Can Crusher
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She's addicted to one game. How many games has the OP been addicted to? Fucks sakes. People are acting like she found coke, and now she has become the coke collector.
My Girlfriend Keeps Getting Stoned All Day and Playing Fallout
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She's addicted to one game. How many games has the OP been addicted to? Fucks sakes. People are acting like she found coke, and now she has become the coke collector.
andthebeatgoeson
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Substitute one for another. Buy her monster hunter. Play together. I'll even come as a Brachy to the wedding and when you break my horn, chocolate comes out like a water fall.
FunkyLounge
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blame space
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she sounds awesome
Zoe
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He said he hasn't been obsessed since PSO on Dreamcast.
Zen_Arcade
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Right, because she doesn't sleep either. Also going to a job and then coming home and relaxing playing a video game and smoking isn't nearly the problem that being unemployed and playing video games and smoking is.
And again, everyone is jumping to conclusions based off limited information. Shit you post was proof you didn't read the whole thread in the first place anyway, now you're just changing what youre saying because you came in and had to make your opinion known without even knowing the whole story and assuming she doesn't have a job and sits around all day.
Could it be the start of an addiction? Sure. But Fallout isn't a game you play forever. When she 100% Fallout and New Vegas and starts looking for other games to put all of her free time into, then you should be looking into her having an emotional problem. But getting really into one game and trying to 100% it doesn't mean you're addicted to video games.
blame space
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does she have the Gobi scout rifle
Liberty4all
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When she's out go trade in the game.
Holy Order Sol
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PrimaNocta
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She smokes weed and enjoys great games. Now if you tell me she gives blowjobs on the regular than you my friend have my dream wife.
Kudos.
Kudos.
Jimnymebob
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Exactly.
I got 100% on Crash Bandicoot 2 when I was younger and I managed to recover from my addiction.
teruterubozu
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Is she expected to? There may be something more here.
Ok, let's try to break it down a bit more than just the "talk to her" and "she sounds perfect"-responses, because one's been used enough, and the other is just completely irrelevant so long as OP doesn't enjoy it.
OP, it's obvious that you're not objecting to her playing a game. It seems that when she does it, you feel it affects the rest of the relationship. It's time to say that to her. You're not talking to her to say "you just smoke weed and play all the time", because that's judging her for what she's doing. That's not what it' about, so instead try and talk why it upsets you. If you feel you miss the companionship of cooking together (if you did that), or if you wonder why she stopped cooking - ask about it. Maybe she just grew tired of being the one that cooked?
Focus on figuring out what's going on. Maybe she's upset about something, and has surpressed it behind this game. Maybe she's not. Let her know you're there for her, but that you feel it's tolling when you're the only one keeping things tidy and that's making food etc. If you are doing that. Let her know you miss taking walks and doing things together, and that you'd love to do those sorts of things for her. Maybe she's feeling she lacks the energy to do those things herself? If you speak with her and realize that's what it is, maybe you can look out for her and you figure out what fun things the two of you can do together. After all, if you suggest doing something she'd really like, it's much easier for her to do it, than to figure out what she wants to do and then plan it, if she is feeling that she doesn't have the energy to do it.
Don't just let it simmer like this. You have the right to be unhappy with the way things are, but not in the sense that you should judge her for what she's doing, but rather that you wish to look out for her and the relationship in a way where you both look after each other.
Maybe the weed's irrelevant. Maybe the game is irrelevant. Maybe what you care about is that you're not doing stuff together. Maybe you've become to reliant that she cleans and cooks, and haven't noticed that you haven't been doing those things, yourself? It's not cool that she neglects the relationship, but it might not be malicious. Maybe she's just reacting poorly to something she hasn't been able to talk about.
Be there for her, now. let her know the current situation is bothering you, and hear what she has to say.
OP, it's obvious that you're not objecting to her playing a game. It seems that when she does it, you feel it affects the rest of the relationship. It's time to say that to her. You're not talking to her to say "you just smoke weed and play all the time", because that's judging her for what she's doing. That's not what it' about, so instead try and talk why it upsets you. If you feel you miss the companionship of cooking together (if you did that), or if you wonder why she stopped cooking - ask about it. Maybe she just grew tired of being the one that cooked?
Focus on figuring out what's going on. Maybe she's upset about something, and has surpressed it behind this game. Maybe she's not. Let her know you're there for her, but that you feel it's tolling when you're the only one keeping things tidy and that's making food etc. If you are doing that. Let her know you miss taking walks and doing things together, and that you'd love to do those sorts of things for her. Maybe she's feeling she lacks the energy to do those things herself? If you speak with her and realize that's what it is, maybe you can look out for her and you figure out what fun things the two of you can do together. After all, if you suggest doing something she'd really like, it's much easier for her to do it, than to figure out what she wants to do and then plan it, if she is feeling that she doesn't have the energy to do it.
