Girlfriend emotionally cheated on me

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Skullface said:
Thanks man, I appreciate your kind thoughts.

Also, check out OP's update. He came back and said he had awkward limp penis sex... His story, unlike the cake, is not a lie.
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Yeah, the train never brakes, I'm in.
 
Revoh said:
I'm in my house now. I was with my lady friend, we met each other years ago and we always had some sexual tension between us. She lives near a bar so we went there after the movie and had a few drinks, it started to rain so we went to her apartment. Anyways, the sex was bad, I wasn't even that hard but she is cool and wants to try it again.

The husband sent me a message on Whatsapp saying "I hope you're happy, you got what you wanted, I understand you're upset, I've never intended to act upon it, you broke my family, bla bla bla" and a few more things, I might post the screenshot tomorrow.
Which I said "I'm not happy. I haven't broken your family, you did. I'm not the bad guy from the movie. You both crossed the line. I'm only letting your wife know the truth"

I'm off to bed now
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Op is such a boss.
 
Revoh said:
I'm in my house now. I was with my lady friend, we met each other years ago and we always had some sexual tension between us. She lives near a bar so we went there after the movie and had a few drinks, it started to rain so we went to her apartment. Anyways, the sex was bad, I wasn't even that hard but she is cool and wants to try it again.

The husband sent me a message on Whatsapp saying "I hope you're happy, you got what you wanted, I understand you're upset, I've never intended to act upon it, you broke my family, bla bla bla" and a few more things, I might post the screenshot tomorrow.
Which I said "I'm not happy. I haven't broken your family, you did. I'm not the bad guy from the movie. You both crossed the line. I'm only letting your wife know the truth"

I'm off to bed now
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Congrats, OP! You rekt dat camping pussy.
 
Hero_of_the_Day said:
Don't respond to the husband any more, and don't post any screens of conversations here. You broke up with your cheating girlfriend, let the other guys wife know what's up, fucked another girl, the end.
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Seriously Revoh, I think you've handled the situation pretty well up to this point. Time for a clean break, close this chapter of your life, get right on to the next one. Your work here is done.
 
TheOGB said:
It's hilarious to me that listening to good advice and handling a situation sensibly is enough to make you a badass on GAF.
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Yeah that's what I've been saying haha. It says more about the average gaffer than it does about him. ;)

That said, good job Revoh, and good reply to the husband. You did the right thing, and you're already moving on with your life. Congrats on being an emotionally stable and mature adult. ^^
 
What I want to know is...OP apparently has multiple girls with whom he has sexual and/or romantic tension with -- the girl he pursued while *ahem* "on break" and now this other chick who either: a) made herself immediately available, or b) he's at the very least maintained a flirtatious connection with while in a relationship with his now-ex (how else would he be able to acknowledge the sexual tension?).

So, OP's had girls on the side this whole time...but we're supposed to be mad at and villify the girlfriend for doing what he's now indirectly admitting he's been doing this whole time?

The more details OP gives up, the more this sounds like dirty situation all-around.
 
Yeah, OP, you've done well so far, and now it is just time to move on. Do not reply to the husband or your girlfriend, just move on to recovery and turning a new page in your life.
 
Man, this thread. Good on you OP. Best advice I can give is to just eliminate all contact with the offending parties.

Skull, dude, that sucks. A friend is going through the same. He hasn't gone to jail or anything but she has threatened to call the cops and called the cops just for driving out (different state) to see his kids at the planned time. She always cancels the visits and tell people he doesn't want to see his kids. She's constantly after his money and its insane what she has gotten away with.
 
royalan said:
What I want to know is...OP apparently has multiple girls with whom he has sexual and/or romantic tension with -- the girl he pursued while *ahem* "on break" and now this other chick who either: a) made herself immediately available, or b) he's at the very least maintained a flirtatious connection with while in a relationship with his now-ex (how else would he be able to acknowledge the sexual tension?).

So, OP's had girls on the side this whole time...but we're supposed to be mad at and villify the girlfriend for doing what he's now indirectly admitting he's been doing this whole time?

The more details OP gives up, the more this sounds like dirty situation all-around.
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Sounds like you're making up stuff in your head.

OP didn't act on anything until he was single.
 
tirminyl said:
Man, this thread. Good on you OP. Best advice I can give is to just eliminate all contact with the offending parties.

Skull, dude, that sucks. A friend is going through the same. He hasn't gone to jail or anything but she has threatened to call the cops and called the cops just for driving out (different state) to see his kids at the planned time. She always cancels the visits and tell people he doesn't want to see his kids. She's constantly after his money and its insane what she has gotten away with.
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Thanks for your words bro. It warms my heart every time I see someone empathize.
 
Wickerbasket said:
Sounds like you're making up stuff in your head.

OP didn't act on anything until he was single.
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But did the girlfriend do anything technically? There's a reason "emotionally cheated" is in the thread title, and not just "cheated".

I mean, at the end of day, it's starting to look like BF is just as guilty of "emotional infidelity" as his ex. Either that, or he's some type of wonder-player who has girls lined up and maintaining their own sexual tension.

