Online Dating Tips??????
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ForzaItalia
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kablooey said:
2. Honesty
Just tell them what you want. No games. Be direct and they'll do likewise.
Keru_Shiri
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So, what are some good services to use? Are there any good free-services out there, or do you use the pay ones (i.e. Match.com).
Kung Fu Jedi
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Keru_Shiri said:
I've used both Yahoo Personals and Match.com to very good success, although I've heard MySpace is probably better for a hook-up. I'm an old man though, so I didn't get into the MySpace scene.
ForzaItalia
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aoi tsuki said:Forza, is that a clit slip i see?
Ummmm...I hope not!
good tips already posted, I'll add some more.
1. Suggest that you meet somewhere near your place. That way if they aren't up to your standards, or the date plain sucks, you didn't waste too much time. If it goes good, it's natural to have her come over since you guys are already close by.
2. Have a life outside of the computer. Waiting all day for her to email you back or, or get on MSN etc. is a death wish. Sounds like common sense, but I know some here will do this (I used to)
3. If she doesn't agree to meet within a week, then in all likelihood it will never happen. Yes, there are exceptions like her dog died and she needs some time to mourn, but good rule of thumb.
4. Find an online spot where there are many to choose from. It pays off to not be attached to to the outcome, so if one girl doesn't workout, you won't care because you have other "applicants" waiting in your inbox.
5. You have nothing to lose. Have fun
1. Suggest that you meet somewhere near your place. That way if they aren't up to your standards, or the date plain sucks, you didn't waste too much time. If it goes good, it's natural to have her come over since you guys are already close by.
2. Have a life outside of the computer. Waiting all day for her to email you back or, or get on MSN etc. is a death wish. Sounds like common sense, but I know some here will do this (I used to)
3. If she doesn't agree to meet within a week, then in all likelihood it will never happen. Yes, there are exceptions like her dog died and she needs some time to mourn, but good rule of thumb.
4. Find an online spot where there are many to choose from. It pays off to not be attached to to the outcome, so if one girl doesn't workout, you won't care because you have other "applicants" waiting in your inbox.
5. You have nothing to lose. Have fun
ForzaItalia
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6. Watch out for girls that get friends with other accounts to message you for no reason looking for sex and talking dirty. Yes, some chicks are really that devious.
Kung Fu Jedi
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Good tips Cubsfan. I especially agree with #2 and #5.
On #2, it's really easy to get caught up in waiting for a response, watching for someone to come online, etc. You're much better served by sending an e-mail and forgetting about it until you get a respons, or and opportunity to chat directly.
And #5 is a no brainer, but don't take things too seriously, have fun, and just enjoy meeting some new people. If more comes out of it, all the better!
Forza: Have actually had that happen? That is devious! I've only had their girlfriends e-mail me directly asking questions and such.
On #2, it's really easy to get caught up in waiting for a response, watching for someone to come online, etc. You're much better served by sending an e-mail and forgetting about it until you get a respons, or and opportunity to chat directly.
And #5 is a no brainer, but don't take things too seriously, have fun, and just enjoy meeting some new people. If more comes out of it, all the better!
Forza: Have actually had that happen? That is devious! I've only had their girlfriends e-mail me directly asking questions and such.
ForzaItalia
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Kung Fu Jedi said:
It is happened two or three times to me. Girls will often ask you how many other girls you are talking to online and naturally, you never say the real amount. Then out of the blue you'll see another girl from the same area contact you acting all interested and in some cases very horny. It's pretty obvious what's going on....
distantmantra
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ForzaItalia said:
I'm amazed that picture has yet to be removed four hours later.
This is completely out of curiosity, I'm happily engaged, but Forza, what percentage of these women are mentally/emotionally stable? I'm getting a feeling from what you and others have said that the majority of these women have issues that they need to work through. A couple years ago, I dated a woman who was seperated/getting divorced for six months. It may have been nothing but wild, dirty, nasty fun at the time, but now that I look back at it, it was nothing but chaos and drama that I would never want to deal with ever again.
ForzaItalia
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distantmantra said:
Should I take it down dude? Is it bad?
I'd say many of them do but I don't judge them. That's why many of them end up being one nighters....
distantmantra
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ForzaItalia said:
Well, you can't tell from the thumbnail, but it's pretty explicit when you open the link. I don't care, but someone might.
That's what I figured. This is something that our friend needs to be aware of before embarking in the turbulent world that is online dating.
ForzaItalia
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:lol It's gone guys....thanks.
Kung Fu Jedi
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distantmantra said:
Most of the women I have met online are completely normal. When I was doing it regularly a few years back, I would e-mail back and fourth, IM, and talk on the phone before getting together. Yes, I met a few that were off their rocker. Some of which doesn't come out until AFTER you've slept with them!
