Online Dating Tips??????

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SSGMUN10000

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Calling all online pimps......how do you get a girl to notice your email message? Im sure they get bombarded with guys trying to hook up with them so what or how would you write a message to stand above the rest? Do you reference something from their profile?make a joke? Anyone have tips?
 
SSGMUN10000 said:
Calling all online pimps......how do you get a girl to notice your email message? Im sure they get bombarded with guys trying to hook up with them so what or how would you write a message to stand above the rest? Do you reference something from their profile?make a joke? Anyone have tips?
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Most girls prefer a pic but my online profiles have never had an online pic and I'm at an amazing success rate when it comes to meeting up with them and having sex.
 
ForzaItalia said:
Most girls prefer a pic but my online profiles have never had an online pic and I'm at an amazing success rate when it comes to meeting up with them and having sex.
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Cool....what is in that intial message that captures there attention? Do you make a joke or reference something on their profile?
 
Subject : Hey there

I was just looking at your profile and you seem like a pretty interesting/cool/fun girl. Wanna chat?

Adjust depending on what her profile is like. DO NOT mention her pictures, good or bad. And it works most of the time.
 
I'd recommend that you write something personal and interesting to everyone. Read their profiles and tailor the e-mail specifically for them, responding directly to things in their profile. Don't use canned responses that you just cut and paste in. Also, use spell check, write coherently, and proof the message before you send it.

I had good success a few years back before meeting my current GF, who I met online, and a number of the women I went out with commented on the fact that I wrote specifically to them about certain things in their post. Women also care a lot more about spelling ang grammer.

I also have a number of female friends who have commented on the cut and paste thing where they got the same exact message from a guy more than once, or a friend of their's got the same one as well.

Aside from that, be creative. Witty and funny! ;)
 
Kung Fu Jedi said:
I'd recommend that you write something personal and interesting to everyone. Read their profiles and tailor the e-mail specifically for them, responding directly to things in their profile. Don't use canned responses that you just cut and paste in. Also, use spell check, write coherently, and proof the message before you send it.

I had good success a few years back before meeting my current GF, who I met online, and a number of the women I went out with commented on the fact that I wrote specifically to them about certain things in their post. Women also care a lot more about spelling ang grammer.

I also have a number of female friends who have commented on the cut and paste thing where they got the same exact message from a guy more than once, or a friend of their's got the same one as well.

Aside from that, be creative. Witty and funny! ;)
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Thinks for the advise. I have met several girls from online and hooked up. Its just that the success rate has been very low. Id say ill get maybe 1 response back from about 15 messages if even that. I sometimes do the whole cut and paste thing but maybe thats why I have a low success rate.
 
SSGMUN10000 said:
Cool....what is in that intial message that captures there attention? Do you make a joke or reference something on their profile?
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OK, dude take notes.


The key to remember is avoid cheesy lines at all costs and NEVER come off as being desperate. I don't know if you're looking for sex or a relationship, but my advice is coming purely from a sex only position. That's my MO.


First you have profiles with girls that have pics. These obviously get more hits than ones without pics. NEVER mention her looks in your message. Shit like "Wow. You are so pretty" is not only lame but it's been done....1000 times. Just mention smething about her profile ie. her being down to earth, fit etc. If she replies then mention if she has MSN, Yahoo, IRC etc because you have pics of yourself to show her there. (assuming you have no pic in your profile) The key to online dating is getting them to the phone ASAP.

Now we have profiles without pics. You'd be surprised how many sexy girls are looking for sex online, whatever that reason might be. Keep in mind that some ugly ones also lurk in the weeds but thankfully MSN has a block and delete feature. These non-pic profiles are great choices mainly because less guys chat to girls that don't have a profile pic, thus ensuring less sausage is in the club so to speak. Again, mention that you like her profile or her being down to earth and also mention that you have pics to exchange with her. Often times you'll get her e-mail addy or MSN etc and things go from there.

