DJ Crimson
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Transgaf: 'cause boys will be girls (and vice versa)
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Princess Viola
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Even so, depending on what curl type you have, there could be some lengths where it's just going to be awkward no matter what. Even if I knew then what I know now, I think I still would have hated my hair during that initial period of growing it out.
Definitely, though, if you're going to grow your hair out and you have curly hair, do some research. It'll help you get through that early period, and you'll need to know proper hair care anyhow.
I do curly girl method + proper products + other steps, and my hair still isn't what I wish it was. Unfortunately truth is that if you've got super curly hair and it isn't what you want, you'll either have to go the route of professional straightening or learn to live with what you've got.
Of course, as much as my hair drives me crazy, I constantly have other women telling me how much they wish they had my hair. *heh*
Facism
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Do any of them ask to smell it? When i had long hair (lovely natural vertical curls) women would always lament how they didn't have it naturally and then would always want to smell it. Good thing i washed it lol.
Now i don't have long hair, they all want to play with my beard.
Just popped in to say I support you guys.
OMG how dare you come in here and call us "guys" as if you've got some right to put a label on us and our gender identity!?
Joking, of course.
DJ Crimson
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Silphonica
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NoRéN;65527751 said:
You done fucked up, just by rejecting her. I wouldn't have said no - you don't do penis, right? When you think about it, genitals mean shit, at least to me. Vaginas and cocks aren't mantelpiece arrangements, they're just extra skin and muscle, plus no-one was asking you to shove it in your mouth and you thought the girl was very attractive. I don't really see what the problem is, the worst you'd have to do is see it, and you see your own goddamn penis everyday.
On a different note. I told a swedish trans girl on okc I had a crush on her after chatting to her, very attractive, first time in my life to do that, she stopped talking to me haha. But yeah, overall though, I think if a transgirl is attractive, I don't really have a problem with dating them, and the penis thing for those are pre-op doesn't really bother me, I don't consider myself bi, just straight.
Overall there seems to be a lot of discussion on this topic, but I can never keep up, hurts my head. I try not to think about it too much.
Has anyone tried Chrysalis Lingerie? I'm pretty sure they were mentioned before in this thread pre-launch, but I'm curious if anyone here has tried their products since they became available. The prices seem really, really high. :-/
I refuse to solely because their site auto-plays audio >:|
Auto-plays audio + it's too flash heavy. Bleh
Yeah, I was really surprised when I looked at the cost; also, after doing some more research it seems like Chrysalis doesn't really care about their customers and the criticisms they have. I'm going to pass on them.
I wish the state of lingerie for transwomen was better.
I hate when one of my dogs pees on the carpet :-(
Princess Viola
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I refuse to buy any types of clothing via the internet for some reason.
Princess Viola
Member
Actually now that I think about it, I barely buy clothes at all.
I buy the vast majority of my clothing online (along with all other types of shopping), but the reason is that (1) I'm a very lazy person, and (2) I know my sizing well and what stores work for me. It's important to look for item measurements; either listed on the site or by emailing the store. There's simply a much greater selection online than what I could find locally. If I lived near a place like NYC or London things would be different, but at my current location I prefer shopping online.
I wonder this too, but for girls instead of guys.
Here's a question: how do you define a "chaser"?
I don't mean that in any way against you personally, but as a bigger question. I fully admit to having a terrible dose of yellow fever, and in my younger days I made it a point at times to try to put myself into positions where I might be able to meet potential significant others of the Japanese persuasion.
It was never a case of "I'm only interested in someone if they're Asian" or "I want to have sex with you because you're my fetish", but that was who I was attracted to, so that's the type of person I most went for.
Now, I have to wonder: couldn't I be considered a "chaser" in that regard?
At what point is the line drawn between someone who is simply attracted to people who are trans, and someone who is considered a chaser? I totally understand where the chaser stigma comes from, but I also have to think that if you're someone who simply has that preference but aren't just out to fetishize people, it can be really hard to be taken seriously in your intentions.
My biggest question is "what happens to us when I become post-op?" If they don't care about my op-status, then I don't care about whether they are generally attracted to trans people or not.
