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Transgaf: 'cause boys will be girls (and vice versa)
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Femmeworth
Banned
Xarudace who?
Hey. This is my first post in a good while, but I feel I should get things out of the way for those who do not know. A lot of my efforts have been falling apart, and things at home are only getting worse. I'm more or less boxed in with my own issues, my growing depression and dealings with self-acceptance, and I don't have too many to really speak to. I can't simply move out, nor is there any shelter in Florida or people like me. Outside of all of you, I'm very much alone at this point, and there's really so much that I can take from the people I have to live with before I end of hurting myself or worse. It's almost happened before, recently. I'll do what I can to try and speak more, but I can't make any promises.
Nudull
I want to remind you that you are a wonderful person that we care about. Please don't hurt yourself. You are in a terrible place right now but you have to stay strong until things improve because they will. You might not be able to see it now but if you stay strong things will get better.
Never forget that you are loved.
Keep talking to the people here or in IRC then if you feel alone. You're not.
This is just one phase in your life and it will pass and you will be stronger.
Femmeworth
Banned
I think I saw a trans woman at a store today. :O If only we had a secret handshake, I could have confirmed it.
Fuck. Definitely go to the IRC room.
Femmeworth
Banned
On another note, I noticed that IceColdBath's videos on YouTube are gone. (She's linked in the OP of this thread.) I hope she's all right. :\ Makes me wish I had watched more of her videos.
*hugs*
I might be biased but Cloud Atlas is the best film I've seen this year.
It's also the only one >_>
That good huh?
Still need to get through the book before seeing it..
I've heard the movie is a different interpretation. I own the book but I haven't started it yet. Might do that tonight to get my mind off things...
So Thanksgiving is next week. And I'm pretty much going to have to visit my parents, which means I'm pretty much going to have to tell them that I've been on hormones for a while. That's... gonna be interesting.
On the upside I've started wearing full makeup all the time now, thanks to having several nude/natural eye shadow shades. Even though I really wanna just go out in blue or purple or whatnot, just too hesitant about being so obvious with it.
On the upside I've started wearing full makeup all the time now, thanks to having several nude/natural eye shadow shades. Even though I really wanna just go out in blue or purple or whatnot, just too hesitant about being so obvious with it.
Princess Viola
Member
Princess Viola
Member
I'm still mad because I didn't get to go out to eat last Thanksgiving.
I'm still mad because I didn't get to go out to eat last Thanksgiving.
My whole family will go out without me.
Princess Viola
Member
Totes sucks.
Of course, I never was one for Thanksgiving anyways. Just more mad that they didn't even bother to ask me if I wanted to go.
Ah, no use dwelling on what's happened anyway.
Of course, I never was one for Thanksgiving anyways. Just more mad that they didn't even bother to ask me if I wanted to go.
Ah, no use dwelling on what's happened anyway.
Princess Viola
Member
marry me
I bake the pie and you get the stuffing.
QueenOfThorns
Member
I'm actually dreading Thanksgiving/Christmas. My family is ok, though I know they wouldn't be if I told them. I've only told my mom and 2 years later she's still in denial. It's just gonna be awkward. I wish they'd just not invite me.
Shattered dreams for a better life, yeah, but..pumpkin pie is a compelling argument.
Fake edit: Also, hi! I forgot that I haven't posted here before.
Shattered dreams for a better life, yeah, but..pumpkin pie is a compelling argument.
Fake edit: Also, hi! I forgot that I haven't posted here before.
Hello! I would bake pumpkin pies for all of TransGAF if I could.
Dr.Palutena
Member
Hello, welcome and it's a real shame about that.
Princess Viola
Member
Princess Viola
Member
Thanks, but on the bright side, I don't have to deal with the assholes at school anymore.
Gonna be going to high school online~
Gonna be going to high school online~
Gah, I really hate weddings. Having to spend half a day or so stuck in super-gendered tight clothing surrounded by a crowd of people all doing the same is not a fun time for my psyche.
Anyway, I got my first haircut in a while and for once was listened to when I asked for as little off as humanly possible (parents making me go because dead ends and whatnot). What's the optimal approach for growing out hair anyway? I've just kind of been avoiding haircuts as much as possible due to how crappy they make me feel.
Oh, and anyone have any tips for dealing with the stupid masculine hairline crap? It really, really annoys me and my bangs can't help but fall in line with it. Stupid hairline.
Anyway, I got my first haircut in a while and for once was listened to when I asked for as little off as humanly possible (parents making me go because dead ends and whatnot). What's the optimal approach for growing out hair anyway? I've just kind of been avoiding haircuts as much as possible due to how crappy they make me feel.
