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[Monocle]

What if I don't want to get it over with?

Well that's cool and everything, but waiting a long time can lead to inflated expectations and disappointment. (Unless you're uncommonly low key and don't care much about physical intimacy.) The main appeal in getting it over with once you're well past the time most people have kissed someone is to prove to yourself that it's not some otherworldly experience, but rather an ordinary activity that, like anything else, can be made special by your company and situation.

Plus, it's nice to be decent at kissing by the time you find someone you really like.

I'd rather my first time be with someone I trust and am comfortable around. I can wait until that happens.

Some strangers can make you feel comfortable almost immediately, just saying. I'm not suggesting you have to rush into anything just because. But if you have a certain anxiety about making your first time "right," it could be that you've built up unrealistic expectations over the years. No harm at all in waiting. As long as you're being true to yourself and doing what's right for you, it's all good.

 

[dryuriev7777]

Foster care must be interesting... Are you a social worker?

Not in DSS no, but I work for an agency that's hired through DSS/DFS to handle day to day care including fostering, intensive in-home, group homes, etc.

Are you in Northern Virginia?

I am! Traffic here is literally the devil and every time I drive to/from work it takes me an hour to go 25-30 miles and I want to die.

Welcome!

Thank you!

 

[Pamplemousse]

I'm not really sure if people are taking your posts seriously. I think it is more people just don't find the shtick funny.

It's not a shtick, though. It's just who I am. Guess that's why I get no second dates. :-(

Been on a 90s music binge lately. Classic Britney and Madonna songs, on repeat.

No Aqua?

 

[Henchmen21]

Been on a 90s music binge lately. Classic Britney and Madonna songs, on repeat.



Wow thats a very detailed OP.

EDIT: Oh god, amazing thread.

Since when is 90s Madonna classic Madonna?

 

[Ardainian Soldier]

Well that's cool and everything, but waiting a long time can lead to inflated expectations and disappointment. (Unless you're uncommonly low key and don't care much about physical intimacy.) The main appeal in getting it over with once you're well past the time most people have kissed someone is to prove to yourself that it's not some otherworldly experience, but rather an ordinary activity that, like anything else, can be made special by your company and situation.

Plus, it's nice to be decent at kissing by the time you find someone you really like.


Some strangers can make you feel comfortable almost immediately, just saying. I'm not suggesting you have to rush into anything just because. But if you have a certain anxiety about making your first time "right," it could be that you've built up unrealistic expectations over the years. No harm at all in waiting. As long as you're being true to yourself and doing what's right for you, it's all good.

I don't really have expectations. I know strangers can make me comfortable but the ones I've met haven't lol. I would just rather wait/look for someone that I feel okay with. I tried stepping out of my comfort zone by having a bit more fun lately but I haven't enjoyed myself. Random hookups are definitely not me being true to myself lol.

 

[kitchenmotors]

Since when is 90s Madonna classic Madonna?

Are you kidding me?

Ray of Light was an instant classic and is one, if not the best album in her catalog.

It's not a shtick, though. It's just who I am. Guess that's why I get no second dates. :-(

Just try to change your way of dealing with people. Although when people are already adults, it's hard to change something that is hard wired. You would need to see a professional to deal with your issues.

 

[Alrus]

Pegging thread in OT. Oh lordy.

As per, generic OP poster's answer about anything relating to butt stuff is childish as fuck.

 

[Zero²]

It's not a shtick, though. It's just who I am. Guess that's why I get no second dates. :-(

Awww dont let it get to you, some people love drama queens.

 

[kitchenmotors]

Awww dont let it get to you, some people love drama queens.

Sorry, but I think this sets a bad tone that no one should follow. It's an excuse to continue behavior that people shouldn't be rewarded for. Just because people love drama queens, douche bags and seek that sort of person for a relationship doesn't mean it will be successful in the long run. Many times, I've seen the exact opposite and it almost always comes crashing down, not only in relationships but in friendships.

