Online Dating Tips??????

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Cubsfan23 said:
good tips already posted, I'll add some more.

1. Suggest that you meet somewhere near your place. That way if they aren't up to your standards, or the date plain sucks, you didn't waste too much time. If it goes good, it's natural to have her come over since you guys are already close by.

2. Have a life outside of the computer. Waiting all day for her to email you back or, or get on MSN etc. is a death wish. Sounds like common sense, but I know some here will do this (I used to)

3. If she doesn't agree to meet within a week, then in all likelihood it will never happen. Yes, there are exceptions like her dog died and she needs some time to mourn, but good rule of thumb.

4. Find an online spot where there are many to choose from. It pays off to not be attached to to the outcome, so if one girl doesn't workout, you won't care because you have other "applicants" waiting in your inbox.

5. You have nothing to lose. Have fun :)

Excellent post, as a veteran of online dating (like something like 60% of my girlfriends have been from online) all these things ring true. I'll also agree with those people who say you should comment on stuff in the profile, like if they mention they like to read, ask them their favorite authors... and of course post a picture. Its rare I get girls messaging me first but that's because most girls wait for guys to message them.

Oh yeah even if you dont' like the girl... remain friends with them. Because they might have hot friends... networking is always good ;)
 
suaveric said:
I can't believe those teachers would enter that contest and expect to keep their job.

Nothing really wrong with that. Is not like they are posing nude...
Vida Guerra was a car sales associate when she was found and now she makes tons of money with less effort (I assume).
 
suaveric said:
I can't believe those teachers would enter that contest and expect to keep their job.

Yeah, the two teachers I dated were SCARED to put their pics online, even if it's just a face shot, nothing naughty. With one of them I understood, because she had a student become an online stalker of hers. He's lucky that she wanted to follow the legal way of handling that, I was ready to make him regret it:lol

Now the other teacher, I've got some rather naughty photos of her.....or rather did until my hard drive wipe. I wish I could recover those:(

And, in response to AFF being a sausage fest, it does seem to be like 60% guys, but I just gloss right over any message from guys, and work only with the women there. The bonus is that a lot of guys there are dullards and thus your competition isn't bad at all, especially if you're at least able to physically compete, hehe.
 
I met another online chick last night in Barrie.....she bartends at Foundations. Just made out...no sex....that'll happen next time. Cool chick.
 
What the hell do you do with someone who just DOES NOT TALK??

We've exchanged MSN, so obviously there was interest beyond the website, and we just had a first chat there, but he says NOTHING! I even said to him that he seemed to be a quiet one, to which he agreed. I'm the one asking the questions, trying to spark something, but I'm getting just minimal feedback..
 
gofreak said:
What the hell do you do with someone who just DOES NOT TALK??

We've exchanged MSN, so obviously there was interest beyond the website, and we just had a first chat there, but he says NOTHING! I even said to him that he seemed to be a quiet one, to which he agreed. I'm the one asking the questions, trying to spark something, but I'm getting just minimal feedback..


Hmmm..have you exchanged pics yet?
 
gofreak said:
Yes. Before we exchanged MSN also. I mean, he added me!

Hmmm...in that case I'd say this guy is probably shy which comes back to you. Do you like shy guys? Do they intrigue you? If not, I'd block and delete. :D
 
I might be on the verge of my first internet meet up. We exchanged a few very short messages, and my last one I asked if she wanted to see a movie sometime. She responded with, "Yes!! When?" Which I replied to, "This weekend?" and she hasn't replied yet (and that was 4 days ago).

I think it might have to do with the fact that I took 13 days or something to reply to her initial message, and she doesn't want to seem too pushy or something. Eh. So much for the internet cutting out all the bullshit of relationships.
 
ForzaItalia said:
Hmmm...in that case I'd say this guy is probably shy which comes back to you. Do you like shy guys? Do they intrigue you? If not, I'd block and delete. :D

I'm usually the shy one!

I don't know if he's trying to be dark and mysterious. Or maybe he's just very laid back. But you can't get somewhere without engaging the other person. I'll give him a shout in a day or two and see what things are like then.
 
Futureman, keep in mind that these chicks are talking to various dudes at the same time as they are talking to you. Get the phone # first and then mention going out. Avoid a movie on the first date unless it's a seedy porn theatre.

Gofreak, I admire your patience for I lack it yet don't wait around too long.
 
Just out of curiousity, if someone is an idiot in e-mail, what's the likelihood that they're an idiot in real life? Like if you get superficial letters full of typos, outdated slang phrases or net-isms ("It's all good," "holla," OMGLOLZ, etc)...
 
border said:
Just out of curiousity, if someone is an idiot in e-mail, what's the likelihood that they're an idiot in real life? Like if you get superficial letters full of typos, outdated slang phrases or net-isms ("It's all good," "holla," OMGLOLZ, etc)...

