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[gutter_trash]

As a white male who has dated a black female, I can say it was an enjoyable experience that I would gladly repeat if I were single again.

Meeting her parents, however, was a godawful nightmare that I never want to repeat. Never met a father so hostile towards me in my life.

the thing about most white men who are attracted to black women is that they only want to have sex with them or shorterm dating but nothing longterm.

White men going for black women longterm is a rare thing. White men just want to fill his pornhub fetishes in real life but not commit longterm with others.

 

[HGStormy]

Come by to the Community thread, we're handing out your true scores in there, and oh god it's not good.

How do you find out your "true" score?

 

[poppabk]

So this proves women (except black women) are more racist than men

? I'm not going to touch on what this all means but why 'except black women' when black women show the second strongest preference for their own race after Asian women?

 

[BPoole]

White men just want to fill his pornhub fetishes in real life but not commit longterm with others.

Only white men do this?

 

[gutter_trash]

Only white men do this?

I'm a white man, speaking for myself and conversations had with other white men on the subject of shor term dating vs longterm aspirations

 

[BPoole]

I'm a white man, speaking for myself and conversations had with other white men on the subject of shor term dating vs longterm aspirations

So, #notallwhitemen?

 

[Dash27]

Damn Black women went from 0% rating white men to -12% since 2009. White guys also lost 3% each on Latina and Asian babes.

Thanks Obama.

 

[Infinite]

So, #notallwhitemen?

You really need him to clarify that or you're just jokingly busting his chops?

 

[Shouta]

Poor Asian men. =(

 

[RedSwirl]

Most of the dates I've got over the past few months have been through a particular internet site that and puts more attention into the profile pictures and things like tastes and hobbies instead of agressive filtering. It's made my dating life immensely easier, although I plan to resume IRL flirting as soon as I clean up and grease my rusty old game.

As a 5'4" (162cm) black dude, I may need to do this if I ever get into online dating.

 

[clav]

Poor short Asian men. =(

No need to apologize.

 

[Sho_Nuff82]

I love how the chart shows that black men generally don't give a fuck what you are. Ok Cupid users even play against type and give lower ratings to white women.

Damn at -27%, Asian women were the only demo I had zero dates with this summer. One of my new good friends is S. Korean, but she doesn't like me like that. Asian guys don't seem to have it bad around here at all in terms of pickings, and they still get better numbers than black guys it seems. I won't give up.

Also seem to be running out of black women to date in this town. Met this girl briefly on tinder, she de-listed me, came across her profile again a month later, and we added each other again. SMH.

 

[Fox the Sly]

I love how the chart shows that black men generally don't give a fuck what you are. Ok Cupid users even play against type and give lower ratings to white women.

Damn at -27%, Asian women were the only demo I had zero dates with this summer. One of my new good friends is S. Korean, but she doesn't like me like that. Asian guys don't seem to have it bad around here at all in terms of pickings, and they still get better numbers than black guys it seems. I won't give up.

Also seem to be running out of black women to date in this town. Met this girl briefly on tinder, she de-listed me, came across her profile again a month later, and we added each other again. SMH.

Do you live in... Southern Cali? I swear it's just like you described out here.

 

[ampere]

A lot of people in the comments are suggesting that weight may also be an important issue. People generally are less attracted to those who are overweight and African-American women seem to have the highest percentage of overweight or obese people in the US (around 60% vs 30% for white women) so that might be a factor as well.

Hm, weight could be a factor. I am interested in people who are what I consider healthy which is to say not very overweight for sure.

Other than that, I am not interested in dating someone who considers religion very important, and in my brief attempt at using OKCupid I found that most black women on the match listing had 'god' as one of their top 5 important things. That would be an autoskip for me. I might be able to date someone who is mildly theistic, but if it's a big deal to them it's just not going to work.

Very anecdotal I realize, and may not be indicative of a larger trend.

 

[MisterGrey3000]

This stuff is always weird to see, but it should reaffirm the stance that it's simply better to meet people in person than online.

