guess my appearance could be worse.
I think I'm gonna head to the barber this week. Might try a buzz cut first, and have them shave my head if I don't like the buzz.

Hello again, LGBTQIA-GAF.

 

[Elitist1945]

Hold eye contact and smile, let him notice you casually checking out his body, and get as physically close as you can without being weird about it. If he accepts this with relaxed body language, or better, returns your subtle advances, you can escalate the flirtation a little with more obvious looks and incidental contact.

It's a game of putting out and reading signals. You start out really discreet and adjust to his responses. Just take it slow and pay close attention to his reactions.

See, I feel like I've done all of those lol.

 

[Deleted member 465307]

Well, thanks. I guess my appearance could be worse.
I think I'm gonna head to the barber this week. Might try a buzz cut first, and have them shave my head if I don't like the buzz.

Hello again, LGBTQIA-GAF.

Nice photo! I think you'll look good with either a buzzed or shaved head, so it'll be great!

 

[CornBurrito]

I dun fucked up...

I was going to play some Pandemic with some strangers tonight. They changed plans and want to go to some mall and watch a movie. I agreed to the change.

But I'm having some anxiety now because idk how comfortable I'll be just walking around at a mall with people I dont know well. Unlike with board games there's nothing to fall back on when discussion falters.

And now its a bit late to change plans. And it'd seem weird.

I think I have anxiety issues.

 

[JCX]

I dun fucked up...

I was going to play some Pandemic with some strangers tonight. They changed plans and want to go to some mall and watch a movie. I agreed to the change.

But I'm having some anxiety now because idk how comfortable I'll be just walking around at a mall with people I dont know well. Unlike with board games there's nothing to fall back on when discussion falters.

And now its a bit late to change plans. And it'd seem weird.

I think I have anxiety issues.

I feel you there. I hate when friends make abrupt changes like that, so i couldn't imagine it with strangers.

I also do not know how to hang out unless there is a defined activity.

Just remember it isn't your responsibility to keep the conversation going - ask them open ended questions to keep them talking. On the bright side, hanging with strangers makes asking questions easy.

 

[alvmew]

Hey Letters-GAF. Haven't posted here in a while - hope all is well with you all.

Also, I saw the selfie party happening - good looking bunch as always! Figured I would join with two pics of mine from this past weekend. ^-^

 

[Dead Prince]

I dun fucked up...

I was going to play some Pandemic with some strangers tonight. They changed plans and want to go to some mall and watch a movie. I agreed to the change.

But I'm having some anxiety now because idk how comfortable I'll be just walking around at a mall with people I dont know well. Unlike with board games there's nothing to fall back on when discussion falters.

And now its a bit late to change plans. And it'd seem weird.

I think I have anxiety issues.

get drunk before you go.

 

[DOWN]

Hey Letters-GAF. Haven't posted here in a while - hope all is well with you all.

Also, I saw the selfie party happening - good looking bunch as always! Figured I would join with two pics of mine from this past weekend. ^-^

Do you lose weight?! Looking great

 

[umop_3pisdn]

GoT has been stupid for a while now, but that's what makes it fun. I'm glad Meli

Spoiler

isn't perma saggy boobs.

Kinda sad Bran flakes is back, though. He's so boring.

And I just got what your username means because my phone was upside down when I picked it up. Stunning revelation

That's true, but I found it more forgivable before, maybe my good will hadn't been completely expended yet.

Actually, I'm finding it to be something of an improvement over the last two seasons. I mean, so far. Things are actually happening. Subplots are developing at a snappy pace. That's a good thing. I have serious issues with the show's writing in past years, so it's not as though I'm predisposed to cut it any slack here.

I find that while things are happening, it feels like only things are happening. Like events play out on the screen and they're so dictated by convenience and the need for 'things to happen' that I have literally no emotional connection to anything that happens anymore, and I actually end up feeling extremely bored amidst everything, lol.

It's almost insulting.


But it has stupid and sexy dragons, I can't escape it.

Yeah, I don't know. A part of me feels sort of committed to the series at this point, but if every episode feels like work to get through like the last one did, then I probably need to rethink things.

See, I feel like I've done all of those lol.