Here's another few other tips on the first date.
1) YOU choose the place, never say "where do you wanna go"
2) NEVER go to a movie on the first date unless you're also going to a coffee shop before the movie. The reason is simple, you don't get a chance to talk during a movie.
3) I like to have my first dates in coffee shops that are "different" then the usual starbucks. I always bring a magazine with me and show up 5 minutes before the established time and read the mag while I wait and here's what to do at this point:
a) Read the magazine so you don't sit there looking like a dork with nothing to do
b) wait 15 minutes past the established time, if she hasn't shown up yet, LEAVE, do not stay longer
c) If b happens, do this, and this is VERY important. Call her up the next day or message her and say the following: "I'm terribly sorry for yesterday, I was on my way there but (give a good reason here "got called for work" always works for me cause i do IT support). When I showed up you already left and I felt like an asshole. I'm really sorry and I want to make it up to you badly.. (arrange a second date here at a restaurant and MAKE SURE YOU CHOOSE WHERE IT IS)". That sounds absurd cause it's clearly a lie, but if she didn't show the first and you know for sure that she didn't send anyone in her place (look around for suspicious friends) then she will fall for this trap and show up. She will also, most likely, not mention anything about her not showing up. You'll get sex on that date or the next one. I'm 3/3 with this technique, it's such an easy trap.
1) YOU choose the place, never say "where do you wanna go"
2) NEVER go to a movie on the first date unless you're also going to a coffee shop before the movie. The reason is simple, you don't get a chance to talk during a movie.
3) I like to have my first dates in coffee shops that are "different" then the usual starbucks. I always bring a magazine with me and show up 5 minutes before the established time and read the mag while I wait and here's what to do at this point:
a) Read the magazine so you don't sit there looking like a dork with nothing to do
b) wait 15 minutes past the established time, if she hasn't shown up yet, LEAVE, do not stay longer
c) If b happens, do this, and this is VERY important. Call her up the next day or message her and say the following: "I'm terribly sorry for yesterday, I was on my way there but (give a good reason here "got called for work" always works for me cause i do IT support). When I showed up you already left and I felt like an asshole. I'm really sorry and I want to make it up to you badly.. (arrange a second date here at a restaurant and MAKE SURE YOU CHOOSE WHERE IT IS)". That sounds absurd cause it's clearly a lie, but if she didn't show the first and you know for sure that she didn't send anyone in her place (look around for suspicious friends) then she will fall for this trap and show up. She will also, most likely, not mention anything about her not showing up. You'll get sex on that date or the next one. I'm 3/3 with this technique, it's such an easy trap.
koam said:
:lol yeah I heard about this idea from this site http://ideagasms.net/newsletter.php?c=15, last year. Don't really do it anymore, but yeah it does work.
Kung Fu Jedi
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SofaKing said:
Thanks for your advice. Now move along.
CrystalGemini
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Post this:
Just so you don't think you have a random guy or something friend requesting, I'm <your name here> from the forum. Name's <your REAL name here>, obviously. This is all apart of my elaborate plan to have one more friend than just Tom. I think he's been seeing other people behind my back. Don't tell him I said that, though.
Seems someone was trying hard.
:lol
Just so you don't think you have a random guy or something friend requesting, I'm <your name here> from the forum. Name's <your REAL name here>, obviously. This is all apart of my elaborate plan to have one more friend than just Tom. I think he's been seeing other people behind my back. Don't tell him I said that, though.
Seems someone was trying hard.
:lol
CrystalGemini
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I never respond to those. But I have some friends that do all the time so knock yourself out. XPLakeEarth said:
i tried AFF four years ago. The vast majority of responses has been from guys. Even after killing my membership and account, i still get get spam from them. It seemed like a good idea, but AFF is one big fucking sausage party.Tamanon said:
Example: i was going through my Hotmail inbox, which i read maybe once every two weeks, and i found this:
Dude... no. Just no. This isn't the kind of shit that's going to make me crawl back to AFF, credit card in hand.
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I can't believe no one mentioned the ones that link you to their pay-site-profiles where you'll need to pay a membership fee or something like that crap before she can email you her number. Just stupid .
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Cheebs said:
Myspace is the greatest thing ever if you want to get laid, the rest seems to be all paying sites. A few people i know all got hooked through myspace:lol
CrystalGemini
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Isn't that what everyone says? : P Amuse us. Elaborate.DavidDayton said:
CrystalGemini
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And what are you implying here?etiolate said:
CrystalGemini
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Holy moly! HOW DID YOU KNOW?!etiolate said:
CrystalGemini said:
Well, if you insist.
