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[Eppy Thatcher]

So she does have a job. That was the only thread I was clinging to hoping that you weren't just being kind of an ass as I started reading through the thread.

"i come home to no food and a mess!!" OH FUCK BRO!! Why haven't you started slapping the shit out of her yet!!!??

It's your fucking house. You want it clean, pick some shit up. You want her to help? Turn off the TV and say "Listen we are cleaning this shit hole up for 10 minutes and then you can get back to murdering mutants. But you pass the sticks in 30 cause fucking A it is my turn you damn Humphrey (bogart)"

Treat her like a human maybe?... christ.

 

[Andrew.]

Nothing wrong with online dating. There are perfectly normal, functional people on there with careers, interests, and a personality. You just have to weed out the crazies (like with everything else).

Touche

 

[joelseph]

Except that the estrogenic effects of weed have been documented and researched (and continue to be). The man tits part isn't some plot by "the man" to dog on your marijuana habit, man. It has effects on the endocrine system. Those effects differ person-to-person (genes/environment to genes/environment).

You might want to check your facts.

 

[CrankyJay]

In before but you have a pretty girlfriend.

Yep...I'm glad you said it.

1. pretty
2. likes pot
3. likes video games

I don't see the problem here...

=)

 

[brianjones]

damn homie i didn't know you were dating isla fisher

 

[Effnine]

Except that the estrogenic effects of weed have been documented and researched (and continue to be). The man tits part isn't some plot by "the man" to dog on your marijuana habit, man. It has effects on the endocrine system. Those effects differ person-to-person (genes/environment to genes/environment).

 

[The Lamonster]

The Lamonster: I envy Marion Cobretti's girlfriend program

 

[ZaCH3000]

So she does have a job. That was the only thread I was clinging to hoping that you weren't just being kind of an ass as I started reading through the thread.

"i come home to no food and a mess!!" OH FUCK BRO!! Why haven't you started slapping the shit out of her yet!!!??

It's your fucking house. You want it clean, pick some shit up. You want her to help? Turn off the TV and say "Listen we are cleaning this shit hole up for 10 minutes and then you can get back to murdering mutants. But you pass the sticks in 30 cause fucking A it is my turn you damn Humphrey (bogart)"

Treat her like a human maybe?... christ.

Chill, bro.

Relationship dynamics in today's world isn't like a scene between Don and Betty.

It's almost like you have never been in a relationship with such an overreaction.

 

[FStop7]

I clearly have a dramatically different idea of what a "perfect" partner is.

This is a person who apparently does not have a job, apparently does not attend school, does not clean up after themselves, smokes pot constantly and plays video games all day.

If that's your idea of a perfect mate, fine. I don't agree, and I think my sentiment is shared by most people. Put that on your OKCupid profile and get back to me with your results.

For once I am in total agreement.

 

[MMaRsu]

Chill, bro.

Relationship dynamics in today's world isn't like a scene between Don and Betty.

It's almost like you have never been in a relationship with such an overreaction.

How is that an overreaction?

 

[Zoe]

So I finally managed to have a talk with her before I went to bed last night. I shouldn't complain. She does have a job, she takes care of her shit for the most part, she's just super into the game. She herself even made the point last night that she hasn't been this into a game since PSO.

I ended up just spooning her while she played. I eventually woke up to the sound of Three Dog again, but whatever, at least I wasn't alone this time.

How many hours does she work? How many hours of her free time does she spend with the game?

 

[FallingEdge]

So she does have a job. That was the only thread I was clinging to hoping that you weren't just being kind of an ass as I started reading through the thread.

"i come home to no food and a mess!!" OH FUCK BRO!! Why haven't you started slapping the shit out of her yet!!!??

It's your fucking house. You want it clean, pick some shit up. You want her to help? Turn off the TV and say "Listen we are cleaning this shit hole up for 10 minutes and then you can get back to murdering mutants. But you pass the sticks in 30 cause fucking A it is my turn you damn Humphrey (bogart)"

Treat her like a human maybe?... christ.

You sound like someone who is trying way to hard to impress people on the internet.

