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LGBTQIA+ |OT9| The Return of the Queen

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Pyrokai

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What exactly do you guys mean when you say "put yourself out there?"

Like, what exactly should/do I do? Like, I just don't know what to do when there is someone I'm interested in and he's, like, in a group talking with people. How would you do that?

Especially since I'm always afraid of making eye contact. I don't know why, I just am!
 
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kuYuri

Member
Pyrokai said:
What exactly do you guys mean when you say "put yourself out there?"

Like, what exactly should/do I do? Like, I just don't know what to do when there is someone I'm interested in and he's, like, in a group talking with people. How would you do that?

Especially since I'm always afraid of making eye contact. I don't know why, I just am!
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I always interpreted it as participate in conversations, ask questions, offer insight, just generally make your presence known to others in a social setting, whether it's a party, gathering, etc.
 
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kuYuri

Member
It's certainly much more difficult when you go alone to a bar if you're naturally shy. I'd rather go with friends or people I already know. If you're super confident or attractive, then it's easier to pull off.
 
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Beefy

Member
Should just do what I do. See some one you like, walk up to them and slap your dick on their face. It works.....


/s
 
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Kevyt

Member
Pyrokai said:
What exactly do you guys mean when you say "put yourself out there?"

Like, what exactly should/do I do? Like, I just don't know what to do when there is someone I'm interested in and he's, like, in a group talking with people. How would you do that?

Especially since I'm always afraid of making eye contact. I don't know why, I just am!
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Pretty much what Yuri said.

Pyrokai said:
That's not too difficult to do in a party environment, but at a bar when I go alone....that's a bit tougher.
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It is tough when going to a bar by yourself. I went to three bars by myself and it was kinda boring each time.

Next time gonna try to go with friends.

Beefy said:
Should just do what I do. See some one you like, walk up to them and slap your dick on their face. It works.....


/s
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Hey, how come you didn't do this last time we crossed paths?

(╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻

See some one you like
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*Looks at mirror*

Oh...

┬──┬ ¯_(ツ)
 
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Pamplemousse

Member
I'm miserable. The only thing that could help is if Golnei sexts me.

Why must I live when I hate it so much? That hottie guy must just be toying with me. I think he has a deflowering fetish or something. Why else would he talk to me for so long?

It's not right for him to be with me. I would have to be with someone far uglier and less successful. I'm repulsive and barely functioning. I don't do anything except mope and cry and do mediocre in my classes. He shouldn't be talking to me. I'm ending it with him before I leave for break on Friday. I won't tell him why although I'm not sure what to say.

Maybe I'll say I'm just not ready or something like that. It's gonna be so hard, but I have to for both our sakes. I wish I could have just been different. It's unfair that it had to be this way. At least he gave me a nice experience.
 
Astral Dog

Astral Dog

Member
Pyrokai said:
That's not too difficult to do in a party environment, but at a bar when I go alone....that's a bit tougher.
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Practice sexy cheesy pick up lines, that should do the trick.
Pamplemousse said:
I'm miserable. The only thing that could help is if Golnei sexts me.

Why must I live when I hate it so much? That hottie guy must just be toying with me. I think he has a deflowering fetish or something. Why else would he talk to me for so long?

It's not right for him to be with me. I would have to be with someone far uglier and less successful. I'm repulsive and barely functioning. I don't do anything except mope and cry and do mediocre in my classes. He shouldn't be talking to me. I'm ending it with him before I leave for break on Friday. I won't tell him why although I'm not sure what to say.

Maybe I'll say I'm just not ready or something like that. It's gonna be so hard, but I have to for both our sakes. I wish I could have just been different. It's unfair that it had to be this way. At least he gave me a nice experience.
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Dont throw away a good (at least) frienship because you believe you arent good enough, if you werent he would not be looking for you!
As for Golnei im sure he will think of something .
 
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CornBurrito

Member
Pamplemousse said:
I'm miserable. The only thing that could help is if Golnei sexts me.

Why must I live when I hate it so much? That hottie guy must just be toying with me. I think he has a deflowering fetish or something. Why else would he talk to me for so long?

It's not right for him to be with me. I would have to be with someone far uglier and less successful. I'm repulsive and barely functioning. I don't do anything except mope and cry and do mediocre in my classes. He shouldn't be talking to me. I'm ending it with him before I leave for break on Friday. I won't tell him why although I'm not sure what to say.

Maybe I'll say I'm just not ready or something like that. It's gonna be so hard, but I have to for both our sakes. I wish I could have just been different. It's unfair that it had to be this way. At least he gave me a nice experience.
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Not saying this to be rude I am saying this because it needs to be said.

You need professional medical help from a qualified psychologist/psychiatrist.

Nobody on GAF or in this thread is qualified to help you. And unless you want to remain miserable or end up committing suicide you need to take your mental health seriously instead of doing what you are doing.

Imagine if you had cancer and instead of going to the doctor you posted in this thread every few days about how awful your cancer symptoms were. That's literally what you are doing. Mental illness is real. Treat it seriously. Get help.
 
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RatskyWatsky

Hunky Nostradamus
CornBurrito said:
Not saying this to be rude I am saying this because it needs to be said.

You need professional medical help from a qualified psychologist/psychiatrist.