Don't just let it simmer like this. You have the right to be unhappy with the way things are, but not in the sense that you should judge her for what she's doing, but rather that you wish to look out for her and the relationship in a way where you both look after each other.
Maybe the weed's irrelevant. Maybe the game is irrelevant. Maybe what you care about is that you're not doing stuff together. Maybe you've become to reliant that she cleans and cooks, and haven't noticed that you haven't been doing those things, yourself? It's not cool that she neglects the relationship, but it might not be malicious. Maybe she's just reacting poorly to something she hasn't been able to talk about.
Be there for her, now. let her know the current situation is bothering you, and hear what she has to say.
blame space
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this is my favorite thread title of all time
I've had phases of this myself (I'm in one again now, also with Fallout 3!), sometimes it can last for weeks, but eventually it ends.
Just let her be, don't be the concerned boyfriend yet. The holidays are coming, if she doesn't change up her habits after that then maybe you can be worried.
Just let her be, don't be the concerned boyfriend yet. The holidays are coming, if she doesn't change up her habits after that then maybe you can be worried.
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This is a rare occurrence where Gaming Section and Off Topic have become one. And damn it's kind of frustrating.
OP, do an INTERVENTION. Fucking step right in front of the TV and if she tells you something related to the game, you freaking answer the same way. Or tell her you don't care and that her habits are hurting your relationship, if she says "Have you never been into a game?", you answer that yes, you have been into a game, but never to the point it hurt people around you (unless you have, which is a double standard).
We're in holidays, when families and couples should be more united, not playing one of the inferior Fallouts for Christ's sakes. Or you can just keep being ignored while you post on GAF the suspiciously hilarious things she says. Up to you.
EDIT: Septimius' answer is so much better than mine. Pure reason. Do that.
OP, do an INTERVENTION. Fucking step right in front of the TV and if she tells you something related to the game, you freaking answer the same way. Or tell her you don't care and that her habits are hurting your relationship, if she says "Have you never been into a game?", you answer that yes, you have been into a game, but never to the point it hurt people around you (unless you have, which is a double standard).
We're in holidays, when families and couples should be more united, not playing one of the inferior Fallouts for Christ's sakes. Or you can just keep being ignored while you post on GAF the suspiciously hilarious things she says. Up to you.
EDIT: Septimius' answer is so much better than mine. Pure reason. Do that.
Snkfanatic
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I have a feeling we are not getting a lot of the story on this one.
It relates to videogames so people think it's cool. I think it's really sad what's happening to be honest because the story is kind of fucked up when you think about it. I thought it was fake at first.
Agreed. Something is up. You don't just get THIS involved in a game (or anything) for no reason. There's something else going on.
Zen_Arcade
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Sure you can. I know multiple people, including myself who have done this exact thing and nothing bad happened. You're just jumping to the worst conclusion based off limited information.
ScottSullivan
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This is my wife with Skyrim sometimes and me with Dota 2. It's a serious problem. Gotta make sure you keep the channels of communication up and don't let your lives get segregated too much. I struggle with this balance as well.
However, it's completely irrelevant if it's a phase or not, so long that it's affecting her boyfriend.
That says a lot, coming from you.
BladeoftheImmortal
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I'd have sex with her while she's playing Fallout.
The Albatross
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Well, I'm actually trusting what OP says. OP is saying "this is a problem." You, and other's, are saying "Oh, no, OP, I don't know you or your girlfriend, but that's not a problem, it's a good thing.. In fact, this is a humble brag!"
Personally, I think that if a person is so consumed in any game, whether it be Fallout or anything else, that they cannot pause the game and talk to the person they live with ... That's a problem. Like, if your live in girlfriend came to talk to you while you were playing a game and you wouldn't talk to her because you were busy playing -- and this has been going on for days or weeks -- you don't think that would be a problem? You think that's just the normal cycle of "trying to 100% a game."
When you live with somebody, you have obligations and people take on roles. I do the dishes, my girlfriend does the laundry, we clean certain rooms... We both cook equally. If she stopped doing the laundry, or if I stopped doing the dishes, or if one of us stopped cooking, it'd be a problem.
For fucks sake people let this go. If she was the person who primarily did the cooking and then stopped then he has a legimate reason to bring it up as an issue. People have roles in relationships based on what they are good at or like doing. I've had relationships where I was the cook and others where she was the cook. Same thing for other chores like doing laundry or washing dishes. And if either or us were to suddenly stop doing a chore/role there would be a legimate reason to be concerned as to why. It doesn't mean he expects her to cook and clean for her like he's a fucking caveman swinging a club. In any relationship when a routine suddenly stops, the smart thing to do is pay attention and find out why. It may be as innocuous as "I'm tired of doing it" but it could also be a symptom of a bigger issue.
Of course. Anyone saying otherwise is either just bored and trying to amuse themselves with silly posts or have zero experience with relationships. Anytime your partner won't talk to you, for any reason, it's a serious issue.
