WickedAngel said:
I already have on multiple occasions.
There is nothing discriminatory about a movement to offer the same rights to everyone and having a different name for the two of them, nor is the government responsible for the fact that some of you perceive "civil union" as being a lesser term than "marriage".
Sure there is, the discrimination is opening a particular status to some citizens but not to others. Are you suggesting that it WOULD be ok if african americans (and only what are currently called "marriages" involving african americans) had their relationships with each other and other races as "civil unions"? Or if someone interpreted the
Loving decision to grant civil union rights but not a right to marry? If a man can marry a woman there's no reason why a woman shouldn't have the same right under a law, otherwise it's gender discrimination.
"Civil union" doesn't carry the connotations that "marriage" does because the term is relatively new; that doesn't make it inferior, nor does it make the government biased for attempting to find neutral ground that can satisfy both sides of the argument.
Again, sure it does make it discriminatory, because the entire point of giving legal recognition to gay relationships in a new regulatory scheme created uniquely for them is to separate them and stigmatize them. It points out that they're not "like" other couples.
I wrote this quite some time ago but you weren't paying attention. Discrimination is an act that either makes a movement for or against a people and shows partiality to one side over the other.
I'm with you so far.
The government can't call "civil unions" a "marriage" without discriminating against Conservatives who, right or wrong, feel that "marriage" is between a man and a woman.
Which is why we now have interracial "civil unions," to appease the opponents of interracial marriage. Seriously, recognizing that gay relationships have the same legal recognition as straight relationships discriminates against no one. Conservatives (and religious liberals like Obama) are free to disagree with the decision but it in no way impacts their lives.
They can, however, offer the same rights and privileges to homosexual couples under a different title, thus fulfilling their responsibility to homosexuals while remaining neutral enough to refrain from discriminating against others.
That's not being neutral, that's seeing the need to single out a particular group with an entirely arbitrary and pernicious gender based distinction. It's unnecessary because we already have the framework needed to allow for gay marriage, why spend the effort creating an entirely new scheme if not to stigmatize gays?
The government is responsible for giving homosexuals the same rights as everyone else; they aren't responsible for establishing a sense of satisfaction for something so irrelevant as the terminology that is used to describe those rights (Especially when the terminology itself isn't offensive or inflammatory).
The fact that the term proposed is different than for other groups is enough to be offensive. I also find it interesting that it's mostly straight people that think the term "marriage" should be irrelevant to gays. I guess it's easy to ignore stigmatization when you're not experiencing it.
The "Separate But Equal" history in the United States wasn't even remotely comparable. In fact, it was the exact opposite; they went to institutions with the same label as white children but faced poor conditions, inconvenient locations, and a lesser educational experience all around. There was nothing equal about their situation and the GMC Vs. Chevrolet comparison is much more appropriate to the discussion.
I don't believe I heard the GMC vs Chevy comparison, but I don't agree. Marriage has a rich history in this country, but more importantly it carries a unique, clear status. You know what someone says when they say "I'm married to so and so" or "this is my husband so and so" (or wife of course). It's a lot less clear to say "this is my partner so and so." Marriage has a universality to it, people know what it means. Civil Unions are too different, too clearly identifying of the person, and too impersonal. Again, there's no rationale for gender based discrimination in marriage laws.
A civil union isn't a "lesser" marriage; it's just the way that the government maintains neutrality between both sides and refrains from discrimination. You're not going to be pulled outside and beaten to death if you and your partner say you're getting married in spite of the fact that it says "Civil Union" on your marriage papers.
True, but it won't be accurate. What box do you check on a form that says "Married, divorced, widowed/widower, never married"? What do you tell your parents? Hell, why should you be able to file tax returns as a MARRIED couple in California but as a "unioned" couple for federal purposes? What's the rational basis for excluding gays from marriage?