Digest that for now.
 
ForzaItalia said:
OK, dude take notes.


The key to remember is avoid cheesy lines at all costs and NEVER come off as being desperate. I don't know if you're looking for sex or a relationship, but my advice is coming purely from a sex only position. That's my MO.


First you have profiles with girls that have pics. These obviously get more hits than ones without pics. NEVER mention her looks in your message. Shit like "Wow. You are so pretty" is not only lame but it's been done....1000 times. Just mention smething about her profile ie. her being down to earth, fit etc. If she replies then mention if she has MSN, Yahoo, IRC etc because you have pics of yourself to show her there. (assuming you have no pic in your profile) The key to online dating is getting them to the phone ASAP.

Now we have profiles without pics. You'd be surprised how many sexy girls are looking for sex online, whatever that reason might be. Keep in mind that some ugly ones also lurk in the weeds but thankfully MSN has a block and delete feature. These non-pic profiles are great choices mainly because less guys chat to girls that don't have a profile pic, thus ensuring less sausage is in the club so to speak. Again, mention that you like her profile or her being down to earth and also mention that you have pics to exchange with her. Often times you'll get her e-mail addy or MSN etc and things go from there.

Digest that for now.
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Thanx for the tips. Im very hesitant on girls with no pics cause Ive have had bad experiences.......meaning they were really ugly. Now Im no Don Juan but Im average and want the girls to be at least average too. I guess exchanging many pics would be a good idea over chat.
 
I'd still want to exchange pics with someone before I actually met them. Pictures aren't always everything either, I've had good looking pics turn into not so good looking women when you meet, and the other way around as well. But it's always a good idea to see a pic before getting together, even if their profile doesn't have one. Some women are reluctatnt to share it on their profile, but will share after getting to know you better.
 
I opened a myspace account about 2-3 days ago and I've had 12 local chicks message me already. That's a pretty good turnaround if you ask me. I'd get a myspace account and don't act emo on it and you should do fine.\

Subject : Hey there

I was just looking at your profile and you seem like a pretty interesting/cool/fun girl. Wanna chat?

Adjust depending on what her profile is like. DO NOT mention her pictures, good or bad. And it works most of the time.
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I completely disagree with this advice. That's so generic and i'm sure they get flooded with tons of messages that say exactly the same thing.

My advice, comment on the picture but don't say "you're sexy" or anything like that. Make mention of something specific. "Nice smile" "that's a unique necklace, what's the story behind it"

Make sure you mention her name at least once, and also, make sure you make a comment about something specific to her profile so that it shows you read it.

Instead of "wanna chat" finish it off with something like "I look forward to hearing from you"
 
Kung Fu Jedi said:
Pictures aren't always everything either, I've had good looking pics turn into not so good looking women when you meet, and the other way around as well.
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Great point.

P.S. And don't fall for the face/head pic trick without seeing the body shot...ohhhh...and if she's a freak with a webcam then you're really laughing....
 
koam said:
I opened a myspace account about 2-3 days ago and I've had 12 local chicks message me already. That's a pretty good turnaround if you ask me. I'd get a myspace account and don't act emo on it and you should do fine.\
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Nobody messages me. :(
 
Another thing to watch out for is girls that say they have "average" or "extra pounds" body types. I once had a girl tell me she was "average" and then said she was 5ft5 and 185 pounds. That might be average to a 350 pound man....not me.
 
goodcow said:
Nobody messages me. :(
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Maybe you're ugly? Heh i'm just kidding. What I do is a i put a picture of me doing something that i like (NOT VIDEOGAMES) and have that as my profile picture. It will give them something to talk to you about and at the same time, you get women with similar interests message you.

Also, have something interesting or witty in your profile and don't make your page look like it can induce seizures.

Edit: http://www.myspace.com/goodcow

Is that you?
 