This is generally how I feel about this stuff.
Online dating basically gives people the opportunity to be picky bigoted jerks thanks to the fact that you're not in the same space with a flesh and blood human being.
It's hard for me to imagine the average white guy turning down a Meagan Good-tier black girl at a bar.

 

[Wolf Dawgz]

I wonder what the scores are like for Native Americans.

 

[TacticalFox88]

So, how's the interracial dating game in Western Europe?

Although I lived in Germany for two years, due to my job, I couldn't get out as much as I would've liked.

:/

 

[Loki]

the average height for women is 5'4, so if your 5'4 or shorter, you'd be considered "short" for a man compared to women. but i think the average height for men is 5'6, so if your shorter than 5'6, then your also short by that comparison as well. being 6'2 myself, i probably wouldn't considered any guy "tall" until they were over 6 foot tho.

Average height for men in the US is around 5'9" iirc, not 5'6".

 

[Spinluck]

I've never had much of a problem with dating women outside my race on there. In fact, I think all my OKC dates have been with women that weren't black. The black women that I've dated are girls that I knew in real life.

Interesting to see the numbers though. It can definitely be tough for men of color to date outside their race in a lot of situations. I see a lot of interracial couples down here, and I'm actually in a interracial relationship at the moment. Didn't meet her online, though.

 

[Bucket Mouse]

Where the stats be for us White/Asians?

 

[Rubenov]

Yellow girl on OKC (or, I was).

I never even really saw black or brown or even that many white guys in my matches, though every single color messaged me.

Would not date a black/brown man because my parents would flip shit. Sorry, but it's not worry the hassle of trying to be egalitarian, especially since I'm only really attached to other yellow people. Probably wouldn't give a white guy a date either, just because.... parents.

That, however, is different from rating them. I'm surprised. When I rate people, I rate based on how articulate their profile is and how hot they are. Anyone smart gets 5 stars. The really, really, really hot men (most of them were white or black) got 5 stars.

Ugh. This is sad to read.

 

[Sho_Nuff82]

Do you live in... Southern Cali? I swear it's just like you described out here.

I live in Boston actually. Mostly white (~50%), a rather segregated black population (~25%), and a growing Asian population (~10%). It's hard to tell how much non-resident students skew those numbers though (for example, 30% of MIT is Asian, 20% of Harvard, etc).

I'd say about 90% of the girls I date are white, it's just a numbers game and most of the girls I meet IRL and online are white. If it weren't for online dating I don't think I'd ever even meet more than a handful of black women in my circle of friends. My Asian girl pull has waned over the years. Haven't been on one date with an Asian (Indian/Pakistani/Chinese/Korean/Japanese) in 6 months.

 

[Panzon]

I always thought it had to do with power dynamics and prestige. For different reasons, Asian and Latino people are proud of their culture and see themselves as the equals of white people, even if as a community they have far less actual power. In the "power hierarchy", they think that if they're not top dog, they're at least number 2, so they look down on both each other as groups as well as upon Black people.

I remember reading the results of a survey where people of different races were asked questions about cultural affinity. I don't remember Asian people being included, but I distinctly remember the result being that Latino people felt that they had more in common than White people than with Black people. Black people, perhaps seeing Latinos as fellow victims of discrimination, felt that they had more in common with them than with White people. White people meanwhile, maybe due to sharing language and history, felt that they had more in common with the Black community than the Latino community.

Seeing these biases play out in the online dating sphere isn't all that surprising.

This is very interesting. Have a link of the survey by any chance?

 

[clav]

Ugh. This is sad to read.

Go back a few pages to see statements about short men.

Life is pretty sad in general, IMO.

Depends on prospective (i.e. appreciation).

 

[Cow Mengde]

Yellow girl on OKC (or, I was).

I never even really saw black or brown or even that many white guys in my matches, though every single color messaged me.

Would not date a black/brown man because my parents would flip shit. Sorry, but it's not worry the hassle of trying to be egalitarian, especially since I'm only really attached to other yellow people. Probably wouldn't give a white guy a date either, just because.... parents.