 

[FunkyMunkey]

You might want to check your facts.

You should do a simple search of any biochemistry-related research journal aggregate.

The man-tits portion is a sly and partially inaccurate summary of "hormone alteration." Different people are altered in different ways by it (some males may gain weight in the breast area). A slight change in testosterone/estrogen for one person will be different in comparison to another.

It is a drug. A drug that causes biochemical changes to the body. It's not water. I'm not harping on weed. I'm about to ingest a couple edibles myself and play some starbound. But shunting research because it knocks something you love down a peg, is ridiculous, unless the research is shown to be bad science.

So she does have a job. That was the only thread I was clinging to hoping that you weren't just being kind of an ass as I started reading through the thread.

"i come home to no food and a mess!!" OH FUCK BRO!! Why haven't you started slapping the shit out of her yet!!!??

It's your fucking house. You want it clean, pick some shit up. You want her to help? Turn off the TV and say "Listen we are cleaning this shit hole up for 10 minutes and then you can get back to murdering mutants. But you pass the sticks in 30 cause fucking A it is my turn you damn Humphrey (bogart)"

Treat her like a human maybe?... christ.

Scratch that I'm gonna give one of my edibles to this guy right here

 

[ZaCH3000]

How is that an overreaction?

That post reads like a soap opera with how over dramatic it is. The kid is posting on GAF for advice for crying out loud. You seriously think the passive-aggressive type shouts at his GF for changing her habits?

 

[Steve Youngblood]

Must be awful.

Well, it might be? Mind you, I'm not about to get judgmental working from only partial information, but living with someone that isn't pulling their own weight in any capacity can be incredibly frustrating. And I don't mean "pulling their own weight" in some kind of chauvinistic "it's the woman's job to keep the house clean and have hot food waiting for me" sense, but just in the general "things go smoothly when both partners work together" on things. I guess I can understand the appeal of having a girlfriend who likes to get high and play the vidya, but if that's all the person does for any prolonged stretch, I'd agree that it'd get old pretty damn quick.

But, again, I don't actually know OP's girlfriend. So I really am not too interested in levying any praise or condemnation her way.

 

[VanWinkle]

Sounds like a great gf. You should enjoy it with her, let her have her fun. Make her happy and get some high sex. I don't know what you're complaining about, lets trade places.

Wow. I really don't understand people here sometimes. Maybe I'm just weird.

 

[John Rabbit]

Wow. I really don't understand people here sometimes. Maybe I'm just weird.

some people don't expect much of their partner.

 

[joelseph]

You should do a simple search of any biochemistry-related research journal aggregate.

The man-tits portion is a sly and partially inaccurate summary of "hormone alteration." Different people are altered in different ways by it (some males may gain weight in the breast area). A slight change in testosterone/estrogen for one person will be different in comparison to another.

It is a drug. A drug that causes biochemical changes to the body. It's not water. I'm not harping on weed. I'm about to ingest a couple edibles myself and play some starbound. But shunting research because it knocks something you love down a peg, is ridiculous, unless the research is shown to be bad science.

You are a Sophomore Chemistry major. How far off am I?

 

[Opiate]

Thanks for the correction. That's one downside off the list, then!

 

[Steve Youngblood]

some people don't expect much of their partner.

1.) Is of the gender I'm attracted to?
2.) Likes video games?

You don't consider this an exhaustive checklist?

 

[Opiate]

Wow. I really don't understand people here sometimes. Maybe I'm just weird.

I would say that people have different life goals which produce dramatically different responses to different activities.

Some people just want to have relax and have fun; that is, they view these activities as the purpose of life. Given that as a starting position, then of course the girlfriend's behavior is not only acceptable, it's "living the dream."

 

[joelseph]

some people don't expect much of their partner.

Maybe "expect much" is a little too judgmental? Maybe "have different expectations" would make more sense?

 

[brianjones]

Some people just want to have relax and have fun; that is, they view these activities as the purpose of life. Given that as a starting position, then of course the girlfriend's behavior is not only acceptable, it's "living the dream."

disgusting people

 

[Rentahamster]

I clearly have a dramatically different idea of what a "perfect" partner is.