As we've seen even in this thread, this behavior is off putting and drags down everyone with it.

 

[Pamplemousse]

Awww dont let it get to you, some people love drama queens.

Thanks. I don't think I'm a drama queen, though, just overly sarcastic.

As we've seen even in this thread, this behavior is off putting and drags down everyone with it.

I try to keep my self loathing out as much as possible. I know that's unpleasant for others. Other than that I don't see a problem.

 

[RobotNinjaHornets]

Pamplemousse, have you gone to doctor about mental health issues? Because I would highly recommend it. I didn't for ages because I always thought I didn't need to, but a few months ago I got diagnosed with social anxiety and since then a LOT has happened that wouldn't have. I started messaging people on dating sites. I came out as bi. I have asked people out. People have seen me naked. None of that would have happened at all. So yeah, you might not think it will help, but it's worth doing because it might.

 

[Pamplemousse]

Pamplemousse, have you gone to doctor about mental health issues? Because I would highly recommend it. I didn't for ages because I always thought I didn't need to, but a few months ago I got diagnosed with social anxiety and since then a LOT has happened that wouldn't have. I started messaging people on dating sites. I came out as bi. I have asked people out. People have seen me naked. None of that would have happened at all. So yeah, you might not think it will help, but it's worth doing because it might.

Yes, I have. Thanks for caring. I'm glad things are going well for you! I have the rest of my life planned out, though.

 

[Tuck]

Since when is 90s Madonna classic Madonna?

Lol I know very little about her, I just assumed.

 

[Zero²]

Sorry, but I think this sets a bad tone that no one should follow. It's an excuse to continue behavior that people shouldn't be rewarded for. Just because people love drama queens, douche bags and seek that sort of person for a relationship doesn't mean it will be successful in the long run. Many times, I've seen the exact opposite and it almost always comes crashing down, not only in relationships but in friendships.

As we've seen even in this thread, this behavior is off putting and drags down everyone with it.

Well I'm not one to come judging on how someone should act or what is accepted or not. If you really think this is unhealthy for him, tell him so and he will do what he think it's best for him.
When I said that it was ok for him to be a drama queen I was not saying it was ok for him to do unnecessary drama, just that's ok if he acts emotional and passional about things.

 

[dryuriev7777]

Everyone should talk to a therapist/counselor at some point.

So for some reason I seem to inadvertently subconsciously invite people to open up about their sex lives. Maybe it's because I can be open about my boring tastes or my various shortcomings? I find out things about people that I'm really better off not knowing. Girlfriends detailing wild bisexual orgies, my straight male boss from my last job telling me his adventures in finding his prostate, a gay male coworker telling me he's running into a variety of people he's slept with via grindr and they're all hooking up with each other and all the diseases and such.

I mean my stories are "so I slept with a gentleman but my penis is small haha sex is gross", but people insist on giving me exact measurements and the volume of STUFF AND NO WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME. I make fun of a straight guy friend and say he's like an inch and he proceeds to give me a realistic size and curvature for some reason and I don't understand. It was a joke and I guess he either masterfully turned it around on me or he wants me to solve for x to find the angle of his cock or something.

I'm not particularly opposed to the conversations; they just pop up out of nowhere.

 

[Grakl]

dude what

I was joking lul

 

[Wil348]

Sorry for the late reply guys, super busy weekend.

Hey there gay parties don't always involve sex! lol

What kind of pizza was it? O:

Haha I know. But they usually do, amirite?

Pretty basic pizza with cheese, ham and stuff like that. But they were really well done.

Sweet

Don't pressure yourself to have sex, imo. As long as you had fun talking to people or dancing with peeople it's a night well-spent, no?

I would like to have sex in the near future, but it wasn't that kind of party and I still enjoyed it. It was nice to be out super late for once. There was also weed and shisha there but my best friend didn't let me do either since he was worried about how I would react to them. I didn't mind though and it's always nice when he looks out for me like that.

