He was 37 at the time, she was like 21, ain't no romance happening like that, even in 2000
But yeah, desexualizing Asian men but over sexualizing the women (and infantalizing both) is a big problem with Hollywood. I bet Chow Yun Fat, Toshiro Mifune (were he half a decade younger...and alive), or Bolo Yeung would have had no issues wooing Aaliyah though
Fortunately there is a robust Asian cinema scene so I don't have to wait for the blue moon good western Asian starring film. Russell Wong couldn't carry the entire Asian world on his back and we lost Brandon Lee far far far too soon.