Say it with me: "My excess fat is disgusting". Now again: "My skin color is disgusting".
So, what makes one of these things okay to say, but not the other?
Obviously both of those statements are problematic, but I feel like whatever side of the line you fall on, you have to fall on it consistently. Either your fat and your skin are both disgusting, or neither of them are.
This is complicated by the fact that excess fat is physically unhealthy, whereas you can have any of a range of skin colors and be healthy regardless, but aesthetically I think that you have to either accept all appearances as equal, or be able to criticize them all equally.
As a man of color myself, this just makes me shake my head. Be proud of who you are, for god's sake.
As a man of color myself, I don't think my skin color is an important part of who I am.
I can still be a practicing Hindu if I were to have white skin and a face like an Abercrombie model. I can still respect my family's traditions and eat my ethnic food and it would still remind me of home.
Changing what's on my outside doesn't change what's on my inside.
Honestly, I feel like a lot of this thread contains a lot of gross skin-color policing, and I think it's driven by racism - If they can lighten their skin, how will we know who the darkies are? It's just as racist and oppressive to say that a black woman can't change the way she looks as it is to say she's "ghetto" because of her skin color.