On the other hand, the pain I see people going through online after losing this character is obviously incredibly genuine and heartfelt and not something that should be dismissed. I can dispassionately say, Well, it's understandable they killed her off when you look at contract conflict with another series and the resulting availability restrictions, but that doesnt change her significance to people, the weight (and, in some cases, true anguish) of her loss or the fact that even while I think her death is very much completely in line with how The 100 works and how many of the show's characters, of all sorts of backgrounds, have ended their story, it still also is another addition to the Dead Lesbian trope.
To the LGBTQ fandom who looked at Lexa as important, I can sympathize, but as a straight white male, I wouldnt dream of saying I totally get it, because how could I really? I certainly dont have to worry about representation or seeing straight while male characters sometimes get a happy ending in fiction. Thats pretty much an every day occurrence and always has been. So while I do think The 100 killing off Lexa makes sense" and feels tonally consistent with the show overall, thats coming from my own specific perspective - even as I wonder if had it been handled differently, it might have helped, at least a bit, with how it was received.