This is a person who apparently does not have a job, apparently does not attend school, does not clean up after themselves, smokes pot constantly and plays video games all day.

If that's your idea of a perfect mate, fine. I don't agree, and I think my sentiment is shared by most people. Put that on your OKCupid profile and get back to me with your results.

I was assuming that most of the responses were joking/half-serious, but perhaps that's just Poe's Law in action.

 

[joelseph]

disgusting people

Probably have no Nike running updates on their timelines. Absolutely nasty.

 

[John Rabbit]

Maybe "expect much" is a little too judgmental? Maybe "have different expectations" would make more sense?

if having compatible sex organs with your orientation, plays videogames, and habitually smokes weed is all you want from a partner, that's fine. it's just not expecting much out of them.

 

[il Diavolo]

Marry her.

 

[Zen_Arcade]

some people don't expect much of their partner.

More like some people have done what his girlfriend is doing and understand that it's just a phase that will blow over when she gets over the game.

 

[The Lamonster]

I would say that people have different life goals which produce dramatically different responses to different activities.

Some people just want to have relax and have fun; that is, they view these activities as the purpose of life. Given that as a starting position, then of course the girlfriend's behavior is not only acceptable, it's "living the dream."

i.e. Hobbits

 

[FallingEdge]

More like some people have done what his girlfriend is doing and understand that it's just a phase that will blow over when she gets over the game.

But if they have a concern over the fact that they feel neglected? The house is a mess? Chores aren't being done? When trying to talk, you get jokes instead addressing the issue? Cmon now, phase or not, this isn't right.

 

[Winterfang]

OP you need to leave that zero and get yourself a hero.

 

[John Rabbit]

More like some people have done what his girlfriend is doing and understand that it's just a phase that will blow over when she gets over the game.

this doesn't actually pertain to my comment like you think it does. i was speaking to the seemingly short list of qualifications people have for a "good girlfriend". it's clear that the OP cares about his girlfriend and the relationship, he wouldn't have made the thread if he didn't.

 

[Hawkian]

I feel like that Ctrl+Alt+Del shop restored the cynic in me Angelus-style. Want to go out and find some orphans to tell them their christmas will totally suck this year now.

 

[FunkyMunkey]

You are a Sophomore Chemistry major. How far off am I?

Pretty far off, but that's really none of your business. You haven't disputed anything and have only been condescending.

Great thing about science and research is it makes your opinion regarding the effects of weed (at least to the body) irrelevant.

 

[joelseph]

if having compatible sex organs with your orientation, plays videogames, and habitually smokes weed is all you want from a partner, that's fine. it's just not expecting much out of them.

If we replaced "habitually smokes weed" with "devotes copious amounts of time to video game podcast" or whatever happens to be your drug of choice would it make it better for you John? Are you hating because of the illicit drug use?

 

[akira28]

OP should dump her, and we should date her. She's perfect for GAF.

 

[Steve Youngblood]

If we replaced "habitually smokes weed" with "devotes copious amounts of time to video game podcast" or whatever happens to be your drug of choice would it make it better for you John? Are you hating because of the illicit drug use?

I'll admit that I haven't followed the entirety of the conversation, but I think the crux of the issue -- at least from where I'm sitting -- is that there is a difference between "values some degree of independence and has hobbies" and "completely neglects responsibility and spending quality time with one's partner." If the OP's account is accurate -- and I stress the "if" there again because I'm not qualified to dispense relationship advice in regards to this situation -- the problem is that the girlfriend comes across as completely selfish and/or oblivious. You could replace "smoking weed and playing games" with something more respectable entirely and end up with the same result I'm sure.

 

[FantasticMrFoxdie]

She sounds like a keeper.

Also sounds like a stealth brag thread...? Lol

 

[Steve Youngblood]

She sounds like a keeper.

Also sounds like a stealth brag thread...? Lol

What about this sounds like bragging?

