ATM I dont want any kids but maybe when Im older I may consider it. Then again I will most likely end single and with dogs instead of cats.
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ATM I dont want any kids but maybe when Im older I may consider it. Then again I will most likely end single and with dogs instead of cats.
I have no idea tbh
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Even though I'd be a great dad, we're not having kids. I could go either way in terms of actually wanting them, but my partner doesn't at all, and that's perfectly fine with me. It's such an insanely expensive prospect, too, and there's so much we'd rather enjoy doing together with our meager income. Plus, our lil dog is enough.
ClashOfPenguin
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I keep flipping back and forth on my own wants, but if they wanted them then definitely.
umop_3pisdn
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My feelings don't really resonate with the idea of bringing a person into the world.
I'd be like a godfather or something though, or maybe adopt.
I'd be like a godfather or something though, or maybe adopt.
Kids (and a partner) aren't in the vision of my future, but, hypothically? I wouldn't hate it if "I" ever became a "we."
I'd probably adopt, though my partner is more keen in actually having biological kids (is that the right term in english? lol). But yeah, it's something for the far future, like 10 years ahead.
Absolutely. I fear I would be a terrible mom, but kids and babies melt my heart and get me all Mamasib.
Aarglefarg
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Hugs for everyone who wants them.
Yes it's the right term.Zero²;227756884 said:
HappyPuppy
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Sure! Hugging is great
*hugI can barely muster the energy to take care of a dog and then feel a bit guilty cause I don't do enough, fuck having kids, so draining.
I do want a dog in my life, my boyfriend has one and will be moving together soon, so wwuuu double whammy.
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Honestly I wasn't thinking I'd have kids even though I knew my bf wants them but I heard this woman explaining once how some people like her were never sure because it seems so draining and like a compromise on your ideas of freedom and romance but then you go for it and it's draining you in ways that end up feeling fulfilling and you compromise and change but you want to because you've changed with your life and it ended up being the best thing about her life and she wouldn't change the way it shifted her emotions and fears about giving away some freedom. Idk it clicked with me. I can see a great life with that someday and yeah there's plenty of things I'd like to have as just a couple but some can be now and some can be rarer parts of a parent life and the rest can happen after or maybe not. Idk, I can see adopting a kid and being happy as ever in maybe several years.
I was just catching up on that event now - it's actually sort of cute. They gave the Mobius protagonist a better rapport with Ultros and Typhon than the other FF characters the duo have interacted with - which isn't saying too much, but I appreciate the attempt to further the joke a little.
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I would be a beyond shit dad, even accounting for a decade of healthy emotional and financial maturation. But I'm not opposed to having kids in the abstract, so maybe if my hypothetical partner really wanted to adopt and was willing to do all the actual work of raising them?
Im not sure if this is a good reaction or shade.
I made another gif which I forgot to post btw
ZombiePlatypus
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So I haven't been on any sort of dating or hook app for well over a year.
I hopped on Grindr today outta curiosity, (with some gibberish throwaway email), and right before I was about to delete the whole thing, the app logged me out on its own and said "credentials changed."
What does this mean? Is this some new thing?
I deleted the app anyway. (Not putting down regular users, I just don't think it's really for me.)
I definitely would. But only after experiencing a lot of stuff and milestones in life, and growing more. Both as an individual person, and as a couple. After that, sure.
I hopped on Grindr today outta curiosity, (with some gibberish throwaway email), and right before I was about to delete the whole thing, the app logged me out on its own and said "credentials changed."
What does this mean? Is this some new thing?
I deleted the app anyway. (Not putting down regular users, I just don't think it's really for me.)
I definitely would. But only after experiencing a lot of stuff and milestones in life, and growing more. Both as an individual person, and as a couple. After that, sure.
Aarglefarg
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I passed a ten year anniversary of a particular day yesterday, and I didn't realise it until today.
It might have been the first time I came out to someone, a psychologist who then sounded like she doubted me. This of course made me recloset myself to her, as I was an 18 year old baby bi in a bad place emotionally due to unrelated and related events (reason for a psychologist). She confirmed: 'I didn't think so, you're just immature'. I was devastated and the session went 30 minutes over. I never went back to her.
My mum noticed that I was very sad, and with some prompting I told her. But I wasn't ready for it and I closeted myself again.
Over the next few months and years I came out to people online and at uni and listened to bi podcasts and read about biphobia and stuff. It took two and a half more years for me to come out to my immediate family properly. And they are all great...
It might have been the first time I came out to someone, a psychologist who then sounded like she doubted me. This of course made me recloset myself to her, as I was an 18 year old baby bi in a bad place emotionally due to unrelated and related events (reason for a psychologist). She confirmed: 'I didn't think so, you're just immature'. I was devastated and the session went 30 minutes over. I never went back to her.
My mum noticed that I was very sad, and with some prompting I told her. But I wasn't ready for it and I closeted myself again.
Over the next few months and years I came out to people online and at uni and listened to bi podcasts and read about biphobia and stuff. It took two and a half more years for me to come out to my immediate family properly. And they are all great...
