Girlfriend emotionally cheated on me

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NolbertoS said:
Its OK skullface, GAF as the collective supports all, plus I'm sure Revoh is gonna be back tomorrow to post after telling GAF how he got nooky and stuff :p. Sucks that you went from an 80K job to 20K. I'm guessinh your ex's police statement and your jail time damaged your credentials. You shoulf get a better lawyer to clear your name and get back your daughter.
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A part of it is that I decided to only take up a part time job so I could further my education. Why settle for $80k when I could be making $120k, amirite? Plus, $20k as an independent means I get the full pell grant and lots of state funding for school. My education is practically free :)
 
So Skullface, what happened with your daughter? Did you get her back, joint custody etc? Or did she run off and you're still struggling to get her back? Sorry for your sad story.
 
Skullface said:
A part of it is that I decided to only take up a part time job so I could further my education. Why settle for $80k when I could be making $120k, amirite? Plus, $20k as an independent means I get the full pell grant and lots of state funding for school. My education is practically free :)
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Well if you put it that way, of course yeah, man. If the state is paying for your college tuition, way better. Good that you found alot of positive outta this. Like I tell peeps out there who wish to study abd further there career, its never late to study and get paid better. Just get the degree done so you can help out your daughter and any future immediate family you might have someday.
 
BeatResetsTheWorld said:
Well that sounds like suspected cheating of completely unrelated people. This is definite cheating with the OP being one of the people directly involved (cheated on in his case)

I'd say those key distinctions make all the difference

But, I'm sure they're more nuanced than that so I really have to see those threads
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You would think that, but nope, there is a definite "no snitching regardless of circumstances" faction that usually pops up in GAF cheating threads. A lot of it seems to be born out of "snitching violates the friend/bro code". There was a thread forever ago where a guy found out his buddy was cheating on his wife, and he had post after post asking "Why is he getting involved in other people's relationships?" and implied he was being overly dramatic and a bad friend for even considering telling the wife.

Some of the threads...

http://m.neogaf.com/showthread.php?t=450360

http://m.neogaf.com/showthread.php?t=492303
 
NoctisVsStar said:
not all women..but damn there's some vicious evil females out-there. I hope everyone finds a keeper. I wanted to tell how my ex relationship ended but i don't want this thread to get deviated by fillers and turning into a confession thread.

Skullface keep your head up bro wishing for the best in your current predicament.
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Yeah.. The stories i hear these days.. It's like they become completely inhuman all of a sudden. Ruthless as shit.
Dads love their kids too ladies...
 
EternalDarko said:
So Skullface, what happened with your daughter? Did you get her back, joint custody etc? Or did she run off and you're still struggling to get her back? Sorry for your sad story.
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Thanks man. It's complicated. I've been in touch with my ex a few times over the year in a bid to keep things out of the courts in case things don't go well. Sometimes she'll agree to send her up to stay with me for a week, but she'll always backpedal. I've been working on getting legal representation from the state, but getting appointed an attorney for family matters is much more difficult than for criminal matters. To answer the question, she ran off and I'm still struggling.

I forgot to mention that I haven't been able to even attempt contact for 8 months out of the year because I was ordered not to be in contact with the "victim". I have talked to my daughter a hand full of times, but she's only 2 so she can't really communicate, and she's distractible.

My mother flew down to Georgia back in July while I still couldn't contact my ex and was able to visit with her for two nights in a hotel room. She even snuck a FaceTime with me. The hardest part was that she didn't seem to recognize me and it had only been 5 months at that point.

This Christmas, I sent her a bunch of things, including a photo book of Christmas lights in Somerville (where we lived) and kids books about Boston with hips to jog her memory.
 
NoctisVsStar said:
Same could be said for Men. There's fucked up people on both sides.
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Oh absolutely. I'm just saying that i keep hearing more of these stories lately in my personal friendlist. Probably because of more equality. And while that is a good thing, acting like a ruthless idiot isn't.
But ofcourse, too many fucked up people in general.
Skullface said:
Thanks man. It's complicated. I've been in touch with my ex a few times over the year in a bid to keep things out of the courts in case things don't go well. Sometimes she'll agree to send her up to stay with me for a week, but she'll always backpedal. I've been working on getting legal representation from the state, but getting appointed an attorney for family matters is much more difficult than for criminal matters. To answer the question, she ran off and I'm still struggling.

