Cross post from the other thread. General musings but maybe some helpful advice for those who find themselves grouping up and playing competitive, but aren't organized.
Chat isn't so bad with randoms and in PUGs. Don't focus on chat, focus on yourself. You can ignore the one troll, and nobody really uses mic anyway. In the end, skill matters most unless you're playing premade vs. premade. However...
I've noticed playing with full "groups" (i.e. random friends of people on my friends list), I'm encountered with way more anxiety and frustration than playing solo, or duo. There's no communication and also less fun, surprisingly. My suggestions for anybody else who has this problem.
#1. Learn how to play more than one role, decently, and do it without saying anything.
Somebody picks support, you pick damage. Same thing goes for tank and vice-versa.
#2. Switch when something isn't working, do it without saying anything.
When you're losing, or constantly getting shut down on a map, it isn't ALWAYS because of the picks. It's a FPS, sometimes, other players are fragging harder than you.
To suggest it's always a composition issue would imply that everybody isn't trying hard enough, or that nobody ever gets outplayed, it's just the wrong picks.
#3. If you're not comfortable playing the standard top-tier picks, you're not any better than a random
Playing with friends rocks, losing because of one of your friends playing an average D.Va, Zenyatta, Widow(attack or KOTH)... SUCKS.
Learn which tank is good for which comp, which flankers, etc.
#4. LEARN HOW TO LOSE.
So many times, people can't handle a close match ending up in a loss. Two of those? Half the group goes on break, or complains about something and generally ruins the rest of the session because theyre trying too hard.
I don't need others to add their emotional baggage to my experience.
If you can't adapt and roll with the punches, I'm wasting my time with you as a teammate.
Some suggestions. Ignore trolls. Have fun. Git gud.
Never be afraid to blame randoms when you lose, then blame teammates, then maybe blame yourself.