I dunno...but things are sounding more fishy the more info he gives out.
 
OP is definitely feeling himself a bit too much, at this point. All he needed to do was ditch the girl. The rest is petty revenge.
 
royalan said:
But did the girlfriend do anything technically? There's a reason "emotionally cheated" is in the thread title, and not just "cheated".

I mean, at the end of day, it's starting to look like BF is just as guilty of "emotional infidelity" as his ex. Either that, or he's some type of wonder-player who has girls lined up and maintaining their own sexual tension.

I dunno...but things are sounding more fishy the more info he gives out.
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Did you read the thread or even the OP? He said they were chatting dirty, sent pictures/video and were planning to fuck.

It's normal to be attracted to people, but you're an asshole if you act on it when in a relationship.
 
royalan said:
But did the girlfriend do anything technically? There's a reason "emotionally cheated" is in the thread title, and not just "cheated".

I mean, at the end of day, it's starting to look like BF is just as guilty of "emotional infidelity" as his ex. Either that, or he's some type of wonder-player who has girls lined up and maintaining their own sexual tension.

I dunno...but things are sounding more fishy the more info he gives out.
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Lightly flirting and making explicit plans to have sex that don't pan out are the only entirely different things. One is just the result of natural human interaction, the other is a conscious decision to do something you know is wrong.
 
royalan said:
But did the girlfriend do anything technically? There's a reason "emotionally cheated" is in the thread title, and not just "cheated".

I mean, at the end of day, it's starting to look like BF is just as guilty of "emotional infidelity" as his ex. Either that, or he's some type of wonder-player who has girls lined up and maintaining their own sexual tension.

I dunno...but things are sounding more fishy the more info he gives out.
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This thread is starting to remind me of this:
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Lol know I know you arent lying cos only a true latino would say "bad guy of the movie" expression. Fuerza mi hermano.

TheOGB said:
It's hilarious to me that listening to good advice and handling a situation sensibly is enough to make you a badass on GAF.
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If you lurk the Dating-Age thread, youll know this is the exception rather than the rule.
 
Veelk said:
Lightly flirting and making explicit plans to have sex that don't pan out are the only entirely different things. One is just the result of natural human interaction, the other is a conscious decision to do something you know is wrong.
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But it isn't that almost exactly what he did when he was fiercely pursuing other pussy while they were "on break"? Sure, he had the luxury of being able to say "we were on break" but breaks aren't "break-ups"...

I dunno, as this tale gets pieced together OP's anger seems less justified when it's only by technicality that he's not guilty of the same thing.
 
royalan said:
But it isn't that almost exactly what he did when he was fiercely pursuing other pussy while they were "on break"? Sure, he had the luxury of being able to say "we were on break" but breaks aren't "break-ups"...

I dunno, as this tale gets pieced together OP's anger seems less justified when it's only by technicality that he's not guilty of the same thing.
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Looks like you're reaching to paint the OP as a bad guy.

He got cheated on. It's really that simple. They weren't on a break when she was doing all this stuff.

His girlfriend was cheating on him with a married dude, who has kids.

Her and the husband are definitely the one's in the wrong here. It's especially fucked up because there's kids involved. There's no grey area here, they're horrible people.
 
royalan said:
But it isn't that almost exactly what he did when he was fiercely pursuing other pussy while they were "on break"? Sure, he had the luxury of being able to say "we were on break" but breaks aren't "break-ups"...

I dunno, as this tale gets pieced together OP's anger seems less justified when it's only by technicality that he's not guilty of the same thing.
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No. Breaks are pauses on the relationship, a time where they both agree to pursue other relationships with the difference of a break up being that they are open to the possibility of getting back if they want to. He was free to pursue a girl. Technicality nothing.
 
royalan said:
But it isn't that almost exactly what he did when he was fiercely pursuing other pussy while they were "on break"? Sure, he had the luxury of being able to say "we were on break" but breaks aren't "break-ups"...

I dunno, as this tale gets pieced together OP's anger seems less justified when it's only by technicality that he's not guilty of the same thing.
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that technicality is that when you're not on a break you have the responsibility to be honest with the person you're with.

so in that sense yes he's only not guilty due to a technicality, the same way that i suppose all rules are based on technicalities.
 
Wickerbasket said:
Looks like you're reaching to paint the OP as a bad guy.

He got cheated on. It's really the simple. They weren't on a break when she was doing all this stuff.

His girlfriend was cheating on him with a married dude, who has kids.

Her and the husband are definitely the one's in the wrong here. It's especially fucked up because there's kids involved. There's no grey area here, they're horrible people.
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Oh no. To be clear, I don't think the OP is the "bad guy" at all. Far from it.

But this thread has definitely taken on a sadistic, revenge-y tone in the last couple pages, and I don't know if that's justified, since there seems like OPs hands might also have SOME dirt on them.
 
Drop her immediately, don't waste your time. Don't even make a fuss about it. No explanation, just cut all contact with her.

