Congrats first of all. But, speaking as a gay male, what you can do now is... whatever you want to do. The only difference between you before you confirmed in your mind that this is what you want and now that you HAVE done so is that you've said it. I've always said to anyone I talk to that my favorite saying which is attributed to Theodor Seuss Geisel (Dr. Seuss) is “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” but I'm going to throw another at you, well, two of them: “Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.” and “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
And I think it's all true. You're a transperson, so, now what? And the only answer is... be yourself. My understanding is if you're not already talking to a therapist who can help you deal with a transition you probably should be, but beyond that no one else can tell you how to walk this journey for yourself, you just have to be yourself because you already are.
Damn, Gaborn. Just...DAMN. Well fucking said. citizenkaneclapping.gif
Yup. There's got to be worse places in the States to be trans, right?
No. It's super helpful to hear. After years of supporting my gay friends I guess posts like these are what they've been hearing. It feels really good knowing someone is supporting you~
I'm doing pretty bad in school this semester and really worried about my future (both academic/career wise and now gender wise) but honestly, after getting all this figured out, all I can do is smile.
Gaborn left you with some quotes to be you, and I'll just tell you what my father always told me when I was growing up and things weren't going my way, or the world seemed to be against me, etc. I still say it to myself at least once a week. Print it out, put it above your desk, and just say it to yourself when you feel as though things can't get any worse.
Grin ~ Robert Service
If you're up against a bruiser and you're getting knocked about --
Grin.
If you're feeling pretty groggy, and you're licked beyond a doubt --
Grin.
Don't let him see you're funking, let him know with every clout,
Though your face is battered to a pulp, your blooming heart is stout;
Just stand upon your pins until the beggar knocks you out --
And grin.
This life's a bally battle, and the same advice holds true
Of grin.
If you're up against it badly, then it's only one on you,
So grin.
If the future's black as thunder, don't let people see you're blue;
Just cultivate a cast-iron smile of joy the whole day through;
If they call you "Little Sunshine", wish that THEY'D no troubles, too --
You may -- grin.
Rise up in the morning with the will that, smooth or rough,
You'll grin.
Sink to sleep at midnight, and although you're feeling tough,
Yet grin.
There's nothing gained by whining, and you're not that kind of stuff;
You're a fighter from away back, and you WON'T take a rebuff;
Your trouble is that you don't know when you have had enough --
Don't give in.
If Fate should down you, just get up and take another cuff;
You may bank on it that there is no philosophy like bluff,
And grin.