Very likely.:lol
 
ForzaItalia said:
Futureman, keep in mind that these chicks are talking to various dudes at the same time as they are talking to you. Get the phone # first and then mention going out. Avoid a movie on the first date unless it's a seedy porn theatre.

Gofreak, I admire your patience for I lack it yet don't wait around too long.

Yea, seeing a movie would be weird if she was a complete stranger, but I've met her before, though fairly briefly. She initiated the first contact on myspace, and she responded with "Yes!!" when I asked if she wanted to see a movie, so I'm gonna go as planned right now. I'm thinking it has a lot to do with the Easter weekend with her not responding.
 
I don't give a sh*t what I'm reading here. There's no way a physically attractive woman would use -- or would need to use -- an online "dating" site. There's no way such a woman would use that type of means to meet people of the opposite gender, for fear of being physically harmed, raped or killed -- unless she was mentally ill or beyond desperate.
 
Shawn said:
I don't give a sh*t what I'm reading here. There's no way a physically attractive woman would use -- or would need to use -- an online "dating" site. There's no way such a woman would use that type of means to meet people of the opposite gender, for fear of being physically harmed, raped or killed -- unless she was mentally ill or beyond desperate.

Not true. But thanks for your contribution. Some people just don't have the opportunity to meet people in their daily lives/work/etc. And on top of that, they are not into the bar scene. Generally, you make contact by e-mail/IM first, then progress to phone, and go from there. First meetings are usually in a very public place, and it's just to get to see one another, and to see how things go. I personally have met a number of very hot women through online dating. On the flip side, I've met some not so hot ones either. :lol
 
Shawn said:
I don't give a sh*t what I'm reading here. There's no way a physically attractive woman would use -- or would need to use -- an online "dating" site. There's no way such a woman would use that type of means to meet people of the opposite gender, for fear of being physically harmed, raped or killed -- unless she was mentally ill or beyond desperate.


:lol :lol :lol :lol STFU kid, you'd be surprise at some of the women that a guy meets on dating sites
 
Shawn said:
I don't give a sh*t what I'm reading here. There's no way a physically attractive woman would use -- or would need to use -- an online "dating" site. There's no way such a woman would use that type of means to meet people of the opposite gender, for fear of being physically harmed, raped or killed -- unless she was mentally ill or beyond desperate.

Some hot chicks dont know that they are hot... err..they know it but they just dont have any self esteem at all. Some girls will go to any length to get attention. the internet is a great place to start for girls who have no self-respect, but are good looking, to find guys to talk to w/o having to go to a bar or something. not all hot girls are uber-confident man eaters!

beyond that, a lot of girls love making these profiles on line.. "oooh! this is mee! ill put a cute kitty here too..and some hearts..this is me!! i love butterflies and cotton candy...and dick!" its fun to them.

On a side note..

What a lot of people need to get over is this "ooh, do these girls have issues?? i need a girl who has no issues." listen man, all girls have issues. thats just a fact of life. you as a man have to be able to decide for yourself if the number of issues she has is worth dealing with in the long run for continouis sex or whatever else you're into.

Ive had some interesting encounters that started on AIM or something...most of them were kinda random like that and didnt really start through a specific dating site..but.. all the girls were hot!
 
Shawn said:
I don't give a sh*t what I'm reading here. There's no way a physically attractive woman would use -- or would need to use -- an online "dating" site. There's no way such a woman would use that type of means to meet people of the opposite gender, for fear of being physically harmed, raped or killed -- unless she was mentally ill or beyond desperate.

Well, to be honest, it depends. There are ladies who feel like the only guys there ever find are sleazy jerks who are just looking for sex. Faced with a lack of intelligent, caring gentleman in their area, they try posting online at some of the reputable sites to actually find someone.

I somehow doubt that's what happens on the "GET SEX NOW" online sites, however.
 
Shawn said:
I don't give a sh*t what I'm reading here. There's no way a physically attractive woman would use -- or would need to use -- an online "dating" site. There's no way such a woman would use that type of means to meet people of the opposite gender, for fear of being physically harmed, raped or killed -- unless she was mentally ill or beyond desperate.

Your problem is that you see online dating as being some sort of scum version of dating. We're in an online world now, the bar scene is being dispersed. This is another avenue people use to meet others.

That or you found a porker online.
 
DavidDayton said:
Well, to be honest, it depends. There are ladies who feel like the only guys there ever find are sleazy jerks who are just looking for sex.

Not that this thread is doing much to dispel that notion, of course. ;)
 
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