Therapy has gone a long way since (I still get it). 5 years ago when I was very ill, being sick so much I was puking up blood. I had every test going and all came back negative, so I started looking up mental health problems . Due to my past it all clicked with depression/anxiety being the cause. So I went to my doctor and he said neither existed and I shouldn't make it up. A year later I was diagnosed with both by another doctor and have since had therapy most weeks. I am not cured bit 100 times better sad how some people who are meant to help actually make things worse.
Sorry for my long story. I am glad yours ended happily and glad your family accepted you.
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I'm waiting at the gates of hell (Disney Animal Kingdom) to let a friend and her family in and she is an hour late, making me miss work time. I call her and she says she's in the parking lot but there's a ton of cars.
Um, I know how it works? I'm already here so you aren't saving your image by trying to make it sound hard to get here?
Also a plane is trying to sky write Trust Jesus but it keeps blowing away so he has written Trust Je twice now
Um, I know how it works? I'm already here so you aren't saving your image by trying to make it sound hard to get here?
Also a plane is trying to sky write Trust Jesus but it keeps blowing away so he has written Trust Je twice now
I really do want to have kids and I'm trying to make sure that money isn't an issue in the future because kids are expensive.
Likewise, I also want to "design" my own kids, I only want the good genes to be passed down, not the diabetes, Parkinson's and Alzheimer's triggering genes.
CornBurrito
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I'd consider it. I'd want to adopt a daughter. And not a baby. Or it doesnt need to be a newborn. Older children need homes too.
I'm thinking older children are ideal, you get to skip the nightmare phase. But I'm personally not interested in children, I honestly don't see it happening.
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screaming @ "Overwatch ^833%"
Wow, straight guys love lesbians.
umop_3pisdn
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Hm, I don't know, I've never thought about it before.
Upon first meeting someone, I imagine if the other person seems more competent or self-actualized or something, it would be pretty human to wonder why they might be interested in you.
And in the longer term, feeling like you might be playing second fiddle in the relationship would probably get on your nerves. I mean if there is a perceived power unbalance the seemingly more vulnerable person is probably going to feel like they're always being subtly conciliatory as a strategy to keep the other person happy, and I can only imagine that breeding resentment.
But no, I can't say that I've made any decisions on that basis, or not that I am aware of.
Pamplemousse
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How's everyone's new year going? I hope everyone is doing well.
I'm always the same. I wish someone other than my immediate family cared about me. I wish I could have had a boyfriend. I'll die without knowing what that's like.
Mr. Cuddles was nice enough to cuddle me a few times. Lord knows why. He probably pitied me. I pity myself too. He must be a sex addict to not be repulsed by me and my voice.
Out of all the guys I was with, he was the best one. A couple of the bi ones were good too, but he was the only strictly gay one who turned me on. If only I were different, maybe it could have gone somewhere.
I'm always the same. I wish someone other than my immediate family cared about me. I wish I could have had a boyfriend. I'll die without knowing what that's like.
Mr. Cuddles was nice enough to cuddle me a few times. Lord knows why. He probably pitied me. I pity myself too. He must be a sex addict to not be repulsed by me and my voice.
Out of all the guys I was with, he was the best one. A couple of the bi ones were good too, but he was the only strictly gay one who turned me on. If only I were different, maybe it could have gone somewhere.
Savage...
Wow, straight guys love lesbians. Also, yoo that Overwatch popularity!!
I don't know why straight people are so obsessed with Japanese porn, it's boring as fuck and borderline creepy most of the time.
Has anyone gotten to the bottom of why you hate yourself more than everybody else in the world could even care about hating you? In fact, your quite loved and are considered quite attractive, loving, and and people generally seem to be comfortable around you.
It's been very clear for a while now that the only thing you actually need to change is your worsening anxiety disorder. Everything else seems kosher.
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Sounds like a perfect match
i absolutely don't mean this seriously so don't take this as a bash straight fam
Yup, it would seem that's one of the major issues. That takes a lot of work.
And by work I mean therapy.
One of my former flatmates liked how they kiss and do the foreplay in Japanese porn. But then hairy genitals, apathetic subs/bottoms and moaning more related to the sound of 50s racing car engines enter the stage....
That squirting tho
You need therapy, I use to be as bad as you .
Isnt that you daily? 😏
Me tonight
Only when you post that gif of you blowing a kiss. 😉
CornBurrito
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I thought I was fairly gay but I just can't make it through a single LGBT movie on Netflix. Big Eden? Nope. 4th Man Out? Nope. Hurricane Bianca? Nope.
CornBurrito
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I'll try them.
Annoying that some don't get how bad it is for bi guys, I guess out of sight out of mind. Some not even getting biphobia is a thing. But cheers anyways ha.
No idea if they are on Netflix but
Freier Fall - Lifting - Weekend - Prayers for Bobby
I hardly like LGBT movies but those I fuckin loved on top of my head
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Any reason why it has been shut down all of the sudden? I had a comment typed down when it suddenly got locked...
Aarglefarg
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It being locked is very suspect.
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