 

[Kevyt]

Everyone should talk to a therapist/counselor at some point.

So for some reason I seem to inadvertently subconsciously invite people to open up about their sex lives. Maybe it's because I can be open about my boring tastes or my various shortcomings? I find out things about people that I'm really better off not knowing. Girlfriends detailing wild bisexual orgies, my straight male boss from my last job telling me his adventures in finding his prostate, a gay male coworker telling me he's running into a variety of people he's slept with via grindr and they're all hooking up with each other and all the diseases and such.

I mean my stories are "so I slept with a gentleman but my penis is small haha sex is gross", but people insist on giving me exact measurements and the volume of STUFF AND NO WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME. I make fun of a straight guy friend and say he's like an inch and he proceeds to give me a realistic size and curvature for some reason and I don't understand. It was a joke and I guess he either masterfully turned it around on me or he wants me to solve for x to find the angle of his cock or something.

I'm not particularly opposed to the conversations; they just pop up out of nowhere.

lol

People around me also talk about their sex lives, and it usually is out of nowhere. I think many people are sexually frustrated tbh.

It's fun hearing people talk.

 

[Elitist1945]

What are free popular gay dating apps? I don't want to pay for Grindr and they're free version is shit.

 

[Crayons]

What are free popular gay dating apps? I don't want to pay for Grindr and they're free version is shit.

Uh, I don't get it, just don't pay for Grindr? What's so bad about it?

 

[Pamplemousse]

What are free popular gay dating apps? I don't want to pay for Grindr and they're free version is shit.

Gays do Tinder for dating I think.

 

[Elitist1945]

Uh, I don't get it, just don't pay for Grindr? What's so bad about it?

Well I just downloaded it just now and it only let me see like 15 or so people before telling to upgrade to see more. And it didn't let me add any filters.

 

[Crayons]

Well I just downloaded it just now and it only let me see like 15 or so people before telling to upgrade to see more. And it didn't let me add any filters.

I see 100 guys before it tells me to upgrade to see mor e. Are you sure there's not only 15 guys near you? Lol

 

[Elitist1945]

I see 100 guys before it tells me to upgrade to see mor e. Are you sure there's not only 15 guys near you? Lol

I live in Canada so I wouldn't doubt that lol

 

[Pamplemousse]

I live in Canada so I wouldn't doubt that lol

That sucks. Will your new place be in a more populated area?

 

[Elitist1945]

That sucks. Will your new place be in a more populated area?

Its like a 15 minute walk from my current house lol.

 

[Pamplemousse]

Its like a 15 minute walk from my current house lol.

Oh. Well it sounds like you just have a limited pool where you're at. Maybe you'll find a sexy lumberjack out there in the wilderness.

 

[Elitist1945]

Oh. Well it sounds like you just have a limited pool where you're at. Maybe you'll find a sexy lumberjack out there in the wilderness.

 

[hateradio]

My first kiss was at 24.

https://media3.popsugar-assets.com/files/2013/09/23/799/n/1922283/f3f855a7f17cc855_tumblr_mtl8a2Ip8i1sbl8zpo1_400.gif

Were any of them . . . cute?

 

[Elitist1945]

My first kiss was at 24.


Were any of them . . . cute?

Not really :/ then again I'm super fucking picky.

 

[Escape Goat]

So what is going on with Nintendo right now? The NX is coming out in the Spring 2017? I've read Nintendo says they're not dropping support for Wii U or 3DS but does their game lineup support that right now? I assume the NX is going to take advantage of the amiibos?

 

[Wil348]

NX is, in fact, but a mirage and does not physically exist.

 

[Crayons]

the NX is just an amiibo system

 

[Blood Diamonds]

Supporting 3DS/Wii U just means porting Wii U games to n3DS and releasing small-scale B-tier almost C-tier games. Eurogamer said they were going to announce it in September but who knows

 

[dryuriev7777]

the NX is just an amiibo system

I will spend all of my paychecks on this.

