This is eye-opening to me because, for all the time I've spent discussing female characters and feminist character representation, it was never apparent to me that people have been using "strong female character" to represent some kind of badass or power fantasy.
I come from a writing/film background and "strong characters" have to do with the strength of the writing. What you are describing (characters with depth and nuance) are exactly what I thought everybody on this green earth was talking about when they referred to "strong female characters." It never crossed my mind that such an ordinary concept left any room for misinterpretation.
So, at first, I thought the thesis of your essay seems extremely obvious and unnecessary. I thought nobody could possibly be misconstruing the notion of a strong character as you described. Then I started reading the comments in this thread and maybe I'm the one who has been wrong all this time. How many people have I been arguing against who had a completely and totally different understanding of a codified and commonplace literary term? How many people have been writing bad female characters but making them a mech pilot or something and thinking they were answering appropriately to their critics?
The misunderstanding you're describing to me makes about as much sense as somebody saying a "strong supporting character" is a character that provides great financial support to another one or is always there for the main character emotionally. It's such a literal misunderstanding of what a "strong female character" is supposed to mean.
And as much as I loved the Hark, a Vagrant comic about "sexism being over", it never occurred to me that it was in response to this misunderstanding. I thought it was in response to disingenuous and insincere writing exemplified by characters like Quiet.
Man. So many people's stubborn insistence that their favorite anime has a "strong female character" because they have a giant sword or something makes so much more sense to me now.
I am in disbelief. I guess I am grateful for your essay for giving me the perspective I was lacking on the other side of a conversation I have almost every day.