To me, someone is a "chaser" when they are looking to manipulate that person in order to satisfy a fetish. They don't actually care about that person's feelings or want an actual relationship; it's just sexual manipulation. I think this applies more in the case of a transgender woman or man who is looking for a relationship, rather than a simple hook-up.
Yeah, I mean chasers who are just out for your body. The "If you don't look like a shemale-pornstar, then fuck off!"-type (I think I could even look like that but it's not the point). It's okay to have preferences like ethnicities, sexial orientation, certain body parts. Most people do but it's not nice to reduce your (potential) partners to your sexual fetishes.
I wouldn't mind. Then again i've never know a transgender person outside of a casual greeting or randomly in the street.
Yeah, i can see that. I, like most males, i'm attracted to girls with big breasts and/or ass. But, i don't reduce my potential partners to only that (it would be very superficial and let's be honest, pretty much unrealistic). For me,personality, what you like, what you don't like, interests, how you see life and every other quirk that make us humans matter more. I don't know, that's my humble opinion.
Same here. I don't know when (if ever) I'll be able to get SRS and it's very worrisome.
Silphonica
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Yeah, but the ones who don't mind aren't exactly actively searching for it, thats why they'll be harder to find.
DJ Crimson
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DJ Crimson
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I sleep on my stomach/chest. This doesn't sound good . _ .
DJ Crimson
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Princess Viola
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Congratuartions!
Unfortunately for me, I'm not sure if my plan on going to therapy will work out, but on the bright side, I'm now in a relationship with someone who's willing to help me transition.
Lee Chaolan
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Congrats Emi! *tosses up confetti*
Princess Viola
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Yeah.
Although I will admit I'm a little frightened since we haven't actually met in real life and I'd end up moving to Michigan to live with him.
Then there's the fact that we'd end up moving to Houston a few years after that, but I'd rather not wait till then cause I'm sure the longer I wait, the harder it is. :\
I'll probably move in with him a bit after I turn 18.
Grats to both of you! That's an exciting time!
Breast soreness started right around week 5 for me. Week 2 was when a bunch of the early changes hit me all at once(skin, hair, and body odor started changing, and my own sense of smell became more sensitive) and I knew that the 'mones were doing their thing.
Mention this to your doctor next time, it may happen because you started on a higher dose than your body supports....
DJ Crimson
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"So, I hear trans people recently invented this whole cis/trans thing
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This might get some use in the future =P
This might get some use in the future =P
That's a cool find. The same author (Cristan Williams) has a very interesting page that goes over the history of the term "transgender" and other trans terminology:
Tracking Transgender: The Historical Truth
"...the penchant for wearing clothes of a different age group, class or profession of the same gender/sex [the same word in German] for sexual gratification [not quite the right word, more like relaxation, but that could be a euphemism], related to transvestism."
Sorry for the rough translation.
This is actually quite different from the meaning of cis as in cisgender, right? It only shares the prefix, as in "this side of".
I don't have a problem with the concept of cisgender, btw. But I don't think this serves the argument the headline says it does. It's more of an interesting find and coincidence.
Dr.Palutena
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I think the point is more concepts of a cis/trans nomenclature as terms to be used for these subjects isn't a new concept invented by trans* individuals to "label" cis* individuals . Which is something some have seen others complain about on the internet, naturally cisvestism isn't the same as cisgender much like transvestism isn't the same as transgender.
I had a long reply typed out until I realized that it wouldn't necessarily contradict what you said ;-)
I can see how people would put forth the argument you mentioned, but I think the term cisgender is actually very useful, because it supports a change of perspective. Which I guess was the intention behind it.
I just think the link between cisgender and cisvestism in the way the book describes it barely goes beyond the prefix, and there's no real "gotcha" moment here. The prefix cis- isn't exclusive to gender-related language, so it's not a real surprise that some old timey scientist would've used it in a superficially related context.
Woozle Wuzzle?
NewGamePlus
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Princess Viola
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Nonsense, jigdopel is a kernoffet word.