Girlfriend emotionally cheated on me
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Daffy Duck
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Ive read the op and the last page, I've subbed just so I can enjoy this at my leisure.
Bravo OP.
Bravo OP.
Bboy AJ
My dog was murdered by a 3.5mm audio port and I will not rest until the standard is dead
If it's normal behavior, we wouldn't be cheering. It rarely happens on GAF. And it's also emotional support. Do you lack social understanding such that you don't see that? Go be a killjoy elsewhere.Sorry to be a killjoy, but why is everyone cheering the OP like he's some sort of magnificent hero? He did the right thing, and certainly deserves a "well done, you did the right thing, good for you", sure. But going "U SO BEST OP *clapping gif*" like he just took a bullet for someone else or saved a kitten from drowning or something seems... hyperbolic? He was in a broken, dysfunctional relationship, and he rightfully terminated it, hopefully warning another person about their cheating husband at the same time. That's normal and mature adult behaviour, not heroism.
Anyway, good for you Revoh. ^^
Stereogatari
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What the cheaters are doing can be framed as schadenfreude as well.
SpacePirate Ridley
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¡Eso es tener un buen par de cojones!
Good job Revoh.
Ugh, you know that karma doesn't exist right?
Theres a huge amount of horrible, horrible people that have used really good people in awful ways and still live a wonderful life.
I hate this type of responses because it seems the come mainly from people who never had a horrible experience in their life where some friend, girl/boyfriend/wife/husband or even family member has created havok on their lifes and still are happy without any consequences for them.
Life can be shit, you can do something about it or leave it to luck, and I can assure you leaving it to luck is a horrible tip.
Good job Revoh.
Ugh, you know that karma doesn't exist right?
Theres a huge amount of horrible, horrible people that have used really good people in awful ways and still live a wonderful life.
I hate this type of responses because it seems the come mainly from people who never had a horrible experience in their life where some friend, girl/boyfriend/wife/husband or even family member has created havok on their lifes and still are happy without any consequences for them.
Life can be shit, you can do something about it or leave it to luck, and I can assure you leaving it to luck is a horrible tip.
zerokoolpsx
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That is an awful passive aggressive way to handle it. You have to talk to them and end it.
That's exactly what I said to her.
She killed doing even the most trivial things like going out for a walk and see cool places in town because I know now that she would be thinking of that guy.
In fact, that's what hurt me the most, I showed her really cool places this month and to know she was thinking "I wish *guy* is here with me looking at this too" while being there with me, it makes my blood boil. I read stuff like that in the logs, it's going to take me a lot of time to forget that.
POWERSPHERE
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What if she was stuck in this relationship and this guy she was cheating with was the special someone that she needs to be with, and The OP was just an anchor to her happiness? Best of luck to everyone, Christmas kisses and new year headjobs for all. X
John Kowalski
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I would rage hard at her. But the smart thing to do is make her FULLY aware that you know what she is doing. Then end it.
When someone is cheating on you, you just end it. There's no version where the couple can reconcile, unless there are children involved. Trust me.
Move on buddy, you'll find someone that you deserve
When someone is cheating on you, you just end it. There's no version where the couple can reconcile, unless there are children involved. Trust me.
Move on buddy, you'll find someone that you deserve
ErrorMacro
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Well done OP.
And in the end of the day, I don't think the guy is gonna leave his wife and move out from his country to be with your ex. She's gonna end up alone, and it's completely her fault.
And in the end of the day, I don't think the guy is gonna leave his wife and move out from his country to be with your ex. She's gonna end up alone, and it's completely her fault.
Good man!
Pankratous
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I can't wait for the OP to hear from the wife. I really hope she isn't just like "oh? that happens all the time. not bothered".
After the wife gets back to you, should she do so, get rid of all the logs/screencaps/messages/etc and never look back. No need to hold on to that garbage.
Damn.
Yup! Quoted because, well, yup.
Breakups are tough stuff. OP is doing great and they're handling it a lot better than many others would. So, let us gush our praise!
