My Girlfriend Keeps Getting Stoned All Day and Playing Fallout

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I'm not sure I'd be super concerned about a few weeks of this. Personally I've had some games that clicked with me enough that I spent every waking hour playing them, it always passed. Shit When KotOR came out I beat the game in two sittings. I would say I was probably similar to this the first time I ever played Morrowind.
 
Fuck man. I went out with a girl who played Fable 3 for like 4 hours straight...drove me mad.
I could never go out with a gamer girl.
 
I never thought I'd see so many people just hand wave addiction like this.
I don't know why people are automatically assuming playing a game a lot until you 100% it is suddenly an addiction that people have to worry about. Have you really never gotten so into a game you just wanted to play it until you've done everything? It happened to me with Gears Of War multiplayer. I didn't need help and wasn't depressed, I was just having a lot of fun playing a game until playing the game got boring.
 
Any relationship is in its core nothing more than a balance between costs and benefits.

When the costs exponentially outweigh the benefits, it is time to end it.
 
I wish my girlfriend played video games.

over the years I've bought her:

Nintendo DS with tons of games.
PSP with tons of games.
we have a Wii, with Mario Kart, House of the Dead and other 2player games.
I've bought extra controllers for my Xbox360 and PS3 so we can play the few co-op games available.

And, nothing.

I say you should marry your girlfriend and have a Fallout-themed wedding.
 
LOL Addiction and neglect is totally cool guys! Nothing like someone taking things close to an extreme where they neglect their bodies, responsibilities, and relationships, but since its vidya games HIGH FIVES ALL AROUND!

OP, maybe your girlfriend is depressed and this is how it's showing itself. Have a serious conversation, take things slow. Don't say YOU CAN'T PLAY AT ALL. Try to wean her off.

or bang her from behind and marry her like people are saying us gamers right?

But then again, Fallout is hella good. might just be a one time thing.

I can tell you that NEW VEGAS is better than fallout 3 though. she be ready for even more immersion given that the game has 4 different endings with 4 different factions. AND then there's the hella good dlc.
 
LOL Addiction and neglect is totally cool guys! Nothing like someone taking things close to an extreme where they neglect their bodies, responsibilities, and relationships, but since its vidya games HIGH FIVES ALL AROUND!

OP, maybe your girlfriend is depressed and this is how it's showing itself. Have a serious conversation, take things slow. Don't say YOU CAN'T PLAY AT ALL. Try to wean her off.

or bang her from behind and marry her like people are saying.

us gamers right?

Brilliant diagnosis, Dr. Armchair.
 
is she employed or studying full time? If not, get her to find a job, and if she refuses, dump her. It's not worth it, and to be honest, a grown woman playing 4-5 hours a day of videogames is lame, and so is smoking pot all day.

edit: nevermind, just saw your post about her working at an animal shelter.
 
is she employed or studying full time? If not, get her to find a job, and if she refuses, dump her. It's not worth it, and to be honest, a grown woman playing 4-5 hours a day of videogames is lame.

Fine for men though? Not sure why bringing gender into this is needed.
 
If you guys don't have a kid together don't worry about it, let her do what she wants.

It's fun getting high and playing video games. I can't do it any more because I have a child.
 
that seinfeld bit is killing me.

where do i find a girl with that magnificent sense of humour? please help.
 
From what you have written, it sounds like a classic case of addiction. Probably because she has deeper fulfillment issues since it sounds like she doesn't work and really only waits for you to come home. She needs to get a job or some hobby outside of gaming. Honestly she isn't a stone's throw away from an MMO addiction which can be tough to shake.

It's easy for GAF to pretend that game addiction is not a big deal but for people who live unfulfilling lives it gives them a chance to escape and not think about their deeper issues while they play.

Don't let it slide OP.
 
You know, there are other ways you two can play games and be happy.

Like co-op. The fact that she likes open world so much means that you can start with Borderlands 2 and have hours of fun loot-hunting.

The High All De Time is a bit more of a problem, and something else might be wrong.
 
From what you have written, it sounds like a classic case of addiction. Probably because she has deeper fulfillment issues since it sounds like she doesn't work and really only waits for you to come home. She needs to get a job or some hobby outside of gaming. Honestly she isn't a stone's throw away from an MMO addiction which can be tough to shake.

It's easy for GAF to pretend that game addiction is not a big deal but for people who live unfulfilling lives it gives them a chance to escape and not think about their deeper issues while they play.

Don't let it slide OP.

Pretty fucked up to screw with the little bit of escapism they get from their otherwise dull and miserable lives id say.
 
I don't know why people are automatically assuming playing a game a lot until you 100% it is suddenly an addiction that people have to worry about. Have you really never gotten so into a game you just wanted to play it until you've done everything? It happened to me with Gears Of War multiplayer. I didn't need help and wasn't depressed, I was just having a lot of fun playing a game until playing the game got boring.