I forgot to mention that I haven't been able to even attempt contact for 8 months out of the year because I was ordered not to be in contact with the "victim". I have talked to my daughter a hand full of times, but she's only 2 so she can't really communicate, and she's distractible.

My mother flew down to Georgia back in July while I still couldn't contact my ex and was able to visit with her for two nights in a hotel room. She even snuck a FaceTime with me. The hardest part was that she didn't seem to recognize me and it had only been 5 months at that point.

This Christmas, I sent her a bunch of things, including a photo book of Christmas lights in Somerville (where we lived) and kids books about Boston with hips to jog her memory.
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Sorry to hear that man.. It breaks my heart reading this. I hope you can come to an understanding with your ex about your daughter. Hopefully she understand that you love her as much as she does. Stay strong and best of luck!
 
Skullface said:
Thanks man. It's complicated. I've been in touch with my ex a few times over the year in a bid to keep things out of the courts in case things don't go well. Sometimes she'll agree to send her up to stay with me for a week, but she'll always backpedal. I've been working on getting legal representation from the state, but getting appointed an attorney for family matters is much more difficult than for criminal matters. To answer the question, she ran off and I'm still struggling.

I forgot to mention that I haven't been able to even attempt contact for 8 months out of the year because I was ordered not to be in contact with the "victim". I have talked to my daughter a hand full of times, but she's only 2 so she can't really communicate, and she's distractible.

My mother flew down to Georgia back in July while I still couldn't contact my ex and was able to visit with her for two nights in a hotel room. She even snuck a FaceTime with me. The hardest part was that she didn't seem to recognize me and it had only been 5 months at that point.

This Christmas, I sent her a bunch of things, including a photo book of Christmas lights in Somerville (where we lived) and kids books about Boston with hips to jog her memory.
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So sorry to hear that. It's disgusting that she was able to get away with her claims and taking your daughter away. I truly feel for you man. I hope things work out for the best, please do keep at it, time is on your side.
 
That is just blood boiling reading material Skullface, I hope that eventually you can come out at the end with your daughter by your side. You don't want someone like your ex raising her.
 
Tagyhag said:
That is just blood boiling reading material Skullface, I hope that eventually you can come out at the end with your daughter by your side. You don't want someone like your ex raising her.
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Thanks, and thanks to everyone else for that matter. It's hard to keep up with all of the support :)

I may have my moments of weakness, but I am very optimistic over all.
 
Skullface said:
Thanks man. It's complicated. I've been in touch with my ex a few times over the year in a bid to keep things out of the courts in case things don't go well. Sometimes she'll agree to send her up to stay with me for a week, but she'll always backpedal. I've been working on getting legal representation from the state, but getting appointed an attorney for family matters is much more difficult than for criminal matters. To answer the question, she ran off and I'm still struggling.

I forgot to mention that I haven't been able to even attempt contact for 8 months out of the year because I was ordered not to be in contact with the "victim". I have talked to my daughter a hand full of times, but she's only 2 so she can't really communicate, and she's distractible.

My mother flew down to Georgia back in July while I still couldn't contact my ex and was able to visit with her for two nights in a hotel room. She even snuck a FaceTime with me. The hardest part was that she didn't seem to recognize me and it had only been 5 months at that point.

This Christmas, I sent her a bunch of things, including a photo book of Christmas lights in Somerville (where we lived) and kids books about Boston with hips to jog her memory.
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This pisses me off so much and I don't even have kids. That woman is pure evil and you have a long fight ahead of you.
 
FinalStageBoss said:
This pisses me off so much and I don't even have kids. That woman is pure evil and you have a long fight ahead of you.
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Here's the best part; we got matching neck tattoos that say "forever" in kanji the day we decided to get engaged. Soooo... It's a cool looking tattoo and I get lots of people asking about lol. There's almost never a day that goes by where at least part of my story doesn't come up in conversation with strangers.

At least I've got a fantastic girl now. If she can put up with all my baggage, I have high hopes that she's a keeper.
 
FinalStageBoss said:
This pisses me off so much and I don't even have kids. That woman is pure evil and you have a long fight ahead of you.
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This pisses me off and I don't even care for kids. It's not about the kid, but about the fact that his ex got away with such a blatant life destroying lie, is reaping the spoils and skullface is collecting the scatered pieces of his after that. Blood boiling stuff.