Oh, and anyone have any tips for dealing with the stupid masculine hairline crap? It really, really annoys me and my bangs can't help but fall in line with it. Stupid hairline.
Princess Viola
Member
I can't help because I like my hair shot.
Princess Viola
Member
I'd grow my hair out longer if it wasn't so damn curly.
If I grow it out too much, I look like my avatar.
If I grow it out too much, I look like my avatar.
I have very curly hair, and in the first stages it indeed looks like that. Once it gets longer, though, it gets more manageable. It's always a pain in the ass, but with the right hair towel, shampoo, conditioner, hair gel, and proper treatment, it can be doneand some people will be jealous of you.
InfiniteNine
Rolling Girl
Show off! D:
Princess Viola
Member
Hair towel...? Conditioner?
Christ, I've just been putting under the water and using my anti-dandruff shampoo on it.
If you have naturally curly hair, and have it at any length beyond a buzz cut, then you definitely should take the time to learn more about how to care for it. The difference between when I had no idea about any of that stuff, and after I learned some curly hair care tips, was night and day.
Princess Viola
Member
I guess I should, huh?
Not now though, it's 4:25 in the morning.
Not now though, it's 4:25 in the morning.
*victory trumpet!*
Anyone have any experience with hair growth from progesterone? I had a tiny bit of hair loss before transition which mostly came back from estrogen and spiro but plateaued about 5 years ago. After being on progesterone for 6 months I suddenly had a bunch of extra head hair growing in!! Unfortunately I stopped progesterone because of unwanted hair growth in other places *shudder*. I am going to try finasteride instead and see if I get the same results.
TL;DR Why would progesterone promote hair growth that estrogen/spiro wouldn't?
TL;DR Why would progesterone promote hair growth that estrogen/spiro wouldn't?
Progesterone is responsible for hair growth in cis women during pregnancy too.
http://www.ehow.com/facts_5712325_progesterone-hair-growth.html said:
That's not the greatest source, but it gets the point across I think.
Progesterone, however is also *androgenic* though, which could explain the unwanted hair growth.
You can try medroxyprogesterone or other progestins instead, which can be less androgenic and more estrogenic, and see if that makes a difference.
Ask your doctor about it! (Although you'll probably need to do a lot of the legwork research yourself.)
(And if you actually meant medroxyprogesterone when you said progesterone, then I don't have any good answers
I will try to do some more research on this stuff later.)Progesterone is responsible for hair growth in cis women during pregnancy too.
That's not the greatest source, but it gets the point across I think.
Progesterone, however is also *androgenic* though, which could explain the unwanted hair growth.
You can try medroxyprogesterone or other progestins instead, which can be less androgenic and more estrogenic, and see if that makes a difference.
Ask your doctor about it! (Although you'll probably need to do a lot of the legwork research yourself.)
(And if you actually meant medroxyprogesterone when you said progesterone, then I don't have any good answers
Thanks. I was taking injectable progesterone under my doctor's care. So far it seems as if my new hairs are staying put (even the unwanted ones) despite being off progesterone for 2 months now. In fact, I seem to be gaining more. I don't have a scientific explanation, but it seems like it kickstarted something that estrogen/spiro never did. He made the recommendation to put me on finasteride (started it 2 days ago) to try to keep it going. Time will tell...
Princess Viola
Member
This is probably a stupid (and obvious answer) question, but do you think I overreacted when someone seriously said that being transgender is a choice?
I didn't blow up, but I did tell that person to "Fuck off and if being transgender was a choice, don't you think I would choose to identify with my birth gender instead of fucking hating my body and wanting to commit suicide instead of going on in this body?"
I didn't blow up, but I did tell that person to "Fuck off and if being transgender was a choice, don't you think I would choose to identify with my birth gender instead of fucking hating my body and wanting to commit suicide instead of going on in this body?"
I agree with the message but it's not really a good idea to get angry. I've done it in threads here, but it's something I regret later.
water_wendi
Water is not wet!
It is very difficult to not react to things like that with anger but i always try to keep in mind that most people have zero idea of what it is like to have gender dysphoria.
Princess Viola
Member
Yeah, and I do have a problem with my anger. It's like, I can be totally calm and such one moment and then someone says something so stupid or offensive to me and I just blow up.
Does it always happen? No, often (especially if it's one of my friends) I just tell them that whatever they did offended me.
Once I read an article about a feminist talking about how she was on a feminist forum and one person totaly went transphobic for not knowing and she politely explained to that person what she got wrong...
...and the text was about how she was conflicted about herself BECAUSE she was nice. She would not be nice if someone said that homosexuality is a choice, so with trans people it should not be diferent.