Zen_Arcade
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No it's not. The boyfriend could be over reacting. He even said himself that he was obsessed with PSO when it came out, so it's not like he hasn't had first hand experience with what shes doing.
Thanks for your contribution to the thread. Very insightful.
I should need to explain to someone like you, but I will because your obviously the lord of assumptions:
My girlfriend IS into gaming, but not on the same level as I am. I TRIED to help her find some games she would like but buying her various systems and games I thought she would be interested in.
Does this answer satisfy you, oh mighty lord of assumptions?
Extra Sauce
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She sounds like me circa 2008.
Zoe
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A decade ago. Hopefully people don't stop maturing when they're in young relationships.
blame space
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get your girlfriend to post here. I want to hear her side.
I thought he said that she'd been obsessed with PSO. Anyway, yes, it's irrelevant if it's a phase. It's irrelevant if he's done it before and she's doing the same now. It's not OK to treat someone poorly just because they've done the same. Her actions are clearly affecting OP. Yes, she might be doing this because she got tired of cleaning and cooking, but they need to talk together. That's why it's irrelevant if it's a phase. If OP feels it affects him, that's all that matters. She might help him see that she just has a need to do this now, because some things are tough, or maybe it's something she's annoyed with the OP about. But so long as it's not communicated, it's affecting OP in a negative way. Talking about it is the only way to rectify that.
If it then comes to light that it's just a phase, and OP is OK with that, then she can have her phase. But OP doesn't have to suck it up "because it can just be a phase", which is why I stress that it's irrelevant.
She's haf and too busy playing Fallout to post here.
She may be depressed. She may just be really into FO and weed. Either is possible. This board is full of people who have become obsessed with a variety of video games. The OP himself admits that he's had similar obsession in the past. Maybe this is just the first video game crush she's had.
What I do know is that no one in here can reasonably diagnose an addiction without meeting and talking to the girl at a minimum.
And OP, it's up to you to talk to her. She's your girlfriend and GAF can't help you do what you have to do, which is to sit her down and have a conversation about your concerns.
What I do know is that no one in here can reasonably diagnose an addiction without meeting and talking to the girl at a minimum.
And OP, it's up to you to talk to her. She's your girlfriend and GAF can't help you do what you have to do, which is to sit her down and have a conversation about your concerns.
ChubbyHuggs
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Just hold out. She'll break!
Zen_Arcade
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We have no idea about the real story here. He's presenting one side of the story and people are jumping to conclusions based off that side of the story. Hell, in the OP he made it sound like she sits around all day and didn't even bring up the fact that she works until someone asked him pages later. Neither of us have any idea how biased he is in the situation or how much of the story he's leaving out.
Again, if she keeps it up and starts looking for other games to fill her time with instead of me, then I'd start worrying that she has some kind of addiction. But her getting obsessed with one game and trying to do everything in it is not an addiction.
I'd agree with you if she was playing something like WoW with no clear endgame. But Fallout has a point where you are done doing everything. I would let her have her fun and finish everything in the game she seems to love playing. It will be clearly evident whether it's a phase or not when shes done doing everything in the game. If she either looks for other games to put all of her time into or wanders the wastelands of Fallout when there's nothing left to do in the game, those would be the signs that there might be a problem.
Jimnymebob
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What's with the aggressiveness?
You said you're girlfriend doesn't play video games, and that you've bought her a ton of video game related things and nothing. It's only fair for someone to assume you're forcing your hobby on her.
It's like me saying "Oh, my girlfriend doesn't eat chocolate, I've tried buying her boxes upon boxes of the stuff but she still won't eat it. But she eats chocolate, just not as much as me."
He's contrasting your "trying to help her" by letting you see that the way you've kept suggesting she should be into it more might have pushed her away from being into it more. I think his point still stands. When you keep buying things in hope that she gets more into it, she might feel you expect her to do it, which might turn it into something that's not as fun as gaming should be. So just letting her have gaming the way she does, and try and build something positive around it, is always better than "I bought you a 3DS, I thought you'd might like to game more"
Jumpsteady519
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OP I am not mad at you, I am disappointed.
it is irrelevant what this is. He's not happy with the way things are going, and he has all the right to be. Fascilitating communication is key, because that's the way you can get to the bottom of it. This is not about who's right. it's about the fact that one person is affected by something in a negative way. That's all that matters. The next step is that one should strive to figure out why.
NaughtyCalibur
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Are you OK over there?
Only on Neogaf can something you're trying to explain, be interpreted in the most opposite way possible.
Thanks everyone. I feel great now.
afternoon delight
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You walk right up to her, inhale, sit down, and laugh and talk during the game. That'd be a great evening, hell a great playthrough setting.
Good point. But.... It's Fallout, which is perfect? Even neutered lame FO3?
InfiniteBento
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Its pretty hilarious how many people think that this situation makes this woman marriage material.
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