 

[joelseph]

I'll admit that I haven't followed the entirety of the conversation, but I think the crux of the issue -- at least from where I'm sitting -- is that there is a difference between "values some degree of independence and has hobbies" and "completely neglects responsibility and spending quality time with one's partner." If the OP's account is accurate -- and I stress the "if" there again because I'm not qualified to dispense relationship advice in regards to this situation -- the problem is that the girlfriend comes across as completely selfish and/or oblivious. You could replace "smoking weed and playing games" with something more respectable entirely and end up with the same result I'm sure.

Always well written SYB. Agreed!

 

[Darknight]

This is what I have to come home to during the holidays. A mess and no food.

I don't mind her playing games a bunch, but she's way too hooked.

I feel bad....for the PS3. Its a fat model in that tiny space. DAMN! Give it some air!!

 

[ElectricBlue187]

What about this sounds like bragging?

I have a cute girlfriend who plays video games all day, here's a picture, and it's terrrrible!

 

[Pai Pai Master]

This thread is all over the place.

I like my pot-smokin' vidya-game playin' ladies just as much as a lot of guys but if that's literally all she's doing for a prolonged amount of time, not cleaning up after herself, not engaging herself in her partner, and shrugging off any attempts at having an actual discussion about it, then that's obviously not going to work for the OP. It certainly wouldn't work for me and I'd put a stop to it ASAP or make it clear that it's causing a rift.

I've locked myself in my room to play a game I'm hooked on for days at a time but not at the expense of another person. When you're in a serious relationship something like that just doesn't work.

 

[besada]

1.) Is of the gender I'm attracted to?
2.) Likes video games?

You don't consider this an exhaustive checklist?

I require respiration, at the very least!

 

[flamingotripod]

She sounds like a keeper.

Also sounds like a stealth brag thread...? Lol

Girl with no social life is stealth brag?

 

[VanWinkle]

I mean, I like that my fiancee plays games, because it means that there is a hobby we can relate to. But that's such a small aspect of our relationship. I LOVE gaming and am super into it, but it would be selfish of me to ignore her in favor of devoting all my time to gaming. So, I have my gamig time that is ultimately a less important part of my life, and I have my relationship which is a bigger part of me. I couldn't respect a partner who devoted all of her time just to gaming, just like I wouldn't respect myself if I did the same.

 

[Steve Youngblood]

I have a cute girlfriend who plays video games all day, here's a picture, and it's terrrrible!

I understand that this is a video game forum and that there's a stigma about gamers being basement-dwelling virgins, but in all honesty -- and this is not in any way meant as a shot against the OP since I don't think he was bragging to begin with -- merely having a significant other isn't in and of itself a remarkable accomplishment.

 

[AkuMifune]

I'll admit that I haven't followed the entirety of the conversation, but I think the crux of the issue -- at least from where I'm sitting -- is that there is a difference between "values some degree of independence and has hobbies" and "completely neglects responsibility and spending quality time with one's partner." If the OP's account is accurate -- and I stress the "if" there again because I'm not qualified to dispense relationship advice in regards to this situation -- the problem is that the girlfriend comes across as completely selfish and/or oblivious. You could replace "smoking weed and playing games" with something more respectable entirely and end up with the same result I'm sure.

Yeah, we don't really know her pattern of behavior before she started Fallout 3. If it's a phase, then whatever. That makes her pretty cool to me! My wife will go off on mini-obsessions for a few days to week here and there on arts/crafts or baking and she gets so absorbed in it that's all she'll do. I'm happy to give her space and clean up and do my thing...as long as it's a temporary obsession once in a while.

I do wonder if we swapped the situation with the opposite personality type, a sober, church-going soccer mom driven to always "be places" and "doing things" what the reaction would be. That kind of woman would be my nightmare.

 

[Unbound By Death]

1.) Is of the gender I'm attracted to?
2.) Likes video games?

You don't consider this an exhaustive checklist?

Pretty much.

 

[AppleMIX]

This thread is just fascinating.

If the genders were reversed and it was a girlfriend complaining about her pot smoking boyfriend, nobody would be saying these things (of course assuming OPs info is accurate).