ForzaItalia said:
Another thing to watch out for is girls that say they have "average" or "extra pounds" body types. I once had a girl tell me she was "average" and then said she was 5ft5 and 185 pounds. That might be average to a 350 pound man....not me.
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Yeah! I've fallen for that one more than once. Women tend to exaggerate their weight downward. If they say "a few extra pounds" they are probably quite large. If they say "average" they may or may not be average, or on the high end of that. I've never really had a problem if the woman has said "slim" or "fit". The usually meet that expectation, as those are pretty hard to fake in pictures, etc.
 
ForzaItalia said:
Another thing to watch out for is girls that say they have "average" or "extra pounds" body types. I once had a girl tell me she was "average" and then said she was 5ft5 and 185 pounds. That might be average to a 350 pound man....not me.
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There's that, and then there's the women who have 10 pics of themselves but they're all face shots. Tells you something about the body.
 
I'd also say, be honest with them from the get go. I've had so many of my female friends tell me horror stories about meeting someone for the first time, only to find out he is nothing like he said he was. Don't exaggerate. Don't describe yourself as 6'2" when you're really 5'9", etc. You get the picture. Apparently this happens a lot. :lol
 
Yup....and then the funny thing is trying to stay composed when you see a pic of them and they look really overweight. You try keeping the convo going but your mind keeps going back to that horrifying image. After that conversation you block and delete them but then that's followed by e-mails from them like "Hey, where have you been?" etc until they finally get the point.
 
koam said:
Edit: http://www.myspace.com/goodcow

Is that you?
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Considering there's goodcowfilms.com stuff all over the profile, yes.

I was being serious that nobody messages me, but then again, I'm not trying to use MySpace to get laid or anything, it's mainly to keep in touch with old friends from middle and high school, and another web presence for my site.
 
goodcow said:
Considering there's goodcowfilms.com stuff all over the profile, yes.

I was being serious that nobody messages me, but then again, I'm not trying to use MySpace to get laid or anything, it's mainly to keep in touch with old friends from middle and high school, and another web presence for my site.
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- Garfunkel, 9 years old (he sleeps with me... yeah, you know you wish you slept with me.
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The biggest and greatest thing though with online dating is in the way it knocks down walls, especially when it comes to sex. It's a lot easier for women to type things out of a sexual nature rather than say it face to face. The next phase is taking it to the phone where they tell you what they want and eventually when you meet up, there are no mysteries, no games....

Just sex...and lots of it.
 
ForzaItalia said:
The biggest and greatest thing though with online dating is in the way it knocks down walls, especially when it comes to sex. It's a lot easier for women to type things out of a sexual nature rather than say it face to face. The next phase is taking it to the phone where they tell you what they want and eventually when you meet up, there are no mysteries, no games....

Just sex...and lots of it.
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I don't usually post this, but QFT! :D
 
Online dating is great just because it eliminates half of the bullshit of real dating.

The key is not just saying "you're interesting", find something interesting in their profile and talk about that. That's what I usually do and then that leads to chatting and if they're fun, dating. But then again, I don't have much experience with normal dating sites, just the ones strictly for sex, lol.
 
ForzaItalia said:
The biggest and greatest thing though with online dating is in the way it knocks down walls, especially when it comes to sex. It's a lot easier for women to type things out of a sexual nature rather than say it face to face. The next phase is taking it to the phone where they tell you what they want and eventually when you meet up, there are no mysteries, no games....

Just sex...and lots of it.
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Are there actually attractive girls who do this?
 
My advice was more for dating sites. For things like MySpace, yeah you do have to be more personal about it, since MySpace is all about the 'this is me' factor.
 
Those "guys" who say they claim to have numerous physically intimate encounters from online dating sites are full of sh*t. If they claim that the females they meet up with are at minimum semi-attractive, they're even more full of sh*t.
 