It always was a fear of mine to have my life destroyed by a lie such as this (the most common situation I envision is a 'false rape accusation'). Even if you can eventually prove it was all a fabrication, the damages will be already done and the repercusions can last forever. Man, I really feel for you, Skullface and I hope things works out for you.

On topic, I just read the revoh tale from page 1 to 33 and all I have to say is: good fucking job, OP. Good. Fucking. Job.
 
Agraavan said:
This pisses me off and I don't even care for kids. It's not about the kid, but about the fact that his ex got away with such a blatant life destroying lie, is reaping the spoils and skullface is collecting the scatered pieces of his after that. Blood boiling stuff.

It always was a fear of mine to have my life destroyed by a lie such as this (the most common situation I envision is a 'false rape accusation'). Even if you can eventually prove it was all a fabrication, the damages will be already done and the repercusions can last forever. Man, I really feel for you, Skullface and I hope things works out for you.

On topic, I just read the revoh tale from page 1 to 33 and all I have to say is: good fucking job, OP. Good. Fucking. Job.
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i like how some of you guys are reacting like this when you're basically just hearing one biased side of the conversation with relating to skullface
 
Dang, I want to see Skulldace succeed in life. That is the best revenge. I hope something can be done to get your daughter back, because having you arrested to escape the state should be a serious offense. I hope it is, that's just not right,

666 said:
This is unravelling a little too perfectly...

Anyway good stuff for the op. It's just the bloodlust of GAF that feeds off its underlying misogony that I find a bit off putting. Guys here love nothing more than a woman 'getting what's coming to her' which is fitting for a gang of frustrated men.
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It's misogynistic to not like a cheating woman? With that logic, we should totally not have a problem with the cheating married man.
 
Boom Boom Pow said:
i like how some of you guys are reacting like this when you're basically just hearing one biased side of the conversation with relating to skullface
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Could I have been a better partner? Sure. I would always put work first, for example, because by doing so I was ensuring comfort and stability for my family. I have my shortcomings, none of which are enough to justify a false legal accusation. Certainly nothing to justify my daughter being stolen away from me. I'd like to think that most people view my situation this way.
 
Boom Boom Pow said:
i like how some of you guys are reacting like this when you're basically just hearing one biased side of the conversation with relating to skullface
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Even if things aren't exactly the way it was described, the concept or the anedocte that was told can happen and is rage inducing in itself. Having said that, I see no reason to question his version. People can be pure evil, self centered a-holes if they want and that would be just one - of many - times.
 
Skullface said:
Could I have been a better partner? Sure. I would always put work first, for example, because by doing so I was ensuring comfort and stability for my family. I have my shortcomings, none of which are enough to justify a false legal accusation. Certainly nothing to justify my daughter being stolen away from me. I'd like to think that most people view my situation this way.
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But you know what they say, people who are in a relationship see themselves differently compared to how other people see them. I am not judging you or questioning your claims but there is another party that would not perceive the situation as you do(however false it may be).
 
Agraavan said:
Even if things aren't exactly the way it was described, the concept or the anedocte that was told can happen and is rage inducing in itself. Having said that, I see no reason to question his version. People can be pure evil, self centered a-holes if they want and that would be just one - of many - times.
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it's not whether you question his version or not, but as you know in life, there are two sides to every coin.

take the recent shooting for example. officer said wilson charged him. if we are to just go at it at full value, then that's what it is. but you should always try to take two opposite sides.

casting another person's character without even allowing them to themselves is a little asinine i think
 
ginger ninja said:
But you know what they say, people who are in a relationship see themselves differently compared to how other people see them. I am not judging you or questioning your claims but there is another party that would not perceive the situation as you do(however false it may be).
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I get that. This holds true for everyone in general, not specifically to those involved in a relationship.
 
Boom Boom Pow said:
it's not whether you question his version or not, but as you know in life, there are two sides to every coin.

take the recent shooting for example. officer said wilson charged him. if we are to just go at it at full value, then that's what it is. but you should always try to take two opposite sides.

casting another person's character without even allowing them to themselves is a little asinine i think
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I don't know that it's asinine, I think that people tend to make judgement on character based on action. I've described actions, people judge character. It's almost natural. You yourself are passing judgement based on the passing of judgement. This sounds a tad bit more asinine to me, even if they are only hearing my side of the story.
 
