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LGBTQIA+ |OT9| The Return of the Queen

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driggonny

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Palmer27 said:
Question coming from a place of narcissistic curiosity (rather than only narcissism), should I try getting my brows tinted for the first time in the expert opinion of you, yes YOU ( http://imgur.com/gallery/dV0ok )?
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I think they look fine. Why do you want to get them tinted?

Rayis said:
Valentine's is one of those days when I find the people complaining about the holiday more annoying than the holiday itself, have some self-respect and dignity single people.
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Hey, I've never complained about Valentine's day! Even though I'm all alone and the love of my life
(my cat)
has been missing for a week... :,(

Okay now I'm complaining

Oh well, I had a nice depression pizza so all is good.
 
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Berordn

Member
It's Valentines Day, I'm working late, and my boyfriend broke up with me five days ago (my birthday).

And also he won't stop touching me.

What do, lettersfriends.
 
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Vazra

irresponsible vagina leak
Berordn said:
It's Valentines Day, I'm working late, and my boyfriend broke up with me five days ago (my birthday).

And also he won't stop touching me.

What do, lettersfriends.
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What is the point of breaking up if he is still touching you? Personally when I break up I need a break from dealing with that person to process what happened and certainly no touching/teasing/etc.

If you are ok with the touching then fine but if you are not okay with that tell him to give you space and maybe just talk less than the usual since afterall you may need time to process the break up and maybe figure other things out along the way.
 
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Berordn

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We're still living together, at least until the lease is up in May, but he had the idea of breaking up because he's been depressed (or just unhappy? I'm not too sure) of late and I sort of lost the will to fight for us staying together since it's not a new subject.

But he's gone through the whole spectrum of wanting space to wanting to still be physically intimate in this short span, and I've just been kind of caught up in the whirlwind of it all. I don't want to cut him out for selfish reasons, but also because I'm worried of what he might do on his own.
 
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Vazra

irresponsible vagina leak
Berordn said:
We're still living together, at least until the lease is up in May, but he had the idea of breaking up because he's been depressed (or just unhappy? I'm not too sure) of late and I sort of lost the will to fight for us staying together since it's not a new subject.

But he's gone through the whole spectrum of wanting space to wanting to still be physically intimate in this short span, and I've just been kind of caught up in the whirlwind of it all. I don't want to cut him out for selfish reasons, but also because I'm worried of what he might do on his own.
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You can try to be his friend but you have no obligation to do those things if you dont want to do them. Try sleeping in another room and if he gets touchy feely and you dont want it let him know. Don't put yourself in an emotional hazard just cause you dont wanna hurt his feelings when he already hurt yours by breaking up. You can have a talk if he is sure about the break up since he is wanting to get intimate with you and overall seems confusing since he technically just broke up with you a few days ago.
 
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Bladenic

Member
The Golden Girls and Rihanna Grammy gifs are bringing me such joy tonight 💖

Hope everyone has a sex-filled night, and it not, a great night regardless
 
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CornBurrito

Member
This is a dumb question, but do you go to a General Practitioner (ex. the people who do your annual checkup) for libido/sex stuff as well? Or is that a specialist thing? Or will I be referred to some specialist?

Sadly the earliest appointment I can get is in like a month. I feel somewhat inadequate.
 
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Fantastical

Death Prophet
God damn I'm really starting to lose my hair. Gay death. RIP

Luckily you can't tell too much if you're looking at me straight on but if you look at the top of my head you can see parts of my scalp. :x
 
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Vazra

irresponsible vagina leak
Fantastical said:
God damn I'm really starting to lose my hair. Gay death. RIP

Luckily you can't tell too much if you're looking at me straight on but if you look at the top of my head you can see parts of my scalp. :x
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Just embrace it and do short haircuts.
 
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Bladenic

Member
Fantastical said:
God damn I'm really starting to lose my hair. Gay death. RIP

Luckily you can't tell too much if you're looking at me straight on but if you look at the top of my head you can see parts of my scalp. :x
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Girl same I'm only 25 too. RIP I can't get a date now if I'm bald it's definitely over 😂😂😂

Actually now I'm reminded I'm past halfway to 26. Jesus 💀💀💀

Life is really cruel to some people 😂🤕
 
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Aarglefarg

Member
CornBurrito said:
This is a dumb question, but do you go to a General Practitioner (ex. the people who do your annual checkup) for libido/sex stuff as well? Or is that a specialist thing? Or will I be referred to some specialist?

Sadly the earliest appointment I can get is in like a month. I feel somewhat inadequate.
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GPs are who I've gone to for other sexual things. They might refer you to a specialist though.

I didn't like the way the sexual health clinic I visited wanted me to put in my address and stuff on a computer in the waiting room, in a row of computers. So I turned around and left and just saw my GP.

Bladenic said:
Girl same I'm only 25 too. RIP I can't get a date now if I'm bald it's definitely over 😂😂😂

Actually now I'm reminded I'm past halfway to 26. Jesus 💀💀💀

Life is really cruel to some people 😂🤕
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I'm sorry but you're way past halfway to 26 if you are 25. :p
 
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Kevyt

Member
Bladenic said:
Girl same I'm only 25 too. RIP I can't get a date now if I'm bald it's definitely over 😂😂😂

Actually now I'm reminded I'm past halfway to 26. Jesus 💀💀💀

Life is really cruel to some people 😂🤕
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You're super good looking though
 
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Deleted member 465307

Unconfirmed Member
Fantastical said:
God damn I'm really starting to lose my hair. Gay death. RIP

Luckily you can't tell too much if you're looking at me straight on but if you look at the top of my head you can see parts of my scalp. :x
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You'll learn to embrace yourself eventually. Being dead doesn't mean you can't be happy. :) I've been gay dead from the day I was gay born, and I think I'm doing okay.
Maybe.
 