You gotta tell you parents at the end of the day, no matter what race or color, all men squirt out white.

 

[Ghost_Protocol]

It would be interesting to know which country people are using OKCupid in. I'm a black male living in London I always did very well dating wise. I used most of the big dating sites PoF etc but preferred OKC because more arty and creative women used it and I've always found they've been more open minded on dating vs women in other professions.

Isn't London known to have like the highest percentage of black/white couples in the world? I've read in a couple of different places that interracial relationships are really common there, or am I way off?

 

[Metallix87]

To be totally honest, I wouldn't date someone shorter than me either.


I don't think physical pickiness is a problem. We are entitled to our own choices, and no one is entitled to other people's affections.

I wouldn't be upset if a guy wasn't interested in me because I was too skinny or Asian or whatever. Why should anyone be forced to find attractive everything? If anything, it's my loss if I screen people out, but why would that matter to others? They aren't losing out.

I agree with your point completely.

 

[Bleepey]

Isn't London known to have like the highest percentage of black/white couples in the world? I've read in a couple of different places that interracial relationships are really common there, or am I way off?

An American girl I met was shocked to see "so many black/white couples and people didn't even look twice". Interracial relationships are pretty common here.

 

[~Devil Trigger~]

You gotta tell you parents at the end of the day, no matter what race or color, all men squirt out white.

off-white to be exact

 

[CrashSimonFaye]

An American girl I met was shocked to see "so many black/white couples and people didn't even look twice". Interracial relationships are pretty common here.

Where are you?

Where I am in Orange County, CA, it's rare. Dating is especially hard for minorities.

 

[Bleepey]

Where are you?

Where I am in Orange County, CA, it's rare. Dating is especially hard for minorities.

London.

 

[Infinite]

To be totally honest, I wouldn't date someone shorter than me either.

I don't think physical pickiness is a problem. We are entitled to our own choices, and no one is entitled to other people's affections.

I wouldn't be upset if a guy wasn't interested in me because I was too skinny or Asian or whatever. Why should anyone be forced to find attractive everything? If anything, it's my loss if I screen people out, but why would that matter to others? They aren't losing out.

Personally, I don't really care and to be honest if someone tells me that they wouldn't date black guys for the reason that they're black then all interests I have in that person will evaporate in that moment. Even if I wasn't a black person I wouldn't date someone who thinks like that or that would be a MAJOR strike against them. I wouldn't get bent out of shape because quite frankly I can do better.

What would bother me is seeing how pervasive that line of thinking is. From there I have to ask why?

 

[neojubei]

Guess I should get rid of my okcupid account

 

[Cow Mengde]

Guess I should get rid of my okcupid account

I turned my account into a troll account. It's just a profile with some weird shit written in there.

 

[Madness]

Isn't London known to have like the highest percentage of black/white couples in the world? I've read in a couple of different places that interracial relationships are really common there, or am I way off?

I think the rate of interracial marriage is the same as the US if you take population into account. Also, consider the size of the UK, compared to the US. So you're bound to see more people representative overall. Since black people in the UK are still a small group of people, 3-4% only of the population, they have no choice but to date interracially in a sense. When you're the sole black guy or girl in an area, surrounded by either white or indian/Pakistani people, you're going to date/marry them. I think even Canada has a higher interracial rate than the UK, when taking population into account.

As more and more immigrants or demographics change, it actually can drop the interracial rate as the chance for people to date within their own race increases. For example, the rate of interracial marriage for Asians has actually declined the past two decades, due in large part to the fact that more and more asian/Indian immigrants are coming here, and are able to study, get better jobs etc.

 

[clav]

I turned my account into a troll account. It's just a profile with some weird shit written in there.

How does that work?

 

[GabDX]

As an ugly white man, I think my best bet is black women. I'm not complaining to be honest.

 

[ameratsu]

I think that if they were included, first nations/aboriginals/native americans would score poorly from every other race.

 

[BPoole]

As an ugly white man, I think my best bet is black women. I'm not complaining to be honest.

