Why make passive-aggressive statements like this?
Coping mechanism / stress relief.
To be fair, you should probably lay off the passive aggressive posts. All that does is make people less inclined to listen to you when you have something important to say.
This is called a tone argument, and it's spurious.
If people aren't going to listen because we're angry then I don't want them as "allies". Real allies would realize the anger is warranted.
As a an example for the
transgender issues.
I'm sorry, why is this guy not permabanned exactly?
Seriously. Fucking A, thanks for the reminder why I almost never talk about substantive matters that affect me here. I do not want to subject myself to the ignorance of many of the people in that disgusting thread. I struggle enough with depression without seeing what horrific ideas rando jerks believe about people like me.
I know it's not great forum etiquette, but In the rare occasions I do speak up I tend to post and run; I'm afraid to see what ugliness my dissenting opinion will provoke. Just putting my non-mainstream opinion out there is enough stressful energy expenditure for one day. Or more usually week, or month.
"But wait," says entitled privileged person, "if you don't teach us, how can I learn?"
It's not my job to educate their ignorance. I do not have the energy for that. If someone truly wants to learn where they're getting things wrong the Internet is the single best resource available to do so with. The Internet has infinite patience and doesn't have to worry about treating them with kid gloves so they won't throw another tantrum. The Internet doesn't have limited emotional reserves it must carefully choose how to allocate.
Not one of those things is true for the oppressed minority being asked to educate.
This is simply not true. It is incredibly rare that female posters attempt to demonize men as a group. I'm not speaking hypothetically, I'm speaking as someone who actually moderates these threads. No matter how benign the framing of the discussion, the threads fill with male posters making false equivalences and denying that sexism really exists.
And it's not just sexism. Many of our transgendered members refuse to even participate in trans threads because of how genuinely nasty some posters get. Members of BlackGAF are increasingly frustrated, and increasingly unwilling to engage, because every thread involving racism devolves into a thread arguing about whether it even exists.
And I see the same dumb "why is there no white history month" post in those threads that we've seen in here.
There's a problem, and it's fairly easily identifiable. A subset of white male posters exist on GAF who thrive on shitting on oppressed minorities. Whether they're secret Red Pillers or just garden variety entitled guys who are incapable of empathy, they routinely shit up these sorts of threads and make it nearly impossible for rational folk to have a discussion.
I couldn't pick just part of this to quote, it's all very true. It is nice to see it coming from a mod. I bolded a bit at the end because I think ignorant randos tend to be more of the issue in non-MRA forums like NeoGAF than actual die-hard MRA crazies, which don't tend to last long.
So many privileged people walk around cheerfully oblivious to the slanted nature of their societal programming, blissfully unaware of the ways their automatic, typically unexamined behaviors actively hurt and injure minorities who happen to cross their paths. They think the playing field is level, so at the merest hint that this is not so they become unreasonably, aggressively defensive, lashing out at what they perceive as an injustice against their own esteemed benevolence. They literally have
no idea that in fact the opposite is true; their self-righteous bluster is directly harming a party who's already got the short end of society's stick.
