Oh BCT, I meant to ask y'all about this last night. I have some friendship drama I need advice on.
So, in my tight circle of friends, two are currently squabbling. To protect identities, let's call them 'Friend A' and 'Friend B'. A little bit about these two:
Friend A: A lesbian in her forties. The matriarch of the group, loved by all.
Friend B: Shady as hell. Has already almost been ousted from the group, due in part to her complete inability to know when to shut the fuck up. Always in other people's business. Always talking about other people's business. Doing sloppy shit like you talking to her in private about another friend, and then she goes right to THAT friend and tells them everything you said, and then plays dumb like, "Oh, I didn't know you didn't want me to talk to her about that. My bad." You know the type, just messy. Azealia Banks messy.
Anyway.
Two weeks ago Friend B is surfing through Tinder niggas. She connects with a guy. They go on a date and hit it off. They go on another date. During a discussion of their exes in date #2, it comes out that the dude Friend B is on a date with is an ex of Friend A from 15 years ago. And not just any ex, literally the last dude she dated before she realized she liked women. Small fucking world, right!?
However, instead of doing the mature thing and sitting on the information and putting some serious thought into how to approach Friend A with the news that she's seeing her ex, Friend B goes messy: She and the ex start attempting to text and Facetime Friend A, and finally they send her a picture (the two of them cheesing into the camera with the caption, "Guess who I'm on a date with!")
To make matters worse, Friend B then continues to text EVERYONE and give us the full deets about this date. And come to find out, not only is this ex the last guy Friend A dated, but when she met him he had just turned 18 and she was in her thirties. It was a Stella getting her groove back sorta of deal.
and Friend B is telling EVERYONE. She even told a mutual friend she has At Friend A's job and now Friend A's entire office knows about this.
To put it simply: the group is over Friend B's bullshit. And Friend A is past the point of words, and has moved on to "Next time I see that hoe I'm beating her ass."
I told a friend of mine outside the group about what was going on, and she thought we were overreacting, because if Friend B gets serious with the ex, Friend A would have to find out eventually, and they dated almost 2 decades ago. But my thing is, in the black community, there is a Clear Line between minding your business, and NOT minding your business. Friend A is a completely private person, and now her business is all out on front street. And besides that, sending a picture out of the blue of your on a date with your friend's ex is not something friends do.
What do y'all think? Are we overreacting? Or does Friend B need an ass-whooping?
EDIT: Whew, that was long. Sorry, y'all.