Black women aren't interested in white males if that chart is to be believed

 

[Carpe Libertatem]

Probably true but race does not compare in any way to height.

While race plays a role in preferences there are studies that state the following : 89% of women said the shortest person they would date would still have to be taller than them. That is amazing and a barrier that hardly compares to anything else. That is probably at the same level with having the face of Stalin and a swastika tattooed on your chest.

I don't know about that one - have you seen Stalin when he was in his 20s?

 

[GabDX]

Black women aren't interested in white males if that chart is to be believed

True but since no one seem to like them I guess they can't be too choosy. But then I'll have to complete with black men. Hmm, maybe I should rethink my strategy.

 

[hateradio]

Dating is especially hard for minorities.

Oh man, that's the perfect tag line for that site.


OKCupid: Dating is especially hard for minorities™

 

[Passive Assassin]

Poor Asian men. =(

but we good at fighting games doe

 

[family_guy]

While the statistics can be discouraging to minorities, what are you going to do, give up? That won't help. It's like the job market which is also more difficult for minorities, you just keep at it. I don't care what race someone is. I just message the people that I'm interested based on their profile. They'll either respond or they won't. I don't consider spending 5 minutes of my time to write something a big deal. Also any male not paying for OkCupid probably should. Makes it easy to see who liked you and who's read your message. Most women won't initiate a message, but they will rate your profile. If she took the time to do that then you've got an in.

 

[Cow Mengde]

How does that work?

Don't know, I don't send people anything anymore. Waste of time. It's just something funny and weird for people to read if they stumble into my account.

 

[Infinite]

While the statistics can be discouraging to minorities, what are you going to do, give up? That won't help. It's like the job market which is also more difficult for minorities, you just keep at it. I don't care what race someone is. I just message the people that I'm interested based on their profile. They'll either respond or they won't. I don't consider spending 5 minutes of my time to write something a big deal. Also any male not paying for OkCupid probably should. Makes it easy to see who liked you and who's read your message. Most women won't initiate a message, but they will rate your profile. If she took the time to do that then you've got an in.

I'll just not use OKcupid

 

[kerotan_eater]

I read some research somewhere that stated whilst men need to be taller than women, that is all they need to be was there conclusion.

5'4? It's not hard to find a 5'3 women and below.

 

[ishibear]

True but since no one seem to like them I guess they can't be too choosy. But then I'll have to complete with black men. Hmm, maybe I should rethink my strategy.

We have self respect, and can choose that. This is very ignorant.

 

[Why would you do that?]

in my brief attempt at using OKCupid I found that most black women on the match listing had 'god' as one of their top 5 important things. That would be an autoskip for me. I might be able to date someone who is mildly theistic, but if it's a big deal to them it's just not going to work.

To be fair, I have experienced this. It isn't an automatic skip for me, though, because even slightly religious people might answer that question practically and say "God" in a similar way same way some answer "Water" or "Air", lol. However, if I see other strong indications of someone being religious, I will likely skip them.

Besides, part of the match % includes religious preferences, so if they have a high enough match, it is worth giving it a try, IMO. All too many black women have a high enemy rating with me for that very reason, actually.

Yellow girl on OKC (or, I was).
Would not date a black/brown man because my parents would flip shit.

My first girlfriend who was Malaysian also had this problem, which was made worse because she lived with her parents. Being a black guy, I could only ever visit her when both of them were out. Unfortunately, her mother once came home early while I was there, and I had to made up a lie on the spot that I was in her school and I came to fix her computer. Luckily, her mother promised that she wouldn't tell her father, which would have really caused trouble.

Putting her in jeopardy of getting kicked out of her apartment by her parents is truly not something I wanted to happen, so we didn't really see each other much after that. I've actually had several dreams where I was at her house and her parents arrived and saw me, and I ran away...

 

[Metallix87]

I read some research somewhere that stated whilst men need to be taller than women, that is all they need to be was there conclusion.

5'4? It's not hard to find a 5'3 women and below.

I never understood that concept, personally. I can kinda get the race thing, but why is the woman being taller a turn-off? I would have no problem dating a taller woman.