Boom Boom Pow said:
it's not whether you question his version or not, but as you know in life, there are two sides to every coin.

take the recent shooting for example. officer said wilson charged him. if we are to just go at it at full value, then that's what it is. but you should always try to take two opposite sides.

casting another person's character without even allowing them to themselves is a little asinine i think
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This sounds to me like that one time I heard someone say, "I don't like her. She's too judgemental"
 
Skullface said:
Thanks man. It's complicated. I've been in touch with my ex a few times over the year in a bid to keep things out of the courts in case things don't go well. Sometimes she'll agree to send her up to stay with me for a week, but she'll always backpedal. I've been working on getting legal representation from the state, but getting appointed an attorney for family matters is much more difficult than for criminal matters. To answer the question, she ran off and I'm still struggling.

I forgot to mention that I haven't been able to even attempt contact for 8 months out of the year because I was ordered not to be in contact with the "victim". I have talked to my daughter a hand full of times, but she's only 2 so she can't really communicate, and she's distractible.

My mother flew down to Georgia back in July while I still couldn't contact my ex and was able to visit with her for two nights in a hotel room. She even snuck a FaceTime with me. The hardest part was that she didn't seem to recognize me and it had only been 5 months at that point.

This Christmas, I sent her a bunch of things, including a photo book of Christmas lights in Somerville (where we lived) and kids books about Boston with hips to jog her memory.
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This might be a stupid question, but why not charge her with kidnapping? It might not fly, but at least that accusation has a lot more to back it up than what she accused you of...

Man, what a fucked up story. I have a feeling your kid is going to hate her mother once she learns the truth.
 
Boom Boom Pow said:
it's not whether you question his version or not, but as you know in life, there are two sides to every coin.

take the recent shooting for example. officer said wilson charged him. if we are to just go at it at full value, then that's what it is. but you should always try to take two opposite sides.

casting another person's character without even allowing them to themselves is a little asinine i think
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I understand what you are saying and I don't dispute where you are coming from. But again, I'm not talking about disregarding his ex side of the story, whatever it may be, of course in reality it will be assessed and the "truth" will come out, if this even come to this.

All I'm saying is that if the truth comes close to what skullface is saying - false acusation and a series of negative repercussions - whatever the reasons that led to this, is such a bullshit I can't even fathom.

And I say it because I know for a fact that things like this happens and people get their life destroyed. It's not that far fetched.
 
Piecake said:
This might be a stupid question, but why not charge her with kidnapping? It might not fly, but at least that accusation has a lot more to back it up than what she accused you of...

Man, what a fucked up story. I have a feeling your kid is going to hate her mother once she learns the truth.
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There's an actual legal term for this particular type of kidnapping. It's called "custodial kidnapping", and it's a tough case to prove. It's mostly an issue of obtaining an attorney. I'm working on getting a state appointed family attorney, but it takes a lot more time than getting an appointed criminal attorney.
 
Agraavan said:
I understand what you are saying and I don't dispute where you are coming from. But again, I'm not talking about disregarding his ex side of the story, whatever it may be, of course in reality it will be assessed and the "truth" will come out, if this even come to this.

All I'm saying is that if the truth comes close to what skullface is saying - false acusation and a series of negative repercussions - whatever the reasons that led to this, is such a bullshit I can't even fathom.

And I say it because I know for a fact that things like this happens and people get their life destroyed. It's not that far fetched.
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sure, i agree, which is why i said to withhold judgement until both sides are told. unfortunately, on an anonymous forum, the other side is never really told, so we never get to hear two sides of the story. keep that in mind next time before you automatically start to jump attached to one side of teh story
 
Skullface said:
Fist of all, thanks for reading and the show of support. GAF really is an awesome place.



It's always been tough, even now. I keep it together by telling myself her mother will hate her for what she did.



This is an ongoing process...



You're not kidding. Believe it or not, I heavily abridged the story.



She said I shoved her durning an argument, which was bullshit. She also told the cops this happened the night before. Red flag for a lie anyone?

Anyway, thanks for your kind words.



It's always good to know how to talk to the police. After their initial investigation, they asked for my side of the story. Told them it would be best to have a lawyer present. I had no idea what she told them.



She's with her...



I will do. Thank you.



Yeah, Christmas was really tough on me this year...


Thanks man.
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Dude, I hope it gets better for you and your little one, but first of all, how did you pull through the year?
If someone would try to take away my daughter like this, I probably would go on a rampage.
I hope everything will get better...