Shawn said:
Those "guys" who say they claim to have numerous physically intimate encounters from online dating sites are full of sh*t. If they claim that the females they meet up with are at minimum semi-attractive, they're even more full of sh*t.
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OMG NO WAYS! I pimp hawt biotches all day long. You must be some ugly nerd with no game man! Not like us pimps who know what we are doing. You might doubt us having real sex filled lives because we are posting at gaf all hours of the day but that's only because we do it on our cellys in between fhuta'ing the chicks man! Don't hate the playa dawg, hate the game!
 
Shawn said:
Those "guys" who say they claim to have numerous physically intimate encounters from online dating sites are full of sh*t. If they claim that the females they meet up with are at minimum semi-attractive, they're even more full of sh*t.
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So based on your inability to meet someone online, you're projecting that no one else is either? Ok....
 
Some more tips....

Even if you are looking for just sex it is best to have a profile that doesn't advertise this. Go with a more dating, relationship and intimate profile. I say this because many women will be turned off if your profile implies you are only looking for sex, even if they are looking for the same. You'd be surprised how many women say they are only looking for a relationship but once chatting to them, you can get them to admit they're open for anything.


P.S. To the non-believer. yes hot women do exist online and yes, some guys and girls actually have sex with them...Some of these women are separated, divorced or even married so they look for discrete encounters away from their areas and people spying on them. I am that discrete encounter....
 
ForzaItalia has it right. One of the best women I met online was newly seperated and looking for fun. She was hot, and was looking for someone to be that "discrete encounter" as well. It was amzing, to say the least.
 
ForzaItalia said:
Never been with a married one....just saying they're out there.
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Oh ok that's cool, I just believe in what goes around comes around. I'm all for casual encounters but I wouldn't mess with a marriage.
 
Kung Fu Jedi said:
ForzaItalia has it right. One of the best women I met online was newly seperated and looking for fun. She was hot, and was looking for someone to be that "discrete encounter" as well. It was amzing, to say the least.
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Kung Fu Jedi said:
Forza is that one of the women you met? Looks nice from here! ;)
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Yes it is. Separated like you said and a real freak. Lots of fun and also cool to hang out with. Lives an hour away from me so it's all good. Not a lot of heat that way.....
 
ForzaItalia said:
Yes it is. Separated like you said and a real freak. Lots of fun and also cool to hang out with. Lives an hour away from me so it's all good. Not a lot of heat that way.....
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The one I mentioned who was seperated was a real freak as well. I could tell some seriously hot stories that would sound like a Penthouse letter! ;) We lived about 45 mins apart as well, which was close enough to get together when we wanted, but far enough away that you had a bufferzone! :D When someone mentions that you can't meet women online for sex, I just think about her and smile like this ==> :D
 
Kung Fu Jedi said:
The one I mentioned who was seperated was a real freak as well. I could tell some seriously hot stories that would sound like a Penthouse letter! ;) We lived about 45 mins apart as well, which was close enough to get together when we wanted, but far enough away that you had a bufferzone! :D When someone mentions that you can't meet women online for sex, I just think about her and smile like this ==> :D
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Very true. The one in the pic above also sent me a 30 second video of her then husband fucking her doggy-style. She's a freak. I love her.

Last summer I met this hot MILF that was going through a separation. She was 5ft 1, 95 pounds and tight...interior decorator/areobics instructor. She told me she loved the "bufferzone" because eyes were on her where she lived.
 
ForzaItalia said:
Very true. The one in the pic above also sent me a 30 second video of her then husband fucking her doggy-style. She's a freak. I love her.

Last summer I met this hot MILF that was going through a separation. She was 5ft 1, 95 pounds and tight...interior decorator/areobics instructor. She told me she loved the "bufferzone" because eyes were on her where she lived.
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Those eyes on them is exactly why a number of women don't post their pictures online.

My seperated woman was probably about 5'5", 115 pounds, and she worked out constantly. I think it was all that energy that she built up that needed to be channeled somewhere! ;)
 
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