'Gaydar' is basically recognizing an intimation of vulnerability/desire in another person. You recognize it in another person because you experience the same feeling. Passion basically has the characteristic of consuming or being consumed, our responses to it are usually to push back (aggression) or try to take it in and claim possession of it (seduce). Before that happens there's usually a moment where you just feel enlivened, you want to take in more of the features and characteristics of whatever it is you're fascinated by. It sort of creates a feeling of loneliness, because realizing that something is bright or fascinating 'out there' makes you realize that you're still 'over here'. So there's a sort of vulnerability nested in it. It's kind of like, people never get angry over things less threatening than them, they only get angry at things more threatening than them. I'm talking about desire, not anger, but it's the same sort of thing. There's that vulnerability there. Gaydar is just the art of recognizing and communicating a degree of passion that is simultaneously overt and covert, so the people who want to recognize it will recognize it unambiguously, and the people that don't want to recognize it won't (imo).

 

[CornBurrito]

I feel you there. I hate when friends make abrupt changes like that, so i couldn't imagine it with strangers.

I also do not know how to hang out unless there is a defined activity.

Just remember it isn't your responsibility to keep the conversation going - ask them open ended questions to keep them talking. On the bright side, hanging with strangers makes asking questions easy.

At the very least the movie will provide shit to talk about.

 

[Deleted member 465307]

I feel you there. I hate when friends make abrupt changes like that, so i couldn't imagine it with strangers.

I also do not know how to hang out unless there is a defined activity.

Just remember it isn't your responsibility to keep the conversation going - ask them open ended questions to keep them talking. On the bright side, hanging with strangers makes asking questions easy.

Agreed. Additionally, CB can always talk about the mall itself. Malls, in my experience, are full of weird and interesting things. Then again, I think almost everything is interesting, so I'm easy to please.

 

[DOWN]

At the very least the movie will provide shit to talk about.

 

[You Know Nothing]

And then for Aunt Sandy, a bottle of white wine.

Sandra Lee is a gift.

 

[Dead Prince]

And then for Aunt Sandy, a bottle of white wine.

Sandra Lee is a gift.

lol. her measurements though. cup of peaches. bitch put the whole bag in

 

[alvmew]

Do you lose weight?! Looking great

Thanks!

And kind of? I don't remember when was the last time I posted a picture in one of these threads, but: over the first six months of 2015 I lost about 50 lbs. Second half of the year I just maintained that (got super busy with school and preparing for the LSAT). Now over the course of this year I've been maintaining my weight, but leaning out. Planning on hitting the gym extra hard between now and when I move to LA for law school.

 

[Pamplemousse]

Wait . . . I assumed you were joking

Spoiler

You're not kidding?

I wouldn't make a trailer to a non-existent movie. GAF has access to my dong 24/7.

And then for Aunt Sandy, a bottle of white wine.

Sandra Lee is a gift.

Sandra is my spirit animal. &#10084;&#65039;

 

[berzeli]

And then for Aunt Sandy, a bottle of white wine.

Sandra Lee is a gift.

I love this woman so much.

Almost as much as I love a good old fashioned:

(I can't believe that youtube channel is real)

 

[Terrorblot]

Hey ya'll I'm Robin!

Your gender? Transwoman
Your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Where Are You From? Manchester, CT
Where Do You Live? Manchester, CT
How Old Are you? 26
Favorite Type of Music? Hip-Hop, Electronica, Folk/Indie/Pop Rock
Profession or Career interest? I'm a Cardiac Monitor Technician but my bachelors is in Illustration and I still hope to eventually use it. One day.
Favorite video game(s)? Metal Gear Solid, Shin Megami, Mario Bros 3 / World, Morrowind, Undertale, Earthbound / Mother 3.
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? drawing cartoons, critiquing film & television, reading? Trying to get better with makeup and failing horrifically

What's uppppp? :3

 

[Elitist1945]

'Gaydar' is basically recognizing an intimation of vulnerability/desire in another person. You recognize it in another person because you experience the same feeling. Passion basically has the characteristic of consuming or being consumed, our responses to it are usually to push back (aggression) or try to take it in and claim possession of it (seduce). Before that happens there's usually a moment where you just feel enlivened, you want to take in more of the features and characteristics of whatever it is you're fascinated by. It sort of creates a feeling of loneliness, because realizing that something is bright or fascinating 'out there' makes you realize that you're still 'over here'. So there's a sort of vulnerability nested in it. It's kind of like, people never get angry over things less threatening than them, they only get angry at things more threatening than them. I'm talking about desire, not anger, but it's the same sort of thing. There's that vulnerability there. Gaydar is just the art of recognizing and communicating a degree of passion that is simultaneously overt and covert, so the people who want to recognize it will recognize it unambiguously, and the people that don't want to recognize it won't (imo).