Nobody on GAF or in this thread is qualified to help you. And unless you want to remain miserable or end up committing suicide you need to take your mental health seriously instead of doing what you are doing.

Imagine if you had cancer and instead of going to the doctor you posted in this thread every few days about how awful your cancer symptoms were. That's literally what you are doing. Mental illness is real. Treat it seriously. Get help.
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DyslexicAlucard

Member
Pyrokai said:
In other news, I feel like there's something wrong with me now, considering how often you guys are doing it. Wtf.
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Pyrokai said:
I never did it that much. Like, I'm 29 now and it's only ever been 1-2 times per year outside of a relationship (of which I've had only one).
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I mean, I only did it a few times a year the last couple of years because I was in a LDR. It sucked as it was kind of a tease a lot of the time we weren't together, but I got used to it. Before that, I didn't really have much sex at all, excepting my one-year relationship with a local girl. Even then, the sex wasn't that great, as she was... I guess "lazy in bed" would be the term I'd use.

But really, there's more to life than sex. Some people have a lot, some people don't. No one is better than anyone else, especially based on such an arbitrary metric. You do you!

QuantumSquid said:
I'm not gay, but gay people love me. Why?
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I mean, attractive men tend to attract both straight women and gay men. But there's also certain traits that gay men might typically like more, such as a nice bubble butt. I know I have a straight friend that all gay guys I know crush on. He's just super sweet, has a great personality and is sexy af. It's normal for anyone interested in males in general to like that (assuming it's your "type" etc.)

This is also the same friend that, when I came out to him, said he thought I might be gay because I am "so nice." I didn't know what to say to that, so I just laughed, haha. I mean, I was never actively trying to get with him, and I never did anything for him I wouldn't do for a friend I didn't have the hots for.

BTW, I've totally seen his cock too. :D

QuantumSquid said:
what is the best place to live if you're gay? in terms of having a strong gay community, generally accepting population, etc.
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San Francisco, Seattle, Montreal, Toronto, and probably some of the more socialist countries in Europe? The latter is just a guess.

I know Montreal because there's always a billion French-speaking guys from there suggested to me on every dating app I've ever used, haha.

I live in the worst place: Bumfuck Nowhere, Canada. XD
 
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mantidor

Member
I have this crazy theory that you vastly underestimate how gay friendly your home town is and overestimate considerably how other cities are, at least if we are talking about big cities. I think this comes from the fact that it's far easier to come out when you leave the place you were born and leave your family behind.

Because in my very anecdotal experience it's very, very rare that local lgbtq people say their city is friendly, it's always someone who didn't grow up in it who says so.
 
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CornBurrito

Member
mantidor said:
I have this crazy theory that you vastly underestimate how gay friendly your home town is and overestimate considerably how other cities are, at least if we are talking about big cities. I think this comes from the fact that it's far easier to come out when you leave the place you were born and leave your family behind.

Because in my very anecdotal experience it's very, very rare that local lgbtq people say their city is friendly, it's always someone who didn't grow up in it who says so.
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Can't say this applies to me. I live in Columbus and its extremely gay friendly. I could actually hold hands in public here, or at least downtown.
 
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DyslexicAlucard

Member
CornBurrito said:
Can't say this applies to me. I live in Columbus and its extremely gay friendly. I could actually hold hands in public here, or at least downtown.
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I live in a conservative area (of Canada, but you'd be surprised... =/) and I had zero issues holding hands. I guess there would maybe be a risk to it in the really bad areas of Winnipeg, but... I wouldn't be in those areas anyway, and would feel unsafe regardless.
 
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YesNOnoNOYes

Member
Melbourne, Australia isn't too bad in the city centre but the suburbs can still be very prejudiced.

My new workplace seems really great though. I am very pleased to have changed jobs!
 
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Dany

Banned
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First shift, only 8 hours but feeling pretty great so far. Lots to learn
 
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T.O.P

Banned
Oh shit

Daddy 2 is back right after i found daddy 3 and 4 (this one is making me question it hard) on grindr

Motherfucker

Shit

Gonna be a fun weekend :|
 
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RM8

Member
Now that the year is coming to an end, here's a summary of my attempt to try and date more guys:

Guy 1: I was into him, he wasn't into me
Guy 2: He was into me, I wasn't into him
Guy 3: He was into me, I wasn't into him
Guy 4: I was into him, he wasn't into me
Guy 5: I'm pretty sure we didn't click at all
Guy 6: I was into him, he wasn't into me
Guy 7: I'm not feeling it, yet he seems to be into me (thankfully he's leaving Japan soon, lol)

WTF is this bullcrap, lol. This is why dating is a chore.
 
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Pyrokai

Member
RM8 said:
Now that the year is coming to an end, here's a summary of my attempt to try and date more guys:

Guy 1: I was into him, he wasn't into me
Guy 2: He was into me, I wasn't into him
Guy 3: He was into me, I wasn't into him
Guy 4: I was into him, he wasn't into me
Guy 5: I'm pretty sure we didn't click at all
Guy 6: I was into him, he wasn't into me
Guy 7: I'm not feeling it, yet he seems to be into me (thankfully he's leaving Japan soon, lol)

WTF is this bullcrap, lol. This is why dating is a chore.
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This has just inspired me to try to go out for a date once a month in 2017. I probably went on 2 this year. Maybe 3.
 
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