And if she somehow manages to corner you and demands an explanation, tell her simply that you've moved on and that anything she has to say to you she can leave a message on Skype, a piece of software she's obviously quite proficient at using.

At this point it's about respect, and clearly she doesn't respect you enough not to do what she's doing, and, really, at the end of the day there's no crime in that. So at this point do what's best for you, and what's best for you is to just go on with your life. Plenty of other fish in the sea.
 
Veelk said:
No. Breaks are pauses on the relationship, a time where they both agree to pursue other relationships with the difference of a break up being that they are open to the possibility of getting back if they want to. He was free to pursue a girl. Technicality nothing.
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See, the thing with me is that I never understood breaks to mean that. Breaks as I've understood them are separating from your partner and the established relationship pattern you have developed. It's not necessarily permission to start actively pursuing other people. If it's at that point you just break up. There's b literally no point in maintaining superficial ties then.
 
SenjutsuSage said:
Drop her immediately, don't waste your time. Don't even make a fuss about it. No explanation, just cut all contact with her.

And if she somehow manages to corner you and demands an explanation, tell her simply that you've moved on and that anything she has to say to you she can leave a message on Skype, a piece of software she's obviously quite proficient at using.

At this point it's about respect, and clearly she doesn't respect you enough not to do what she's doing, and, really, at the end of the day there's no crime in that. So at this point do what's best for you, and what's best for you is to just go on with your life. Plenty of other fish in the sea.
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You need more "catchup" on dem burger and fries son
 
royalan said:
Oh no. To be clear, I don't think the OP is the "bad guy" at all. Far from it.

But this thread has definitely taken on a sadistic, revenge-y tone in the last couple pages, and I don't know if that's justified, since there seems like OPs hands might also have SOME dirt on them.
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If you agree to a break from a relationship then, generally, it's agreed upon that you're not in a relationship during that period of time. I'm sure they spoke about what that break meant.

It's completely different to cheat on someone during a relationship, where you believe and trust that your partner is being faithful to you. Cheating is a breach of trust at the deepest level.

Now no one's perfect, everyone makes mistakes, but I really don't understand why you're trying to pin this on OP. He's not comparable to his girlfriend in the slightest; just a few posts ago you were saying this:
I mean, at the end of day, it's starting to look like BF is just as guilty of "emotional infidelity" as his ex. Either that, or he's some type of wonder-player who has girls lined up and maintaining their own sexual tension.
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And, I didn't get that from reading this thread at all. It just sounds like stuff you've made up in your head.

The OP might come across as revelling in his revenge, but it's more likely a way of coping. He's been through a lot of shit.
 
Revoh said:
I'm in my house now. I was with my lady friend, we met each other years ago and we always had some sexual tension between us. She lives near a bar so we went there after the movie and had a few drinks, it started to rain so we went to her apartment. Anyways, the sex was bad, I wasn't even that hard but she is cool and wants to try it again.

The husband sent me a message on Whatsapp saying "I hope you're happy, you got what you wanted, I understand you're upset, I've never intended to act upon it, you broke my family, bla bla bla" and a few more things, I might post the screenshot tomorrow.
Which I said "I'm not happy. I haven't broken your family, you did. I'm not the bad guy from the movie. You both crossed the line. I'm only letting your wife know the truth"

I'm off to bed now
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Good response. You're basically just a whistleblower. He's the one that fucked up
 
royalan said:
See, the thing with me is that I never understood breaks to mean that. Breaks as I've understood them are separating from your partner and the established relationship pattern you have developed. It's not necessarily permission to start actively pursuing other people. If it's at that point you just break up. There's b literally no point in maintaining superficial ties then.
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Having sex with other people is a break from most established relationship patterns as far as I know. Also, just because you try to start pursuing other people does not mean the tie is now superficial unless the relationship was defined by exclusive sex rather than emotional bonds.
 
So I just read up to from my last post.

I was disappointed by the contradictions of the story at first to now appluadiing with tears.
OP you are now in Gold status as well as this thread. Iam glad to be a part of it and make sure to be a badass like you in 2015!

And also I would like to say I had a tough time as well spending time alone on Christmas but this thread and other things tell me to just keep on living and drop the bad things to the wayside and just get up and enjoy it
 
Revoh said:
I'm in my house now. I was with my lady friend, we met each other years ago and we always had some sexual tension between us. She lives near a bar so we went there after the movie and had a few drinks, it started to rain so we went to her apartment. Anyways, the sex was bad, I wasn't even that hard but she is cool and wants to try it again.

The husband sent me a message on Whatsapp saying "I hope you're happy, you got what you wanted, I understand you're upset, I've never intended to act upon it, you broke my family, bla bla bla" and a few more things, I might post the screenshot tomorrow.
Which I said "I'm not happy. I haven't broken your family, you did. I'm not the bad guy from the movie. You both crossed the line. I'm only letting your wife know the truth"

I'm off to bed now
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Nice.

You'll nail your lady friend tomorrow. I have faith in you!
 
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