Thats like a whole other language to me haha. I'll figure it out one day (I hope).

 

[Blood Diamonds]

when your sister asks to use your computer for like 3 mins but you have to delete all of your incredible porn bookmarks because they pop up in the address bar no matter what

;___; it was all so good

 

[umop_3pisdn]

Thats like a whole other language to me haha. I'll figure it out one day (I hope).

I think the point is that it's not about doing the right thing or performing a series of steps, it's just recognizing and exercising control over the forces in play. The reason people usually have trouble with that is they don't realize there's a greater axis or continuum in their feelings or experiences, usually between what we see as 'positive' (passion, interest, etc) and what we see as 'negative' (vulnerability, isolation). We have to be willing to deal with both, and not just chop it off halfway because half of the equation makes us uncomfortable, otherwise we're just staying in our comfort zone and not accomplishing anything or seeing how all these causes and conditions actually interact in a real way. If you can do that you can be as bold as you want to be, and not balk at the boldness in other people, because in either case you know you won't be consumed.

 

[Terrorblot]

when your sister asks to use your computer for like 3 mins but you have to delete all of your incredible porn bookmarks because they pop up in the address bar no matter what

;___; it was all so good

This is what having a second web browser is for. Firefox is for the nasty stuff.

 

[Mostmanlyman]

when your sister asks to use your computer for like 3 mins but you have to delete all of your incredible porn bookmarks because they pop up in the address bar no matter what

;___; it was all so good

Lol, yeah im so paranoid about stuff like that, so usually im pretty smart about it and safe about it. I save all of porn bookmarks on this random note page. But porn bookmarks are nothing compared to if they found my toy, that would be way worst.

 

[You Know Nothing]

I love this woman so much.

Almost as much as I love a good old fashioned:

(I can't believe that youtube channel is real)

This is my new favorite Youtube channel.

lmao

 

[Terrorblot]

Lol, yeah im so paranoid about stuff like that, so usually im pretty smart about it and safe about it. I save all of porn bookmarks on this random note page. But porn bookmarks are nothing compared to if they found my toy, that would be way worst.

I'm trans and I remember the most humiliating thing I ever got caught with was a skirt of my moms when I was like, 15. I stole it and to make it even weirder I cut it up into a horrible attempt at a miniskirt with like a pair of meat scissors from the knife block in the kitchen. I felt gross and shameful about it and it spent most of the time crumpled up on the bottom of my closet, which my mom found later when she randomly decided to clean it without my permission. She was furious and I remembered being panicked and scared but also relieved that maybe after this I was out and I'd be able to confront it. Nope, she was convinced I had cut it up and destroyed it just like, to piss her off or something? I stayed in the closet for another 10 years. I brought it up to her after coming out and she has no memory of the incident.

 

[Mostmanlyman]

Yeah just a week ago i almost got caught crossdressing in my moms clothes, like i was in my room on my bed all dressed up after telling everyone in my house i was going to bed. Then my mom starts to open my door so i throw all my sheets on top of me and hope nothing is poking out, and then she just had to ask me what time i wanted to leave tomorrow morning for school. It was my biggest scare with stuff like that in a long time.
Things like this is one reason why i cant wait to be in college.

 

[Blood Diamonds]

This is what having a second web browser is for. Firefox is for the nasty stuff.

I should probably do something like this in the future, lol. Welcome to the thread btw!! Hope you stick around!

Lol, yeah im so paranoid about stuff like that, so usually im pretty smart about it and safe about it. I save all of porn bookmarks on this random note page. But porn bookmarks are nothing compared to if they found my toy, that would be way worst.

Yeah, I've had my laptop for almost a year now and like no one touches it so I thought it was pretty safe. Sigh.... some of the shit I had saved was just so good... rip

 

[Elitist1945]

One of my friends told their friends about my sexuality (I'm closeted) and I got approached on Twitter about it which put me in a very awkward situation. I (probably unconvincingly) talked them out of believing I'm gay. I'm pretty upset right now lol.

 

[RatskyWatsky]

I find that while things are happening, it feels like only things are happening. Like events play out on the screen and they're so dictated by convenience and the need for 'things to happen' that I have literally no emotional connection to anything that happens anymore, and I actually end up feeling extremely bored amidst everything, lol.