She's playing the same game all day. She is getting high the entire time. She is neglecting her duties around the house. She is neglecting her partner.

How is that not addiction? How is that a good thing??
 
It might be a phase that will pass eventually. But kinda sucks for the OP in the time being no doubt if that's all she's doing when she's off. Try introducing other activities/options in the mix and see how she reacts. Is she open to them or is playing Fallout 3 stoned all she's interested in at the moment?

Do try to have honest open conversation about this, let her know how you feel and listen to her and she how she feels about this as well.
 
I wish my girlfriend played video games.

over the years I've bought her:

Nintendo DS with tons of games.
PSP with tons of games.
we have a Wii, with Mario Kart, House of the Dead and other 2player games.
I've bought extra controllers for my Xbox360 and PS3 so we can play the few co-op games available.

And, nothing.

I say you should marry your girlfriend and have a Fallout-themed wedding.

Did you really do that? I'm surprised she didn't break up with you from your attempts at forcing your hobby down her throat.
 
She's playing the same game all day. She is getting high the entire time. She is neglecting her duties around the house. She is neglecting her partner.

How is that not addiction? How is that a good thing??
I'm not saying it's a good thing. I'm saying it's probably not that serious and if she's enjoying herself and the worst thing thats happening is the house is messy and he has to make his own dinner for a month, then he's over reacting. He doesn't own her and he doesn't get to tell her what her duties are.

Except for the neglecting my partner part I did all of those things with Gears Of War and surprise surprise, I'm fine. Eventually the game got boring because I constantly played it and everything went back to normal. I didn't lose all my friends, rats didn't infest my house, I didn't get kicked out of school or lose my job, I wasn't sitting around depressed all day. I was having fun.

The only reason depression is even brought up in this thread is because people on GAF like to hear a small part of one side of the story, extrapolate on it and make assumptions while still knowing next to shit about the entire situation. I'm not saying that it's 100% not possible that it's depression, but considering I and many other people I know have gotten obsessed with a game and return to the world completely fine, I think it's a bit of a jump to automatically jump to the worst possible scenario.

Now if she finished Fallout and New Vegas and starts immediately looking for another game series to immerse herself in, then I might start worrying, because it shows that shes probably not just really into a video game.
 
I'm sure OP hasn't exagerated in the slightest and it really is as dire as he says it is....she's going to get tired of it eventually just chill out.
 
She's playing the same game all day. She is getting high the entire time. She is neglecting her duties around the house. She is neglecting her partner.

How is that not addiction? How is that a good thing??

I'd hesitate to call it addiction based off of that alone.

But it's definitely not a good thing.
 
Wait until she plays New Vegas. If she prefers Fallout 3 to it then kick her to the curb and steal all her weed.

Yep. I honestly couldn't move forward in a relationship with someone if they couldn't acknowledge New Vegas' superiority to FO3. There's just some things that aren't okay.
 
The gf probably has spent ten times the time suffering what the OP is suffering. Deal with it. Now just because it's her turn, all of a sudden it's AA up on this bitch?

Me me me me me me me me me me me. That's half of the posts I'm reading in this thread.
 
don't envy you OP. Seen this happen to one person, proper videogame addiction is pretty damn gross once it starts to interfere with things like hygiene.

might be a phase. ride it out, find something you really wanna do and just ignore her while she does it (if you love her). See if she gets over it, if not, dump her and find a woman that hates it when you play videogames, like god intended.
 
Feel like I'm the only person in this thread who feels frustrated for OP and does not see this as a humble brag. Sucks having to come home to someone who's high or drunk all the time and doesn't do shit but sit around all day.

I don't know why people are automatically assuming playing a game a lot until you 100% it is suddenly an addiction that people have to worry about. Have you really never gotten so into a game you just wanted to play it until you've done everything? It happened to me with Gears Of War multiplayer. I didn't need help and wasn't depressed, I was just having a lot of fun playing a game until playing the game got boring.

OP went to talk to his girlfriend and she didn't look at him and said "your speech levels are not high enough."

...................................

uhhh.
 
Feel like I'm the only person in this thread who feels frustrated for OP and does not see this as a humble brag. Sucks having to come home to someone who's high or drunk all the time and doesn't do shit but sit around all day.
He already said the girl has a job at an animal shelter. She's not just sitting around all day.
 
Feel like I'm the only person in this thread who feels frustrated for OP and does not see this as a humble brag. Sucks having to come home to someone who's high or drunk all the time and doesn't do shit but sit around all day.



OP went to talk to his girlfriend and she didn't look at him and said "your speech levels are not high enough."

...................................

uhhh.

She has a job, and from the OP it sounds like this hasn't been going on very long. Sure if this turns out to be full fledged addiction that would be bad. After two weeks though, its just possible that its a game that really grabbed her attention. I think most of us have had games, especially RPGs, take some weeks from our lives before.
 
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