Why do people cheat?

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The thrill of the chase is pretty compelling.

Some people gain immense gratification from the approval of others and sex is an extreme form of approval.

Many people are never satisfied with what they have. When they get something they want, their next thought is "what's next?" Got a promotion at work? Feels great for a while, but then you want another raise before too long. Rarely can we be content with what we have. Got a great relationship with someone you love? Wouldn't it be great to have something more than that too.

Non-monogamy needs to become more accepted by society. Too many families have been broken up by people's inability to remain faithful to their partners. If monogamy is linked (as some anthropologist believe) to a desire in men to ensure that their offspring is legitimate and a desire in women to ensure access to resources, then it makes sense for monogamy to become less prevalent as birth rates fall and women's incomes become comparable to that of men. Monogamy has become somewhat socially ingrained so it may take some time.
 
As a gay men, relationships lately terrify me. There are so many examples od partners cheating, husbands cheating, open relationships, play separtely, play together...

Emotionally, I couldn't handle it if my partner did that to me...
 
From observing certain people in my environment, there are a significant portion of men who do it because they think they're not real men unless they're doing it with multiple women.

Fucking scum.
 
I cheated on a woman I was with for 6 years. Mostly it was due to lacking the courage to end it.

The attraction I had for her was lost, but I was just so used to her company that I didn't want to set her free and possibly regret losing her. I accept how fucked up that was, but I eventually forced myself to leave her. She never found out that I cheated.

She's getting married now to a guy she's only been with for 6 months and I'm happy for her/wish her the best.
 
I wonder how a cheater would handle being cheated on by a person who they're in a "totally happy relationship" with. Would they love it?
 
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