Also where is my Bayonetta amiibo, Nintendo? You promised me dammit!

 

[Alrus]

So what is going on with Nintendo right now? The NX is coming out in the Spring 2017? I've read Nintendo says they're not dropping support for Wii U or 3DS but does their game lineup support that right now? I assume the NX is going to take advantage of the amiibos?

It's so obvious that their main dev teams are focused on a new system. The recent 3DS direct has only shown a cheap and easy port of Mario Maker, and various cheap projects that don't require much manpower. The Wii U support has been almost non existent so that's getting obviously getting phase out.

It's also obviously going to support amiibo, having a nfc reader on the nx isn't a complicated thing.

 

[Crayons]

I will spend all of my paychecks on this.

 

[Fantastical]

I'm so tired of speculating about NX. It is way past time they show us it.

 

[Alrus]

I'm so tired of speculating about NX. It is way past time they show us it.

But then we'll get thousands of posts discussing the specs of what will almost assuredly be a disappointing system power wise compared to Sony and Msoft's systems.

 

[RatskyWatsky]

I think I just found Lana Del Rey's best song

i knew what this was before i clicked it

 

[Henchmen21]

Last good Nintendo system was the Cube. Yup, I said it!

 

[Alrus]

Last good Nintendo system was the Cube. Yup, I said it!

I respectfully disagree. Nintendo's output on the cube was quite mediocre. The Wii was vastly superior.

 

[Vazra]

Last good Nintendo system was the Cube. Yup, I said it!

I agree. The Wii had some gems here and there but nothing there had the replay value or charm of the Cube games. Even Baten Kaitos and their bathroom recorded voice acting have a charm that you cant find in Xenoblade or The Last Story.

Spoiler

I liked Pandora's Tower more than Xenoblade and The Last Story but that's another debate for another time.

 

[Blood Diamonds]

Last good Nintendo system was the Cube. Yup, I said it!

Absolutely not. The GC doesn't even have games like No More Heroes 1&2 or Tatsunoko vs Capcom or Okami or RE4 with motion controls or Xenoblade Chronicles or Sengoku Basara or Sonic Colors

and that's just third party games. Also, the DS and 3DS alone shit on the gamecube.

 

[Vazra]

Absolutely not. The GC doesn't even have games like No More Heroes 1&2 or Tatsunoko vs Capcom or Okami or RE4 with motion controls or Xenoblade Chronicles or Sengoku Basara or Sonic Colors

and that's just third party games. Also, the DS and 3DS alone shit on the gamecube.

Ehhh Soul Calibur 2 > TvC (I love TvC but it aint all that)
NMH doesnt touch K7 and the combat was basic. Great boss fights tho.
RE4 on Wii is extremely easy with motion control to the point it gets boring.
Sonic Colors I may give you that but Sanic lol
Sengoku Basara? Musou games? Lol

 

[RatskyWatsky]

 

[Fantastical]

Ehhh Soul Calibur 2 > TvC (I love TvC but it aint all that)
NMH doesnt touch K7 and the combat was basic. Great boss fights tho.
RE4 on Wii is extremely easy with motion control to the point it gets boring.
Sonic Colors I may give you that but Sanic lol
Sengoku Basara? Musou games? Lol

Remind me again which system has Super Mario Galaxy...

 

[Ardainian Soldier]

I live in Canada so I wouldn't doubt that lol

A fellow Canadian

 

[dryuriev7777]

Everyone is wrong. Wii U is better than Cube or Wii because

Just look at those giant fucking roses on her hips. Eat your heart out, literally every Nintendo system before this.

 

[Vazra]

Remind me again which system has Super Mario Galaxy...

Mario 64 shits on Galaxy tho.

Everyone is wrong. Wii U is better than Cube or Wii because

Just look at those giant fucking roses on her hips. Eat your heart out, literally every Nintendo system before this.

You read that I liked Bayonetta and trying to flirt with me?