I'm looking for an intelligent, nerdish girl who shares my basic values and beliefs so that we can spend time getting to know each other, enjoy each other's company, and (in the long run) get married and spend the rest of our lives in love.
(Yes, the marriage would have sex. Calm down your paranoia.)
norinrad21
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DavidDayton said:
You want a teacher?
CrystalGemini
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What's wrong with teachers? Some are pretty damn hot. :lolnorinrad21 said:
hi_im_jenny
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My opinion:
No "hi babe" or "hit me back"... My suggestion is to mention something from her profile, an interest of hers that you know of, her culture or someting... deep. Just don't go there saying, "I am e-mailing you because you have a great rack". While we know that men want sex, we like to be fooled into the idea that you care about more things and in things we like. Don't write a huge essay or you'll look like a stalker... just a few simple things.
I.e.
"Hi "girls nick", I ran a ccross your profile and you seem like a pretty one of a kind person.
I notice that you like "list her interests/nationality" and that is awesome because I "list things you know about one of her interests/nationality".
I'm "talk a bit about yourself, joke if you can" and it would really make my day if I could get to know more about such a gorgeous and smart woman/girl like you.
do you have any instatnt messengers? "list all that you have and ask ffor hers".
Hope to hear from you soon,
Desperate GAF guy
A rough draft, but I'm sure you get the picture...
just make you have a life, have good higyene, have a job, have education and is not over 30 and living with your parents. Plese notice that 3-day rule applies for SOMe girls and you should never EVER seem too eager, unless you notice she has low self esteem.
Also, you being a gamer and probably getting into a dating with a girl who probably is not, keep in mind that most girls HATE videogames. They find them childish and stupid, for whatever reason. While I tolerate my bf leaving a date early for some online game match, a "normal girl" would flip out, so... watch what you say on your first dates.
Places to get women:
non-gamers = Mate1(not free, ha s alot of women and not a lot of men) and Myspace(free, but packed with hoes, so watch out)
gamers/anime fans = OtakuBooty
Am I good or what?
hi_im_j's womanly advice - $10 per hour
Girls are different and attracted to different things. while some will only message you back if they see you look like a Calvin Klein model, others don't really care for that as long as you look decent and seem to have a personality. Just make sure to have good pictures on your profile and be creative.SSGMUN10000 said:
SSGMUN10000 said:
No "hi babe" or "hit me back"... My suggestion is to mention something from her profile, an interest of hers that you know of, her culture or someting... deep. Just don't go there saying, "I am e-mailing you because you have a great rack". While we know that men want sex, we like to be fooled into the idea that you care about more things and in things we like. Don't write a huge essay or you'll look like a stalker... just a few simple things.
I.e.
"Hi "girls nick", I ran a ccross your profile and you seem like a pretty one of a kind person.
I notice that you like "list her interests/nationality" and that is awesome because I "list things you know about one of her interests/nationality".
I'm "talk a bit about yourself, joke if you can" and it would really make my day if I could get to know more about such a gorgeous and smart woman/girl like you.
do you have any instatnt messengers? "list all that you have and ask ffor hers".
Hope to hear from you soon,
Desperate GAF guy
A rough draft, but I'm sure you get the picture...
just make you have a life, have good higyene, have a job, have education and is not over 30 and living with your parents. Plese notice that 3-day rule applies for SOMe girls and you should never EVER seem too eager, unless you notice she has low self esteem.
Also, you being a gamer and probably getting into a dating with a girl who probably is not, keep in mind that most girls HATE videogames. They find them childish and stupid, for whatever reason. While I tolerate my bf leaving a date early for some online game match, a "normal girl" would flip out, so... watch what you say on your first dates.
Places to get women:
non-gamers = Mate1(not free, ha s alot of women and not a lot of men) and Myspace(free, but packed with hoes, so watch out)
gamers/anime fans = OtakuBooty
Am I good or what?
hi_im_j's womanly advice - $10 per hour
norinrad21
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DavidDayton said:
How do you know someone of the women surrounded around you aren't into your values in believes?
hi_im_jenny
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aoi tsuki said:
I'm assuming you saw this then...
which proves...
hi_im_jenny
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CrystalGemini
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There you go. :lolhi_im_j said:
http://www.braindent.com/images/heather/heather_full.html is the fullpage scan.hi_im_j said:I'm assuming you saw this then...
which proves...
First time i've seen it though.
Given that this is GAF, this kinda took me by surprise.DavidDayton said:
ForzaItalia
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In the first pic that teacher looks like she's just blasted some rails and the straw has fallen out of her fingertips.
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