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Vazra

irresponsible vagina leak
Seath said:
Are you gonna do the "your favorite activity" picture for the funeral thing though?
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I cant have a picture of me masturbating or having threesomes in my funeral tho?

Most likely a picture of me on the computer checking gaf. Smh
 
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B-Dex

Member
Berordn said:
We're still living together, at least until the lease is up in May, but he had the idea of breaking up because he's been depressed (or just unhappy? I'm not too sure) of late and I sort of lost the will to fight for us staying together since it's not a new subject.

But he's gone through the whole spectrum of wanting space to wanting to still be physically intimate in this short span, and I've just been kind of caught up in the whirlwind of it all. I don't want to cut him out for selfish reasons, but also because I'm worried of what he might do on his own.
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Tell him to fuck off or fuck.
 
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daripad

Member
Being bald is not really a problem, you'll be fine guys :)

says the guy with a head full of black straight hair who hasn't dated anyone in months
 
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RayearthRob

Member
Your gender? Your sexual identity?
Male
Your sexual orientation?
Gay
Where Are You From?
Brazil
Where Do You Live?
Rio de Janeiro
How Old Are you?
25
Favorite Type of Music?
Rock/Pop
Profession or Career interest?
I'm a lawyer.
Favorite video game(s)?
JRpgs and nintendo games.
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Travel, netflix, cooking...
 
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JCX

Member
berzeli said:
I wasn't as much objecting to your overall point as I was to the use of anecdotal evidence for such a sweeping assertion. Because anecdotal evidence is incredibly flimsy for social situations, see:

You're way more likely to find that basically any concept (monogamy, political preference, fondness of the hit TV show Riverdale starring KJ Apa's abs) is in a majority amongst your social circle since your social circle is self selective. (In statistics, self-selection bias arises in any situation in which individuals select themselves into a group, causing a biased sample with nonprobability sampling. [wiki])

The data I did find supported the idea of open relationships being more prevalent amongst gay men, but since those studies also included things like "lesbians are more likely to be active in feminist women groups and maybe that's bad for their children" and some very dodgy data selection (yay 80s to early-mid90s LGBTQ research!) I wasn't so keen on presenting it.

Isn't Tinder also the biggest one for heteros and is also considered to be a hookup app?
Yet again, not necessarily arguing against your overall point.

The big problem is that there is a lack of good data on which to base any assertion. And since over the last five years there has been what I think is the biggest transformation of how we think about sex and relationships since the sexual revolution I just genuinely don't know how people think about relationships.
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I agree that the data is bad, and likely will continue to be since gay stats require people to identify as being gay in the first place. Thats why it's tough to determine just how many gays there are.

Just a top level question: Do you use any dating apps? Tinder/Grindr are radically different structurally. The structure of these apps inform how they're used:

- Tinder Requires Facebook to use (harder to make blank/fake profiles since you need to make an account and populate it with pics
- Requires you to actually mutually match with others to even begin conversation. Grindr just has a grid with whomever is local listed. no mutual consent required to initiate conversation (note: while you can turn distance off on grindr, the app itself warns you that profiles without distance tend to get fewer responses
- Tinder doesn't allow you to send pics in app, while Grindr does (yay unsolicited asshole shots!)
- Tinder does not have fields for height/weight/body type etc, grindr does, and users on grindr often state pretences against incomplete profiles.
- Tinder allows for multiple photos and a larger character limit compared to Grindr.

There are more ways, but if we compare the norms of tinder (the hetero hookup app) vs the norms of Grindr (the de facto gay hookup app {since they never directly advertise it as a hookup app}), we can see that while all apps are superficial (since they largely rely on photos), the structure of grindr is more geared towards hooking up than its closest hetero competitor.

Now what does it say about the gay community that our most prominent app is Grindr? Grindr did not spring forth from a group of devs who were like "lets make an app that encourages transactional sexual relationships so it changes the norms in the gay community!". They made an app that fit existing gay norms all too well, hence its place at the top of the gay dating app totem pole.

My original assertion for to CB's post is that the norms in the gay world enact pressure to be open or, at the very least, more sexually liberal compared to hetero dating. It was not "monogamous gay couples do not exist" or "all gay relationships are open", just that relative to hetero dating, gay dating tends to be more open.

In the absence of good data, we have to look at the structures in our community. I don't know what you see in the gay community that leads you to believe that the gay community is as oriented toward monogamy as the hetero community. I am open to any data counter to that though.
 
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Bladenic

Member
Sai-kun said:
I literally don't trust the opinion of any straight man regarding ANYTHING let alone their opinion of another man's attractiveness.
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LMAO

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You Know Nothing

Member
Iv*nka can choke. She willingly helped get her father elected and has used his presidency to try and elevate her own brand. She's as much of a kleptocrat as he is and I can't believe for a second her views on anything are sincere and unmotivated by PR because if she were sincere she wouldn't have helped get the piece of shit elected in the first place. Thrilled her brand is tanking and becoming utterly toxic tbh.
 
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