This perfectly describes the last 2 seasons of the show.

lol. her measurements though. cup of peaches. bitch put the whole bag in

lmao

Hey ya'll I'm Robin!

Your gender? Transwoman
Your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Where Are You From? Manchester, CT
Where Do You Live? Manchester, CT
How Old Are you? 26
Favorite Type of Music? Hip-Hop, Electronica, Folk/Indie/Pop Rock
Profession or Career interest? I'm a Cardiac Monitor Technician but my bachelors is in Illustration and I still hope to eventually use it. One day.
Favorite video game(s)? Metal Gear Solid, Shin Megami, Mario Bros 3 / World, Morrowind, Undertale, Earthbound / Mother 3.
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? drawing cartoons, critiquing film & television, reading? Trying to get better with makeup and failing horrifically

What's uppppp? :3

Welcome to the thread!

 

[Deleted member 465307]

Welcome Terrorblot!

One of my friends told their friends about my sexuality (I'm closeted) and I got approached on Twitter about it which put me in a very awkward situation. I (probably unconvincingly) talked them out of believing I'm gay. I'm pretty upset right now lol.

I was upset the first time I heard my friend say, "Oh, I told ____ you're gay." Sometimes people don't understand the place you're mentally in regarding your sexuality and that it's your thing to say until you say otherwise. Your example of then being asked about it on Twitter (hopefully not publicly, but I expect it was) is exactly why until you're ready for the information to be public, people should keep it to themselves. They don't have to deal with the consequences and often don't understand if they're cis/straight.

I'm now at a point with my friend that I don't care who he tells, and maybe that'll be you eventually. But I can empathize completely with your experience. I'm sorry it unfolded like that. I'd ask your friend to not tell people in the future until you say so.

 

[Elitist1945]

I was upset the first time I heard my friend say, "Oh, I told ____ you're gay." Sometimes people don't understand the place you're mentally in regarding your sexuality and that it's your thing to say until you say otherwise. Your example of then being asked about it on Twitter (hopefully not publicly, but I expect it was) is exactly why until you're ready for the information to be public, people should keep it to themselves. They don't have to deal with the consequences and often don't understand if they're cis/straight.

I'm now at a point with my friend that I don't care who he tells, and maybe that'll be you eventually. But I can empathize completely with your experience. I'm sorry it unfolded like that. I'd ask your friend to not tell people in the future until you say so.

I feel vulnerable now if that makes sense lol. I don't like being out of control when it comes to stuff about myself.

 

[Deleted member 465307]

I feel vulnerable now if that makes sense lol. I don't like being out of control when it comes to stuff about myself.

That was 100% me and makes complete sense. That's okay and absolutely understandable. I was in low-key internal panic when I found out my friend had been telling people and it took a lot of effort to act normal during our conversation. If you're like me, it'll pass eventually. For me, over time my sexual identity became something I no longer felt like I needed to be in control of (in most cases).

Your feeling of vulnerability is entirely reasonable.

 

[Terrorblot]

Welcome to the thread!

Hey thanks!

I feel vulnerable now if that makes sense lol. I don't like being out of control when it comes to stuff about myself.

That's an awful situation to be in. I hope you told that person off.

 

[DOWN]

when your sister asks to use your computer for like 3 mins but you have to delete all of your incredible porn bookmarks because they pop up in the address bar no matter what

;___; it was all so good

Around 20 I had all the bookmark loss I could take and now just say use at your own risk

 

[Crayons]

I'm pretty damn sure this boy has a thing for me, but now that I know he likes me, I'm like "Oh" and no longer interested.

 

[Vazra]

I got some recipes to try. ( &#865;° &#860;&#662; &#865;°)

 

[Lucario]

3 year relationship just ended. Fuck everything.

 

[BlueBadger]

3 year relationship just ended. Fuck everything.

Oh no.. I'm so, so sorry. Don't hesitate to PM me if you need anything or just need to vent.

 

[DOWN]

3 year relationship just ended. Fuck everything.

Sorry to hear that man. You'll find the right thing later on.

 

[Bladenic]

3 year relationship just ended. Fuck everything.

So sorry boo

 

[Crayons]

3 year relationship just ended. Fuck everything.

drink til it doesn't hurt anymore

 

[Mostmanlyman]

3 year relationship just ended. Fuck everything.

Damn im sorry.