(I won't deny that there might be a tiny bit of schadenfreude involved though.
)Read through the thread and good for you op you did the right thing.
Don't listen to the assholes here that are just here for entertainment and tried to shit things up.
Getting back together with someone is always incredible difficult and strenuous to oneself, for whatever reason it's almost never gonna be the same, but that doesn't justify what she did. She did terrible things to you and now you're better off without her. It's gonna be tough but you'll power through and feel better.
Make use of the summer, try hitting the gym and stuff. It'll work wonders for your self esteem.
Good luck!
Don't listen to the assholes here that are just here for entertainment and tried to shit things up.
Getting back together with someone is always incredible difficult and strenuous to oneself, for whatever reason it's almost never gonna be the same, but that doesn't justify what she did. She did terrible things to you and now you're better off without her. It's gonna be tough but you'll power through and feel better.
Make use of the summer, try hitting the gym and stuff. It'll work wonders for your self esteem.
Good luck!
Deaf Spacker
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This thread is beautiful, I raise a glass to you OP.
NobleGundam
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I'm kinda glad the op did in this case. Guy has gone through a lot and on top of her pulling that crap (b'cuz it's honestly far worse from it) he was right to follow his gut feeling. Imho.
The Maverick
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This thread reached God mode. Good on you, OP.
I can't stress this enough. Don't hold onto all that toxic stuff. Get rid of all of it. Because one day you will stumble upon it by accident.
FullMetaltech
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Good stuff OP. Good luck.
Dude xD
Was in this same situation. Slightly different in that the guy was annoyed that she wasn't talking to him anymore and decided to add me and send me screenshots of their chat logs.
I took her back after she cried for a whole night about it. Don't do that. She's a slimy cunt and you should cut all ties with her and move on. There are millions of people who are far, far better.
I took her back after she cried for a whole night about it. Don't do that. She's a slimy cunt and you should cut all ties with her and move on. There are millions of people who are far, far better.
So I been looking at the wife's FB profile and found a person with her last name, so I click on his profile and start looking around, I found a post from some time ago where he posted his cellphone number so now I've sent him a message via Whatsapp. He might be her family, I don't know. I just want him to let the woman know I've sent her a message. Let's see where this goes.
-Pyromaniac-
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Damn Revoh, +1 for the good guys. You left a trail of tears and broken marriages and destruction and you just walked away. You better not go back and fold.
did you read what this dude was doing for this girl? Introspection would NOT be smart in this case. Doesn't sound like he was a bad guy or emotionally unavailable or anything. Looking for ways to blame himself when he should be trying to move on is the worst advice.
HappyBivouac
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"I already did."
Goddamn it felt good just reading that.
You aren't the one who destroyed a marriage here; she is. Remember that. You just did the right thing. Never seek outright vengeance such as would bring you down to her lowly level. Just do what needs to be done, say what needs to be said, and come away the better person. That's how it's done.
Goddamn it felt good just reading that.
You aren't the one who destroyed a marriage here; she is. Remember that. You just did the right thing. Never seek outright vengeance such as would bring you down to her lowly level. Just do what needs to be done, say what needs to be said, and come away the better person. That's how it's done.
Go_Ly_Dow
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you won't stop until the world burns!
Yeah, she also said that to me.
I said "No, you both destroyed that guy's marriage. I'm just letting the wife now the truth"
The fucked up thing is my ex lost the father of her child in the same way, the dude cheated on her 24/7. I've also reminded her that. She should've know better
BMO = GOAT
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Wow, that is hypocrisy, like an infinite amount on her part.
Askherserenity
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She has a kid? And this could also be a reason why she felt perfectly fine doing this shit to you. The fact that she's probably been cheated on a couple times.
BUNTING1243
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If you've only been dating for ten months and there are issues like that (which began when you had barely been dating for half a year) it sounds like there isn't much of a future there. End it quick and move on. You deserve better.
IsntChrisL
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You handled this like a champ. At least you got to find out about her true character before you had been with her for years.
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