Edit: and be prepared, she probably told your daughter some lies why they left you.
I also have a daughter but in my case the mother just took the run alone, it was quite difficult to explain this one to my daughter
 
Boom Boom Pow said:
sure, i agree, which is why i said to withhold judgement until both sides are told. unfortunately, on an anonymous forum, the other side is never really told, so we never get to hear two sides of the story. keep that in mind next time before you automatically start to jump attached to one side of teh story
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To be fair, most people asked questions and told me "sorry to hear that". I like to think of GAF as more a community than an anonymous forum, and I was very humbled by the posts of support. The whole purpose of me posting my story was an attempt to relate to OP, to let him know he's not alone.
 
Boom Boom Pow said:
sure, i agree, which is why i said to withhold judgement until both sides are told. unfortunately, on an anonymous forum, the other side is never really told, so we never get to hear two sides of the story. keep that in mind next time before you automatically start to jump attached to one side of teh story
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I don't know, but for me you are the one jumping to conclusions here. Everything that happened here is people relating to his story and showing support. We have to assume that's an accurate telling because as you said, it's the internet and one side of the story is all we are gonna get.

If this is a fabrication, I don't care, the anedocte still holds true and I stated my perception of it. If the accusation of this one story in particular is true and skullface assaulted her and she had all the right to flee this ill tempered monster, fuck him (:p), but I still hold my impression to the concept. That is all.
 
IHaveIce said:
Dude, I hope it gets better for you and your little one, but first of all, how did you pull through the year?
If someone would try to take away my daughter like this, I probably would go on a rampage.
I hope everything will get better...

Edit: and be prepared, she probably told your daughter some lies why they left you.
I also have a daughter but in my case the mother just took the run alone, it was quite difficult to explain this one to my daughter
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Oh bro... I'm really sorry to hear that. This might sound crazy to you, but the prospect of having that conversation with my little girl would be a culmination of all my heartbreak combined into that one conversation, if that makes sense. My ex fucked up, but I know that she loves our daughter. I also know that my daughter loves her mom. It would be much harder for me to explain that situation than for me to cope with my own heartache.

How did I pull through? Lots of binge drinking and meaningless sex. Then I decided to go back to school. This way in the future, I become the best provider. By the time she's 13, I hope to have at least a masters degree, have a 6 figure job, and own my own home.

I should also mention that I had an amazing woman find her way into my life.
 
Skullface said:
To be fair, most people asked questions and told me "sorry to hear that". I like to think of GAF as more a community than an anonymous forum, and I was very humbled by the posts of support. The whole purpose of me posting my story was an attempt to relate to OP, to let him know he's not alone.
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Gaf got your back. Hopefully you can drown your ex in lawyer fees so you can get custody. I would fucking lose it if my gf took my son away from me.
 
pompidu said:
Gaf got your back. Hopefully you can drown your ex in lawyer fees so you can get custody. I would fucking lose it if my gf took my son away from me.
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Thanks for your words man. I first realized what kind of place GAF was last year after lurking on the Phantom Pain thread. The one that discovered it was an MGS title. After lurking a few more threads, I saw the plight of a member named "Sadsic". I'm not about to talk about his business, but he was going through some personal issues, and GAF had his back in a big way. I was very touched.
 
What a thread to end this year.

Skullface said:
How did I pull through? Lots of binge drinking and meaningless sex. Then I decided to go back to school. This way in the future, I become the best provider. By the time she's 13, I hope to have at least a masters degree, have a 6 figure job, and own my own home.

I should also mention that I had an amazing woman find her way into my life.
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Although I feel sorry that all this happened to you, I'm glad that you have motivation to achieve more in order to provide the best for your daughter. Hopefully when she grows up, she will understand what you've been trough and she'll be proud of you. But now I just hope everything gets better for you.
 
Revoh said:
Quick update; I'm drunk and about to get laid. See you tomorrow GAF. The husband messaged me
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Ledbetter said:
What a thread to end this year.



Although I feel sorry that all this happened to you, I'm glad that you have motivation to achieve more in order to provide the best for your daughter. Hopefully when she grows up, she will understand what you've been trough and she'll be proud of you. But now I just hope everything gets better for you.
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Thanks man. I really do appreciate the encouragement.

You a Leadbelly fan? Just curious because I'm a huge fan of vintage blues.
 
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