Curios to hear what y'all talked about. This topic is very important to me being a lifelong New Yorker.
So, one thing I brought up was that I'm originally from CT, near Hartford. Hartford used to have the crime infested reputation, so it got the whole tough on crime thing happen to it.
Eventually, the city was able to handle a lot of the crime, but left a city that nobody wanted to be a part of. It's pretty much considered the worst state capital in the country. Boring, there's still occasional crime, just dead.
I brought up that I can see traces of Hartford in New York. I see it in parts of Staten, I see it in some parts of Brooklyn, a little in Harlem. Wealth inequality improving life in some parts, but leaving others completely stagnant. Cultures being drained out, folks getting moved out. New ones coming in, but many of them are only around temporarily.
The city just doesn't feel livable these days. In most of the US, I'd be middle class. Upper middle in a bunch of parts. In NYC, I'm on the bleeding edge of lower and middle. A lot of people are. It's a city of haves and have nots to a Republican Fantasy level. Except it's a "liberal" city (tell that to most of Staten)
She brought up how it's hard for her to find a sense of community, even where she's at (West Harlem). There's traces; community organized events, art and music scenes that I'm a part of, but they aren't that easy to come by. And many are just too busy to participate.
And we both do volunteer work, but when we figured out that we both do community service, it was like we found our own unicorns. Most people my age are trying to survive, nevermind helping others.
As I said, long talk. We had some disagreements too.