edit: oh great, a drive by poster shooting at me. You propably never had gender body issues, take up the flag anyway and bash me. Why do I even put my opinion out on the net for discussion, "shoot first, ask later" is the norm. Disappointing :-(
Your post seemed to confuse a lot of separate things; sex, gender and sexuality. Then reached quite a simplistic, and insulting, conclusion.
Being homosexual merely means you are attracted to the same sex. Going transgender means you feel you were born in the wrong body, on the wrong side of society. The problem is, you are not. Society is simply enforcing a bunch of rules on each gender and you switched to the side you feel closer to.
Don't change yourself, change society.
As a note, people always told me I am secretly gay because of my "feminine" mannerisms. Well, I picked up a lot from my mom. It was so strong I felt like I was born on the wrong side. But it was not me in the wrong body. It's society having ridiculous allencompassing gender norms.
So, I respect going transgender. But I will never applaud it. Because to me, they got you. They got you good.
There are brain differences in transgender men and women. They often report knowing from a very early age that something isn't right with their body, long before society's expectations come into play.
It's rather insulting to suggest they would go through such a difficult procedure that risks rejection by society just to fit in with it. They are doing it for themselves, the brain doesn't match the body. It's as simple as that.
Your experience and opinion are one thing, but that doesn't mean you can make a blanket statement about others which also ignores studies into the matter and what they actually say themselves.
You can be effeminate without being transgender, you can be effeminate without being gay. You can be any combination of anything, and this is why we see the spectrum of people we do. It's all in the brain, and how it develops in the womb is thought to be behind both gender and sexuality.
Some articles on the transgender brain:
http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052702304854804579234030532617704
http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn20032-transsexual-differences-caught-on-brain-scan.html
In the same way you didn't like being told 'what' you are, don't do it to others either.
They know themselves best, just like you do, so just listen and learn.
It's a small chance, but you never know. That's always the risk with surgery. I'm sure you will be fine. My problem was that the doctors weren't taking the bleeding seriously and the anesthesiologist took a couple of hours to get back so that I could be put under again. Talk to your surgeons about it if you're really worried. Almost every woman in my family has had rhinoplasty though (and other plastic surgeries too) and I'm the only one to go through something like this, to give you a better idea of the chances of it happening.
