This scenario is the perfect justification for in game XMB, or at the least, messaging. I'm really surprised that a game like this launched with the limited communication tools that it has...and even more surprised that nothing has been implemented in the updates since. Up until now it hasn't really been an issue, since my game play has consisted of just jumping into official servers or joining anyone on my friends list that I see. But organized matches changes everything. Insomniac needs to have a little sit down with Incognito and get them up to snuff.